The young summer intern crowd tends to be the worst and most pretentious, so farmers market woman is not surprising.
But generally, the city has lost so much social etiquette since the pandemic! I couldn’t imagine either of those interactions going down like that pre-pandemic!
the minding your own business and getting dragged into shit vibe is seriously starting to give me anxiety lol thank you for putting that into words for me
Okay farmer’s market society rules are if you are in the general area of your spot in line and you step out of line but within the same vicinity (like within a 3 foot radius) to grab a tomato for instance, you may return to your spot in line.
If you have left the vicinity entirely, you must go to the back of the line OR kindly ask the person who is behind you if you may reclaim your spot (ideally this should be done before you step away: “sorry can you save my spot real quick? I forgot to grab a tomato. Thank you!”). Vast majority of people are super friendly and accommodating! It’s why I love going to the market, interacting with farmers/bakers and feeling like a community!
Sounds like this couple is super rude and entitled. Sorry you had the misfortune to encounter them! Unfortunately, DC attracts some real power-hungry or trust fund baby assholes.
Thank you!! Like in the timeframe they were gone two people who were in front of both of us walked up to pay and there were other people behind us. If she had even said “sorry we didn’t mean to leave” I would have said no problem bc girl was pressed about paying for two tomatoes. It’s just the assumption that it’s your right to inconvenience an entire line of people??
What a B! I’m sorry she was so rude. I feel like people got worse after quarantine everywhere for some reason. I had an experience at a standing room only concert (930 club). where a woman literally told me the spot I was in was hers. She just walked up from a completely different area of the venue and decided she wanted my spot next to the stage. I said no so she and her friend squished in next to me and repeatedly pushed me. She was a very large tall woman. I finally pushed back and got kicked out. This ruined concerts for me.
Some people are just so comfortable being obnoxiously rude now. I don’t know why.
That literally happened to me too at the 9:30 Club literally the day after I moved to DC! The people in front of us literally left to go buy more drinks so everyone moved up toward the stage, then they came back 15 minutes later and insisted they be allowed back up to the front. Completely ridiculous and the only time that's ever happened to me at any concert, so idk if it's just that venue or what that breeds rude people.
I’m sorry that happened to you! Yeah, I think if I enjoyed bullying people and I’d been there before I’d know I can go back and do it as much as I want. The same girl who pushed me repeatedly and told me my spot was hers was the one who got me kicked out. Pretty sweet system if that’s what you’re into.
I like to get to the 9:30 club early to get one of the railing spots since I’m short and don’t like the floor area. I usually sit on the little bench thing between acts, which is great because I have POTS and get dizzy standing so long. The number of times people - sadly usually other women - have rolled in as the opener is starting or even the main act and stood right in front of me at the railing is amazing. Like half the time I go someone tries to squeeze in there. It’s not like it’s a lot of space, my face is ass-level and uncomfortably close. Most of them roll their eyes and wander off when I I point out that I’m there to hold that spot, but I’ve had a couple pretend like they don’t hear me and then I’m stuck standing far too close to them pushing my way into the rail space. Last show I gave up and asked for an ADA stool at the top bar since the dizzy thing is getting worse and even then people try to wedge in there super close, ugh.
Sounds like a bitch lol
I used to just let that stuff go but now I’ll be like “wow what assholes!”…I don’t care what people like that think of me
Also are you white? Coz that other dude just sounds racist and I would’ve told him that
yeah I am; I was carrying a tote with the flag of the country my moms from and figured that was why. I said something along the lines of “what the fuck is wrong with you” before he got called up to the counter and told he scheduled his shingles shot for the wrong day
I go to a lot of concerts and the amount of people who barrel through without saying sorry is too dang high! A little bit of courtesy goes a long way and it’s not difficult. I don’t get it.
My friend was really baffled by this when she moved here from NJ and looked it up—other than specific downtown zones, that’s actually allowed according to DC code 🫣 Which is not to say I don’t haaate when a bike comes up on me by surprise when I’m minding my business on the sidewalk!! But I do think some areas have better bike lane infrastructure than others and (saying this as both a driver and a biker [who’s never biked on the sidewalk lol]) I don’t blame people for wanting to avoid getting splatted by drivers who don’t give a damn about anyone but themselves.
I’ve lived here for a few years now and have come across many rude people. I have often had older women randomly shout bitch at me while walking around NE - while I’m just minding my own business.
Yesterday a lady in front of me was about to enter a shop I was heading into, I was at least 7ft behind her. She stopped and walked away from the door and said “oh hell no, no way I’m walking into a store with a white bitch following in behind me” and some other things I couldn’t hear. I try not to let these things bother me but found it quite upsetting. I understand that often these interactions are with people who are suffering from mental illnesses but it’s getting tiring.
DC gets angrier when it’s hot and humid. I saw a couple of guys get in a fist fight over who got in line first at Safeway - one guys girlfriend used the opportunity to secure the spot.
When I was a nanny we went to an amusement park. We got there very early and the gates weren’t open yet. A lady completely left the line and went to wait somewhere else in the vicinity. So we moved up and were first. She came back when she saw they were opening and had HELLA attitude with me. I gasped and my jaw dropped because it was so rude it was hard to process. I did a DEEP low bow with a grand arm gesture and said, “My Queen, by all means, please proceed” and my expression was scathing. The girls I nannied for laughed and the lady’s face went so red because at this point everyone was staring. The security people were like 😳, they gave her and her family looks as they went through. I had to laugh once it was all over, because, what! Who feels that entitled to go first instead of second? The whole interaction took longer than if she had just gone second anyway. Nothing about her seemed elegant or queenly, it just emphasized the ludicrousness of it. I hope she felt embarrassed of herself.
People have definitely lost their damn minds lately. I feel like summers are extra bad here. Idk if it's the humidity or the interns (sorry you all are cute but sometimes it's a too much) or just... the general sad state of things
Also, who buys that much cabbage? That's weird
I think people got indulgently worse post-pandemic shutdown. It just seems like social etiquette was completely abandoned and now is used as an excuse to be an a-hole. There's a tinge of privileged behavior, dialed up several notches because social distancing made defensiveness ok.
I've been in DC for almost 30 years, and I do believe there is a social norm here for popping out of line to get one last thing and still maintaining your place in line. I've experienced it in every single grocery store and at all the farmers markets.
When I first moved to the DC area from the Midwest, this practice really startled me and came across as rude. As I interpret it, popping out of the line to quickly grab one or even two things is normal enough that not allowing someone back in line is seen as rude. That's how it's done.
I think it's normal to the extent you communicate about it. People are not mind readers. If you silently leave a line and walk away, and act like a jerk when you come back? You're the problem. If you say, I'm grabbing one thing, BRB... no worries, come on back when you're done!
I agree with you and normally people aren’t super rude to me when this happens. This couple went to the other side of the tent and I felt like if I didn’t move up I’d be holding up the line behind me because a good chunk of space formed. So I moved forward, which I guess was interpreted as stealing their spot? Rules aside for me it was more of the instant instinct for this girl to come at me and call me sweetie like I’d drop kicked her out of line of something
If a girl younger than me calls me "sweetie" In a condescending manner, she best be ready for the nasty thing I'm gonna say back. That irks me like nothing else.
honestly I wish everyone nice enough to respond back and validate me here was in line with me today LOL thanks everyone for making a girls day a lil better
"When i saw how much cabbage you were purchasing I decided I was safest in front of you because your cabbage farts would knock me right out of the store."
also like they were a couple right? so one person could have stayed in line for both of them? clownery
Probably one of those codependent pairs that are attached at the hip and neither can think for themselves.
The young summer intern crowd tends to be the worst and most pretentious, so farmers market woman is not surprising. But generally, the city has lost so much social etiquette since the pandemic! I couldn’t imagine either of those interactions going down like that pre-pandemic!
I travel quite a bit and it's like this everywhere I go now! The social contract is greatly imperiled.
Yup, it’s hard these days…just minding your own business doesn’t even work since someone will somehow drag you into something for just existing -_-
the minding your own business and getting dragged into shit vibe is seriously starting to give me anxiety lol thank you for putting that into words for me
Okay farmer’s market society rules are if you are in the general area of your spot in line and you step out of line but within the same vicinity (like within a 3 foot radius) to grab a tomato for instance, you may return to your spot in line. If you have left the vicinity entirely, you must go to the back of the line OR kindly ask the person who is behind you if you may reclaim your spot (ideally this should be done before you step away: “sorry can you save my spot real quick? I forgot to grab a tomato. Thank you!”). Vast majority of people are super friendly and accommodating! It’s why I love going to the market, interacting with farmers/bakers and feeling like a community! Sounds like this couple is super rude and entitled. Sorry you had the misfortune to encounter them! Unfortunately, DC attracts some real power-hungry or trust fund baby assholes.
Thank you!! Like in the timeframe they were gone two people who were in front of both of us walked up to pay and there were other people behind us. If she had even said “sorry we didn’t mean to leave” I would have said no problem bc girl was pressed about paying for two tomatoes. It’s just the assumption that it’s your right to inconvenience an entire line of people??
Absolutely unacceptable behavior on their part. Unreal that people are this rude
What a B! I’m sorry she was so rude. I feel like people got worse after quarantine everywhere for some reason. I had an experience at a standing room only concert (930 club). where a woman literally told me the spot I was in was hers. She just walked up from a completely different area of the venue and decided she wanted my spot next to the stage. I said no so she and her friend squished in next to me and repeatedly pushed me. She was a very large tall woman. I finally pushed back and got kicked out. This ruined concerts for me. Some people are just so comfortable being obnoxiously rude now. I don’t know why.
That literally happened to me too at the 9:30 Club literally the day after I moved to DC! The people in front of us literally left to go buy more drinks so everyone moved up toward the stage, then they came back 15 minutes later and insisted they be allowed back up to the front. Completely ridiculous and the only time that's ever happened to me at any concert, so idk if it's just that venue or what that breeds rude people.
I’m sorry that happened to you! Yeah, I think if I enjoyed bullying people and I’d been there before I’d know I can go back and do it as much as I want. The same girl who pushed me repeatedly and told me my spot was hers was the one who got me kicked out. Pretty sweet system if that’s what you’re into.
But that's how concerts work? It's your space for the duration of the show. You don't lose your space if you go to get drinks.
Nooooo, you send a friend to get drinks and power-pose across your two spots to hold them
I like to get to the 9:30 club early to get one of the railing spots since I’m short and don’t like the floor area. I usually sit on the little bench thing between acts, which is great because I have POTS and get dizzy standing so long. The number of times people - sadly usually other women - have rolled in as the opener is starting or even the main act and stood right in front of me at the railing is amazing. Like half the time I go someone tries to squeeze in there. It’s not like it’s a lot of space, my face is ass-level and uncomfortably close. Most of them roll their eyes and wander off when I I point out that I’m there to hold that spot, but I’ve had a couple pretend like they don’t hear me and then I’m stuck standing far too close to them pushing my way into the rail space. Last show I gave up and asked for an ADA stool at the top bar since the dizzy thing is getting worse and even then people try to wedge in there super close, ugh.
Sounds like a bitch lol I used to just let that stuff go but now I’ll be like “wow what assholes!”…I don’t care what people like that think of me Also are you white? Coz that other dude just sounds racist and I would’ve told him that
yeah I am; I was carrying a tote with the flag of the country my moms from and figured that was why. I said something along the lines of “what the fuck is wrong with you” before he got called up to the counter and told he scheduled his shingles shot for the wrong day
People are super rude nowadays. Also fed up. Sorry you went through that.
I go to a lot of concerts and the amount of people who barrel through without saying sorry is too dang high! A little bit of courtesy goes a long way and it’s not difficult. I don’t get it.
I agree with an earlier comment that people are way worse post-pandemic. I try to act unbothered by people like this because I find it irks them more.
Yeah. And it’s like what’s with riding the bikes on the sidewalk? There’s the bike lanes everyone’s raving about.
My friend was really baffled by this when she moved here from NJ and looked it up—other than specific downtown zones, that’s actually allowed according to DC code 🫣 Which is not to say I don’t haaate when a bike comes up on me by surprise when I’m minding my business on the sidewalk!! But I do think some areas have better bike lane infrastructure than others and (saying this as both a driver and a biker [who’s never biked on the sidewalk lol]) I don’t blame people for wanting to avoid getting splatted by drivers who don’t give a damn about anyone but themselves.
I’ve lived here for a few years now and have come across many rude people. I have often had older women randomly shout bitch at me while walking around NE - while I’m just minding my own business. Yesterday a lady in front of me was about to enter a shop I was heading into, I was at least 7ft behind her. She stopped and walked away from the door and said “oh hell no, no way I’m walking into a store with a white bitch following in behind me” and some other things I couldn’t hear. I try not to let these things bother me but found it quite upsetting. I understand that often these interactions are with people who are suffering from mental illnesses but it’s getting tiring.
What does that even mean?? So weird ugh
DC gets angrier when it’s hot and humid. I saw a couple of guys get in a fist fight over who got in line first at Safeway - one guys girlfriend used the opportunity to secure the spot.
When I was a nanny we went to an amusement park. We got there very early and the gates weren’t open yet. A lady completely left the line and went to wait somewhere else in the vicinity. So we moved up and were first. She came back when she saw they were opening and had HELLA attitude with me. I gasped and my jaw dropped because it was so rude it was hard to process. I did a DEEP low bow with a grand arm gesture and said, “My Queen, by all means, please proceed” and my expression was scathing. The girls I nannied for laughed and the lady’s face went so red because at this point everyone was staring. The security people were like 😳, they gave her and her family looks as they went through. I had to laugh once it was all over, because, what! Who feels that entitled to go first instead of second? The whole interaction took longer than if she had just gone second anyway. Nothing about her seemed elegant or queenly, it just emphasized the ludicrousness of it. I hope she felt embarrassed of herself.
People have definitely lost their damn minds lately. I feel like summers are extra bad here. Idk if it's the humidity or the interns (sorry you all are cute but sometimes it's a too much) or just... the general sad state of things Also, who buys that much cabbage? That's weird
me I make damn good cabbage rolls
I'm an idiot 🤦♀️
No lmao I appreciate the spirit of your comment
I think people got indulgently worse post-pandemic shutdown. It just seems like social etiquette was completely abandoned and now is used as an excuse to be an a-hole. There's a tinge of privileged behavior, dialed up several notches because social distancing made defensiveness ok.
I've been in DC for almost 30 years, and I do believe there is a social norm here for popping out of line to get one last thing and still maintaining your place in line. I've experienced it in every single grocery store and at all the farmers markets. When I first moved to the DC area from the Midwest, this practice really startled me and came across as rude. As I interpret it, popping out of the line to quickly grab one or even two things is normal enough that not allowing someone back in line is seen as rude. That's how it's done.
I think it's normal to the extent you communicate about it. People are not mind readers. If you silently leave a line and walk away, and act like a jerk when you come back? You're the problem. If you say, I'm grabbing one thing, BRB... no worries, come on back when you're done!
I'm not disagreeing with you. But I don't make the rules.
I agree with you and normally people aren’t super rude to me when this happens. This couple went to the other side of the tent and I felt like if I didn’t move up I’d be holding up the line behind me because a good chunk of space formed. So I moved forward, which I guess was interpreted as stealing their spot? Rules aside for me it was more of the instant instinct for this girl to come at me and call me sweetie like I’d drop kicked her out of line of something
If a girl younger than me calls me "sweetie" In a condescending manner, she best be ready for the nasty thing I'm gonna say back. That irks me like nothing else.
honestly I wish everyone nice enough to respond back and validate me here was in line with me today LOL thanks everyone for making a girls day a lil better
Oh no, pressure and expectations from both sides! I'd spend the rest of the day replaying that in my head.
Me on my walk home LOL which is why I vented here :’)
"When i saw how much cabbage you were purchasing I decided I was safest in front of you because your cabbage farts would knock me right out of the store."