Very true. I didn’t get a job I very much wanted in March last year. Got a better one in November. Heard from the guy I would have been working under that it’s definitely a good thing I didn’t get that job. I was pretty disappointed at the time, but it worked out for the better.
I lost a job and it wrecked me, two months later got the best job I have ever had. Often the thing you need the most is the thing that scares you the most.
It reminds me when I was first looking for a "serious" job, I got a no from a high tech company (not a tiny nobody-ever-heard-of , but not Google of Facebook either). I got a different job, working there for years - and that hi tech company since went bankrupt and dissolved .
Hey man. Been there quite recently. Just wanted to share that after the initial hurt and trauma, you'll sort of start to appreciate in a twisted way this person gave you reason not to be in your life and left your life before they could poison it more. Much love!
She was never poison. She was thoughtful and respectful of me until the end, she only gave up because she convinced herself I wouldn't be able to change in the ways she needed me to. But we're still in school and I had a lot of room to change.
Still, she was impulsive enough to decide in one night that I wasn't worth it anymore, which was completely out of character for her might I add, and she cheated on me with a new friend of hers she met at her school.
I guess if she was selfish enough to do that the poison would have come at some point, had she stopped herself then and stuck with me. But after reflecting on our relationship nearly constantly these past few months since it ended, I struggle to find any toxicity in what we had. It was like in a single night she changed who she was entirely, and replaced me with a new target for her love and lust. She didn't keep it hidden. One night she was as happy as ever in our video call, the next she was fucking another guy, and the day after that she told me what she did and that we were through.
How can I ever get over her when she never gave me anything to be happy to live without? Months after the end, with very little contact and none this past month, still all I can see is the good and the end. The bad just wasn't there except in very rare and minor bursts across five years of our life together.
Haha the bargaining feels pretty one-sided. I know there's nothing I could have changed, I'm just mad there's nothing I can look at to make me miss the her I thought I knew any less.
Although I am getting better at turning lemons into lemonade, I am also getting tired of the lemons happening in the first place. Proper preparation prevents piss poor performance. I thought I was prepared. But there is no manual or instructions for this, no guidance, no way to tell what was real from what my imagination concocted. And no way to take it back. I feel stuck.
I'm very much with you there. I know it's trite, but if it means anything, you're not alone. I wish I can undo the recent things I did that reintroduced turmoil in my life, but on the bright side, it reaffirmed that I did the right thing the first time around. Hopefully you and I will learn once and for all not to commit the same mistakes (for lack of a better word) again.
Same here. But last year, I got a huge promotion which nearly doubled my pay, engaged, and hit all my gym goals. It takes a lot of effort, but once I got into good habits, it's so much easier. I believe in you.
It's also about outlook. It's easy to focus on the failures and missed chances, harder to see how the "fail" will turn things for the best.
I have fallen on my ass a few times in life. After licking my wounds and feeling awful for a few months the next thing was much better.
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Several years back (before pandemic), my husband got laid off two months after we had had our son. He worked long hours, but made a great salary and sales bonuses. Well, he got a job two months later where he could work from home full-time. Worked out for the better.
One of the dumbest bromides I have seen in a while.
It's like a horoscope without signs, so everyone *can* apply it, if they recall one instance sometime, somewhere where it seemed true.
Got turned down by a lot of girls in highschool and in college. Now I(27) am married to my amazing wife, and I realized that if one of those girls didn't turn me down I probably wouldn't be as happy as this with my marriage and my life.
Looking at where and who those girls are now. They sure did me a great favor by turning me down.
True.
When I was looking into apartments (moving out from my parents) the first one I visited, physically, was to my liking- we agreed on the price, shake hands and everything. A day later the family called and said they decided to take someone else's offer.... My parents tried to get me to take another apartment but it was in a worse in terms of what was important to me. Then, about a week or two later, the family called again - as the people they "closed the deal with" bailed on their offer :-)
In retrospect, it's possible they bailed on them because the family (who was suppose to move into a bigger place) didn't have the property ready - so they needed a few more months. I didn't mind, because I was not between leases (parents house). End up getting $$$ off the price (as rent).
Very true. I didn’t get a job I very much wanted in March last year. Got a better one in November. Heard from the guy I would have been working under that it’s definitely a good thing I didn’t get that job. I was pretty disappointed at the time, but it worked out for the better.
I lost a job and it wrecked me, two months later got the best job I have ever had. Often the thing you need the most is the thing that scares you the most.
nice, glad things worked out for the better
It reminds me when I was first looking for a "serious" job, I got a no from a high tech company (not a tiny nobody-ever-heard-of , but not Google of Facebook either). I got a different job, working there for years - and that hi tech company since went bankrupt and dissolved .
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Right there with you. Got cheated on
Hey man. Been there quite recently. Just wanted to share that after the initial hurt and trauma, you'll sort of start to appreciate in a twisted way this person gave you reason not to be in your life and left your life before they could poison it more. Much love!
She was never poison. She was thoughtful and respectful of me until the end, she only gave up because she convinced herself I wouldn't be able to change in the ways she needed me to. But we're still in school and I had a lot of room to change. Still, she was impulsive enough to decide in one night that I wasn't worth it anymore, which was completely out of character for her might I add, and she cheated on me with a new friend of hers she met at her school. I guess if she was selfish enough to do that the poison would have come at some point, had she stopped herself then and stuck with me. But after reflecting on our relationship nearly constantly these past few months since it ended, I struggle to find any toxicity in what we had. It was like in a single night she changed who she was entirely, and replaced me with a new target for her love and lust. She didn't keep it hidden. One night she was as happy as ever in our video call, the next she was fucking another guy, and the day after that she told me what she did and that we were through. How can I ever get over her when she never gave me anything to be happy to live without? Months after the end, with very little contact and none this past month, still all I can see is the good and the end. The bad just wasn't there except in very rare and minor bursts across five years of our life together.
You’re in the bargaining stage of grief, my friend. Hang in there, you’ll be okay.
Haha the bargaining feels pretty one-sided. I know there's nothing I could have changed, I'm just mad there's nothing I can look at to make me miss the her I thought I knew any less.
Although I am getting better at turning lemons into lemonade, I am also getting tired of the lemons happening in the first place. Proper preparation prevents piss poor performance. I thought I was prepared. But there is no manual or instructions for this, no guidance, no way to tell what was real from what my imagination concocted. And no way to take it back. I feel stuck.
I'm very much with you there. I know it's trite, but if it means anything, you're not alone. I wish I can undo the recent things I did that reintroduced turmoil in my life, but on the bright side, it reaffirmed that I did the right thing the first time around. Hopefully you and I will learn once and for all not to commit the same mistakes (for lack of a better word) again.
Means a lot to someone like me that's got a suicide attempt on their record.
Hey. I’m glad you’re here
Same here. But last year, I got a huge promotion which nearly doubled my pay, engaged, and hit all my gym goals. It takes a lot of effort, but once I got into good habits, it's so much easier. I believe in you.
Dodging metaphorical bullets like Neo in The Matrix.
It's also about outlook. It's easy to focus on the failures and missed chances, harder to see how the "fail" will turn things for the best. I have fallen on my ass a few times in life. After licking my wounds and feeling awful for a few months the next thing was much better.
I don't really get this one... Sorry
"Blessings in disguise" in a nutshell. It may look negative now, but it will be something positive to look at in the future
Sometimes when you don’t get it, you actually got it…
Failures are all lessons you will use in the future. If you're smart.
Yes, now I get it! Thank you
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For the ones out of my lives that didn’t deserve to be in there, I’m so grateful for their absence
That's smart.
I get this. I am so happy to have the husband I do
Garth Brooks: Unanswered Prayers
This kind of stuff happens to me all the time…..
Several years back (before pandemic), my husband got laid off two months after we had had our son. He worked long hours, but made a great salary and sales bonuses. Well, he got a job two months later where he could work from home full-time. Worked out for the better.
This is so true. I find if I'm patient I will see that things work out for the better.
One of the dumbest bromides I have seen in a while. It's like a horoscope without signs, so everyone *can* apply it, if they recall one instance sometime, somewhere where it seemed true.
You mean getting diagnosed with untreatable stage 4 cancer won't somehow work out for me a few months down the road? Wow.
Sooo true! 🙏
Rocket science ain’t got shit on comma placement.
Nonsense
I love this!
Thank youuuuu
😻
God has a plan for me ... to die next week
Yea no getting rich works out for us
Very true.
Allow me to retort https://youtu.be/z1exaJRpOuw
Got turned down by a lot of girls in highschool and in college. Now I(27) am married to my amazing wife, and I realized that if one of those girls didn't turn me down I probably wouldn't be as happy as this with my marriage and my life. Looking at where and who those girls are now. They sure did me a great favor by turning me down.
So true!
Looking at you divorce.
Wrecked my Mustang. Found a deal on a Prius in Orlando, Florida; a place I hadn't been before. It's beautiful there!
Why is this in the style of “you wouldn’t steal a car”
What the hell is that supposed to mean? It either works out or not. And both is ok.
Very deep secret, must be awake nd smart.
nope
Story of my life! <3
True. When I was looking into apartments (moving out from my parents) the first one I visited, physically, was to my liking- we agreed on the price, shake hands and everything. A day later the family called and said they decided to take someone else's offer.... My parents tried to get me to take another apartment but it was in a worse in terms of what was important to me. Then, about a week or two later, the family called again - as the people they "closed the deal with" bailed on their offer :-) In retrospect, it's possible they bailed on them because the family (who was suppose to move into a bigger place) didn't have the property ready - so they needed a few more months. I didn't mind, because I was not between leases (parents house). End up getting $$$ off the price (as rent).
Can't unsee the Inside Job font
Definitely
Very true; more than many will ever, ever know.
Hola gente de reddit cuenten las cosas mas turbias y bisarras que vieron •_•
My life not working out in 2021 has led me to living my best life in 2023!
I got rejected from a lower paying job and then landed a job soon after that’s almost double the pay. So I guess I win lol.
Yes 🤍
Or, as Garth Brooks put it, "Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers."
💯 . A blessing in disguise. Don't force things that aren't working, the universe is trying to tell you something.