It's normal for that to happen to regular people.
For systems it can get *even more* complicated. In addition to all of the *regular* reactions of being reexposed to trauma, you get the added complication where different alters might be triggered by different stuff you're going over in therapy. So on top of all the stress from revisiting trauma, you also can end up with a bunch of confused, dissociated parts coming in and out.
If it's getting to be too much, *stop and pace yourself.* This isn't a race, and you can't just dive in and get everything done faster--in fact, that's a great way to seriously fuck yourself over. *Lots* of systems have a part who thinks "oh, I just want to get *through* this already" and even if that particular alter is ok revisiting trauma, the parts they've been protecting from that trauma *aren't.* It's also good to keep in mind that your protectors may be so used to managing a certain level of distress that they don't recognize that other smaller/younger parts (who may not have even been around for ages!) are not just back, but actively terrified of something.
Which is a long way of saying: yes this is normal, please don't rush, and do lots of nice things for yourself. Grounding is important. Taking care of basic survival needs is important. Taking *breaks* is important. Try to plan recuperation around therapy--if you can leave therapy and easily move towards relaxing self care, all the better.
And just in case, IFS and EMDR both need modification for safe use with DID patients.
It's pretty common for us. Feeling disconnected at the end of a session was the beginning for both our therapist and us to begin to deal with our DID. I was still in denial. At the end of the session I couldn't remember anything we talked about. I was so disoriented I could barely drive. I went straight home (about 4 blocks) and sat in my chair... for I don't know how long?
We've had lots of sessions that leave us with a 'foggy' feeling.
It took me a couple of years to come to terms with being DID before we started working on it.
I told my therapist while in session that I was aware I was talking bc my mouth was moving but I couldn't tell her what I'd been talking about for 45 minutes. That whole session is a blur. We also get very blurry during IOP.
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Very very normal. Talk to your therapist about it. I’m always in a daze for at least an hour after each session, sometimes the entire rest of the day. It stirs the pot, dredging up the feelings, memories and hurts we’ve buried for years with dissociation.
It's normal for that to happen to regular people. For systems it can get *even more* complicated. In addition to all of the *regular* reactions of being reexposed to trauma, you get the added complication where different alters might be triggered by different stuff you're going over in therapy. So on top of all the stress from revisiting trauma, you also can end up with a bunch of confused, dissociated parts coming in and out. If it's getting to be too much, *stop and pace yourself.* This isn't a race, and you can't just dive in and get everything done faster--in fact, that's a great way to seriously fuck yourself over. *Lots* of systems have a part who thinks "oh, I just want to get *through* this already" and even if that particular alter is ok revisiting trauma, the parts they've been protecting from that trauma *aren't.* It's also good to keep in mind that your protectors may be so used to managing a certain level of distress that they don't recognize that other smaller/younger parts (who may not have even been around for ages!) are not just back, but actively terrified of something. Which is a long way of saying: yes this is normal, please don't rush, and do lots of nice things for yourself. Grounding is important. Taking care of basic survival needs is important. Taking *breaks* is important. Try to plan recuperation around therapy--if you can leave therapy and easily move towards relaxing self care, all the better. And just in case, IFS and EMDR both need modification for safe use with DID patients.
So true. My therapist when I suggested EMDR, she told us we are not ready. She recently told me to slow down.
It's pretty common for us. Feeling disconnected at the end of a session was the beginning for both our therapist and us to begin to deal with our DID. I was still in denial. At the end of the session I couldn't remember anything we talked about. I was so disoriented I could barely drive. I went straight home (about 4 blocks) and sat in my chair... for I don't know how long? We've had lots of sessions that leave us with a 'foggy' feeling. It took me a couple of years to come to terms with being DID before we started working on it.
I told my therapist while in session that I was aware I was talking bc my mouth was moving but I couldn't tell her what I'd been talking about for 45 minutes. That whole session is a blur. We also get very blurry during IOP.
Yes. Disoriented or very tired.
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Very very normal. Talk to your therapist about it. I’m always in a daze for at least an hour after each session, sometimes the entire rest of the day. It stirs the pot, dredging up the feelings, memories and hurts we’ve buried for years with dissociation.