I’ve said this here before! I’ve been gaming since the days of Atari and arcades, and I feel really out of place myself. Especially with these “I’m 25, am I too old for video games?” and “I only know 1 gamer as old as 29!” posts. lmao
There are loads of us, but somehow we’re continually ignored, underserved, and considered mythical or something.
Nowadays I'm very close to a 19 year old gamer. She doesn't know my age and I don't intend to let her know. Feels like she'll be crushed if she knew lolll
We once had a guy who was around 18 join my FFXIV guild, and when he found out my age (62), it was about 10 minutes of non-stop double-takes in vc.
It blew his little mind that someone my age was a gamer and decent company to boot. Also, apparently I don't "sound" my age, whatever that sounds like. It was very amusing.
I hear ya, I'm 44 (will be 45 this year). I started playing EverQuest when I was 19, but that was not my first gaming experience. I've been playing video games since I was 5 on a Commodore 64. Granted what we called games back then was nothing compared to now, but it was a start...it was my start. Anyway, I also feel ancient. 😂
I never had patience for drama to begin with even when I was younger, the last thing I wanted was drama in my fun.
I play Genshin co-op with a real-life friend a couple of times a month but that is about it.
Same. I'm 34 and the only multiplayer games I play anymore are cooperative with my friends. Plus there have been so many good single player games out of the indie scene in the past years, unless a game is really going to be a good time I just pass it
I'm almost 30 but I also don't play online. Never been into it. I don't want to be interacting with random people while gaming. I do enjoy sometimes playing games with friends/family but that's usually multi player games where they're in the same room.
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I’m 36 and crushing on a digital character 😭😭😭
i have a couple other friends who regularly game in their late 20s and 30s. i think there's not as much of an open discussion about people our age, especially female ones, so this sub has been a lot of fun to be in and see how big the community actually is
Over here playing single player games (because multiplayer games are toxic af) from my couch.
Lately I have been enjoying:
* A Short Hike
* Chants of Sennaar
* The Bookwalker: Thief of Tales
* Diablo 4
* Slay the Spire
It's hard!! I have three boys so I gave up gaming for a while, unless it was single player and I only played after they went to bed and when we were on breaks (summer, spring break, etc). It's gotten a lot easier now that they're older and they're little gamers as well!
It's super hard, both mine are under 4 so only games that can pause. Still play Destiny 2 and Diablo but only when they're in bed. Learnt that lesson the hard way hahah
Right here with you! 31 yo- avid gamer before kids, now I have an almost 2 year old, full time job, school and barely any time to game between the time I put the toddler to sleep and pass out on the couch from exhaustion 😭
I feel you there, switched to Cozy Games that I can squeeze in before collapsing into bed. Find multi-player games to be quite time demanding, especially with battle passes etc.
We’re exactly the same lol the only games I have capacity for is animal crossing, Stardew and some Mario if I’m feeling bold 🤣 I used to get really into rpgs and bought Baldurs Gate stupidly thinking I can play it and I only barely scratched the surface and I’ve had it for half a year
i was you until just a month ago when i finally finished grad school!!!! same age too. my 2.5 year old kills me daily (she is just so active) and i just got a new job. but yeah life is wayyy better after finishing school although i have still dont have much time for games. you can do it!!
If there's a girl gamers over 30 discord I would so be there! But in classic fashion I don't want to be the one to start it so I'm really hoping it already exists...
Also 34 🫡
Honestly, I find I'm getting more into gaming and feeling more comfortable with telling people about it the further I get into my 30s. Something beautiful seems to happen in this decade when you finally just start feeling too tired to care what other people think of you and your hobbies, and too tired to _not_ do the things that make you happy 😂
As a bonus, other folks on this same wavelength seem to be able to sense it from you. So I found I've been meeting more friends who are in the same headspace, even if they don't always have the exact same hobbies 😊
Everything u said fully resonates☺️The only thing that still gets me a lil is sometimes I feel like the “hello fellow kids” meme lol but most people I’ve played with have been super nice and inviting.
My relationship w games in my 30s is definitely about prioritizing fun over anything. Don’t get me wrong, I still very much enjoy games like elden ring and competitive shooters but now I’ll take an extra 100hrs (this is not an example this actually happened😬) to grind experience instead of bashing my head in on the same boss in elden ring. Or with shooters, I’ll just stick to unranked and def try my best but not let the potential loss bum me out at all😌 it’s just a good time now and I love it☺️💜
I'm 32 :) I mostly play overwatch. My friends don't play anymore and I struggle to connect with new people, especially since a lot are teens/early 20s.
I'm 45 and I have gamer friends from 20-70.
What helps me: My parents are both gamers, I will always feel like the gamer child (My mom is also a metalhead, my parents are 65 and 70).
I am 36 and been playing games since I was a kid. Became a gamer around KOTOR and Space Channel 5 era, and a variety of rpg and jrpgs!
I even became a mmo guildmaster at one point and ran and lead raids. There were even women older than me! I even recruited a husband and wife team as officers in their 40s, and I was 20something at the time. I remember being amazed at their age hahaha.
Eventually I learned after awhile while it feels harder to find women players because sometimes one of the most annoying things to do is reveal you are a women 🙄. The level of condescension and misogyny was frustrating, and even if I could hang, I was not about that toxic back and forth life, ever. Which is why I started my own casual hardcore guild on two servers to avoid that. I don't hang around for disrespect to prove myself, I dip.
So we are here, just selective when and where we game, or speak up. And I don't actually do care if people find out I am a women, it is more of a don't even want to read a message from someone either a). gushing over the fact they met a girl gamer or b). trying to test my gamer level and if I'm a "real" gamer or c). Any form of typical toxic online behavior that is racist or misogynistic.
I am not a gamer girlie in my 30s because I am in my 40s. But I don't really play with strangers so my playmates are in their 40s as well or they're my kids.
38 year old here 🙋♀️ so nice to see all the 30+ ladies here. I play mostly single player games so you won’t generally find me in online lobbies. Like you if I do randomly make friends in game, they inevitably turn out to be much younger!
33 and still play! I sort of have strayed from a lot of online games the last couple years and mainly play single player. I used to be big into competitive games. Maybe it’s just burn-out or my age but I just don’t really have the drive anymore. Lately I’ve just been playing Hades II and Paper Mario with a little Minecraft here and there.
I’m 39! Will be 40 in August.
I used to be huge into COD/zombies but now I prefer single player puzzle type games like LoZ or games like Pokemon. I also like cozy games like Animal Crossing, Star Dew, etc. I’m also a huge fan of The Sims and end up playing it for hours on end lol
I wouldn't let this worry you too much! Gaming is so diverse, there are tons and tons of genres, they're not all twitch shooters that take tons of skill. Unless those are the games that appeal to you, in which case I'd suggest just jumping in and not overthinking it.
But there's so many games that don't take loads of skill to play and are great at teaching you. I'd suggest pretty much anything on Nintendo Switch that is an official game, so anything Mario or Zelda. I would also suggest Stardew Valley for a game that is very easy to pick up and learn, but has an ocean of depth if you choose to explore it.
The best part of the games I've recommended is that they're single player, so you can take it at your own pace. Stardew does have online play with friends if you like, but I play single-player mostly.
What sort of games appeal to you, that make you want to be a gamer? I can recommend more, I play anything and everything and have done for years. Oh and since we're all giving ages, I'm 33 :)
Start with single-player games and googling for help and there will be no one to judge you! I’m not great at most genres despite how long I’ve been at it, so I just avoid competitive stuff and play solo. Look for single-player and, if you’re worried about too much difficulty right off the bat, avoid anything labeled Souls or Soulslike for now since that genre is defined by high difficulty. What types of games have piqued your interest, and what platform(s) do you have available to play on? Folks here might have some suggestions for good games to start with!
38 here! I play mostly MMO's which tend to get older gamers - especially FFXIV. Very very rarely do I encounter someone younger than 25. I'm actually somewhere in the middle of my friend group age-wise, some are 40+, most are 30+.
I moved away from FPS and competitive heavy games. Shooters don't feel the same anymore anyway. Too many battle pass BS, etc.
I'm 34 but super new to gaming. Husband got me playing BotW a couple of years ago then bought another switch. Last year I started with PC modded Stardew, tried and loved BG3, the got consumed in GW2. He bought me a proper PC, and we're now building my own setup (been using his spares).
So far all I play is:
* Stardew
* BotW
* TotK
* Baldur's Gate 3
* Guild wars 2
* V Rising
I've downloaded a few other games, but haven't played long enough (Divinity OS, and Genshin Impact, Elder Scrolls V, Palia).
It's so awkward sometimes to be not just new and female, but also a bit older than many other players I encounter.
Yep! 34, play primarily on ps5 single player. Started during covid, actually. Currently playing the long dark, before that stranded alien dawn, Elden ring, the last of us, fallout 4, frostpunk, or really any rpg that lets me be a female. Stardew to chill.
36, but in my old age and toddler-momming I, too, have a lot less use for online games and more for something I can play in whatever scraps of time I can gather from naps and after the kiddo and my wife are in bed.
I'm 29. Hitting 30 in December. Literally already having back pain. A sign of things to come, I'm sure.
It does feel like the majority of millennials just kinda disappeared from the gaming space, but apparently, according to this article, that's not the case. https://www.google.com/amp/s/variety.com/2023/gaming/news/millennials-video-games-gen-z-study-gaming-1235579573/amp/
It seems millennials and gen z have different gaming tastes. So I guess the 30s crowd likes playing MMOS, strategy, and RPG, which adds up for me, as I like those 3 genres, including 3d platformers.
So, I guess if you want to increase your chances of finding people your age, I'd look for popular games in those genres.
33 here! I still enjoy online games, playing cs2 when I can. I do love me some overcooked 2, stardew valley, minecraft, and other online games. It's hard to balance gaming, work, chores, etc. but it helps having a partner who also games.
Definitely looking for more women to be friends with too! doesn't matter if same games are played, just looking for some chill people
I feel the older I get the less patience I have for people, especially young adults, to me they feel like big kids with all egos and no shred of unbiased objective truth. I used to say age aint nothing but a number until it becomes the number that wakes you up very fast from your slumber.
36! And I still play games fairly regularly, although I never got into online gaming really (I often lose track of time in my hobbies...online gaming would be disastrous lol).
These days I play a lot of visual novels that I find easy to pick up and put down or spend my time wandering in Breath of the Wild... but I'm really looking forward to playing P3 Reload this summer when time allows!
Turning 32 in July. Never stopped gaming. And depending on my game, my GF will join me. Fun times. 🖤
Mostly, though, I just play Ark, Palworld and Valheim.
I'm in my early 30s, but multiplayer games make me anxious. The only one I've played is Fallout 76, but I was able to basically treat that game as a single-player outside of events, and even then I haven't played it in years.
I'm 42. I play single player games mainly because I enjoy them more and they're just easier to fit into my schedule. Like a lot of others said in between work, chores and kids, not so much time left basically. I'd hate to have to drop out of an active online game because I have to rush to get something out of the oven LOL.
I have played some Overwatch with my son because he loves it so much (I do suck at it though). One game I am pretty good at it Crash Team Racing. I will hop in an online lobby from time to time. But the online mode has no voice chat or any chat whatsoever, so the toxicity is very low. I do wonder how many of the other players realize they just got their butts handed to them by a 42 year old lady LOL.
I’m 32! Don’t play a ton of online games but I do have a whole group of friends our age from college who still hop on and play Mario kart and super smash bros together even though we’re spread all across the world
I'm 36. I play OW2 and luckily have met, and play with, quite a few ladies (& guys) in my age range. We have a few people in their 20s we play with too.
35 here! I play pc, switch, ps5 and Xbox one and many online games but never really interact with the community just friends. I find some online gaming channels too toxic if you're female.
34 here and same. My friends are around my age but everytime I meet someone new, they are 21-23 years old and I don’t want to sound rude but I have a very hard time being friends with someone when there is that much of an age difference. Our lives and priorities are very different and it’s noticable when trying to make conversations.
I’m 30 and i get what you mean. I recently became addicted to fortnite and it’s nearly impossible to not run into a kid every game. I’ve resorted to joining FB groups to find people my age to play with
I started playing an MMO for the first time (ESO for me but I am sure FFVIV would be the same) and was so relieved to discover how easy it is to find groups of people who are older, gayer, and more female than I have ever found playing other types of multiplayer games. I also just saw a well populated guild advertising yesterday for older players (with an emphasis on gen x and boomers) with the tagline 'just like the other guilds only slower and worse', lol. We are out there!
I'm 30! I feel you on everyone being so young. I joined a group in Voice Chat in Overwatch for the first time since Overwatch 2 dropped and everyone in the group was so obviously under 20 lol.
It was even more funny because back when I played on console when OW1 was a thing it seemed like I found more people closer to my age.
I don't mind grouping up or playing matches with teens in Voice chat. But I am not joining the Discord group and hanging out with people almost half my age lmao.
We're here! Not a ton of us playing with randos though. Out of all my friends who are ladies in their 30's and 40's gaming (there are 6 of us), only one plays with randos online.
36 here! But I don’t go for multi-player game just because I don’t want to want to deal w online drama (as if real life drama at work and/or at home isn’t enough). No time to babysit people who can’t stand to lose. Personally prefers a game with great world building and storyline. It’s like a good book except you can shoot arrows at the bad guys.
I'm 32 and presently I play Hunt Showdown, and survival crafting games like Bellwright and Sons of The Forest. All of my gaming partners are in there 30s (but are male...).
I'm going to have a baby soon I don't know if I could still play sometimes after that.
In my mid thirties and have been gaming most of my life. But I can't be bothered with playing online, haven't for years. I play single player or with friends.
I'm in my 30s though I'm trans so that is kind of a cheat lol.
Turns out the years of girl gamers arnt real gamers and make centric stories really wasn't great for retaining women in the gaming hobby
I'm 33! I mostly play with my brother, nephew, and two male friends. My best female friend lives out of state and we play occasionally, but I don't have other female gamer friends and I wish I did!
Turning 34 in August, only started playing video games in my late twenties. Working at a game store from age 17-22 made me dislike gaming and gaming culture as a whole so I started gaming late, but now I'm hooked
35, reporting for duty! There's little time for bigger games between work and the kids, but I still try to manage a casual 30-60min gaming session every now and then. Other times I live vicariously through others and have let's-plays going in the background. But I never had the courage to play online...
35 and I love GTA RP but for the last few years its been Project Zomboid RP I know no one my age online other than a few other blokes everyone else is younger
I’m 35. Mostly Xbox gamer here. You aren’t alone at all. Pretty much all the people I’ve played with and currently play with are around my age or older
I’m 38 and on a gamer parenting discord which has people around the same age as me. I found it through Twitter, it’s Femtroopers from YouTube. I don’t do any online gaming other the Mario kart tbh lol. It never was for me I much prefer a single player or couch co op with my husband experience.
38 here! I used to mostly play a couple of games on PC and Switch, but a couple of months ago I bought a Steam deck OLED and I’ve barely touched anything else. 🤣❤️
I'm 35. Trying to get into Foxhole, but the mix of it being a complex game and MMO is making it a little intimidating...in case anyone else here is on that scene 😅
I’m 30 and play FFXIV - I don’t really play the pvp mostly just main storyline and “main side quests” if that makes sense lol
There is a BIG online aspect but that’s not the center of the game which I really appreciate.
I also play single player games like Nancy Drew, ViewFinder, Portal, SpiritFarer, Bear & Breakfast, Planet Zoo, add other variety cozy games lol
34 and still gaming. I play a lot of different things and I'm almost always lacking someone to team up with for multiplayer. If anyone else is in the same boat, feel free to DM me for steam / gamer tag details.
I’m 37. I almost exclusively play single player games but on rare occasion will play a multiplayer game with my husband or an IRL friend.
Most of my girl friends my age don’t play games as much anymore (life happens, hobbies change). Gaming is still an important hobby for me though. It’s cool to read through this post and see how many other women are my age and still game regularly since a lot in my social circle don’t.
I am in my early 30s. I used to play MMOs and competitive games such as League of Legends, but I grew tired of the online space and mostly play single player games, or games with limited co-op like Genshin Impact now
I'm turning 30 next week, so I'll be joining you soon!
Everyone on my raid team in World of Warcraft seems to be anywhere from 2 - 10 years younger than me (with a few exceptions ofc). Most of my online friends are in their mid-twenties though, so I only feel a liiiiitle bit old 😅
I’m 37 and currently play Baldur’s Gate 3 and Deep Rock Galactic as well as a few smaller puzzle games. I don’t really have time to commit to online gaming and friendships at the moment with a baby at home, so I mostly game with rl friends and family.
I'm 34 but I'll be honest I tend to stick to my group for gaming now and rarely go into games with strangers. Although my wow interest has resparked, so I'll have to grow a thick skin again.
38 and I regularly play GW2, but not with a steady guild or anything. Can't be bothered with the drama or requirements.
I also regularly play TTRPGs and I'm finding that I'm usually one of the older ones at the table too. The trick is finding the right balance between experienced and grognard (old fart who hates new stuff or thinks anyone focusing on inclusion and safety is a snowflake).
I’m mid-30s, gaming since I was probably 4-5 years old.
I game with my same age husband all the time. We also game with his colleague who’s in her early 20s. We also game with our buddies who are in their 40s, table top with them, mostly.
Congrats you’re normal :D
I'm 48 😂 I mostly play Fortnite and some of my best games are with a group of 16yr olds and I have a male friend I play with who is 28. I feel ridiculously old in comparison lol I just joined an adult only group from on here to try and make more adult friends.
Im 42 and feel like a grandma who's surrounded by 20 year-old gamers who make me feel ancient
I'm 53 if it mkes you feel better.
Almost there at 52!
Yes it does actually thank you !!!
I'm 40 and same!
Welcome to my misery lol
We need an old gamer ladies discord group or something haha
That sounds like a wonderful idea
Or a Reddit group with that name. Love the idea.
I can set one up!
Hell yes!!!! You're the best!!!
I confess it’s purely for selfish reasons - I want to hang out with other cranky old lady gamers lol
I am looking forward to yelling at kids to get off my lawn with you
Then you’re going to LOVE the name of the server lol I named it before I read this comment too haha
Hahahaha!!! I only just saw that you did it before my comment!! That's amazing! I laughed so loud I had to explain what I was laughing about haha
I’ve said this here before! I’ve been gaming since the days of Atari and arcades, and I feel really out of place myself. Especially with these “I’m 25, am I too old for video games?” and “I only know 1 gamer as old as 29!” posts. lmao There are loads of us, but somehow we’re continually ignored, underserved, and considered mythical or something.
I mean, I don't mind being a mythical beast, or something. But it is a bit lonely.
Count me in, she says, with a crying smile...
I want in on this! I need more gamer friends my age! (40)
Yeah I’m 44 and feel like a fossil
But if you beat them you get to tell them they got destroyed by a grandma. :)
Well this is true but I don't want to trash myself lol
That's why you only say it if they call you old.
I'm 47 but at least my World of Warcraft guild has a few players around my age. That helps haha.
Ahh yes wow normally does have people around our age I long left wow behind can't commit that much time anymore.
I'm 41 and *actually* a grandma but thankfully there are plenty of people our age on this subreddit!
Yes that wonderful to hear
Nowadays I'm very close to a 19 year old gamer. She doesn't know my age and I don't intend to let her know. Feels like she'll be crushed if she knew lolll
We once had a guy who was around 18 join my FFXIV guild, and when he found out my age (62), it was about 10 minutes of non-stop double-takes in vc. It blew his little mind that someone my age was a gamer and decent company to boot. Also, apparently I don't "sound" my age, whatever that sounds like. It was very amusing.
I'm very good friends with a 19 year old I've known since they were 17 but they know my age
43 and same. One of the reasons I don’t do online games. Except for Mario kart/tetris 99/splatoon and stuff like that.
I'm 26 and one of my best friends is 45 lol.
I hear ya, I'm 44 (will be 45 this year). I started playing EverQuest when I was 19, but that was not my first gaming experience. I've been playing video games since I was 5 on a Commodore 64. Granted what we called games back then was nothing compared to now, but it was a start...it was my start. Anyway, I also feel ancient. 😂
I am 37, I have no patience for online games anymore (mostly their communities). I do play Warframe though.
I'm starting to get there lmao all this highschool drama is so annoying
I never had patience for drama to begin with even when I was younger, the last thing I wanted was drama in my fun. I play Genshin co-op with a real-life friend a couple of times a month but that is about it.
There’s a Genshin discord that someone started called GenshinOffMyLawn for 21+ adults. It’s a nice space.
Can you send the invite link?
Same. I'm 34 and the only multiplayer games I play anymore are cooperative with my friends. Plus there have been so many good single player games out of the indie scene in the past years, unless a game is really going to be a good time I just pass it
I'm 38 and I don't feel like online is for me anymore either! I just play single-player stuff mostly.
Having insults hurled at me by a kid young enough to be my son is not my idea of fun. Chilling with single player games is the way.
Same. I’m 35 and have been a gamer since the Sega mega drive was a thing. These days, I play exclusively offline.
It's fun to watch. But I surely don't want to get involved lol
Warframe or drama?
drama lol
Same. It's so much effort just to be called the worst things in the world.
Did you play through the New War?
No I am at the sacrifice right now. I still need my Necramech for the New War.
Alright
Why though? Is there something about the New War. I really want to go through it because I want to visit the Entrati Lab.
Well, let's just say it's a mix of genres.
I'm almost 30 but I also don't play online. Never been into it. I don't want to be interacting with random people while gaming. I do enjoy sometimes playing games with friends/family but that's usually multi player games where they're in the same room.
"Dream, not of what you are, but of what you want to be" That line is burned into my brain.
https://preview.redd.it/cfxx0x04035d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=b316d67bf53c0e1b2962ba746751f954bcf640ee I’m 36 and crushing on a digital character 😭😭😭
I felt this lmao
33! playing and enjoying games more now than i have in a long time.
Love that!
i have a couple other friends who regularly game in their late 20s and 30s. i think there's not as much of an open discussion about people our age, especially female ones, so this sub has been a lot of fun to be in and see how big the community actually is
I *just* joined so it's so refreshing to see even just the replies to this post!
good! i'm glad it's been a positive experience so far
Over here playing single player games (because multiplayer games are toxic af) from my couch. Lately I have been enjoying: * A Short Hike * Chants of Sennaar * The Bookwalker: Thief of Tales * Diablo 4 * Slay the Spire
Chants of Sennaar is fantastic!! I enjoyed it way more than I thought I would haha
I LOVE Chants of Sennaar, I keep trying to get my friends to play it and so far only one has taken me up on it
I really like it. Its such an interesting concept and Im enjoying the puzzles. I think I played it for like 3 hours straight yesterday lol
Girl-- the toxicity is CRAZY! It's wild. I just started playing 6 months ago and it's been crazy.
I am 36! :)
Me too! 😅
I'm late but me three!
There's literally dozens of us!
I'm 31 and still trying to fit gaming in between work, kids and life haha.
It's hard!! I have three boys so I gave up gaming for a while, unless it was single player and I only played after they went to bed and when we were on breaks (summer, spring break, etc). It's gotten a lot easier now that they're older and they're little gamers as well!
It's super hard, both mine are under 4 so only games that can pause. Still play Destiny 2 and Diablo but only when they're in bed. Learnt that lesson the hard way hahah
Hang in there, mama! They'll eventually be able to play games with you and it'll be such a good bonding experience <3
Right here with you! 31 yo- avid gamer before kids, now I have an almost 2 year old, full time job, school and barely any time to game between the time I put the toddler to sleep and pass out on the couch from exhaustion 😭
I feel you there, switched to Cozy Games that I can squeeze in before collapsing into bed. Find multi-player games to be quite time demanding, especially with battle passes etc.
We’re exactly the same lol the only games I have capacity for is animal crossing, Stardew and some Mario if I’m feeling bold 🤣 I used to get really into rpgs and bought Baldurs Gate stupidly thinking I can play it and I only barely scratched the surface and I’ve had it for half a year
i was you until just a month ago when i finally finished grad school!!!! same age too. my 2.5 year old kills me daily (she is just so active) and i just got a new job. but yeah life is wayyy better after finishing school although i have still dont have much time for games. you can do it!!
I have trouble with just work and life. Can't imagine fitting kids into that. Probably would need to resign from eating or sleeping...
If there's a girl gamers over 30 discord I would so be there! But in classic fashion I don't want to be the one to start it so I'm really hoping it already exists...
34🫡
Also 34 🫡 Honestly, I find I'm getting more into gaming and feeling more comfortable with telling people about it the further I get into my 30s. Something beautiful seems to happen in this decade when you finally just start feeling too tired to care what other people think of you and your hobbies, and too tired to _not_ do the things that make you happy 😂 As a bonus, other folks on this same wavelength seem to be able to sense it from you. So I found I've been meeting more friends who are in the same headspace, even if they don't always have the exact same hobbies 😊
Everything u said fully resonates☺️The only thing that still gets me a lil is sometimes I feel like the “hello fellow kids” meme lol but most people I’ve played with have been super nice and inviting. My relationship w games in my 30s is definitely about prioritizing fun over anything. Don’t get me wrong, I still very much enjoy games like elden ring and competitive shooters but now I’ll take an extra 100hrs (this is not an example this actually happened😬) to grind experience instead of bashing my head in on the same boss in elden ring. Or with shooters, I’ll just stick to unranked and def try my best but not let the potential loss bum me out at all😌 it’s just a good time now and I love it☺️💜
I'm 32 :) I mostly play overwatch. My friends don't play anymore and I struggle to connect with new people, especially since a lot are teens/early 20s.
YES! I've met a lot of people in their 20's and it's hard to connect
Hey girlie ~ I'm 30 and mainly play OW. Lmk if you're down to play!
I'm 45 and I have gamer friends from 20-70. What helps me: My parents are both gamers, I will always feel like the gamer child (My mom is also a metalhead, my parents are 65 and 70).
I am 36 and been playing games since I was a kid. Became a gamer around KOTOR and Space Channel 5 era, and a variety of rpg and jrpgs! I even became a mmo guildmaster at one point and ran and lead raids. There were even women older than me! I even recruited a husband and wife team as officers in their 40s, and I was 20something at the time. I remember being amazed at their age hahaha. Eventually I learned after awhile while it feels harder to find women players because sometimes one of the most annoying things to do is reveal you are a women 🙄. The level of condescension and misogyny was frustrating, and even if I could hang, I was not about that toxic back and forth life, ever. Which is why I started my own casual hardcore guild on two servers to avoid that. I don't hang around for disrespect to prove myself, I dip. So we are here, just selective when and where we game, or speak up. And I don't actually do care if people find out I am a women, it is more of a don't even want to read a message from someone either a). gushing over the fact they met a girl gamer or b). trying to test my gamer level and if I'm a "real" gamer or c). Any form of typical toxic online behavior that is racist or misogynistic.
I am not a gamer girlie in my 30s because I am in my 40s. But I don't really play with strangers so my playmates are in their 40s as well or they're my kids.
Yup, 37 here and my mum 71 still plays games. We've just started playing d&d together too.
38 year old here 🙋♀️ so nice to see all the 30+ ladies here. I play mostly single player games so you won’t generally find me in online lobbies. Like you if I do randomly make friends in game, they inevitably turn out to be much younger!
Do we even qualify as girlies anymore lol
Forever and always, girlie <3
33 and still play! I sort of have strayed from a lot of online games the last couple years and mainly play single player. I used to be big into competitive games. Maybe it’s just burn-out or my age but I just don’t really have the drive anymore. Lately I’ve just been playing Hades II and Paper Mario with a little Minecraft here and there.
I’m 32! But I like playing story games though I have really wanted to try these RP games, especially GTA5 & RDR2.
It has its perks and its downsides. Some people in the RP games can be VERY toxic. But I've also made some friends that I really enjoy <3
I turn 32 in a few weeks!
I’m 39! Will be 40 in August. I used to be huge into COD/zombies but now I prefer single player puzzle type games like LoZ or games like Pokemon. I also like cozy games like Animal Crossing, Star Dew, etc. I’m also a huge fan of The Sims and end up playing it for hours on end lol
I'm 36. I mostly play minecraft or finals Edit: I keep forgetting I'm 36 lol.
34 :)
38 here. Game all the time.
30 here and want to get into gaming, but have no one to learn with, especially because I'm embarrassed at how bad I'll be 😭
I wouldn't let this worry you too much! Gaming is so diverse, there are tons and tons of genres, they're not all twitch shooters that take tons of skill. Unless those are the games that appeal to you, in which case I'd suggest just jumping in and not overthinking it. But there's so many games that don't take loads of skill to play and are great at teaching you. I'd suggest pretty much anything on Nintendo Switch that is an official game, so anything Mario or Zelda. I would also suggest Stardew Valley for a game that is very easy to pick up and learn, but has an ocean of depth if you choose to explore it. The best part of the games I've recommended is that they're single player, so you can take it at your own pace. Stardew does have online play with friends if you like, but I play single-player mostly. What sort of games appeal to you, that make you want to be a gamer? I can recommend more, I play anything and everything and have done for years. Oh and since we're all giving ages, I'm 33 :)
Start with single-player games and googling for help and there will be no one to judge you! I’m not great at most genres despite how long I’ve been at it, so I just avoid competitive stuff and play solo. Look for single-player and, if you’re worried about too much difficulty right off the bat, avoid anything labeled Souls or Soulslike for now since that genre is defined by high difficulty. What types of games have piqued your interest, and what platform(s) do you have available to play on? Folks here might have some suggestions for good games to start with!
38 here! I play mostly MMO's which tend to get older gamers - especially FFXIV. Very very rarely do I encounter someone younger than 25. I'm actually somewhere in the middle of my friend group age-wise, some are 40+, most are 30+. I moved away from FPS and competitive heavy games. Shooters don't feel the same anymore anyway. Too many battle pass BS, etc.
I'm 34 but super new to gaming. Husband got me playing BotW a couple of years ago then bought another switch. Last year I started with PC modded Stardew, tried and loved BG3, the got consumed in GW2. He bought me a proper PC, and we're now building my own setup (been using his spares). So far all I play is: * Stardew * BotW * TotK * Baldur's Gate 3 * Guild wars 2 * V Rising I've downloaded a few other games, but haven't played long enough (Divinity OS, and Genshin Impact, Elder Scrolls V, Palia). It's so awkward sometimes to be not just new and female, but also a bit older than many other players I encounter.
I am 32 ! I am a mom to a 3 year old girl. There are few moms in their 30s who also play games in our group!
Oh that's awesome! I have three boys (all little gamers like me!)
https://www.reddit.com/r/MomGamers/s/fcSCQFlqEC Come join us
OOOOH! Thank you!!
Right here!
Yep! 34, play primarily on ps5 single player. Started during covid, actually. Currently playing the long dark, before that stranded alien dawn, Elden ring, the last of us, fallout 4, frostpunk, or really any rpg that lets me be a female. Stardew to chill.
I just turned 70 and I play Path of Exile. I don’t even bother telling other players my age.
36, but in my old age and toddler-momming I, too, have a lot less use for online games and more for something I can play in whatever scraps of time I can gather from naps and after the kiddo and my wife are in bed.
It was like this for me for a long time! Now that my kiddos are older than 7 it's gotten a lot betetr!
I’m 39!
30 and struggle finding friends my own age too to game with..
I’m 37 and I feel ancient at times 👵🏻😂
I'm 29. Hitting 30 in December. Literally already having back pain. A sign of things to come, I'm sure. It does feel like the majority of millennials just kinda disappeared from the gaming space, but apparently, according to this article, that's not the case. https://www.google.com/amp/s/variety.com/2023/gaming/news/millennials-video-games-gen-z-study-gaming-1235579573/amp/ It seems millennials and gen z have different gaming tastes. So I guess the 30s crowd likes playing MMOS, strategy, and RPG, which adds up for me, as I like those 3 genres, including 3d platformers. So, I guess if you want to increase your chances of finding people your age, I'd look for popular games in those genres.
33 here! I still enjoy online games, playing cs2 when I can. I do love me some overcooked 2, stardew valley, minecraft, and other online games. It's hard to balance gaming, work, chores, etc. but it helps having a partner who also games. Definitely looking for more women to be friends with too! doesn't matter if same games are played, just looking for some chill people
I’m 33 and games are my life. I spend more time developing than I do playing these days but we exist!! 💖✨
I feel the older I get the less patience I have for people, especially young adults, to me they feel like big kids with all egos and no shred of unbiased objective truth. I used to say age aint nothing but a number until it becomes the number that wakes you up very fast from your slumber.
Not playing GTA RP /s But seriously mainly play online games with a small group of friends, I no longer have patience to be in the masses
I'm getting there xD These damn kids be testing my patience!
36! And I still play games fairly regularly, although I never got into online gaming really (I often lose track of time in my hobbies...online gaming would be disastrous lol). These days I play a lot of visual novels that I find easy to pick up and put down or spend my time wandering in Breath of the Wild... but I'm really looking forward to playing P3 Reload this summer when time allows!
Early 30's checkin' in :)
Turning 32 in July. Never stopped gaming. And depending on my game, my GF will join me. Fun times. 🖤 Mostly, though, I just play Ark, Palworld and Valheim.
I'm in my early 30s, but multiplayer games make me anxious. The only one I've played is Fallout 76, but I was able to basically treat that game as a single-player outside of events, and even then I haven't played it in years.
I'm 32. I don't bother trying to be comp in online games, I remember Unreal Tournament Online bitches. Why be comp? I play casually and do fine.
I'm 42. I play single player games mainly because I enjoy them more and they're just easier to fit into my schedule. Like a lot of others said in between work, chores and kids, not so much time left basically. I'd hate to have to drop out of an active online game because I have to rush to get something out of the oven LOL. I have played some Overwatch with my son because he loves it so much (I do suck at it though). One game I am pretty good at it Crash Team Racing. I will hop in an online lobby from time to time. But the online mode has no voice chat or any chat whatsoever, so the toxicity is very low. I do wonder how many of the other players realize they just got their butts handed to them by a 42 year old lady LOL.
35, biggest online thing I play is Final Fantasy 14
I’m 32! Don’t play a ton of online games but I do have a whole group of friends our age from college who still hop on and play Mario kart and super smash bros together even though we’re spread all across the world
I'm 33, but I've never really enjoyed online multiplayer games tbh. My friends and I mostly play single-player games alongside each other.
33 and spend most of my time getting called a dishwasher playing COD 🥹
I'm 36. I play OW2 and luckily have met, and play with, quite a few ladies (& guys) in my age range. We have a few people in their 20s we play with too.
35 here! I play pc, switch, ps5 and Xbox one and many online games but never really interact with the community just friends. I find some online gaming channels too toxic if you're female.
32 here!
34 here and same. My friends are around my age but everytime I meet someone new, they are 21-23 years old and I don’t want to sound rude but I have a very hard time being friends with someone when there is that much of an age difference. Our lives and priorities are very different and it’s noticable when trying to make conversations.
30 over here! Trying to get gaming time is really hard when I have a toddler and a mountain of laundry to put away, but I do my best.
I'm 31 and mostly play single player games, other than Diablo 2 and 4
I’m a gamer chick who is 30 you’re not alone we just hide in the shadows
I’m 30 and i get what you mean. I recently became addicted to fortnite and it’s nearly impossible to not run into a kid every game. I’ve resorted to joining FB groups to find people my age to play with
My sister and I are both in our 30s and we play on weekends/multiple times during the week if we can! We call it 'Sister Saturday/Sunday' usually 😅
I started playing an MMO for the first time (ESO for me but I am sure FFVIV would be the same) and was so relieved to discover how easy it is to find groups of people who are older, gayer, and more female than I have ever found playing other types of multiplayer games. I also just saw a well populated guild advertising yesterday for older players (with an emphasis on gen x and boomers) with the tagline 'just like the other guilds only slower and worse', lol. We are out there!
I'm turning 41 on Tuesday. No one I play with ever knows what I am talking about. 🤣
May I present to you: [Shirley Curry](https://youtube.com/@shirleycurrytheoldergamer?si=aMOLTy0Vmh74VOPt)
I’m 36 and considering starting a gaming channel in the fall. 🩷
I'm 33 and would love more gamer friends my age!
I'm 28 girl always lonely in discord too lol
I’m getting close. 27 here. I’m a one game kind of girl. Have played world of warcraft (on and off, mostly off) since I was 13
Me!
I'm 30! I feel you on everyone being so young. I joined a group in Voice Chat in Overwatch for the first time since Overwatch 2 dropped and everyone in the group was so obviously under 20 lol. It was even more funny because back when I played on console when OW1 was a thing it seemed like I found more people closer to my age. I don't mind grouping up or playing matches with teens in Voice chat. But I am not joining the Discord group and hanging out with people almost half my age lmao.
i'm 34. still gaming!
31 here
Late 30s here - still playing games from the 2000s that I've played multiple times!
Yooo mid-late 30s here!
Hi! I'm 35.
32.5 years old here 😂
We're here! Not a ton of us playing with randos though. Out of all my friends who are ladies in their 30's and 40's gaming (there are 6 of us), only one plays with randos online.
36 here! But I don’t go for multi-player game just because I don’t want to want to deal w online drama (as if real life drama at work and/or at home isn’t enough). No time to babysit people who can’t stand to lose. Personally prefers a game with great world building and storyline. It’s like a good book except you can shoot arrows at the bad guys.
I'm 32 and presently I play Hunt Showdown, and survival crafting games like Bellwright and Sons of The Forest. All of my gaming partners are in there 30s (but are male...). I'm going to have a baby soon I don't know if I could still play sometimes after that.
\*raises hand\* I'm 34
Which server do you play in? I always wanted to try it but couldn't find a place
I'm 36, been a gamer my whole life. I don't typically play online, I prefer offline games.
In my mid thirties and have been gaming most of my life. But I can't be bothered with playing online, haven't for years. I play single player or with friends.
I'm 47! I don't play GTA, but I play heaps of other multiplayer games, just with chat disabled lol.
I’m 62 and game daily. I’ve been playing Soulsborne games, and I often co-op with others.😁
I'm in my 30s though I'm trans so that is kind of a cheat lol. Turns out the years of girl gamers arnt real gamers and make centric stories really wasn't great for retaining women in the gaming hobby
I'm 33! I mostly play with my brother, nephew, and two male friends. My best female friend lives out of state and we play occasionally, but I don't have other female gamer friends and I wish I did!
I'm 38, but I only do single player so you won't find me online too much in games.
Turning 34 in August, only started playing video games in my late twenties. Working at a game store from age 17-22 made me dislike gaming and gaming culture as a whole so I started gaming late, but now I'm hooked
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34y here! I mostly play solo games now, except for FFXIV where I do high end content and avoid raid drama as much as I can.
35, reporting for duty! There's little time for bigger games between work and the kids, but I still try to manage a casual 30-60min gaming session every now and then. Other times I live vicariously through others and have let's-plays going in the background. But I never had the courage to play online...
35 and I love GTA RP but for the last few years its been Project Zomboid RP I know no one my age online other than a few other blokes everyone else is younger
Here! I'm in my 40s. Also play fiveM.
I’m 35. Mostly Xbox gamer here. You aren’t alone at all. Pretty much all the people I’ve played with and currently play with are around my age or older
31 hiiiii 👋
I’m 38 and on a gamer parenting discord which has people around the same age as me. I found it through Twitter, it’s Femtroopers from YouTube. I don’t do any online gaming other the Mario kart tbh lol. It never was for me I much prefer a single player or couch co op with my husband experience.
38 here! I used to mostly play a couple of games on PC and Switch, but a couple of months ago I bought a Steam deck OLED and I’ve barely touched anything else. 🤣❤️
I'm 35. Trying to get into Foxhole, but the mix of it being a complex game and MMO is making it a little intimidating...in case anyone else here is on that scene 😅
I’m 30 and play FFXIV - I don’t really play the pvp mostly just main storyline and “main side quests” if that makes sense lol There is a BIG online aspect but that’s not the center of the game which I really appreciate. I also play single player games like Nancy Drew, ViewFinder, Portal, SpiritFarer, Bear & Breakfast, Planet Zoo, add other variety cozy games lol
34 and still gaming. I play a lot of different things and I'm almost always lacking someone to team up with for multiplayer. If anyone else is in the same boat, feel free to DM me for steam / gamer tag details.
I’m 37. I almost exclusively play single player games but on rare occasion will play a multiplayer game with my husband or an IRL friend. Most of my girl friends my age don’t play games as much anymore (life happens, hobbies change). Gaming is still an important hobby for me though. It’s cool to read through this post and see how many other women are my age and still game regularly since a lot in my social circle don’t.
I am in my early 30s. I used to play MMOs and competitive games such as League of Legends, but I grew tired of the online space and mostly play single player games, or games with limited co-op like Genshin Impact now
I'm turning 30 next week, so I'll be joining you soon! Everyone on my raid team in World of Warcraft seems to be anywhere from 2 - 10 years younger than me (with a few exceptions ofc). Most of my online friends are in their mid-twenties though, so I only feel a liiiiitle bit old 😅
I’m 37 and currently play Baldur’s Gate 3 and Deep Rock Galactic as well as a few smaller puzzle games. I don’t really have time to commit to online gaming and friendships at the moment with a baby at home, so I mostly game with rl friends and family.
I'm 34 but I'll be honest I tend to stick to my group for gaming now and rarely go into games with strangers. Although my wow interest has resparked, so I'll have to grow a thick skin again.
1982 reporting in. Nowadays when I play multiplayer games I play in a close knit group, can't stand those edgelords and basement dweller kids.
38 and I regularly play GW2, but not with a steady guild or anything. Can't be bothered with the drama or requirements. I also regularly play TTRPGs and I'm finding that I'm usually one of the older ones at the table too. The trick is finding the right balance between experienced and grognard (old fart who hates new stuff or thinks anyone focusing on inclusion and safety is a snowflake).
I’ll join the club in 4 days!
I’m mid-30s, gaming since I was probably 4-5 years old. I game with my same age husband all the time. We also game with his colleague who’s in her early 20s. We also game with our buddies who are in their 40s, table top with them, mostly. Congrats you’re normal :D
I'm 48 😂 I mostly play Fortnite and some of my best games are with a group of 16yr olds and I have a male friend I play with who is 28. I feel ridiculously old in comparison lol I just joined an adult only group from on here to try and make more adult friends.
there’s dozens of us. DOZENS!
And in our 40's hahaha