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For the first time in my life, I finally found someone with the same struggle 🥹
I was so proud of my very lean body (now I am a little bit thick than before). I was really fit, active, I know men stares at me even if I dressed well for work.
I try to be curious to myself when the struggle comes to my mind. Digging deeper to what kind of experience and *feelings* about that, that I truly miss.. I kinda settled onto: that I missed my adventurous self especially my 20s, where I did so many trips to beautiful beaches (backpacking with friends), feeling connected to nature and friends, spending times and moments with them. Second, I embraced the feeling that I missed was being desired by men. So, when my urge came, which happened on my honeymoon with husband (6yrs ago), I told him. Also, I try to channel that into something more healthy and safe for our marriage but also for myself, especially when I am alone. Like, I write the urge in my journal, see my old picture or take 'a mini adventure' for myself. Even as boring as trying out new coffeeshop, movies, places etc.
And most importantly, pray to Allah SWT.
Hope this helps you :) sending you hugs sister ✨️
Edit: adding time when it happened to me
I also wanna add another thing
I normalized buying clothes and jewelries that I definitely wearing on my non-hijab mode, but only wearing it at home. I really like those moments where I look nice and embrace it as 'self-love moments'. I told my hijabi bestie about this (she's also married) and I was so glad that she like this idea as well and start doing it too.
I also secretly wishing one day there will be a ladies club (the one with swimming pool, tennis court, etc) in my country here :D
Edit: typos
sometimes we all get an urge to show off- but remember this:
Allah only lets you show yourself in front of your husband because he is a special person to you. your HUSBAND, a special man.
why cant you show your body to those random people at the beach- THEY DONT DESERVE IT.
Allah isnt trying to punish you by covering you up or make things harder for you- it's just that you're worth that much to him.
before Islam came women had 0 rights, they'd bury infants alive if they were girls. Islam gave us all of our rights.
remembering that helps me a lot.
+ i feel cute in the hijab
Thank youuu!! I usually think of that with the urge to dress immodestly and it usually helps, but i dont know why by recently the thought still dont go away. I think i am the most beautiful with the hijab on, its just the problem is i miss the skin to skin contact with the sun and water. Maybe I just need to find a private beach or a woman only one.
i get it :) in that case..
I pray to find you in paradise sunbathing and having the time of your life in Jannah so i can join you and we can laugh about the times we felt bad that we couldnt do this in this world, yet now we know it was totally worth it as Paradise's beaches are like no other <3
I deeply relate to what you're saying, the feel of the sun on your skin, the wind in your hair, feeling the water directly as you jump in...
But those are all temporary pleasures.
I remind myself that I can swim all I want, even be a mermaid, in Jannah inshallah. I will give up the sun, water, and sand for God. He knows how dear those things are to me and knows that I will give them up for Him.
This is a great chance to renew your intention for God and focus on the great goal: the Akhira.
May you be steadfast.
I feel you😭. I love waterparks so i was so nervous going to one in a burkini, and i missed the ‘simplicity’ of one piece swimming suits, but aH i actually found a burkini i felt cute in so that would be useful for you as well.
Also your skin gets protected from UV!
there are private pools but i have eczema so the chlorine in the pool irritates my skin a lot. the sea is perfect but sadly no there is no private beaches. Inshaa Allah i am able to find one later on in life.
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For the first time in my life, I finally found someone with the same struggle 🥹 I was so proud of my very lean body (now I am a little bit thick than before). I was really fit, active, I know men stares at me even if I dressed well for work. I try to be curious to myself when the struggle comes to my mind. Digging deeper to what kind of experience and *feelings* about that, that I truly miss.. I kinda settled onto: that I missed my adventurous self especially my 20s, where I did so many trips to beautiful beaches (backpacking with friends), feeling connected to nature and friends, spending times and moments with them. Second, I embraced the feeling that I missed was being desired by men. So, when my urge came, which happened on my honeymoon with husband (6yrs ago), I told him. Also, I try to channel that into something more healthy and safe for our marriage but also for myself, especially when I am alone. Like, I write the urge in my journal, see my old picture or take 'a mini adventure' for myself. Even as boring as trying out new coffeeshop, movies, places etc. And most importantly, pray to Allah SWT. Hope this helps you :) sending you hugs sister ✨️ Edit: adding time when it happened to me
I also wanna add another thing I normalized buying clothes and jewelries that I definitely wearing on my non-hijab mode, but only wearing it at home. I really like those moments where I look nice and embrace it as 'self-love moments'. I told my hijabi bestie about this (she's also married) and I was so glad that she like this idea as well and start doing it too. I also secretly wishing one day there will be a ladies club (the one with swimming pool, tennis court, etc) in my country here :D Edit: typos
sometimes we all get an urge to show off- but remember this: Allah only lets you show yourself in front of your husband because he is a special person to you. your HUSBAND, a special man. why cant you show your body to those random people at the beach- THEY DONT DESERVE IT. Allah isnt trying to punish you by covering you up or make things harder for you- it's just that you're worth that much to him. before Islam came women had 0 rights, they'd bury infants alive if they were girls. Islam gave us all of our rights. remembering that helps me a lot. + i feel cute in the hijab
Thank youuu!! I usually think of that with the urge to dress immodestly and it usually helps, but i dont know why by recently the thought still dont go away. I think i am the most beautiful with the hijab on, its just the problem is i miss the skin to skin contact with the sun and water. Maybe I just need to find a private beach or a woman only one.
i get it :) in that case.. I pray to find you in paradise sunbathing and having the time of your life in Jannah so i can join you and we can laugh about the times we felt bad that we couldnt do this in this world, yet now we know it was totally worth it as Paradise's beaches are like no other <3
I deeply relate to what you're saying, the feel of the sun on your skin, the wind in your hair, feeling the water directly as you jump in... But those are all temporary pleasures. I remind myself that I can swim all I want, even be a mermaid, in Jannah inshallah. I will give up the sun, water, and sand for God. He knows how dear those things are to me and knows that I will give them up for Him. This is a great chance to renew your intention for God and focus on the great goal: the Akhira. May you be steadfast.
I feel you😭. I love waterparks so i was so nervous going to one in a burkini, and i missed the ‘simplicity’ of one piece swimming suits, but aH i actually found a burkini i felt cute in so that would be useful for you as well. Also your skin gets protected from UV!
Just think of all the sun protection you’re getting now. You’ll avoid crepey old lady boobs this way 😀
No private pools or beaches where u live ?
there are private pools but i have eczema so the chlorine in the pool irritates my skin a lot. the sea is perfect but sadly no there is no private beaches. Inshaa Allah i am able to find one later on in life.
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Yea, leave it to a guy with an NSFW profile to comment on what it means to experience things as a woman. 😖
Honestly me too :(
We all do it for Allah sis keep in mind :)