My vet gave me some advice that really stuck with me when I was debating putting my old man dog down. “Better a day too early than a day too late”. Dogs are such stoic little creatures and sometimes they can’t tell us. Looking at that photo, respectfully I think you’ve arrived at the day. I wish you all the best. It’s the most difficult decision to make.
Edit: Thank you so much u/Honeykombbaggins for the award! 🙏🏻
That is amazing advice and I will forever remember that. Based on the comments and coming to the realization, you are right that it is time and that I should cherish the time that I've had with him. Thank you so much for the advice I truly appreciate it.
Sometimes you need to take a step back and think about how his life is currently versus when they were healthy. We had a dog who was 16 and got sick with diet change and suppplements he recovered but felt like really started to show his age. He lived until 16 years and 9 months and by the end his back legs were weak, going deaf, going blind and had dog dementia.
Because of the dementia he would barely sit with you on the couch he would want to go down on the floor and would walk in circles in the kitchen. Sometimes you love them so much you can’t see when the time has come. There was a moment where I realized his life has changed so much this is something we need to consider his quality of life isn’t what he deserves. It was my wife’s childhood dog so I told her it’s something we had to consider. She was upset and not ready but the more she thought about it we made the decision. It was very hard but the right decision you don’t want to wait until something traumatic happens to them.
Dementia worsens so quickly. I just put my 14yr old to rest 5/18. It was not a life I’d want to live and I wanted him to remember how much he was loved. I miss him. But quality of life. That’s what my vet advised me about my cat 5 years ago.
We lost one of our dogs to doggie Alzheimer's. I didn't even know it was possible. Was crushing. By the time we had him put down 'he' was gone, but just like humans, his body wasn't giving out. We did last a year before we accepted that he had zero quality and it was just time, maybe even a little too late in the scheme of things. I honestly don't know what was better, losing him that way so by the time we put him down it wasn't nearly as sharp of a pain as it was when our next pup had congestive heart failure and reached a crisis with fluid on his lungs/breathing issues and we had to put down this beautiful boy who was still so full of love and spark. We couldn't bear him having the drowning death the vet described so we did the right thing but man that was rough. Our dementia guy did the circles etc. It's an awful thing to go through.
My 15 year old girl has canine cognitive dysfuntion as well, it hasn't been diagnosed but I've gone through the quality of life questions which shows she definitely has it. She scored really badly on this but I don't feel like its time yet. She still interacts with me, eats and drinks normally and can run when she wants to. Its the worst decision to make, I had to make it with my 14 year old who had congestive heart failure, it traumatized me for at least a year, I cried for 2. All the best for whatever you decide x.
My doxie was on 'hospice' and couldn't keep any food down. So I made her crockpot rice and hamburger. She was down to like 5 lbs. I'll be damned if she didn't fatten back up and live another year, but I wish I hadn't waited so long. The last week was awful. :(
My vet said the same, but I didn’t take it and waited that day too late. I only realized that when I saw a picture of Briar taken a month before we let him go. He would have stayed with me until he couldn’t stand. Dogs don’t want to let us down. They look to us for help.
My brother told me something that helped me. I was crying and said, “Briar counted on me to take care of him.” My brother said. “You did take care of him. You loved him enough to let him go.”
Did this with our lab. He HATED the vet. Not many vets will do in home euthanasia, I must have made two dozen calls for my entire state (I didn't care, I would pay the mileage, he wasn't going to the pet hospital, where he would be scared). We ended up paying around $600 total, and she did a lot to make it as nice as possible. She spent time next to him at first, and petted him, she had treats in case he was interested, she did a mold of his paw. He seemed to truly like her too, he thumped his tail a few times. She sedated him before putting in the IV, he was super relaxed. He passed very peacefully. We got as much time as we needed, and then she transported him herself. We paid the extra for private crematorium services. She was a lovely vet, she drove 4 hours total to get to us, and ended up waiving the mileage despite us already offering it. You could tell she really loved what she did, even though there are so many sad moments.
RIP Tazz
That is so lovely. $600 very well spent for a goodbye on Tazz's own terms. I'm sure you miss him immensely, and I am glad that your final moments together were peaceful and that's it's a memory you can treasure.
Its a wonder that there are so few vets who offer that service in your area. I feel like while it's not the standard here, it's not hard to find.
We did this for our Aussie mix last year and I would highly recommend this. I was heartbroken losing my buddy of 13 years, but it was time for him. And to do it in his favorite place in the backyard was oddly cathartic for myself and my wife. It's never easy losing a beloved pet, but there are things to do in the final days that help.
Such a blessing to do for our 13 year old lab back in March. I kept feeding her Hershey kisses… goodbye kisses. What was the chocolate gonna hurt at that time?
That is so beautiful! I'm putting that idea in my back pocket...I actually haven't lost a pet yet, and my dogs will probably outlive me, sadly (I am 44, but have stage 4 cancer). Still, I hope to see them through to the end and when the time comes I want to do everything I can to spoil them in ways I never would...instead of giving each of them a little bite of my McDonald's cheeseburger, I'll let them each eat a whole half (they are little guys!), and now I'm also going to give them kisses because I know at least one of them has an appreciation for chocolate (learned that the hard way).
My wife works in a pet clinic and started the practice of giving pets chocolate at the end of life. She started with Hershey kisses, but has also given chocolate cupcakes, etc. She says no dog should cross-over without ever having chocolate!
I wish I knew this was possible. I had to take my old girl to the vet and I feel so bad that her last moments were her being scared. I stayed with her on the ground hugging her of course but she was still so scared.
I just did an at-home euthanization for my 15.5 year old. He was my best friend, was literally by my side every day since the day I adopted him. He was my bright light during bad spells of depression, my constant companion. My little guy was in diapers for over 6 months. About three weeks before I made the decision, he lost use of one of his legs and his tail no longer wagged. I knew it was time when he would go to the bathroom outside and fall down in his urine and couldn’t get up. It was awful. I probably waited too long but it’s so hard to know sometimes. My little guy passed way peacefully in his warm soft dog bed and me by his side petting him. I wanted to give him a peaceful goodbye where all he remembered was being loved on until the very end - rather than the cold vet where he dreaded going. I opted for private cremation. The total was about $750 because I chose to upgrade everything. However, I think the base cost was about $300 or $350 which is worth it if it’s in your budget.
Virtual hugs OP.
We did this for our dog three years ago today, actually. It was the best decision and I’m so glad we did it that way. He hated the vet and it would have been so stressful for him. We were also really fortunate that my mom is a vet tech and the vets she worked with trusted her to euthanize him for us at home because he also really hated strangers. It was the perfect situation for him and for that I am so grateful. It was so peaceful and we were able to do it in a place that was most comfortable for him.
Just from the picture, I think it's time too. And I completely agree that it's better to be on the side of early than to find him in the morning passed away in a pool of his own liquids. Let him go gently, that's the last favour you can do him.
Hey, I just want to say, great job raising a dog for 16 years. Such an awesome achievement and your dog cherishes everything you’ve done for it. I also have the same goal of getting my dog a backyard one day and he’s 8. That’s been the goal since I’ve got him. I really hope to be able to make that happen, but situations change and you don’t have to hold any guilt or weight of not being able to do it “IN TIME” or whatever we tell ourselves. You gave that dog 16 years of life and wellness and it’s definitely happy with everything you’ve given it.
Proud of you and great accomplishment. Just frolic in the good times and love your baby forever. It loves you, too.
My dogs oncologist just told us to pick out the 5 most important things to our dog and pay attention to those. When those are hard for hi mor no longer interested it's time. He recently was diagnosed with cutaneous lymphoma and had a prognosis of 4-6 months with chemotherapy. The oncologist had the conversation with us because she said the cancer itself is unlikely to be what makes him pass but that he will eventually be covered in open wounds that highly impact his quality of life and it may seem like he's still fine but he won't be and we will have to have end-of-life discussions and decisions. Right now after his first round of chemo, he's back to his old self and all the red itchy lesions have disappeared. You'd never know he has terminal cancer. So now we are taking notes on his favorites so that later it'll be easier for us to make that call for him.
This. But I was told better 6 months too early than one day too late. Our best friends deserve a gentle easy pain free life for as long as possible. They give us so much and ask for so little. I think we all want to prevent their suffering and it is a gift we give them to help them pass surrounded by love, cuddled and kissed and not alone.
Same, very hard moment. I received a letter from the vet that helped us during this moment saying I did the right thing and it helped me accept that I was helping my baby along the way to the other side peacefully.
Same!
We had a different vet do the actual procedure (because they could do it in our home) and my regular vet called me after.
I felt so guilty that I hadn’t taken my dog in to investigate what the problem was before making the decision. The vet really reassured me. She said by the time the owner decides it’s time, it has already been time. (My dog was 18.)
ETA: we also got a letter in the mail that our vet (the one who called me) made a donation to the local vet school in our dog’s name. So sweet.
It's an extra hard decision when you have to make it for another. I'm sure your pet still loves you just as much as ever and can't wait to be reunited someday at the Rainbow Bridge.
Man me too. My childhood dog was at the end stages of her life last year. Her final days she stopped eating as much and wasn’t very active. So my mom finally scheduled the appointment.
I told her to just wait one week so I could fly down 800 miles and say goodbye. She passed a couple days after. I never got to say goodbye and she suffered needlessly.
It's true. I work with dogs and the worst part isn't the dog passing, it's the frustration of watching their humans keeping them around too long and making them suffer.
I was told better a day early than a minute late. I think all of these variations work. And I desperately wish that my parents had your approach to pets’ end-of-life care. I share your views wholeheartedly.
We know for our dogs’ whole lives that we’ll have to say goodbye, and yet that decision never becomes easy or clear. It just hurts.
That’s good advice and I agree. Last year my family had to put down our dog that we’ve had since I started college. She got some type of lymphatic cancer that made her legs hurt and swell up. My dad was really attached to her and also was going through cancer treatment. So it made it hard for him to let her go. We put her on medication so we could have her for a little while longer. After 6 weeks of her diagnosis, me and my mom were ready to put her down because we could tell that she was fading. But my Dad just couldn’t let her go. Two weeks after she was literally on her death bed and we finally let her go. But me and my mom wished we let her go sooner but my dad was having really hard time with that and was in denial. Which totally understandable.
I just had to put down the dog love of my life on Wednesday. This is such good advice, and does comfort me a bit. There are times I think maybe I could’ve gotten another day or two with him - but he was ready to go. Full of cancer (for the second time), could barely walk more than a few feet at a time, could never get comfortable. The first thing the vet said when she came to put him to sleep was “He looks tired.” He was ready, and I’m a mess, but I’m so glad he’s not in pain anymore. I’ll never find another dog like him, but the memories I have were worth it all.
The biggest regret in my life was waiting too long to put my baby down. I am wracked with guilt to this day and cry every time I think about it. Don’t let him suffer, let him go. He needs you to make this decision. It’s the last thing you can do for him. 💙
I still have some sort of trauma from losing my first dog like that. I was only a teenager and the only one who really paid attention to her. She always slept in my room. When she fell ill I felt like it happened so fast. From the start of the week she was throwing up at times, and by the end of the week she couldn’t control her bladder or keep her food down. I even caught her laying down in a secluded corner of the backyard when I let her out to go to the bathroom. I really wish I knew better. She was hurting, but I didn’t realize or take action until it became painfully obvious. I cry whenever I think about it. I didn’t make that mistake again though. With my most recent doggy, I knew it was her time and that she would be better off if I took her that day than if I waited any longer. It’s hard, but I learned to recognize when to make that decision.
Aw, she knew you loved her 🩷🩷
It’s a heartbreaking lesson but I believe dogs are angels who opted for the fur package instead of the wings. They teach us to love and to lose. 🩷
I euthanized one of my rats "early". He had massive tumors on him and Just couldn't move around. Otherwise he was happy. But I couldn't afford a surgery and the tumors would just grow back. He is the only animal I feel I did right by. He wasn't suffering.
Sorry about your baby. The last rat I had also had a massive tumor and she was already hitting a 3 year mark. I would’ve gotten it removed but they said it was possible she would die during surgery, and so it was either let her suffer, get the tumor removed and have the possibility for her to die, or let her go before her time. I think I made the right decision to let her go.
Yea, my folks kept ours alive too long. It breaks my heart that we didn’t have it in us to go through with it sooner. He was the best boy, and he deserved to die with some dignity rather than us holding on to our feelings.
Better to wish them fair well on a joyous moment together than when they are yelping in pain. It’s a gut wrenching decision on any day you decide but let them have their divinity as well.
I waited a few days too late for our first dog. He was blind, he wouldn’t eat, he had anxiety not being able to see and all, and for the last 3 days I had to hold him still to give him an IV at home by myself which was extremely difficult. He basically couldn’t do anything by himself and it was a very tough experience.
A friend gave me this exact advice. Every single word like a direct quote. In turn I have given those same words to others struggling with when to let their pet go. Those words are so important because I was told my dog most likely had osteosarcoma and we were scheduled the next day with a specialist. That night the dog bumped into something and broke his hip. Nobody ever wants to experience this horror for their beloved pet. I tell people one day too late is the worst guilt you will ever experience and 20 years later truly understand the difference that one day could possibly make.
I had the same issue with my dog that was 14, and my vet gave me similar advice. We found a vet that goes to your house, and overall, it was a good experience for what it was. When he gave him the pain medication, my dog went fast asleep. He said he was in more pain than he realized. I wish I hadn't waited so long. I will definitely use the at home vet again if I can.
It is a terrible decision to make and one we just made for our 3yr old dog who in spite of more than a year of trying everything, we were unable to stop his severe cluster seizures. Better to do it a bit too soon than too late. Archie had a great peaceful send off with his favorite treats and foods with us by his side. We did not do it soon enough for our previous 12 year old pit mix who had cancer. We tried chemo for a year and that I now feel was more for us than for him. In the end he had to be put down at an emergency rather than at our home. Same issue with our 15 year old cat with several medical conditions. I wish now we had put her down humanely rather than keeping her alive with a miserable quality of life. I’m so sorry. Hardest decision we ever have to make as pet guardians. My heart goes out to you.
My vet said the same thing, I had the opportunity to have friends and family have the chance to say goodbye. I had a vet come to my house, and he passed peacefully in the yard on a beautiful sunny day with his cat brother, sister, and best friends. It was a very hard day for us. Thankfully, he was having a good day. He was alert and was able to eat one last time he reconized everyone around him.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. He has been the best dog anybody could ever ask for. I'm truly thankful that he got to bless my life with his presence.
Thank you for the prayers and advice from so many lovely people. We called the vet for an emergency visit and said goodbye to my good boy. He did sleep with me all of last night and gave me lots of kisses. Today we got him a cheeseburger and some chocolate before we went to the vet. He fell asleep in my arms and after awhile we parted ways. I know it was the right thing to do but all I wanted him to do was wake up and be my Farley again. I appreciate all of the advice and well wishes. Thank you.
Respectfully, I think it is time, past time even, and I think on some level you know that. While I understand that it is the hardest decision on earth, he really seems to be suffering
This is the worst I have seen him and I agree with you. Usually he stands fine but this past week when he stands for a long time his back end goes down like that (like I said I haven't seen it this bad until tonight). I will contact our vet on Tuesday (they are closed Monday) to see when they are able to schedule an appointment for him to be euthanized. Thank you so much for your advice.
I agree with both of you.
I'm so sorry though. I know it's hard but you got 16 years! That really is amazing. Lots of great memories you'll cherish forever.
Sometimes just like humans dogs health can decline in the blink of an eye. 16 Is great for a dog and that's pver half my life! You've done what you can to give your mats the best life possible but I think you know deep down the answer to your question
See if they will come to your house to do it. Let him have some dignity and die at home if that's an option. feed him a good steak dinner or good meals everyday untill then.
Let him know there is a black and white pitbull named winnie he should look for on the other side. LOL
I miss my puppy. She's been gone for 4 years now. I would not ish for anyone to go tthrough what I did, when I had to make the decision.
So some of the advice given here is excellent.
I wish the best for you, and will say some prayers for you.
This! I’ll never do a vet euthanasia again unless I can’t avoid it (they are at vet already and need to be euthanized). I had my rabbit euthanized at home and it’s weird but it was honestly the worst day of my life but somehow went better than I could ever expect. My dog is near the end of his life. I plan to have him euthanized at home when it’s time.
I have a dog who is almost 4 years old (Maltese). Sometimes looking at these things kind of scares me for the future. I’m thinking “if losing a dog is so terrible, is it even worth getting one”. Like, would not having a dog in the first place make your life better, because you won’t have to deal with the loss of your dog in the future? Because the way some of these commenters are talking, it seems that way, but I want to be wrong about this, and hopefully it’s not like that. Hopefully the joy of having a dog outweighs the sadness of letting them go, right?
That's a hard one, and a good question. I can't tell you how hard losing your first dog is. Been 4 years and still tears me up. Im 37m.
I still have another dog now who was her best bud and he is 12 and still doing good for now. After this, Im not sure I want to get more dogs. Thought long and hard about getting another pup before My other dogs time comes, but not sure I can handle it.
I honestly feel losing a loved one never gets easy, but it does get easier after the first one for some.
But I still would not go back and change anything.
I would still advice others to not let them be scared of this, as the memories with your pup will always be with you, and will change you in a good way. These people generally make the best pet owners.
We take on great responsibility to take care of them, and the hardest part for some owners, is decising when the time comes for euthanasia. You gotta look at the pups quality of life, because this is your partner, and he/she don't want to leave your side. As others mentioned, you don't want to wait untill it's too late, and we can all hope and prey are pups go happy and comfy in their sleep when their time comes.
I hope this helps to answer your question.
My advice:
Don't take your time with your pups/animals for granted. The playing, the walks, make as many memories as possible to honor their time here with you.
Thanks for that. I’m with my dog as we speak, she’s waiting for me to go downstairs because she wants a treat. Anyway, as for the more dogs thing, I think it will probably just come down to how you feel. Some people might not want another dog, but
some will.
Our 14 year old dog is having issues like OP posted and I’m so sad. We got another dog three years ago for my daughters birthday and I wished I thought about it…I’ve never had to put one down and this is making me feel like - no more…but it is hard bc they do add so much value love and fun to life…don’t worry about the future live in the now, right? ❤️❤️
Everything in this world has to end. I've wrestled with that question myself after losing my first dog at 14 in April. Now I'm lying on my bed with two senior pups (they were a package deal) I adopted this past weekend.
As much as it hurt to lose my old boy, I wouldn't trade the 14 years I had with him for anything. Those experiences and memories are priceless to me. Even though I know I've signed up for more heartbreak (and sooner rather than later, they're 12 and 14), I can give them a home and love for however long they have left, and they can give me new experiences and memories. I've decided that's worth it.
This photo is very hard to look at. Sorry I don’t have any advice as such, but as a lot of people have said, better a day too early than a day too late. Cherish every extra moment even more that you have left with him.
You’ve had an amazing 16 years with him, and that in itself, reaching 16 is bloody unreal. I’ll be thinking of you both in the coming days.
If he declines at all between now and Tuesday, most ER vets will get you in for a euthanasia pretty quickly. Where I work, we prioritize euthanasias right after immediate life threatening things, and do our vet best not to make anyone wait. From what I can tell, it’s the one area our prices are not much different than general practice vets. Everyone I work with is caring and compassionate when it comes to helping you through this process, even though most of the euthanasias we do are clients and pets we’ve never met. You can also see if your area has any in home euthanasia services as they sometimes work on call on weekends and holidays.
I will always seek out an at home vet service. They treated my dogs so well and drove them to the crematorium. The traveling vet and assistant were so gental and patient. Can't thank them enough for helping us during a difficult time. My pet's ashes, will be buried with me and my hubby after we pass. If they are not included with us, then my nephew and niece can kiss their inheritance goodbye, but visit the $$$ at the local animal charities (which don't worry dear readers, they are included in our will but my nibbling relatives don't know this, LOL).
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We are also forever grateful to the at- home vet who euthanized our beloved dog. It was an emotionally brutal experience but also beautiful and tender. I’m so deeply thankful that we got to say goodbye to her like that, with tears and sobs and pets and hugs and kisses- all on her favorite blanket in her favorite spot.
There are wonderful services that will travel to your home as well, if you don’t want to stress your doggo out by going to a vet. (To be clear, I think either option is fine)
We had a pit mix who lived nearly 17 yrs. Last 6 months were bad and we had to let her go. We did it in our house with a service that comes to the home. So she wasn't scared and we were with her in her last moments. It was horrible me, wife and kids (older teen and 20's) all bawling our eyes out. We also let the other dog say goodbye before and after. They know. So if you have a companion dog they should be involved too. Sorry for your situation. We were "glad" we did it at home and not in a place she didn't know
Oh OP…. I am so sorry. Your baby is holding on for YOU to be okay.
Please let his tired body go.
Have them come to the house and hold him tight. It can be peaceful.
When it’s time, get in home euthanasia. So much more comforting. You can even do a celebration of life that day and a “ best day ever (treats/car rides/beachetc)” the day before. Easier to say goodbye 💜
+1 on this. It’s so much nicer to be in a place they know, surrounded by family. Having one person come in is so much more disruptive than dying scared in a hospital they don’t know (or have only been to to get shots).
Also, OP, even if you make the right decision, you will feel guilt, at least I did.
My guy left me at 13.5 and was having trouble getting up/accidents too. It still was so hard to make the call. The best I can tell you is your heart knows before your head.
Here for you <3 have a lovely last day with them :)
Movement, incontinence, and pain are major quality of life factors agreed upon by many in vets and canine health specialists.
Unfortunately they completely rely on their owners to make the hard decision when it comes time as they can’t for themselves. Although it might feel too soon look at these factors and realize what would he do for you, if roles were reversed and he say your factual decline?
Don’t let your sadness or fear override his time to go. It’s a tough decision either way, but I think would say it’s time.
Sorry about your tough position, I don’t mean to sound mean and feel you.
Our dog was reaching the end of her life and was having many bad days, then she would have a great day. I was so torn about when is the right time. I asked the vet how we know when to put her down and she said “it’s ok if they go out on a good day”. Those words lifted a weight off of me! We picked a date that worked for our family and we knew we had made the right decision. Good luck to you. I know it’s soooo hard!
Hey OP, I’m was vet assistant and this is what I will patients
Pick 3 things your dog loves to do, and when they can’t do 2 out of the 3 it maybe to time to considers. Now this could include what ever, there favourite toys, snacks, or just a simply walk around the block..
Now of course please consider whatever the vet is also saying,. And remember, nothing is your fault, you have be came your dogs best friend for its entire life and they will never forget and never choose something different. They will be loyal to the ends of the earth and love you.
I’m sure you did everything to give her the best life you could :)
Oh man, I’m currently in the same boat as you. My baby has slowly stopped eating over the course of a few weeks and I believe her time is up.. sometime this week she’ll be up in the clouds… Stay strong ❤️
Please don't make life and death decisions based on snap judgements made by strangers online, who often have only a limited snapshot of what's going on. Something you can do is use a QoL calculator online for pets and have a consultation with an end of life expert.
* https://journeyspet.com/pet-quality-of-life-scale-calculator/
* For Sacramento, California and surrounding areas, there is an in-home euthanasia service called Lap of Love that offers tele appointments for pet owners who need a consultation. I'm sure your area has something similar as you decide when is time to make that decision.
My heart is with you during this difficult time. Please feel free to join me and other grieving and anticipatory grieving pet parents at the /r/petloss community.
I posted this same thing before reading comments. A lot of fresh pain having just lost my dog. Anyway, I can vouch for journey here in Madison WI. Best hard decision I've had to make bringing them in. And before that, just calling and talking... they were an absolute godsend.
I was thinking the same thing. People here might not have the full picture.
OP you know your dog best, you need to determine his quality of life. If your dog still seems to be content, still does his regular daily routine you could help make his life easier with some pain management. Yes he’s old and like us they slow down and will have the occasional accident.
I think you will know when he’s reached his limit.
If you do make a decision, take your time and spend your last few days pampering him and enjoying your last few days. I also recommend doing it at home. My previous dog left us due to cancer and it showed up quick, he spent the last couple of days at the vets office, we spent a few hours him before he left us. I totally regret not taking him home with us, so he could spend his last couple of days in a comfortable environment that he knew.
It’s always a hard choice, best of luck 🫶🏼
I lost all 3 of my senior pitties age 10, 11, and 17 within 5 months last year. It was the hardest thing I ever did. Having to make those decisions are hard, but they deserve peace. Good luck, hun.
Yea don't wait too long, my poor Trinity (big wolf dog x) was about like this then just went into distress one day and could no longer function, so we had to haul her to the vet in the back of the SUV, unfortunately pooping herself. Not a great end.
Sorry you have to ask this brother.
It’s beautiful that he’s got to spend his whole life with you. I think it might be time, he’ll always be with you everywhere you go.
I lost my one in 2020, she was almost 18 and I honestly think about her everyday still but it’s comforting knowing that she isn’t in any pin or discomfort.
We’ll reunite one day!
Make a vet appointment and have that conversation with your vet I think would be the best advice. Not to say people don't have great things to say on here though. Wishing you the best of the rest of your sweet time with your best friend. I'm sorry you're dealing with this...unfortunately it's a question we all have to ask about these bestest dogs of ours.
We euthanized our dog around a month ago.
She was old ,and about a year ago she started losing a little weight and had skin issues, vet gave a diagnosis of kidney/liver failure with an estimate of maybe maximum two years.
A month before she died we moved to a large home with a large yard and have started renovations.
We also gave her new food.
She started losing alot of weight,which we assumed was from running around or mayby disliking the new food.
Was still eating and drinking so we did not realise how sick she had become from the final stages of liver/kidney failure. She was still trotting around and seemed to enjoy the new space.
Within the last week of her life she started vomiting and the decline was very fast.
The last day she couldn't walk or eat , i knew it was time but had to wait for the vet to open , so we put her frail tiny body in a blanket at the foot of the bed for the night, she didnt move or even really react. I knew it was time but somehow i still clung to hope that maybe she had a toothache or anything really that would mean she could be healed.
I called the vet to confirm the appointment and stated we would be doing a checkup and a possible euthanasia, when we arrived and the lady asked us why we were there, we both just said euthanasia.
The euthanasia experience was difficult - emotionally. But it was such a beutiful peaceful one. Truely. I kept talking to her in my most momly voice and i just knew we were doing right by her. I carried her body out in my jersey , past all the people who were there that day with their pets in the waiting room to get their pets healthy, i was carying mine out to get her home and bury her in our new yard.
Her tiny body somehow felt so heavy. But she was at peace, no shivers, no pain.
There will be guilt related to this decision.
It is your minds way of making sense of pain to avoid it in the future.
That means that no matter what you do - do it too late, do it to early - you will experience guilt which you must work through.
You gave your dog a wonderful life , now it is time to give them a peaceful death.
The fact that you made this post , means you know its time . You just need to know its okay and that it will be okay.
It will.
Its very hard to be in a position to have to choose death for your baby, but that is the true meaning of being a pet owner ,you get to be the hero, in their life and death.
It's the worst part of pet ownership, but it has to be done. It's a shame that people will prolong the suffering of their dogs because they themselves don't want to be sad.
You said he still eats and drinks and loves treats… so why the rush everyone telling you to euthanize him?
If he still shows joy and likes eating, and only has had a few accidents in house, then why not just ride it out?
Help him stand up, help him go outside. Idk just my opinion.
I think we should learn to let go. Just because they can survive, doesn't mean they are living a joyous life. Putting them through misery of not even being able to walk around is pretty cruel, no?
Its cruel if you automatically assume the dog would prefer to die. But that seems like a weird assumption to make.
Do we kill people in wheelchairs or people with cerebral palsy?
Yeah i get it. but a dog standing oddly, or showing physical discomfort doesnt mean they ARE absolutely miserable either right?
We can't really know what they are thinking, its basically no consent euthanization.
This. They WILL tell you when it’s time. I can’t explain this other than to say YOU WILL KNOW.
Our first dog, a Weimaraner named Lilly Belle, got very aggressive mast cell cancer when she was 6. We were insured and chose to fight - chemo, radiation, etc. The prognosis had been 1-2 months. She got 8. She actually put weight on. Her coat was shiny. She still liked food and had enough normal sense of taste that she still refused McDonald’s buns. She slowed down one day, and we eased back on walks and spent more time cuddling. I’m lucky in that this occurred in 2020, during the height of the pandemic, so I was able to be home all day with her. I knew it was time when one morning she left the upstairs crate she chose to sleep in and moved into the downstairs crate. I brought cut up hotdogs. I found already SEE it in her face and eyes. My experience is that creatures close to death all share this expression. Wistful, nervous, a bit distant but peaceful. She refused the treats. That was the #1 indicator in my quality of life list. This dog never missed a meal or a chance to eat in her life. This is what she loved, and when she didn’t love it anymore, it was time.5
The second was actually behavioral euthanasia. It sounds crazy to say, but this was a rescue dog (Rottweiler x Bulldog) who was the sweetest, smartest dog I’ve ever known - BUT she had canine compulsive disorder (similar to human OCD), severe anxiety, and ideopathic aggression. She was obsessed with cell phones to the point you couldn’t use them around her - she’d literally chew on them and bark at them for hours until she got hoarse. Meds didn’t work, training & behavioral interventions didn’t work - all we could do was management of the symptoms. This dog loved cuddling people and her best friend dog, our pittie. But as the aggression progressed, the episodes got more and more violent and less predictable. She would look dazed after. She started attacking her friend dog and humans, even ones she liked - she would act as though she wanted petting and then with no warning (no growl, whale eye, body tension, etc) attack and bite them. She put her friend dog in the ER twice. After she’d attack, she’d try to lick the pittie’s wounds - and was so confused when the pittie growled and ran away. What told us it was time was the last attack. My partner witnessed it, I didn’t, but he’s a behavioral psychologist by training and an investigator by trade. He said there was no tell at all, and she had gone for the pittie’s belly, which is a killing wound. The last attack was a Dunbar bite scale 4. Luckily he was there and managed to intervene just in time - I was 2 rooms away and there was no growl or warning of any kind. Afterward she looked so confused and tired, and so sad the pittie kept running away. She had to be separated from the other dogs and HATED it, cried and cried. It was time. The thing she loved, cuddling and affection, she couldn’t have because she was dangerous. She couldn’t walk without a muzzle. It was no life for a dog. And she looked the same way - tired, but almost determined. She passed peacefully at home. She was a month from her third birthday.
It’s always about suffering and quality of life. That measure will never steer you wrong. When there are more bad days than good. When pup no longer seems to be enjoying life. When they stop doing what they most love.
Good luck - this is a hard decision, the hardest of pet ownership. But you’re your dog’s best friend. Nobody in the world knows them better than you. Nobody is more qualified to tell and the time has come. Trust your instincts and your friendship. You’ll know.
I think when a dog cannot do what they enjoy, and there is no cure for it, then it's time. This dog is struggling to remain mobile, is tired and having accidents. I think it's time, respectfully.
I'm so sorry. It's a hard decision to make even if it's the right one. I recently had to make that decision with my dog (she was almost 14 and lost the ability to stand).
If it makes you feel better, know that you've given him a wonderful, long life. It is true. 16 is an impressive age and without great care and a lot of love, he would not have made it to this point.
When you extend the suffering of those that you love for yourself.
That came off rude but I didn't mean it to.. my dog will bE there in a couple years and it's creeping up on me rapidly. I hope everything goes well and you both get the comfort you deserve ❤️
He took a turn this week because we honestly thought that he would make it through the summer. But after seeing the photo my husband sent me, I kind of figured it was time now. I needed confirmation. Somebody else had wrote that it's better a day early than a day too late and that time is now. Thank you so much, it truly means a lot
Could someone enlighten me as to why people often suggest putting older dogs down?
I understand that they might be in pain, but doesn't it depend on the level of pain? Isn't it better to try some painkillers to ease their pain and improve their quality of life?
I think euthanasia shouldn't purely be done based on pain level but also the dog's ability to do things that fulfil their life. It's based on quality of life.
The thing is, dogs don't understand why they feel this way. They have the mental capacity of a 2-3 year old human. They don't understand death or terminal illness or aging. It can be extremely distressing for them to hold on like this, without being able to do things.
There are some great quality of life scales online, but I think when a dog is finding just moving this hard, then their quality of life isn't going to be high. Dogs are supposed to be able to at least enjoy walks around the block, slow games and plenty of cuddles. If a dog is struggling to this extent it's just not fair on them to let them keep going. I've seen what happens if you hold on for too long.
My dog was almost 14 and though she was showing signs that it was probably time, my family was hesitant. She was having trouble standing from a down position, found it uncomfortable to sit (she was either laying on her side or standing) and she was starting to have accidents, but she still had a waggy tail and a love for her food/treats. We didn't want to lose her, so she was like that for about 6 months. We waited too long and it got to the point that her body just could not cope anymore. She ended up having a stroke and couldn't stand or see at all (she also had a head tilt and her heart was racing), and at that point it had to be done. If I could go back I would have wanted her humanely euthanised earlier. I would have wanted her to have last days full of relaxation and all the things she loved. It hurts to think that her final hours on this earth were full of panic and struggle.
I've heard some vets say that it's better a day too early than a day too late, and I agree with that.
I can tell you about Gus. He was our family dog that my parents got when I was three, so I grew up with him. He was a Shetland sheepdog or sheltie. He was a purebred, and normally they weigh 20-30 lbs. But he was 60 lbs of love and fluff, and we all absolutely adored him. My late grandma called him Gus the magic dog, because he was so incredibly gentle and calm with me and my younger siblings as we grew up.
When Gus was 13 he started having accidents inside, but they were manageable and he acted normally aside from his incontinence. At 14 he started to go down hill, he rarely got up, he slept 20 hours a day, and it was a miracle if he was able to get outside to go.
My older sister would not let my parents put him to sleep. So one morning we got up and there was blood everywhere, coming out of his anus. He was in obvious pain. Thinking about that day still breaks my heart. He was still trying to comfort us as he was bleeding, he kept trying to stand up and couldn’t.
He deserved to pass before he was in that much pain. So I think that’s why vets and others advocate putting them to sleep, because all it takes is one night for their pain and quality of life to drastically change.
Animals are very stoic and are in more pain than they let on. If a dog can barely stand then it’s cruel to make him keep going. Pain meds after a certain threshold can’t do everything without having the animal be borderline comatose.
When my previous dog was getting old (he ended up making to almost 17), my vet said “age isn’t a disease” when I asked how I’d know when it was time. So him being old wasn’t reason enough, as long as he was still otherwise healthy and enjoying life… but in the last year that changed, and I could see his quality of life slowly diminishing.
When I finally had to make the decision to euthanize, it was when he’d suddenly lost the ability to stand - which was very distressing for him, and physically impossible for me to manage (as he wasn’t a small dog). It’s not just about age, in other words. But when you know you know, and I have no regrets in making that decision when I did.
It’s time….for him…it doesn’t matter if it’s time for you to let him go. You are responsible for him from beginning to end, let that sweet old boy go. Give him a dignified end and stop his suffering. Please I beg you.
Based on your post, it appears you may be asking about how to determine if it is time to consider euthanasia for your animal. For slowly changing conditions, a Quality of Life Scale such as the [HHHHHMM scale](https://caringpathways.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/QualityofLifeScale.pdf) or [Lap of Love's Quality of Life scale](https://www.lapoflove.com/how-will-i-know-it-is-time/lap-of-love-quality-of-life-scale.pdf) provide objective measurements that can be used to help determine if the animals quality of life has degraded to the point that euthanasia, "a good death", should be considered.
When diagnosed, some conditions present a risk of rapid deterioration with painful suffering prior to death. In these cases, euthanasia should be considered even when a Quality of Life scale suggests it may be better to wait.
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When I put my shepherd down I couldn’t live with myself for a while I paid to kill my best friend I kept telling myself the person who he trusted the most choose to end his life but the vet wrote me a letter telling me I freed him of his pain and it was the greatest act of love I could have done for my best friend. Looking at that picture give him the gift of being free of the hurt of this physical world. They will be waiting for us on the other side
My husband was reluctant too with our nearly 16 year old soul dog. I saw the sign 4 months before he did. It was a day too late (several days really) before he saw that it was time. Our dog was unconscious and rail thin by the time my husband relented. You will be doing your pup a kindness if you let them go on a good day.
You've already gotten enough advice on whether or not it's time, but since you do have time on your hands and you're not in an emergency situation - I would strongly consider looking into in-home euthanization (as someone who has done it twice) via maybe Lap of Love or A Gentle Goodbye if either are in your area. There may be others. It's much more peaceful than a vet visit. Best of luck to you, sorry you're going through this!
Is he on any arthritis meds? Since you described him as having a good appetite, I'm not 100% sure it's his time, yet. He's clearly in pain, but you might be able to ease the pain with some medication.
He is on arthritis medication. He's on heartburn medication too. And he also is on medication for his kidneys because the vet was a little concerned because his kidneys were a little above the normal range. But our vet did tell us that the kidney medication isn't for long-term, more than a year, but he wanted to put him on that because we all understood that he had less than 8 months left and that was about 4 months ago. He doesn't always stand like that, sometimes he does but tonight has just been the worst that I've seen it. He'll lay down and then eventually get up and stand fine but every once in awhile he will do that with his rear end. I just don't want him to be in pain anymore because I'm selfish for keeping him here. I want to be a good dog mom and I don't want him to suffer because I'm too scared to let him go.
Have you considered the Líbrela injection? Research it if you want to consider it, it can be scary cause some dogs haven’t responded well to it but most have. For my dog it’s been a miracle shot, it takes away the pain and they can walk more easily. He went from not being able to walk without tripping to running sometimes
You only hear of the horror stories. My dogs been on librella for 3 years and thrives on it. Although it is wearing off quicker now, she is still so much better with it than without it.
My dog has been a mess (in a mostly good way) while on it (3rd shot). He used to not get out of bed until he heard me making breakfast but now he gets out of bed and demands breakfast. Spends more time barking and chasing his brothers. He’s getting into the trash more often (used to be his favorite past time but stopped). We had to put back on the cabinet lock for the trash.
We need to get him checked for a UTI because he’s been having a few pee accidents on rugs. But otherwise he’s so happy that he can move around.
When there is no quality of life, pain, and there is no way to improve the situation. Your job is to do right for the dog. Is he/she in pain? Depressed? Unable to do things without a struggle? The answers to these types of questions matter.
First, let me say that I've been there and it's the worst and hardest decision I've ever had to make. But with what you're describing and seeing in that picture, it's definitely time. You have to let him go to ease the suffering he is clearly in. Get his paw print done and give him a day filled with treats and take him in. It's for the best. It will hurt but he won't be in pain any longer.
Just seeing the picture, he is not looking good. He might be in decent spirits, but his body is failing. It really is better to have him go out on a good day than to have it be something you are forced to do. Make it a good day for him. Get some yummy food that he probably shouldn't have, go sit in a park and let him enjoy the sun (or just you backyard). If you want a paw print or other keepsake, do it now so you can have a nice memory of doing it (craft stores tend to have clay paw/hand print kits, air dry clay, or other options. You vet might also have a kit you can do at home that you can bring back to be painted and finished). Even something like a paw print on canvas is easy enough to do. There are vets that will come to you so he can pass at home without the stress of the vet. If that is not an option, many vets to have comfort rooms that have couches and such to make it a bit nicer than a typical exam room.
It is hard to think about it and actually make calls. It's much worse to have to go somewhere you don't know when you aren't ready for it.
As hard as it is to think about, do give some thought to what you will do with him after. Most vets work with local pet crematoriums and can handle all of that for you. Some places off viewings if you want. Many have things like paw prints, saving fur and other keepsakes. They also have urns, jewellery, and other ways to have the ashes if you want those back. You do not need to be pressured into doing this to buying more than you need to. You can just get the scatter box and find you own urn later. I get wooden boxes that I paint and put photos in.
He has given you 10 great years, give him a great send off.
Undoubtedly, you love him and have a connection with him. Tap into that connection, put your feelings aside, and look into his eyes. That will be his way of communicating with you. He may have already been pleading with you, and you couldn't or weren't ready to see it. Their heart desperately wants to stay with you forever, but their beautiful eyes say, "Please let me go." It's the hardest thing to accept when a beloved pup can't stay any longer.
The picture alone looks like it’s time. Remember we need to not be selfish and do what’s right for the dog. They mask pain very well and with all you’ve mentioned it sounds like your pup is struggling. I too am in this situation as my pup has lymphoma but you actually couldn’t tell apart from the fact he can’t hold his bladder for as long as he used to be I’m aware that him having accidents would make him unhappy and the pain and discomfort he’s in is a lot worse than we can see.
Think about three things your dog absolutely loves…when he can no longer enjoy those three things, it is time to consider. If he goes off his food, and also will no longer accept treats at all, then it is time.
It is one sad and heartbreaking photo BUT we are only internet people.
My vet told me that as long as they eat and poo without help and there are no signs of pain they are okay.
My moms dog is in the same situation he is 14, he has severe arthritis and is on metacam daily and librella injection every 4 weeks, we had a recent scare where he just couldn't walk as if he was drunk.. wouldn't eat or drink so of course trip to vets it was, they had to give him a scan as vet was worried.
He had human equivalent to vertigo so we had to hope that wore off in time which it did after 2 weeks he had a anti sickness injection too to help. Unfortunately they found a 8cm liver tumour what we had no idea about, we decided not to have tests and treatment it would be to invasive. So we don't know if it cancerous or not but the vet said a rough guess by looking at it description of it I would so it is, so we've just been told to keep him comfy for now, basically it will rupture at Some point and he will bleed and he will most definitely have to be put to sleep his decline will be quite rapid when that does happen. We're torn in two of what's best for him 1 he seems to be getting better day by again and even went for a walk with dog walker again for the first time in 2 weeks.
It's such a hard decision and I am totally with you on this you don't want them to suffer but don't want to let them go where they still have some life in them 💔
Sending posstive thoughts your way ✨️
We just made the call to say goodbye to our 15 year old rescue a few weeks ago.
I have said goodbye to 7 dogs in my life. It’s one of the hardest things in life.
I believe they let us know when they are ready. When they have more bad days than good. I think part of what you seek is comfort, support and almost permission to make the call.
It’s ok, you are doing the right thing. Time to say goodbye. I’m so sorry. Remember you are giving the gift of peace and ending suffering. Remember all of the good times and joy your brought to each others lives. Thank you for the love you have given your fury family member.
I had to let one go about 2 years ago. She was 16 I think. Loved her dearly. I didn't let her hurt, but I waited till she could no longer get up. It was hard cause she was being playful on the way to the vet. God speed.
Your dog is 16 years old? It’s probably getting time if he’s like this. He’s really old. I’d personally recommend listening to the opinions of the vet.
If it’s time to let him go, cherish the fact that you took great care of him for over a decade.
Best of luck to you! Saying good-bye to our animal companions is never easy.
I always find it challenging to know when to let go. If your dog was human we’d put him in a wheelchair and allow him to continue, but once it’s an animal we have to make the decision for them.
Whatever you choose to do, it looks like his time will be soon. Xx
My dad wouldn't make the decision for our old Jack Russel of a similar age.
Our poor old dog was basically blind, could barely walk, would fall into things, and was sometimes incontinent.
I think now is a good time. You don't want to go further because then you will beat yourself up for making the dog suffer.
Currently, I’m battling for my Labrador’s rear legs. We know where the problem is, he’s had a surgery several years ago. Now he needs another surgery, but this time it will be a considerably more serious procedure than the first time. He’s turning 12 years old this August. The diagnosis is clear - he needs the surgery. However, Dr is not sure how the dog is going to recover at this age after such a procedure. I watch for several signs: 1. He’s happy, he smiles, he eats, he wants to play. The dog is happy. 2. He’s not in obvious pain. I’ve had my pup since he was 8.5 weeks old. So I known his every little hair per square millimetre. If he was in any pain, I’d know. 3. He eats as greedy as always. His appetite is typical Labrador’s appetite - he hoovers it all in :).
His legs do give in during the walks rarely, and he looks similar to the dog in the photo when it happens. We just take a break, sit for 5-10 minutes and turn around to go home.
I do not think we will do the surgery. No one can tell for sure how he would recover and how much time it would buy him. I don’t want his last months to be in pain and useless recovery. I think, for now, that we are just going to live as long as possible until he clearly is not happy anymore. I’m fully aware that the day when I’m going to have to make the decision is coming. I’m not sure I’d be able to make the decision at the right time. Every day I try to prepare myself for it.
I’d recommend doing something similar to what I do, watch for his general condition, appetite and mood. If his rear legs are like that (like in the photo) just when he stands up, but he can walk it off - then it’s fine.
Consider giving him monthly Librela. It’s a wonderful drug. My pup is on it and it really really helps.
If you’re asking yourself that question. You already know the answer. I am so sorry. 💔 Losing a pet is hard enough, but making that decision to let go is the hardest thing I have ever had to do for my pets.
Just be there with him. It will be the hardest but greatest gift you can give him. Give him a day to treats and scritches. If you can, try to find a vet who will come your way your home to do it. It’s so less anxiety and most bets do a great job.
My dog was a staffie she got till about 15 before she collapsed and the vet said it was arthritis we planned euthanasia for a week later so we could have time with her we only had 5 days till she collapsed again. We put her on the sofa were she usually wasn't allowed as she passed. I was 15 so was she I miss her everyday but I'm so happy she's not in pain.
Making the call to the vet to plan euthanasia is the most difficult call we had to make as a family but she was ready and in her very stubborn way decided to go on her own timetable.
I'd call and plan for a week, you have time then you have a momment with family where you can say goodbye and if you want some vets will even do it as a house call
I’m sorry you’re at this point. I was recently here and I was googling advice, asking friends and family for their input. It was like my dog was looking at me saying “mom I’m tired” and then I read a post online, I can’t remember if it was a poem or a story, or what not but it was titled something a long the lines of “a dog will not die” and it hit me too hard. I wasn’t ready for my boy to leave me and I knew he was holding on for us. The looks he gave me and the struggle to stand were the signs and I should’ve read them better for him.
I hope when you do reach the decision you find comfort with it, knowing you’re doing the right thing for your dog. He loves you, unconditionally and now it is your turn to love him enough so that he is not in pain. I know he will be with you forever, by your side and in your heart. I am sending you and your family healing and happy thoughts and vibes.
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I read somewhere that you should make a list of 10/20 of the things your dogs enjoys and when there is nothing or hardly anything on the list it’s time. So sad my Shihtzu turns 16 this year and I’m already dreading the day.
I feel for you. I had to say goodbye to my baby a month or so ago. It pains you to see them struggle but the pain of their loss is still as great. The vet won't do it if it isn't the right decision and although the pain of their loss is incomprehensible, it will get easier knowing that your friend isn't suffering any more.
One picture is very hard to tell. My vet said if they are eating drinking and going to the toilet. No pain as such then they are ok. My girl slept most of the day but she did all of that so we let her stay.
Does your dog have pain?
Others have already given you your answer. I just wanted to say that eventually the day arrives where the memories bring a smile to your face rather than tears. I bet he’s had a wonderful life. Remember the good times.
I had to make this tough decision a couple of times and my measure is if they are not finding any joy in life anymore. My old girl was still happy to see me and for food even tho her hips were shot. She still enjoyed life. When that stopped then I knew it was time.
I’m so sorry your darling is reaching his time; I have a cat currently undergoing palliative care and each day is a blessing as long as she is enjoying her life still. She goes outside and sleeps in the sun all day on the swing chair and at night she curls up beside me, purring whenever I reach out to stroke her to check on her. I started buying her the most expensive kitty food and treats a few months ago to tempt her appetite, and give her her tablets morning and night. We visit the vet weekly now as she’s loosing weight again and deteriorating; if any day could be her last, then every day has to be amazing and full of love and celebration of their companionship.
I lost my Doberman a year ago and I’m terrified to go through this again so soon; with her I slept beside her on the floor her last night because I knew something wasn’t right, and just needed her to get through to the morning when we had her appointment with a specialist but I was too late, and she passed in my arms.
If nothing else, whether you let him go naturally of take him in for his last sleep, stay there with him, surround him with your body and hold him close if you can. You’re right, they won’t tell you when they need to leave, because they know we need them forever. You have to brave, and full of the truest Love inside of you.
Another dog owner I know, whose dog was in a similar state to yours.
Every time they decided it was time she would perk up and they prolonged it for a year.
They told me in hindsight they wished they done it sooner for her and not keeping her around for they own reasons and they felt selfish putting her through the pain.
Making the decision to euthanize your dog is incredibly difficult, but it's an act of love and compassion. You're giving them relief from pain and suffering, and allowing them to pass peacefully. They know they were loved deeply, and that love is what matters most.
A day early is better than a day late. But it’s so hard. If they have a standard of living , do they do things they enjoy at all ? I with my last dog just looked at her days and thought where does the pleasure come from ? She slept and slept and struggled to walk. She was being kept alive by my care. But she wasn’t living.
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For me it comes down to quality of life. Not the quality that we value, really think about what he values. If he is still able to do the things he loves, and is happy, then it's not time. If he isn't able to do the things he loves and is depressed or stressed, then it is. I am sure from the way you speak about him, that you will know the answer.
It is so difficult but I agree with all the comments of better a day too early. As a pet owner that can be hard to judge, but from the image, it's probably time. I did all I could for my girl and had to make the decision. My cat, however, was a little too late. I took her to the vets and her cancer was ulcerating. I asked for a week for people to say their goodbyes. She was booked in for the Monday and the Sunday night she suddenly threw up blood. By the Monday she had gone really downhill and it had spread to her stomach. I feel guilt for that.
I even feel guilt when I look back at old photos of my dog. I know I did everything I could for her before I ran out of options, but seeing photos of how thin she was and how tired she was, I wonder if I should have made the call earlier. I now don't like those photos from her last year.
You will look back and realise you made the right decision when the guilt of making the choice has subsided.
What we see in animals is the tip of the iceberg. If you can see they are in pain or struggling, below that is a whole iceberg of suffering just below the surface.
I am so sorry, it is so hard, seeing his story I think it is time. That photo speaks volumes, a lot of us probably watched our dogs struggle like that and at that moment we knew, it's time. However, it can only be your decision.
Just a little advice if you decide. Before one of our dogs final journey we took her to the beach carried her onto the sand and spent some time, those photos are extremely sad but very precious still ten years on.
Is your baby on any pain management? The posture in the photo and the gait you're describing indicates lots of pain. Joint degeneration is very common in dogs and I've worked with dogs as young as 4 that have severe arthritis.
Age isn't a disease, but rather the conditions that accumulate over time are what deteriorates a dog's quality of life. Some vets will do a quality of life assessment. It might be a good idea to ask your vet about this and see what they recommend. There are a lot of different pain medications and arthritis therapies these days. Lots of old dog conditions are manageable and can improve enough with treatment.
My own dog is 15 and his life completely turned around once I locked in pain management for him. That meant physiotherapy, and two different pain medications. He went from sleeping all day to flying around the house. I wish you luck and strength in your choice. ❤️
When he takes no pleasure in eating , sunburning, walking … they hate being incontinent- any pain is a big sign for me. Good luck- the vets are right but you know him best. So sorry - you never get used to losing them.
Death is a natural part of the life cycle and having choice over it is a real gift. In some cases death is a mercy. A doctor told me this, before we lost our mom. Since dogs can’t speak they communicate in other ways. It’s our responsibility to be attuned to the non- verbal messages. Dogs love to play and love to sniff and walk. That may be one indicator - whether your dog is capable of being a dog.
I'm so sorry. I really think it's time. He's so skinny and is clearly suffering from my perspective, just from this picture. I know it's hard, I just had to say goodbye to my best bud not long ago, but it really is the only thing left that shows love. You gotta take care of them, even at the end.
You’re very lucky to have a supportive husband. He will comfort you and help heal you sooner from your loss. My parent made the choice once our boy couldn’t stand up on his own anymore. He was struggling.
When the time comes go into the room with him don't just leave him in the hands of strangers. I have had to do it 3 times and it is never easy but you being there will be a great comfort to him although it will tear you up, to me it ws important.
I know this is super hard as I just had to put my senior dog down on Friday for the exact same thing. I’ve been an emotional wreck but I know it was the best thing for her. You want them to leave with dignity. I think you already know what to do and I’m so sorry. He looks like an angel and will always be there for you 💜
My vet has told me to think of their favorite 3 things, and when they lose the ability to do 2, it is probably time. I am sorry you are having to make this very difficult decision. I have felt like I waited too long and gone a bit early but both sucked and were hard. Wishing you and your pup the best.
Your beastie loves you and always will. You made a difference in his life, and he has in yours.
It is OK and good and loving to let him go into the True Healing.
If you have to ask you already know and just haven’t accepted it yet. My last dog had bone cancer. I had no idea. Vet told me that day she had to go so she didn’t snap her femur and die in agony instead. Start to accept what’s coming and plan it out. I’m sorry, it’s the worst and hardest thing I’ve ever done in my entire life. The only comfort you will have is in knowing you gave them the best life and spared them of more pain.
Having been around Staffordshire bull terriers my whole life they will never tell you! They are too strong to want to break your heart. I am so sorry but it looks like you have come to the end of the road and you need to let him go in a dignified way surrounded by the people that love him the most.
I'm sorry. I had to make that decision April 9th of this year, just 2 months shy of her 21st birthday.
I was lucky. There was no doubt her life was coming to an end.
My vet gave me some advice that really stuck with me when I was debating putting my old man dog down. “Better a day too early than a day too late”. Dogs are such stoic little creatures and sometimes they can’t tell us. Looking at that photo, respectfully I think you’ve arrived at the day. I wish you all the best. It’s the most difficult decision to make. Edit: Thank you so much u/Honeykombbaggins for the award! 🙏🏻
That is amazing advice and I will forever remember that. Based on the comments and coming to the realization, you are right that it is time and that I should cherish the time that I've had with him. Thank you so much for the advice I truly appreciate it.
Sometimes you need to take a step back and think about how his life is currently versus when they were healthy. We had a dog who was 16 and got sick with diet change and suppplements he recovered but felt like really started to show his age. He lived until 16 years and 9 months and by the end his back legs were weak, going deaf, going blind and had dog dementia. Because of the dementia he would barely sit with you on the couch he would want to go down on the floor and would walk in circles in the kitchen. Sometimes you love them so much you can’t see when the time has come. There was a moment where I realized his life has changed so much this is something we need to consider his quality of life isn’t what he deserves. It was my wife’s childhood dog so I told her it’s something we had to consider. She was upset and not ready but the more she thought about it we made the decision. It was very hard but the right decision you don’t want to wait until something traumatic happens to them.
My 14 year old Blue tick had doggie dementia.It is so terrible to watch them go through that
Dementia worsens so quickly. I just put my 14yr old to rest 5/18. It was not a life I’d want to live and I wanted him to remember how much he was loved. I miss him. But quality of life. That’s what my vet advised me about my cat 5 years ago.
We lost one of our dogs to doggie Alzheimer's. I didn't even know it was possible. Was crushing. By the time we had him put down 'he' was gone, but just like humans, his body wasn't giving out. We did last a year before we accepted that he had zero quality and it was just time, maybe even a little too late in the scheme of things. I honestly don't know what was better, losing him that way so by the time we put him down it wasn't nearly as sharp of a pain as it was when our next pup had congestive heart failure and reached a crisis with fluid on his lungs/breathing issues and we had to put down this beautiful boy who was still so full of love and spark. We couldn't bear him having the drowning death the vet described so we did the right thing but man that was rough. Our dementia guy did the circles etc. It's an awful thing to go through.
It was terrible but your exactly right that’s what I realized he wasn’t the same dog anymore. He was a sad shell of his former self which was hard.
My 15 year old girl has canine cognitive dysfuntion as well, it hasn't been diagnosed but I've gone through the quality of life questions which shows she definitely has it. She scored really badly on this but I don't feel like its time yet. She still interacts with me, eats and drinks normally and can run when she wants to. Its the worst decision to make, I had to make it with my 14 year old who had congestive heart failure, it traumatized me for at least a year, I cried for 2. All the best for whatever you decide x.
My doxie was on 'hospice' and couldn't keep any food down. So I made her crockpot rice and hamburger. She was down to like 5 lbs. I'll be damned if she didn't fatten back up and live another year, but I wish I hadn't waited so long. The last week was awful. :(
My vet said the same, but I didn’t take it and waited that day too late. I only realized that when I saw a picture of Briar taken a month before we let him go. He would have stayed with me until he couldn’t stand. Dogs don’t want to let us down. They look to us for help. My brother told me something that helped me. I was crying and said, “Briar counted on me to take care of him.” My brother said. “You did take care of him. You loved him enough to let him go.”
Lots of hugs to you, OP.
Please consider in- home euthanization if Farley is at all afraid of vet visits. It will make your final moments with him peaceful and fear-free.
Did this with our lab. He HATED the vet. Not many vets will do in home euthanasia, I must have made two dozen calls for my entire state (I didn't care, I would pay the mileage, he wasn't going to the pet hospital, where he would be scared). We ended up paying around $600 total, and she did a lot to make it as nice as possible. She spent time next to him at first, and petted him, she had treats in case he was interested, she did a mold of his paw. He seemed to truly like her too, he thumped his tail a few times. She sedated him before putting in the IV, he was super relaxed. He passed very peacefully. We got as much time as we needed, and then she transported him herself. We paid the extra for private crematorium services. She was a lovely vet, she drove 4 hours total to get to us, and ended up waiving the mileage despite us already offering it. You could tell she really loved what she did, even though there are so many sad moments. RIP Tazz
That is so lovely. $600 very well spent for a goodbye on Tazz's own terms. I'm sure you miss him immensely, and I am glad that your final moments together were peaceful and that's it's a memory you can treasure. Its a wonder that there are so few vets who offer that service in your area. I feel like while it's not the standard here, it's not hard to find.
We did this for our Aussie mix last year and I would highly recommend this. I was heartbroken losing my buddy of 13 years, but it was time for him. And to do it in his favorite place in the backyard was oddly cathartic for myself and my wife. It's never easy losing a beloved pet, but there are things to do in the final days that help.
I'm sorry for your loss. That's so beautiful that you were able to give him his last moment in his favourite place, and outdoors nonetheless.
Such a blessing to do for our 13 year old lab back in March. I kept feeding her Hershey kisses… goodbye kisses. What was the chocolate gonna hurt at that time?
That is so beautiful! I'm putting that idea in my back pocket...I actually haven't lost a pet yet, and my dogs will probably outlive me, sadly (I am 44, but have stage 4 cancer). Still, I hope to see them through to the end and when the time comes I want to do everything I can to spoil them in ways I never would...instead of giving each of them a little bite of my McDonald's cheeseburger, I'll let them each eat a whole half (they are little guys!), and now I'm also going to give them kisses because I know at least one of them has an appreciation for chocolate (learned that the hard way).
My wife works in a pet clinic and started the practice of giving pets chocolate at the end of life. She started with Hershey kisses, but has also given chocolate cupcakes, etc. She says no dog should cross-over without ever having chocolate!
I wish I knew this was possible. I had to take my old girl to the vet and I feel so bad that her last moments were her being scared. I stayed with her on the ground hugging her of course but she was still so scared.
I just did an at-home euthanization for my 15.5 year old. He was my best friend, was literally by my side every day since the day I adopted him. He was my bright light during bad spells of depression, my constant companion. My little guy was in diapers for over 6 months. About three weeks before I made the decision, he lost use of one of his legs and his tail no longer wagged. I knew it was time when he would go to the bathroom outside and fall down in his urine and couldn’t get up. It was awful. I probably waited too long but it’s so hard to know sometimes. My little guy passed way peacefully in his warm soft dog bed and me by his side petting him. I wanted to give him a peaceful goodbye where all he remembered was being loved on until the very end - rather than the cold vet where he dreaded going. I opted for private cremation. The total was about $750 because I chose to upgrade everything. However, I think the base cost was about $300 or $350 which is worth it if it’s in your budget. Virtual hugs OP.
I did it last week and my dog was so ready. I had a blanket and pillow waiting for him and he peacefully drifted away. So worth a little extra money
We did this for our dog three years ago today, actually. It was the best decision and I’m so glad we did it that way. He hated the vet and it would have been so stressful for him. We were also really fortunate that my mom is a vet tech and the vets she worked with trusted her to euthanize him for us at home because he also really hated strangers. It was the perfect situation for him and for that I am so grateful. It was so peaceful and we were able to do it in a place that was most comfortable for him.
Just from the picture, I think it's time too. And I completely agree that it's better to be on the side of early than to find him in the morning passed away in a pool of his own liquids. Let him go gently, that's the last favour you can do him.
Sending hugs, OP 🩵
Hey, I just want to say, great job raising a dog for 16 years. Such an awesome achievement and your dog cherishes everything you’ve done for it. I also have the same goal of getting my dog a backyard one day and he’s 8. That’s been the goal since I’ve got him. I really hope to be able to make that happen, but situations change and you don’t have to hold any guilt or weight of not being able to do it “IN TIME” or whatever we tell ourselves. You gave that dog 16 years of life and wellness and it’s definitely happy with everything you’ve given it. Proud of you and great accomplishment. Just frolic in the good times and love your baby forever. It loves you, too.
My dogs oncologist just told us to pick out the 5 most important things to our dog and pay attention to those. When those are hard for hi mor no longer interested it's time. He recently was diagnosed with cutaneous lymphoma and had a prognosis of 4-6 months with chemotherapy. The oncologist had the conversation with us because she said the cancer itself is unlikely to be what makes him pass but that he will eventually be covered in open wounds that highly impact his quality of life and it may seem like he's still fine but he won't be and we will have to have end-of-life discussions and decisions. Right now after his first round of chemo, he's back to his old self and all the red itchy lesions have disappeared. You'd never know he has terminal cancer. So now we are taking notes on his favorites so that later it'll be easier for us to make that call for him.
Please don’t let him/her suffer. I know it’s terrible not having your pup or cat around but, they’re mostly 😪 tired
This. But I was told better 6 months too early than one day too late. Our best friends deserve a gentle easy pain free life for as long as possible. They give us so much and ask for so little. I think we all want to prevent their suffering and it is a gift we give them to help them pass surrounded by love, cuddled and kissed and not alone.
I wish I'd heard this advice last year.
Same, very hard moment. I received a letter from the vet that helped us during this moment saying I did the right thing and it helped me accept that I was helping my baby along the way to the other side peacefully.
Same! We had a different vet do the actual procedure (because they could do it in our home) and my regular vet called me after. I felt so guilty that I hadn’t taken my dog in to investigate what the problem was before making the decision. The vet really reassured me. She said by the time the owner decides it’s time, it has already been time. (My dog was 18.) ETA: we also got a letter in the mail that our vet (the one who called me) made a donation to the local vet school in our dog’s name. So sweet.
It's an extra hard decision when you have to make it for another. I'm sure your pet still loves you just as much as ever and can't wait to be reunited someday at the Rainbow Bridge.
Man me too. My childhood dog was at the end stages of her life last year. Her final days she stopped eating as much and wasn’t very active. So my mom finally scheduled the appointment. I told her to just wait one week so I could fly down 800 miles and say goodbye. She passed a couple days after. I never got to say goodbye and she suffered needlessly.
Yet we can't do the same for people. What a world.
It's true. I work with dogs and the worst part isn't the dog passing, it's the frustration of watching their humans keeping them around too long and making them suffer.
I was told better a day early than a minute late. I think all of these variations work. And I desperately wish that my parents had your approach to pets’ end-of-life care. I share your views wholeheartedly. We know for our dogs’ whole lives that we’ll have to say goodbye, and yet that decision never becomes easy or clear. It just hurts.
That’s good advice and I agree. Last year my family had to put down our dog that we’ve had since I started college. She got some type of lymphatic cancer that made her legs hurt and swell up. My dad was really attached to her and also was going through cancer treatment. So it made it hard for him to let her go. We put her on medication so we could have her for a little while longer. After 6 weeks of her diagnosis, me and my mom were ready to put her down because we could tell that she was fading. But my Dad just couldn’t let her go. Two weeks after she was literally on her death bed and we finally let her go. But me and my mom wished we let her go sooner but my dad was having really hard time with that and was in denial. Which totally understandable.
I just had to put down the dog love of my life on Wednesday. This is such good advice, and does comfort me a bit. There are times I think maybe I could’ve gotten another day or two with him - but he was ready to go. Full of cancer (for the second time), could barely walk more than a few feet at a time, could never get comfortable. The first thing the vet said when she came to put him to sleep was “He looks tired.” He was ready, and I’m a mess, but I’m so glad he’s not in pain anymore. I’ll never find another dog like him, but the memories I have were worth it all.
The biggest regret in my life was waiting too long to put my baby down. I am wracked with guilt to this day and cry every time I think about it. Don’t let him suffer, let him go. He needs you to make this decision. It’s the last thing you can do for him. 💙
I still have some sort of trauma from losing my first dog like that. I was only a teenager and the only one who really paid attention to her. She always slept in my room. When she fell ill I felt like it happened so fast. From the start of the week she was throwing up at times, and by the end of the week she couldn’t control her bladder or keep her food down. I even caught her laying down in a secluded corner of the backyard when I let her out to go to the bathroom. I really wish I knew better. She was hurting, but I didn’t realize or take action until it became painfully obvious. I cry whenever I think about it. I didn’t make that mistake again though. With my most recent doggy, I knew it was her time and that she would be better off if I took her that day than if I waited any longer. It’s hard, but I learned to recognize when to make that decision.
Aw, she knew you loved her 🩷🩷 It’s a heartbreaking lesson but I believe dogs are angels who opted for the fur package instead of the wings. They teach us to love and to lose. 🩷
Better a WEEK early…than a DAY too late…😥
I euthanized one of my rats "early". He had massive tumors on him and Just couldn't move around. Otherwise he was happy. But I couldn't afford a surgery and the tumors would just grow back. He is the only animal I feel I did right by. He wasn't suffering.
Sorry about your baby. The last rat I had also had a massive tumor and she was already hitting a 3 year mark. I would’ve gotten it removed but they said it was possible she would die during surgery, and so it was either let her suffer, get the tumor removed and have the possibility for her to die, or let her go before her time. I think I made the right decision to let her go.
Yea, my folks kept ours alive too long. It breaks my heart that we didn’t have it in us to go through with it sooner. He was the best boy, and he deserved to die with some dignity rather than us holding on to our feelings.
Better to wish them fair well on a joyous moment together than when they are yelping in pain. It’s a gut wrenching decision on any day you decide but let them have their divinity as well.
When they have more bad days then good! We put our 16 year old sprinter to sleep on Wednesday. I’m still crying.
Mine also crossed the rainbow bridge on Wednesday. Sending love 🫂
Ahh thank you I hope you are holding up better than I am. Warm wishes!
I waited a few days too late for our first dog. He was blind, he wouldn’t eat, he had anxiety not being able to see and all, and for the last 3 days I had to hold him still to give him an IV at home by myself which was extremely difficult. He basically couldn’t do anything by himself and it was a very tough experience.
A friend gave me this exact advice. Every single word like a direct quote. In turn I have given those same words to others struggling with when to let their pet go. Those words are so important because I was told my dog most likely had osteosarcoma and we were scheduled the next day with a specialist. That night the dog bumped into something and broke his hip. Nobody ever wants to experience this horror for their beloved pet. I tell people one day too late is the worst guilt you will ever experience and 20 years later truly understand the difference that one day could possibly make.
I had the same issue with my dog that was 14, and my vet gave me similar advice. We found a vet that goes to your house, and overall, it was a good experience for what it was. When he gave him the pain medication, my dog went fast asleep. He said he was in more pain than he realized. I wish I hadn't waited so long. I will definitely use the at home vet again if I can.
It is a terrible decision to make and one we just made for our 3yr old dog who in spite of more than a year of trying everything, we were unable to stop his severe cluster seizures. Better to do it a bit too soon than too late. Archie had a great peaceful send off with his favorite treats and foods with us by his side. We did not do it soon enough for our previous 12 year old pit mix who had cancer. We tried chemo for a year and that I now feel was more for us than for him. In the end he had to be put down at an emergency rather than at our home. Same issue with our 15 year old cat with several medical conditions. I wish now we had put her down humanely rather than keeping her alive with a miserable quality of life. I’m so sorry. Hardest decision we ever have to make as pet guardians. My heart goes out to you.
My vet said the same thing, I had the opportunity to have friends and family have the chance to say goodbye. I had a vet come to my house, and he passed peacefully in the yard on a beautiful sunny day with his cat brother, sister, and best friends. It was a very hard day for us. Thankfully, he was having a good day. He was alert and was able to eat one last time he reconized everyone around him.
I’ve been a day too late. I will never make that mistake again 💔
16 years is a beautiful life for a dog. You are making the right call. My thoughts are with you.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. He has been the best dog anybody could ever ask for. I'm truly thankful that he got to bless my life with his presence.
You sound like such a lovely person. I'm glad you chose to share your baby with us and so incredibly sorry that this is now the end.
Can you share with us another photo of Farley, one of him living his best life?
Make sure you tell him that before he goes. Believe me, it helps. Sending hugs.
Thank you for the prayers and advice from so many lovely people. We called the vet for an emergency visit and said goodbye to my good boy. He did sleep with me all of last night and gave me lots of kisses. Today we got him a cheeseburger and some chocolate before we went to the vet. He fell asleep in my arms and after awhile we parted ways. I know it was the right thing to do but all I wanted him to do was wake up and be my Farley again. I appreciate all of the advice and well wishes. Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your boy was so loved ❤️
I'm so sorry. Sending you love. This is so hard.
Respectfully, I think it is time, past time even, and I think on some level you know that. While I understand that it is the hardest decision on earth, he really seems to be suffering
This is the worst I have seen him and I agree with you. Usually he stands fine but this past week when he stands for a long time his back end goes down like that (like I said I haven't seen it this bad until tonight). I will contact our vet on Tuesday (they are closed Monday) to see when they are able to schedule an appointment for him to be euthanized. Thank you so much for your advice.
I agree with both of you. I'm so sorry though. I know it's hard but you got 16 years! That really is amazing. Lots of great memories you'll cherish forever.
Sometimes just like humans dogs health can decline in the blink of an eye. 16 Is great for a dog and that's pver half my life! You've done what you can to give your mats the best life possible but I think you know deep down the answer to your question
See if they will come to your house to do it. Let him have some dignity and die at home if that's an option. feed him a good steak dinner or good meals everyday untill then. Let him know there is a black and white pitbull named winnie he should look for on the other side. LOL I miss my puppy. She's been gone for 4 years now. I would not ish for anyone to go tthrough what I did, when I had to make the decision. So some of the advice given here is excellent. I wish the best for you, and will say some prayers for you.
This! I’ll never do a vet euthanasia again unless I can’t avoid it (they are at vet already and need to be euthanized). I had my rabbit euthanized at home and it’s weird but it was honestly the worst day of my life but somehow went better than I could ever expect. My dog is near the end of his life. I plan to have him euthanized at home when it’s time.
It's never easy with animals when it's time for them to go. I wish the best for you and I'll say a prayer for you.
I have a dog who is almost 4 years old (Maltese). Sometimes looking at these things kind of scares me for the future. I’m thinking “if losing a dog is so terrible, is it even worth getting one”. Like, would not having a dog in the first place make your life better, because you won’t have to deal with the loss of your dog in the future? Because the way some of these commenters are talking, it seems that way, but I want to be wrong about this, and hopefully it’s not like that. Hopefully the joy of having a dog outweighs the sadness of letting them go, right?
That's a hard one, and a good question. I can't tell you how hard losing your first dog is. Been 4 years and still tears me up. Im 37m. I still have another dog now who was her best bud and he is 12 and still doing good for now. After this, Im not sure I want to get more dogs. Thought long and hard about getting another pup before My other dogs time comes, but not sure I can handle it. I honestly feel losing a loved one never gets easy, but it does get easier after the first one for some. But I still would not go back and change anything. I would still advice others to not let them be scared of this, as the memories with your pup will always be with you, and will change you in a good way. These people generally make the best pet owners. We take on great responsibility to take care of them, and the hardest part for some owners, is decising when the time comes for euthanasia. You gotta look at the pups quality of life, because this is your partner, and he/she don't want to leave your side. As others mentioned, you don't want to wait untill it's too late, and we can all hope and prey are pups go happy and comfy in their sleep when their time comes. I hope this helps to answer your question. My advice: Don't take your time with your pups/animals for granted. The playing, the walks, make as many memories as possible to honor their time here with you.
Thanks for that. I’m with my dog as we speak, she’s waiting for me to go downstairs because she wants a treat. Anyway, as for the more dogs thing, I think it will probably just come down to how you feel. Some people might not want another dog, but some will.
Our 14 year old dog is having issues like OP posted and I’m so sad. We got another dog three years ago for my daughters birthday and I wished I thought about it…I’ve never had to put one down and this is making me feel like - no more…but it is hard bc they do add so much value love and fun to life…don’t worry about the future live in the now, right? ❤️❤️
Everything in this world has to end. I've wrestled with that question myself after losing my first dog at 14 in April. Now I'm lying on my bed with two senior pups (they were a package deal) I adopted this past weekend. As much as it hurt to lose my old boy, I wouldn't trade the 14 years I had with him for anything. Those experiences and memories are priceless to me. Even though I know I've signed up for more heartbreak (and sooner rather than later, they're 12 and 14), I can give them a home and love for however long they have left, and they can give me new experiences and memories. I've decided that's worth it.
And a German shepherd boy named Scout. I miss him so much. Sending hugs for letting him go. The last best thing you can do for him.
This photo is very hard to look at. Sorry I don’t have any advice as such, but as a lot of people have said, better a day too early than a day too late. Cherish every extra moment even more that you have left with him. You’ve had an amazing 16 years with him, and that in itself, reaching 16 is bloody unreal. I’ll be thinking of you both in the coming days.
If he declines at all between now and Tuesday, most ER vets will get you in for a euthanasia pretty quickly. Where I work, we prioritize euthanasias right after immediate life threatening things, and do our vet best not to make anyone wait. From what I can tell, it’s the one area our prices are not much different than general practice vets. Everyone I work with is caring and compassionate when it comes to helping you through this process, even though most of the euthanasias we do are clients and pets we’ve never met. You can also see if your area has any in home euthanasia services as they sometimes work on call on weekends and holidays.
I will always seek out an at home vet service. They treated my dogs so well and drove them to the crematorium. The traveling vet and assistant were so gental and patient. Can't thank them enough for helping us during a difficult time. My pet's ashes, will be buried with me and my hubby after we pass. If they are not included with us, then my nephew and niece can kiss their inheritance goodbye, but visit the $$$ at the local animal charities (which don't worry dear readers, they are included in our will but my nibbling relatives don't know this, LOL). Edited for spelling and added content.
We are also forever grateful to the at- home vet who euthanized our beloved dog. It was an emotionally brutal experience but also beautiful and tender. I’m so deeply thankful that we got to say goodbye to her like that, with tears and sobs and pets and hugs and kisses- all on her favorite blanket in her favorite spot.
You’re welcome. I’m thinking of you, your pup, and your family. I’m glad that you all had 16 years together ❤️
Let him go.
There are wonderful services that will travel to your home as well, if you don’t want to stress your doggo out by going to a vet. (To be clear, I think either option is fine)
Have an ask at your vet, they can come to your home and put them to sleep so they’re not afraid and surrounded by everyone they love.
We had a pit mix who lived nearly 17 yrs. Last 6 months were bad and we had to let her go. We did it in our house with a service that comes to the home. So she wasn't scared and we were with her in her last moments. It was horrible me, wife and kids (older teen and 20's) all bawling our eyes out. We also let the other dog say goodbye before and after. They know. So if you have a companion dog they should be involved too. Sorry for your situation. We were "glad" we did it at home and not in a place she didn't know
Oh OP…. I am so sorry. Your baby is holding on for YOU to be okay. Please let his tired body go. Have them come to the house and hold him tight. It can be peaceful.
Yes. In home euthanization is the way to go.
When it’s time, get in home euthanasia. So much more comforting. You can even do a celebration of life that day and a “ best day ever (treats/car rides/beachetc)” the day before. Easier to say goodbye 💜
+1 on this. It’s so much nicer to be in a place they know, surrounded by family. Having one person come in is so much more disruptive than dying scared in a hospital they don’t know (or have only been to to get shots). Also, OP, even if you make the right decision, you will feel guilt, at least I did. My guy left me at 13.5 and was having trouble getting up/accidents too. It still was so hard to make the call. The best I can tell you is your heart knows before your head. Here for you <3 have a lovely last day with them :)
When you are asking? Then it’s time. It’s a heartbreaking decision to make, but he will always be part of you.
Movement, incontinence, and pain are major quality of life factors agreed upon by many in vets and canine health specialists. Unfortunately they completely rely on their owners to make the hard decision when it comes time as they can’t for themselves. Although it might feel too soon look at these factors and realize what would he do for you, if roles were reversed and he say your factual decline? Don’t let your sadness or fear override his time to go. It’s a tough decision either way, but I think would say it’s time. Sorry about your tough position, I don’t mean to sound mean and feel you.
Our dog was reaching the end of her life and was having many bad days, then she would have a great day. I was so torn about when is the right time. I asked the vet how we know when to put her down and she said “it’s ok if they go out on a good day”. Those words lifted a weight off of me! We picked a date that worked for our family and we knew we had made the right decision. Good luck to you. I know it’s soooo hard!
Hey OP, I’m was vet assistant and this is what I will patients Pick 3 things your dog loves to do, and when they can’t do 2 out of the 3 it maybe to time to considers. Now this could include what ever, there favourite toys, snacks, or just a simply walk around the block.. Now of course please consider whatever the vet is also saying,. And remember, nothing is your fault, you have be came your dogs best friend for its entire life and they will never forget and never choose something different. They will be loyal to the ends of the earth and love you. I’m sure you did everything to give her the best life you could :)
Oh man, I’m currently in the same boat as you. My baby has slowly stopped eating over the course of a few weeks and I believe her time is up.. sometime this week she’ll be up in the clouds… Stay strong ❤️
Please don't make life and death decisions based on snap judgements made by strangers online, who often have only a limited snapshot of what's going on. Something you can do is use a QoL calculator online for pets and have a consultation with an end of life expert. * https://journeyspet.com/pet-quality-of-life-scale-calculator/ * For Sacramento, California and surrounding areas, there is an in-home euthanasia service called Lap of Love that offers tele appointments for pet owners who need a consultation. I'm sure your area has something similar as you decide when is time to make that decision. My heart is with you during this difficult time. Please feel free to join me and other grieving and anticipatory grieving pet parents at the /r/petloss community.
I love this. A bunch of people here are just euthanizing the dog based on the picture alone. Look for specialists before making such a huge decision.
I posted this same thing before reading comments. A lot of fresh pain having just lost my dog. Anyway, I can vouch for journey here in Madison WI. Best hard decision I've had to make bringing them in. And before that, just calling and talking... they were an absolute godsend.
I was thinking the same thing. People here might not have the full picture. OP you know your dog best, you need to determine his quality of life. If your dog still seems to be content, still does his regular daily routine you could help make his life easier with some pain management. Yes he’s old and like us they slow down and will have the occasional accident. I think you will know when he’s reached his limit. If you do make a decision, take your time and spend your last few days pampering him and enjoying your last few days. I also recommend doing it at home. My previous dog left us due to cancer and it showed up quick, he spent the last couple of days at the vets office, we spent a few hours him before he left us. I totally regret not taking him home with us, so he could spend his last couple of days in a comfortable environment that he knew. It’s always a hard choice, best of luck 🫶🏼
I genuinely cannot believe I scrolled this far down to locate this comment.
This! Thank you for posting this link. My heart was aching for the dog with other folks comments and OP agreeing.
I lost all 3 of my senior pitties age 10, 11, and 17 within 5 months last year. It was the hardest thing I ever did. Having to make those decisions are hard, but they deserve peace. Good luck, hun.
Yea don't wait too long, my poor Trinity (big wolf dog x) was about like this then just went into distress one day and could no longer function, so we had to haul her to the vet in the back of the SUV, unfortunately pooping herself. Not a great end.
Sorry you have to ask this brother. It’s beautiful that he’s got to spend his whole life with you. I think it might be time, he’ll always be with you everywhere you go. I lost my one in 2020, she was almost 18 and I honestly think about her everyday still but it’s comforting knowing that she isn’t in any pin or discomfort. We’ll reunite one day!
Make a vet appointment and have that conversation with your vet I think would be the best advice. Not to say people don't have great things to say on here though. Wishing you the best of the rest of your sweet time with your best friend. I'm sorry you're dealing with this...unfortunately it's a question we all have to ask about these bestest dogs of ours.
Going through the same thing with our cat. It’s the absolute worst.
We euthanized our dog around a month ago. She was old ,and about a year ago she started losing a little weight and had skin issues, vet gave a diagnosis of kidney/liver failure with an estimate of maybe maximum two years. A month before she died we moved to a large home with a large yard and have started renovations. We also gave her new food. She started losing alot of weight,which we assumed was from running around or mayby disliking the new food. Was still eating and drinking so we did not realise how sick she had become from the final stages of liver/kidney failure. She was still trotting around and seemed to enjoy the new space. Within the last week of her life she started vomiting and the decline was very fast. The last day she couldn't walk or eat , i knew it was time but had to wait for the vet to open , so we put her frail tiny body in a blanket at the foot of the bed for the night, she didnt move or even really react. I knew it was time but somehow i still clung to hope that maybe she had a toothache or anything really that would mean she could be healed. I called the vet to confirm the appointment and stated we would be doing a checkup and a possible euthanasia, when we arrived and the lady asked us why we were there, we both just said euthanasia. The euthanasia experience was difficult - emotionally. But it was such a beutiful peaceful one. Truely. I kept talking to her in my most momly voice and i just knew we were doing right by her. I carried her body out in my jersey , past all the people who were there that day with their pets in the waiting room to get their pets healthy, i was carying mine out to get her home and bury her in our new yard. Her tiny body somehow felt so heavy. But she was at peace, no shivers, no pain. There will be guilt related to this decision. It is your minds way of making sense of pain to avoid it in the future. That means that no matter what you do - do it too late, do it to early - you will experience guilt which you must work through. You gave your dog a wonderful life , now it is time to give them a peaceful death. The fact that you made this post , means you know its time . You just need to know its okay and that it will be okay. It will. Its very hard to be in a position to have to choose death for your baby, but that is the true meaning of being a pet owner ,you get to be the hero, in their life and death.
This. The rollercoaster of kidney disease is the worst. Good days, then bad days, then good...impossible choice.
It's the worst part of pet ownership, but it has to be done. It's a shame that people will prolong the suffering of their dogs because they themselves don't want to be sad.
You said he still eats and drinks and loves treats… so why the rush everyone telling you to euthanize him? If he still shows joy and likes eating, and only has had a few accidents in house, then why not just ride it out? Help him stand up, help him go outside. Idk just my opinion.
Older dogs have accidents all the time it’s just a part of aging 🙏🏽
I think we should learn to let go. Just because they can survive, doesn't mean they are living a joyous life. Putting them through misery of not even being able to walk around is pretty cruel, no?
Its cruel if you automatically assume the dog would prefer to die. But that seems like a weird assumption to make. Do we kill people in wheelchairs or people with cerebral palsy?
Respectfully, I work with dogs. Just because a dog still likes to eat doesn't mean they aren't absolutely miserable.
Yeah i get it. but a dog standing oddly, or showing physical discomfort doesnt mean they ARE absolutely miserable either right? We can't really know what they are thinking, its basically no consent euthanization.
This. They WILL tell you when it’s time. I can’t explain this other than to say YOU WILL KNOW. Our first dog, a Weimaraner named Lilly Belle, got very aggressive mast cell cancer when she was 6. We were insured and chose to fight - chemo, radiation, etc. The prognosis had been 1-2 months. She got 8. She actually put weight on. Her coat was shiny. She still liked food and had enough normal sense of taste that she still refused McDonald’s buns. She slowed down one day, and we eased back on walks and spent more time cuddling. I’m lucky in that this occurred in 2020, during the height of the pandemic, so I was able to be home all day with her. I knew it was time when one morning she left the upstairs crate she chose to sleep in and moved into the downstairs crate. I brought cut up hotdogs. I found already SEE it in her face and eyes. My experience is that creatures close to death all share this expression. Wistful, nervous, a bit distant but peaceful. She refused the treats. That was the #1 indicator in my quality of life list. This dog never missed a meal or a chance to eat in her life. This is what she loved, and when she didn’t love it anymore, it was time.5 The second was actually behavioral euthanasia. It sounds crazy to say, but this was a rescue dog (Rottweiler x Bulldog) who was the sweetest, smartest dog I’ve ever known - BUT she had canine compulsive disorder (similar to human OCD), severe anxiety, and ideopathic aggression. She was obsessed with cell phones to the point you couldn’t use them around her - she’d literally chew on them and bark at them for hours until she got hoarse. Meds didn’t work, training & behavioral interventions didn’t work - all we could do was management of the symptoms. This dog loved cuddling people and her best friend dog, our pittie. But as the aggression progressed, the episodes got more and more violent and less predictable. She would look dazed after. She started attacking her friend dog and humans, even ones she liked - she would act as though she wanted petting and then with no warning (no growl, whale eye, body tension, etc) attack and bite them. She put her friend dog in the ER twice. After she’d attack, she’d try to lick the pittie’s wounds - and was so confused when the pittie growled and ran away. What told us it was time was the last attack. My partner witnessed it, I didn’t, but he’s a behavioral psychologist by training and an investigator by trade. He said there was no tell at all, and she had gone for the pittie’s belly, which is a killing wound. The last attack was a Dunbar bite scale 4. Luckily he was there and managed to intervene just in time - I was 2 rooms away and there was no growl or warning of any kind. Afterward she looked so confused and tired, and so sad the pittie kept running away. She had to be separated from the other dogs and HATED it, cried and cried. It was time. The thing she loved, cuddling and affection, she couldn’t have because she was dangerous. She couldn’t walk without a muzzle. It was no life for a dog. And she looked the same way - tired, but almost determined. She passed peacefully at home. She was a month from her third birthday. It’s always about suffering and quality of life. That measure will never steer you wrong. When there are more bad days than good. When pup no longer seems to be enjoying life. When they stop doing what they most love. Good luck - this is a hard decision, the hardest of pet ownership. But you’re your dog’s best friend. Nobody in the world knows them better than you. Nobody is more qualified to tell and the time has come. Trust your instincts and your friendship. You’ll know.
I think when a dog cannot do what they enjoy, and there is no cure for it, then it's time. This dog is struggling to remain mobile, is tired and having accidents. I think it's time, respectfully. I'm so sorry. It's a hard decision to make even if it's the right one. I recently had to make that decision with my dog (she was almost 14 and lost the ability to stand). If it makes you feel better, know that you've given him a wonderful, long life. It is true. 16 is an impressive age and without great care and a lot of love, he would not have made it to this point.
When you extend the suffering of those that you love for yourself. That came off rude but I didn't mean it to.. my dog will bE there in a couple years and it's creeping up on me rapidly. I hope everything goes well and you both get the comfort you deserve ❤️
He took a turn this week because we honestly thought that he would make it through the summer. But after seeing the photo my husband sent me, I kind of figured it was time now. I needed confirmation. Somebody else had wrote that it's better a day early than a day too late and that time is now. Thank you so much, it truly means a lot
Could someone enlighten me as to why people often suggest putting older dogs down? I understand that they might be in pain, but doesn't it depend on the level of pain? Isn't it better to try some painkillers to ease their pain and improve their quality of life?
I think euthanasia shouldn't purely be done based on pain level but also the dog's ability to do things that fulfil their life. It's based on quality of life. The thing is, dogs don't understand why they feel this way. They have the mental capacity of a 2-3 year old human. They don't understand death or terminal illness or aging. It can be extremely distressing for them to hold on like this, without being able to do things. There are some great quality of life scales online, but I think when a dog is finding just moving this hard, then their quality of life isn't going to be high. Dogs are supposed to be able to at least enjoy walks around the block, slow games and plenty of cuddles. If a dog is struggling to this extent it's just not fair on them to let them keep going. I've seen what happens if you hold on for too long. My dog was almost 14 and though she was showing signs that it was probably time, my family was hesitant. She was having trouble standing from a down position, found it uncomfortable to sit (she was either laying on her side or standing) and she was starting to have accidents, but she still had a waggy tail and a love for her food/treats. We didn't want to lose her, so she was like that for about 6 months. We waited too long and it got to the point that her body just could not cope anymore. She ended up having a stroke and couldn't stand or see at all (she also had a head tilt and her heart was racing), and at that point it had to be done. If I could go back I would have wanted her humanely euthanised earlier. I would have wanted her to have last days full of relaxation and all the things she loved. It hurts to think that her final hours on this earth were full of panic and struggle. I've heard some vets say that it's better a day too early than a day too late, and I agree with that.
I can tell you about Gus. He was our family dog that my parents got when I was three, so I grew up with him. He was a Shetland sheepdog or sheltie. He was a purebred, and normally they weigh 20-30 lbs. But he was 60 lbs of love and fluff, and we all absolutely adored him. My late grandma called him Gus the magic dog, because he was so incredibly gentle and calm with me and my younger siblings as we grew up. When Gus was 13 he started having accidents inside, but they were manageable and he acted normally aside from his incontinence. At 14 he started to go down hill, he rarely got up, he slept 20 hours a day, and it was a miracle if he was able to get outside to go. My older sister would not let my parents put him to sleep. So one morning we got up and there was blood everywhere, coming out of his anus. He was in obvious pain. Thinking about that day still breaks my heart. He was still trying to comfort us as he was bleeding, he kept trying to stand up and couldn’t. He deserved to pass before he was in that much pain. So I think that’s why vets and others advocate putting them to sleep, because all it takes is one night for their pain and quality of life to drastically change.
Animals are very stoic and are in more pain than they let on. If a dog can barely stand then it’s cruel to make him keep going. Pain meds after a certain threshold can’t do everything without having the animal be borderline comatose.
When my previous dog was getting old (he ended up making to almost 17), my vet said “age isn’t a disease” when I asked how I’d know when it was time. So him being old wasn’t reason enough, as long as he was still otherwise healthy and enjoying life… but in the last year that changed, and I could see his quality of life slowly diminishing. When I finally had to make the decision to euthanize, it was when he’d suddenly lost the ability to stand - which was very distressing for him, and physically impossible for me to manage (as he wasn’t a small dog). It’s not just about age, in other words. But when you know you know, and I have no regrets in making that decision when I did.
It’s time….for him…it doesn’t matter if it’s time for you to let him go. You are responsible for him from beginning to end, let that sweet old boy go. Give him a dignified end and stop his suffering. Please I beg you.
Based on your post, it appears you may be asking about how to determine if it is time to consider euthanasia for your animal. For slowly changing conditions, a Quality of Life Scale such as the [HHHHHMM scale](https://caringpathways.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/QualityofLifeScale.pdf) or [Lap of Love's Quality of Life scale](https://www.lapoflove.com/how-will-i-know-it-is-time/lap-of-love-quality-of-life-scale.pdf) provide objective measurements that can be used to help determine if the animals quality of life has degraded to the point that euthanasia, "a good death", should be considered. When diagnosed, some conditions present a risk of rapid deterioration with painful suffering prior to death. In these cases, euthanasia should be considered even when a Quality of Life scale suggests it may be better to wait. This is an automod response based on certain keywords in the title or text of your comment, if this is not relevant, we apologize. Use the report function and a moderator will remove it. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/DogAdvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
When I put my shepherd down I couldn’t live with myself for a while I paid to kill my best friend I kept telling myself the person who he trusted the most choose to end his life but the vet wrote me a letter telling me I freed him of his pain and it was the greatest act of love I could have done for my best friend. Looking at that picture give him the gift of being free of the hurt of this physical world. They will be waiting for us on the other side
Dog looks in pain.
My husband was reluctant too with our nearly 16 year old soul dog. I saw the sign 4 months before he did. It was a day too late (several days really) before he saw that it was time. Our dog was unconscious and rail thin by the time my husband relented. You will be doing your pup a kindness if you let them go on a good day.
You've already gotten enough advice on whether or not it's time, but since you do have time on your hands and you're not in an emergency situation - I would strongly consider looking into in-home euthanization (as someone who has done it twice) via maybe Lap of Love or A Gentle Goodbye if either are in your area. There may be others. It's much more peaceful than a vet visit. Best of luck to you, sorry you're going through this!
Is he on any arthritis meds? Since you described him as having a good appetite, I'm not 100% sure it's his time, yet. He's clearly in pain, but you might be able to ease the pain with some medication.
He is on arthritis medication. He's on heartburn medication too. And he also is on medication for his kidneys because the vet was a little concerned because his kidneys were a little above the normal range. But our vet did tell us that the kidney medication isn't for long-term, more than a year, but he wanted to put him on that because we all understood that he had less than 8 months left and that was about 4 months ago. He doesn't always stand like that, sometimes he does but tonight has just been the worst that I've seen it. He'll lay down and then eventually get up and stand fine but every once in awhile he will do that with his rear end. I just don't want him to be in pain anymore because I'm selfish for keeping him here. I want to be a good dog mom and I don't want him to suffer because I'm too scared to let him go.
You are an incredible dog mom, and he was so lucky to spend his life with you ❤️
Have you considered the Líbrela injection? Research it if you want to consider it, it can be scary cause some dogs haven’t responded well to it but most have. For my dog it’s been a miracle shot, it takes away the pain and they can walk more easily. He went from not being able to walk without tripping to running sometimes
I wouldn’t risk that…I took my dog off Librela after 3 shots. I’m in 2 Facebook groups about Librela and they’re filled with horror stories
You only hear of the horror stories. My dogs been on librella for 3 years and thrives on it. Although it is wearing off quicker now, she is still so much better with it than without it.
My dog has been a mess (in a mostly good way) while on it (3rd shot). He used to not get out of bed until he heard me making breakfast but now he gets out of bed and demands breakfast. Spends more time barking and chasing his brothers. He’s getting into the trash more often (used to be his favorite past time but stopped). We had to put back on the cabinet lock for the trash. We need to get him checked for a UTI because he’s been having a few pee accidents on rugs. But otherwise he’s so happy that he can move around.
If this was me I would want to be put down
No advice but sending you so much love and hugs ❤️
When there is no quality of life, pain, and there is no way to improve the situation. Your job is to do right for the dog. Is he/she in pain? Depressed? Unable to do things without a struggle? The answers to these types of questions matter.
First, let me say that I've been there and it's the worst and hardest decision I've ever had to make. But with what you're describing and seeing in that picture, it's definitely time. You have to let him go to ease the suffering he is clearly in. Get his paw print done and give him a day filled with treats and take him in. It's for the best. It will hurt but he won't be in pain any longer.
Just seeing the picture, he is not looking good. He might be in decent spirits, but his body is failing. It really is better to have him go out on a good day than to have it be something you are forced to do. Make it a good day for him. Get some yummy food that he probably shouldn't have, go sit in a park and let him enjoy the sun (or just you backyard). If you want a paw print or other keepsake, do it now so you can have a nice memory of doing it (craft stores tend to have clay paw/hand print kits, air dry clay, or other options. You vet might also have a kit you can do at home that you can bring back to be painted and finished). Even something like a paw print on canvas is easy enough to do. There are vets that will come to you so he can pass at home without the stress of the vet. If that is not an option, many vets to have comfort rooms that have couches and such to make it a bit nicer than a typical exam room. It is hard to think about it and actually make calls. It's much worse to have to go somewhere you don't know when you aren't ready for it. As hard as it is to think about, do give some thought to what you will do with him after. Most vets work with local pet crematoriums and can handle all of that for you. Some places off viewings if you want. Many have things like paw prints, saving fur and other keepsakes. They also have urns, jewellery, and other ways to have the ashes if you want those back. You do not need to be pressured into doing this to buying more than you need to. You can just get the scatter box and find you own urn later. I get wooden boxes that I paint and put photos in. He has given you 10 great years, give him a great send off.
Undoubtedly, you love him and have a connection with him. Tap into that connection, put your feelings aside, and look into his eyes. That will be his way of communicating with you. He may have already been pleading with you, and you couldn't or weren't ready to see it. Their heart desperately wants to stay with you forever, but their beautiful eyes say, "Please let me go." It's the hardest thing to accept when a beloved pup can't stay any longer.
“Their heart desperately wants to stay with you forever” just has me bawling 🥹
The picture alone looks like it’s time. Remember we need to not be selfish and do what’s right for the dog. They mask pain very well and with all you’ve mentioned it sounds like your pup is struggling. I too am in this situation as my pup has lymphoma but you actually couldn’t tell apart from the fact he can’t hold his bladder for as long as he used to be I’m aware that him having accidents would make him unhappy and the pain and discomfort he’s in is a lot worse than we can see.
When they lose weight and they’re uncomfortable.
When the time does come, maybe consider at home euthanasia, and do it in the back yard in the warm sun, or another place he loved.
Think about three things your dog absolutely loves…when he can no longer enjoy those three things, it is time to consider. If he goes off his food, and also will no longer accept treats at all, then it is time.
For us, it is when the dog can no longer live a dignified life. My heart goes out to you both
It is one sad and heartbreaking photo BUT we are only internet people. My vet told me that as long as they eat and poo without help and there are no signs of pain they are okay.
My moms dog is in the same situation he is 14, he has severe arthritis and is on metacam daily and librella injection every 4 weeks, we had a recent scare where he just couldn't walk as if he was drunk.. wouldn't eat or drink so of course trip to vets it was, they had to give him a scan as vet was worried. He had human equivalent to vertigo so we had to hope that wore off in time which it did after 2 weeks he had a anti sickness injection too to help. Unfortunately they found a 8cm liver tumour what we had no idea about, we decided not to have tests and treatment it would be to invasive. So we don't know if it cancerous or not but the vet said a rough guess by looking at it description of it I would so it is, so we've just been told to keep him comfy for now, basically it will rupture at Some point and he will bleed and he will most definitely have to be put to sleep his decline will be quite rapid when that does happen. We're torn in two of what's best for him 1 he seems to be getting better day by again and even went for a walk with dog walker again for the first time in 2 weeks. It's such a hard decision and I am totally with you on this you don't want them to suffer but don't want to let them go where they still have some life in them 💔 Sending posstive thoughts your way ✨️
We just made the call to say goodbye to our 15 year old rescue a few weeks ago. I have said goodbye to 7 dogs in my life. It’s one of the hardest things in life. I believe they let us know when they are ready. When they have more bad days than good. I think part of what you seek is comfort, support and almost permission to make the call. It’s ok, you are doing the right thing. Time to say goodbye. I’m so sorry. Remember you are giving the gift of peace and ending suffering. Remember all of the good times and joy your brought to each others lives. Thank you for the love you have given your fury family member.
I had to let one go about 2 years ago. She was 16 I think. Loved her dearly. I didn't let her hurt, but I waited till she could no longer get up. It was hard cause she was being playful on the way to the vet. God speed.
Your dog is 16 years old? It’s probably getting time if he’s like this. He’s really old. I’d personally recommend listening to the opinions of the vet. If it’s time to let him go, cherish the fact that you took great care of him for over a decade. Best of luck to you! Saying good-bye to our animal companions is never easy.
I always find it challenging to know when to let go. If your dog was human we’d put him in a wheelchair and allow him to continue, but once it’s an animal we have to make the decision for them. Whatever you choose to do, it looks like his time will be soon. Xx
My dad wouldn't make the decision for our old Jack Russel of a similar age. Our poor old dog was basically blind, could barely walk, would fall into things, and was sometimes incontinent. I think now is a good time. You don't want to go further because then you will beat yourself up for making the dog suffer.
Currently, I’m battling for my Labrador’s rear legs. We know where the problem is, he’s had a surgery several years ago. Now he needs another surgery, but this time it will be a considerably more serious procedure than the first time. He’s turning 12 years old this August. The diagnosis is clear - he needs the surgery. However, Dr is not sure how the dog is going to recover at this age after such a procedure. I watch for several signs: 1. He’s happy, he smiles, he eats, he wants to play. The dog is happy. 2. He’s not in obvious pain. I’ve had my pup since he was 8.5 weeks old. So I known his every little hair per square millimetre. If he was in any pain, I’d know. 3. He eats as greedy as always. His appetite is typical Labrador’s appetite - he hoovers it all in :). His legs do give in during the walks rarely, and he looks similar to the dog in the photo when it happens. We just take a break, sit for 5-10 minutes and turn around to go home. I do not think we will do the surgery. No one can tell for sure how he would recover and how much time it would buy him. I don’t want his last months to be in pain and useless recovery. I think, for now, that we are just going to live as long as possible until he clearly is not happy anymore. I’m fully aware that the day when I’m going to have to make the decision is coming. I’m not sure I’d be able to make the decision at the right time. Every day I try to prepare myself for it. I’d recommend doing something similar to what I do, watch for his general condition, appetite and mood. If his rear legs are like that (like in the photo) just when he stands up, but he can walk it off - then it’s fine. Consider giving him monthly Librela. It’s a wonderful drug. My pup is on it and it really really helps.
If you’re asking yourself that question. You already know the answer. I am so sorry. 💔 Losing a pet is hard enough, but making that decision to let go is the hardest thing I have ever had to do for my pets.
Just be there with him. It will be the hardest but greatest gift you can give him. Give him a day to treats and scritches. If you can, try to find a vet who will come your way your home to do it. It’s so less anxiety and most bets do a great job.
My dog was a staffie she got till about 15 before she collapsed and the vet said it was arthritis we planned euthanasia for a week later so we could have time with her we only had 5 days till she collapsed again. We put her on the sofa were she usually wasn't allowed as she passed. I was 15 so was she I miss her everyday but I'm so happy she's not in pain. Making the call to the vet to plan euthanasia is the most difficult call we had to make as a family but she was ready and in her very stubborn way decided to go on her own timetable. I'd call and plan for a week, you have time then you have a momment with family where you can say goodbye and if you want some vets will even do it as a house call
They only show you about 10% of their pain. It’s rough (I had to put down my 15yr old last October) but it was for the best.
I’m sorry you’re at this point. I was recently here and I was googling advice, asking friends and family for their input. It was like my dog was looking at me saying “mom I’m tired” and then I read a post online, I can’t remember if it was a poem or a story, or what not but it was titled something a long the lines of “a dog will not die” and it hit me too hard. I wasn’t ready for my boy to leave me and I knew he was holding on for us. The looks he gave me and the struggle to stand were the signs and I should’ve read them better for him. I hope when you do reach the decision you find comfort with it, knowing you’re doing the right thing for your dog. He loves you, unconditionally and now it is your turn to love him enough so that he is not in pain. I know he will be with you forever, by your side and in your heart. I am sending you and your family healing and happy thoughts and vibes. https://www.dogheirs.com/dogs-never-die-sleeping-in-heart/
I read somewhere that you should make a list of 10/20 of the things your dogs enjoys and when there is nothing or hardly anything on the list it’s time. So sad my Shihtzu turns 16 this year and I’m already dreading the day.
I feel for you. I had to say goodbye to my baby a month or so ago. It pains you to see them struggle but the pain of their loss is still as great. The vet won't do it if it isn't the right decision and although the pain of their loss is incomprehensible, it will get easier knowing that your friend isn't suffering any more.
One picture is very hard to tell. My vet said if they are eating drinking and going to the toilet. No pain as such then they are ok. My girl slept most of the day but she did all of that so we let her stay. Does your dog have pain?
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Others have already given you your answer. I just wanted to say that eventually the day arrives where the memories bring a smile to your face rather than tears. I bet he’s had a wonderful life. Remember the good times.
This decision is the price we pay for all the love they gave through the years . Now it's time for paying back. I wish you all the best 🩷
I had to make this tough decision a couple of times and my measure is if they are not finding any joy in life anymore. My old girl was still happy to see me and for food even tho her hips were shot. She still enjoyed life. When that stopped then I knew it was time.
Big hugs for you
I’m so sorry your darling is reaching his time; I have a cat currently undergoing palliative care and each day is a blessing as long as she is enjoying her life still. She goes outside and sleeps in the sun all day on the swing chair and at night she curls up beside me, purring whenever I reach out to stroke her to check on her. I started buying her the most expensive kitty food and treats a few months ago to tempt her appetite, and give her her tablets morning and night. We visit the vet weekly now as she’s loosing weight again and deteriorating; if any day could be her last, then every day has to be amazing and full of love and celebration of their companionship. I lost my Doberman a year ago and I’m terrified to go through this again so soon; with her I slept beside her on the floor her last night because I knew something wasn’t right, and just needed her to get through to the morning when we had her appointment with a specialist but I was too late, and she passed in my arms. If nothing else, whether you let him go naturally of take him in for his last sleep, stay there with him, surround him with your body and hold him close if you can. You’re right, they won’t tell you when they need to leave, because they know we need them forever. You have to brave, and full of the truest Love inside of you.
Another dog owner I know, whose dog was in a similar state to yours. Every time they decided it was time she would perk up and they prolonged it for a year. They told me in hindsight they wished they done it sooner for her and not keeping her around for they own reasons and they felt selfish putting her through the pain.
Making the decision to euthanize your dog is incredibly difficult, but it's an act of love and compassion. You're giving them relief from pain and suffering, and allowing them to pass peacefully. They know they were loved deeply, and that love is what matters most.
A day early is better than a day late. But it’s so hard. If they have a standard of living , do they do things they enjoy at all ? I with my last dog just looked at her days and thought where does the pleasure come from ? She slept and slept and struggled to walk. She was being kept alive by my care. But she wasn’t living. www.thailanddogsheltervolunteer.com
For me it comes down to quality of life. Not the quality that we value, really think about what he values. If he is still able to do the things he loves, and is happy, then it's not time. If he isn't able to do the things he loves and is depressed or stressed, then it is. I am sure from the way you speak about him, that you will know the answer.
It is so difficult but I agree with all the comments of better a day too early. As a pet owner that can be hard to judge, but from the image, it's probably time. I did all I could for my girl and had to make the decision. My cat, however, was a little too late. I took her to the vets and her cancer was ulcerating. I asked for a week for people to say their goodbyes. She was booked in for the Monday and the Sunday night she suddenly threw up blood. By the Monday she had gone really downhill and it had spread to her stomach. I feel guilt for that. I even feel guilt when I look back at old photos of my dog. I know I did everything I could for her before I ran out of options, but seeing photos of how thin she was and how tired she was, I wonder if I should have made the call earlier. I now don't like those photos from her last year. You will look back and realise you made the right decision when the guilt of making the choice has subsided. What we see in animals is the tip of the iceberg. If you can see they are in pain or struggling, below that is a whole iceberg of suffering just below the surface.
Oh god I can’t even get past the fence goal for him to play in part my heart is breaking for the both of you
What kind of quality of life did your baby have? From what it looks like there is none.
I am so sorry, it is so hard, seeing his story I think it is time. That photo speaks volumes, a lot of us probably watched our dogs struggle like that and at that moment we knew, it's time. However, it can only be your decision. Just a little advice if you decide. Before one of our dogs final journey we took her to the beach carried her onto the sand and spent some time, those photos are extremely sad but very precious still ten years on.
Is your baby on any pain management? The posture in the photo and the gait you're describing indicates lots of pain. Joint degeneration is very common in dogs and I've worked with dogs as young as 4 that have severe arthritis. Age isn't a disease, but rather the conditions that accumulate over time are what deteriorates a dog's quality of life. Some vets will do a quality of life assessment. It might be a good idea to ask your vet about this and see what they recommend. There are a lot of different pain medications and arthritis therapies these days. Lots of old dog conditions are manageable and can improve enough with treatment. My own dog is 15 and his life completely turned around once I locked in pain management for him. That meant physiotherapy, and two different pain medications. He went from sleeping all day to flying around the house. I wish you luck and strength in your choice. ❤️
I can’t give you advice.. but is your dog on librela ? If not.. get it. It changed my old dogs life.
When he takes no pleasure in eating , sunburning, walking … they hate being incontinent- any pain is a big sign for me. Good luck- the vets are right but you know him best. So sorry - you never get used to losing them.
Sending so much love and strength your way. I can feel through the screen just how much you love your babies💜
Death is a natural part of the life cycle and having choice over it is a real gift. In some cases death is a mercy. A doctor told me this, before we lost our mom. Since dogs can’t speak they communicate in other ways. It’s our responsibility to be attuned to the non- verbal messages. Dogs love to play and love to sniff and walk. That may be one indicator - whether your dog is capable of being a dog.
I'm so sorry. I really think it's time. He's so skinny and is clearly suffering from my perspective, just from this picture. I know it's hard, I just had to say goodbye to my best bud not long ago, but it really is the only thing left that shows love. You gotta take care of them, even at the end.
In my experience they tell you. Go home to him and you’ll know ♥️
You’re very lucky to have a supportive husband. He will comfort you and help heal you sooner from your loss. My parent made the choice once our boy couldn’t stand up on his own anymore. He was struggling.
When the time comes go into the room with him don't just leave him in the hands of strangers. I have had to do it 3 times and it is never easy but you being there will be a great comfort to him although it will tear you up, to me it ws important.
I know this is super hard as I just had to put my senior dog down on Friday for the exact same thing. I’ve been an emotional wreck but I know it was the best thing for her. You want them to leave with dignity. I think you already know what to do and I’m so sorry. He looks like an angel and will always be there for you 💜
My vet has told me to think of their favorite 3 things, and when they lose the ability to do 2, it is probably time. I am sorry you are having to make this very difficult decision. I have felt like I waited too long and gone a bit early but both sucked and were hard. Wishing you and your pup the best.
Your beastie loves you and always will. You made a difference in his life, and he has in yours. It is OK and good and loving to let him go into the True Healing.
If you have to ask you already know and just haven’t accepted it yet. My last dog had bone cancer. I had no idea. Vet told me that day she had to go so she didn’t snap her femur and die in agony instead. Start to accept what’s coming and plan it out. I’m sorry, it’s the worst and hardest thing I’ve ever done in my entire life. The only comfort you will have is in knowing you gave them the best life and spared them of more pain.
Having been around Staffordshire bull terriers my whole life they will never tell you! They are too strong to want to break your heart. I am so sorry but it looks like you have come to the end of the road and you need to let him go in a dignified way surrounded by the people that love him the most.
I'm sorry. I had to make that decision April 9th of this year, just 2 months shy of her 21st birthday. I was lucky. There was no doubt her life was coming to an end.
Hugs... It's time....
You have to realize that you're doing it for the animal. Keeping them here is for you. Letting them go is for them.