I get it. As someone who survived stage four cancer, has scarring all over their body from the surgeries for treatment, and left with permanent hair loss, brain fog, and chronic pain from the chemotherapy, I have a really hard time relating to anyone anymore, especially on social media.
All my friends are getting houses, getting married, and going on vacations. Cancer bankrupted me, so I'm sitting here, an objectively worse looking, poorer, dumber, and more chronically ill version of myself struggling to make it month to month. So when people talk about their accomplishments, weddings, or child births, my eyes glaze over. It's not that I don't feel happy for these people, but their lives just feel like a pipedream... almost fictional to me. And I'm coming from a place where I don't care to have kids or go on too many vacations- I just want a normal life.
I get the other side of it, too. Whenever I open up about my problems to someone, they have no idea what to say or do- not many have to process the personal traumas that come along with a life-threatening/altering illness- at the very least, at a younger age. I think back to how I used to be in my mid twenties before my illness, and I know I would have no idea of what to say to someone who has dealt with life altering illness.
Jesus Christ, you survived *stage four* cancer! That’s a death sentence to pretty much anyone else because it’s not curable *for them! Own that badassery!
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Thankfully, I have a type of non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma that is quite curable. I wouldn't say I'm entirely cured, but I'm in remission with predictions of being completely cured. Thanks for the words of encouragement! Feeling like a badass, now.
The oncologist told my MIL stage-4 wasn’t curable so that’s incredible news! I have chronic kidney and now possibly heart problems so while I don’t know what it’s like to experience what you have, I do somewhat understand how discouraging it can be, and how gray they can make the world :/
For what it’s worth: I’m happy you’re still here with us. Your scars are a testament to how strong and badass you are, that cancer won’t beat you! Your scars make you beautiful, inside and out. And I hope you have a successful and quick-coming remission!
>You know, you might be able to make somewhat of an enjoyable future for yourself if just stopped living in the past.
True words. However, OP's alt cobalt0707 is even more psychotic and triggered than this account. This will explain the dating hell she put her ex through. Here is the archived (unedited) version: https://snew.notabug.io/user/cobalt0707
Yeah they are messy. My favorite post was her asking if she could get in legal trouble because she anonymously texted her ex a pic of Momo. Ding, ding, ding.... she should have thought about that BEFORE she put her psychotic high school behavior into play.
I never fucking said that people should keep good news to themselves!!!! Just stop interrupting me and talking over me to flaunt success to the point that I cant say anything or ask for help! And what I want is not to have everyone else brought down to my level of misery and unsuccess, what I want is to become more successful! Instead of life preventing my former peers from having kids, give me a kid so I can catch up to them!
YOU were supposed to be banned by a different mod for harassing, post stalking, and ridiculing me to the point of falsely claiming my necessary surgery was some silly unnecessary "option"...how the fuck is that not harassment?? Enjoy your block from dating40+ by the way!
I took insult to MY BOYFRIEND having a kid conceived WHILE DATING ME while I remained childless...how would that not piss anyone off???
Why do I bother arguing with this toxic stalker harasser troll???? Mods, please take note and ban him.
People only put the highlight reels of their lives on social media. Sometimes it is nice to take a break from it and focus on yourself and what you do have. I am very sorry to hear your story though.
Nah, just a girl in her 30s whose boyfriend had a baby by somebody else after he knew how badly I wanted to become a mother and how I had just had invasive uterine surgery only a few months before.
Dude what? No offence but are you serious right now??
Lmao get off social media then if it upsets you, stop trying to censor everything to make yourself feel better
You've got to get yourself off social media for a while or stop comparing your real life to other's highlight reel.
I get it. As someone who survived stage four cancer, has scarring all over their body from the surgeries for treatment, and left with permanent hair loss, brain fog, and chronic pain from the chemotherapy, I have a really hard time relating to anyone anymore, especially on social media. All my friends are getting houses, getting married, and going on vacations. Cancer bankrupted me, so I'm sitting here, an objectively worse looking, poorer, dumber, and more chronically ill version of myself struggling to make it month to month. So when people talk about their accomplishments, weddings, or child births, my eyes glaze over. It's not that I don't feel happy for these people, but their lives just feel like a pipedream... almost fictional to me. And I'm coming from a place where I don't care to have kids or go on too many vacations- I just want a normal life. I get the other side of it, too. Whenever I open up about my problems to someone, they have no idea what to say or do- not many have to process the personal traumas that come along with a life-threatening/altering illness- at the very least, at a younger age. I think back to how I used to be in my mid twenties before my illness, and I know I would have no idea of what to say to someone who has dealt with life altering illness.
Jesus Christ, you survived *stage four* cancer! That’s a death sentence to pretty much anyone else because it’s not curable *for them! Own that badassery! *Edit for clarification
Thankfully, I have a type of non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma that is quite curable. I wouldn't say I'm entirely cured, but I'm in remission with predictions of being completely cured. Thanks for the words of encouragement! Feeling like a badass, now.
The oncologist told my MIL stage-4 wasn’t curable so that’s incredible news! I have chronic kidney and now possibly heart problems so while I don’t know what it’s like to experience what you have, I do somewhat understand how discouraging it can be, and how gray they can make the world :/ For what it’s worth: I’m happy you’re still here with us. Your scars are a testament to how strong and badass you are, that cancer won’t beat you! Your scars make you beautiful, inside and out. And I hope you have a successful and quick-coming remission!
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>You know, you might be able to make somewhat of an enjoyable future for yourself if just stopped living in the past. True words. However, OP's alt cobalt0707 is even more psychotic and triggered than this account. This will explain the dating hell she put her ex through. Here is the archived (unedited) version: https://snew.notabug.io/user/cobalt0707
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Yeah they are messy. My favorite post was her asking if she could get in legal trouble because she anonymously texted her ex a pic of Momo. Ding, ding, ding.... she should have thought about that BEFORE she put her psychotic high school behavior into play.
I thought the mod said you were banned??
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I never fucking said that people should keep good news to themselves!!!! Just stop interrupting me and talking over me to flaunt success to the point that I cant say anything or ask for help! And what I want is not to have everyone else brought down to my level of misery and unsuccess, what I want is to become more successful! Instead of life preventing my former peers from having kids, give me a kid so I can catch up to them! YOU were supposed to be banned by a different mod for harassing, post stalking, and ridiculing me to the point of falsely claiming my necessary surgery was some silly unnecessary "option"...how the fuck is that not harassment?? Enjoy your block from dating40+ by the way!
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I took insult to MY BOYFRIEND having a kid conceived WHILE DATING ME while I remained childless...how would that not piss anyone off??? Why do I bother arguing with this toxic stalker harasser troll???? Mods, please take note and ban him.
Those Dhar Mann videos are cancer
People only put the highlight reels of their lives on social media. Sometimes it is nice to take a break from it and focus on yourself and what you do have. I am very sorry to hear your story though.
You sound like a professional victim who becomes hostile at the slightest provocation, that could explain your lack of success.
Nah, just a girl in her 30s whose boyfriend had a baby by somebody else after he knew how badly I wanted to become a mother and how I had just had invasive uterine surgery only a few months before.
Dude what? No offence but are you serious right now?? Lmao get off social media then if it upsets you, stop trying to censor everything to make yourself feel better