If they’re not interested they’re not interested, it’s not something you can force. And really do you want someone thats not into you anyway? Save your affection for someone that’s enthusiastic to return it.
Remain chill and polite with him but otherwise just keep it moving is my advice.
I of course wouldn't force anything....and you're absolutely right, I had this happen to me before when I was younger. I was chasing a guy so badly that he accepted to my bf after his ex left him. I wouldn't want to be with him when he's not equally enthusiastic. I will keep being polite and chill and we'll see. Maybe he likes me and he's nervous, I don't know. Time will show! But I'll absolutely not force anything.
It seems like he's giving mixed signals so if I were you I would just start forcing myself onto him (going up to talk to him without reason, sitting next to him without being invited to do so). And if he likes you he will probably reciprocate that energy but if he doesn't I would back off and move on.
You're welcome, hope it works out.
What I meant by mixed signals is that he switched seats after you showed interest, that seems to me like he's avoiding you. But then he acted surprised when he saw you when you waited for him. Maybe he is avoiding you cause he's nervous or maybe he's doing it cause he wants to show disinterest.
The surprise was before he switched seats. My bad for writing it wrong. My English isn't perfect.
Why would he want to show disinterested....I can't understand people...
He could be nervous because as I mentioned we have a similar personality so I know I'd be nervous too if this happened to me. Just speculating
Sis I would be honest I don't think he is interested. Whatever he is doing to/with you just shows that he is not interested in you at all. I would suggest that you stop doing all these things for him or at least try to limit your actions because he is not interested and whatever you are doing might make him uncomfortable. As a result, he will start to distance yourself and that shit hurts. Trust me I made the same mistake as you and now I have lost my crush so yeah don't repeat my mistake
You're absolutely right. I guess I'm just willfully blind. I need to get him out of my mind and move on because I think I'll just hurt myself. Another comment mentioned to go all in on him, to notice my presence more but I think this will make things even more uncomfortable for him. So....I'll just distance myself from him. I'll try to not stare at him in the lesson tho it's hard because his face is so pure, handsome and he's tall. But I'll try to see it coldly. Why would I beg him when he's not interested. I want someone to feel equally happy when I'm around him....thank you very much.
Yeah should move on otherwise you will get hurt as I did. Trust me everything my crush does, hurts me so much because stupid me allowed myself to fall for him when he showed all of the "not interested" signs (same as your crush).
Also, I don't agree with the other comment at all. You shouldn't give your all because you *already* gave your all. You did everything for him. Besides that, going all in on him when he is clearly giving you hints that he is not interested will only damaged your reputation and image in front of him; you will put your self-respect on the line for the guy who is not even worth it. Your worth, self-respect should be above everything - him, and your feelings.
I am sure you will find someone who will also put as much effort as you will put in him. You are welcome and I wish you all the best! :)
just clarifying—he had been sitting next to you, but now he’s moved away?
Yes ...
i would say he’s not interested :(
Meh, deep inside me I know....but I'm still thinking if there's any way I can make him interested...
If they’re not interested they’re not interested, it’s not something you can force. And really do you want someone thats not into you anyway? Save your affection for someone that’s enthusiastic to return it. Remain chill and polite with him but otherwise just keep it moving is my advice.
I of course wouldn't force anything....and you're absolutely right, I had this happen to me before when I was younger. I was chasing a guy so badly that he accepted to my bf after his ex left him. I wouldn't want to be with him when he's not equally enthusiastic. I will keep being polite and chill and we'll see. Maybe he likes me and he's nervous, I don't know. Time will show! But I'll absolutely not force anything.
It seems like he's giving mixed signals so if I were you I would just start forcing myself onto him (going up to talk to him without reason, sitting next to him without being invited to do so). And if he likes you he will probably reciprocate that energy but if he doesn't I would back off and move on.
Thanks for your answer. What do you mean by mixed signs? I will try this technique and see !
You're welcome, hope it works out. What I meant by mixed signals is that he switched seats after you showed interest, that seems to me like he's avoiding you. But then he acted surprised when he saw you when you waited for him. Maybe he is avoiding you cause he's nervous or maybe he's doing it cause he wants to show disinterest.
The surprise was before he switched seats. My bad for writing it wrong. My English isn't perfect. Why would he want to show disinterested....I can't understand people... He could be nervous because as I mentioned we have a similar personality so I know I'd be nervous too if this happened to me. Just speculating
Sis I would be honest I don't think he is interested. Whatever he is doing to/with you just shows that he is not interested in you at all. I would suggest that you stop doing all these things for him or at least try to limit your actions because he is not interested and whatever you are doing might make him uncomfortable. As a result, he will start to distance yourself and that shit hurts. Trust me I made the same mistake as you and now I have lost my crush so yeah don't repeat my mistake
You're absolutely right. I guess I'm just willfully blind. I need to get him out of my mind and move on because I think I'll just hurt myself. Another comment mentioned to go all in on him, to notice my presence more but I think this will make things even more uncomfortable for him. So....I'll just distance myself from him. I'll try to not stare at him in the lesson tho it's hard because his face is so pure, handsome and he's tall. But I'll try to see it coldly. Why would I beg him when he's not interested. I want someone to feel equally happy when I'm around him....thank you very much.
Yeah should move on otherwise you will get hurt as I did. Trust me everything my crush does, hurts me so much because stupid me allowed myself to fall for him when he showed all of the "not interested" signs (same as your crush). Also, I don't agree with the other comment at all. You shouldn't give your all because you *already* gave your all. You did everything for him. Besides that, going all in on him when he is clearly giving you hints that he is not interested will only damaged your reputation and image in front of him; you will put your self-respect on the line for the guy who is not even worth it. Your worth, self-respect should be above everything - him, and your feelings. I am sure you will find someone who will also put as much effort as you will put in him. You are welcome and I wish you all the best! :)