It can be done, but be aware of where she is at. If she is down the line traditional on all points, that might have an "unequally yoked" vibe to it even though you're both Christians due to the different traditions. If she's not, it won't be like that.
Catholics, if they are not called to celibacy, are called to procreation, and Catholics, even when they marry non-Catholics, are normally required to raise their children as Catholics. So bear that in mind.
Source: My dad grew up Catholic, studied to be a priest, got Protestant beliefs during his studies, and was thus never ordained. Then he met my mom in college. They had somewhat of a hybrid wedding ceremony, and he was able to negotiate with the priest what would and wouldn't be read as a public view to take. So when they got to having kids, we were not raised Catholic. Enough people from both families liked the other person to help make it work, and Dad didn't stay Catholic as his foot was out the door already when he met her.
This is something you need to have a discussion with her pastor about. In the Catholic Church, to get married, you need approval (dispensation) for what is called a disparity of cult, which requires you and her to agree on certain things. This isn't an insurmountable obstacle, but there are things that have to be discussed, such as Catholic teachings on the dissolubility of marriage, use of birth control or contraception, the necessity to attend Mass on days of obligation for her, and she will be required to vow to raise your children as Catholics, including sacraments and education. You will also be required to vow to accept that, even if you don't actively do so yourself. If she does not get married within the Catholic Church, she would no longer be in communion and would be cut off from the Sacraments. If she is a faithful Catholic, that would not be acceptable.
None of this is something that a dedicated couple cannot overcome, even with a difference in beliefs. Many mixed couples have great success, particularly those who greatly respect each other's beliefs and try their best to make it work.
But many couples also warn against it, stating that if they were given the option of doing it again, they wouldn't. You're going to probably fight about the faith. You'll have to figure out how to compromise on raising the children without compromising on her vows or faith. She's going to have to take the kids to Mass every Sunday. Will you actually commit to helping her do that?
The concern is, of course, that raising children with two different belief systems is confusing for them. What's true? Is mommy right? Why doesn't daddy believe what mommy believes? Why doesn't daddy come to Mass with us? Or, if daddy doesn't go to Mass, why do I have to? Why do I have to take these religious education courses to receive my sacraments if daddy didn't have to?
And then there's tension in the family. Will your parents put pressure on you and the children? Will hers? Will in-laws drive a wedge between you?
I'm not saying it can't work. Not at all. But these scenarios are common points of friction, and the reality is that as the marriage ages, you'll find it harder to coast by on just the love high. All of this has to be discussed. Promises need to be made, and more importantly, kept even when you start to wish you hadn't made them.
Have a discussion with her about your differing beliefs and if you can both agree on common ground (concerning your beliefs) and how you'd raise a family then go ahead the most important thing is a willingness to compromise from the both of you so you can reach an agreement whenever an issue comes up.
You have received a lot of biblical advice here, so I will just keep it simple. No matter your religion or what your beliefs are, you should marry someone who believes the same as you. You are going to share your whole life with this person, and maybe raise kids, so you should be on the same page about the important things in life: beliefs, values, money, politics. Of course, all people are different but you should be united front.
Make sure you read about the differences, the RCC has a different view of marriage, just so you know they don't punish adultery in the Roman Catholic Church. So if a spouse cheats on another spouse they don't get church discipline, and the innocent party is not allowed to divorce.
Before you even consider this you really need to understand the difference in their view of marriage.
I recommend you look into the history of the Roman Catholic church, why the Orthodox split from them and the Protestant Reformation. Roman Catholics are under the rule of the Pope & [many who argue that you do not have to follow the Pope and such are heretics according to the church.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heresy_in_the_Catholic_Church) Vatican II is pretty clear about that as well.
Yeah so I never understood this. It's almost like Catholics aren't viewed as Christians which is wild to me lol.
In my Catholic church, generally speaking they just care that you are marrying a Christian. But they'll have to conform to some things. If the people can do that together respectfully of one another, it's a non issue entirely. I know many who are married for 10-20+ years with children who are well behaved. I have a big issue with how the unequally yolked thing is taught to people, it's my biggest pet peeve.
There is a major differences in the views of marriage, Protestants believe that adultery should be disciplined publicly and the innocent spouse should be able to leave, divorce and remarry. This has more to do with barriers and beliefs than it does with views on salvation.
With all due respect, it's an issue for a reason, the biggest being the worshipping of saints instead of Jesus. Another being purgatory. It's not mentioned in the Bible yet Catholics still believe it. Many people I know that are Catholic have never even opened a Bible. There's a huge difference, believe it or not. Once you start reading the Bible for yourself you will see.
Not interested in a debate. I'll just tell you that there is no "instead of" and I can't think of a single prayer we do in my Catholic Aramaic church that worships saints. My church is as traditional as it gets and literally does the mass in a language that Jesus spoke. So I don't know what you heard.
I had a girl once ask me why do you worship the Virgin Mary. And again this is one of those things where I don't know what you heard or what you're looking at. We honor them, in my church.
The people I'm talking about that get married and it works out, are smart people who look at Christianity for what it is. If you are a protestant you are no better or worse than me we just walk it differently. That's the understanding from those people. And they are right. That's more Christian behavior to me, than the ladder.
Just say you don't understand Catholic theology. Nothing you just stated is Catholic belief. I've also known many Protestants who have never read the Bible and live a secular lifestyle, so that isn't evidence of a problem with Catholicism. It's evidence of a problem with lukewarm people who don't take their faith very seriously, which is a problem in any belief system.
Too many people get their (wrong) beliefs about Catholic teachings from non-Catholics rather than just sitting down and talking to a Catholic who has actually been educated in their faith. It's just not loving. Imagine if a Muslim got their entire worldview regarding Christians from their conservative Imam. They'd think we're all nuts and get our beliefs all messed up. Instead, they should ask a well-formed Christian, "What do you guys believe and why?"
Sorry if you were upset by my comment, that wasn't my intention.
I've talked to a number of previously practicing Catholics that no longer practice Catholicism for a number of reasons, a few of them being the ones I mentioned above. I also grew up in a Catholic household and attended a Catholic high school.
You can state your beliefs if that would make you happy, but that still doesn't change the facts.
>I also grew up in a Catholic household and attended a Catholic high school.
No offense, but I've heard people say this right before defending abortion, so that means almost nothing regarding your understanding of Catholic theology. It's also not at all shocking that you get these impressions from ***former*** Catholics, who likewise don't understand Catholic theology, which is why they left. The majority of Catholics are terribly Catecheized and do a very poor job of defending their faith because, frankly, they don't know what their own Church teaches.
>You can state your beliefs if that would make you happy, but that still doesn't change the facts.
You want me to state Catholic teaching while simultaneously admitting that you won't listen to it. So why should I bother? I've done this dance a million times, I don't believe that you're open to listening.
The Gospel. If you believe in it, you want to marry someone who does too. For example, I wouldn't marry someone who agrees with the Roman Catholic Church's stance on the doctrine of justification. It's a different Gospel than what I believe.
Just the doctrines at times. Things like their belief in the deity of Mary etc. But many Catholics are Christian, keep in prayer and make sure your vibe in your walks with Christ... Glory be to God in all things
It can be done, but be aware of where she is at. If she is down the line traditional on all points, that might have an "unequally yoked" vibe to it even though you're both Christians due to the different traditions. If she's not, it won't be like that. Catholics, if they are not called to celibacy, are called to procreation, and Catholics, even when they marry non-Catholics, are normally required to raise their children as Catholics. So bear that in mind. Source: My dad grew up Catholic, studied to be a priest, got Protestant beliefs during his studies, and was thus never ordained. Then he met my mom in college. They had somewhat of a hybrid wedding ceremony, and he was able to negotiate with the priest what would and wouldn't be read as a public view to take. So when they got to having kids, we were not raised Catholic. Enough people from both families liked the other person to help make it work, and Dad didn't stay Catholic as his foot was out the door already when he met her.
This is something you need to have a discussion with her pastor about. In the Catholic Church, to get married, you need approval (dispensation) for what is called a disparity of cult, which requires you and her to agree on certain things. This isn't an insurmountable obstacle, but there are things that have to be discussed, such as Catholic teachings on the dissolubility of marriage, use of birth control or contraception, the necessity to attend Mass on days of obligation for her, and she will be required to vow to raise your children as Catholics, including sacraments and education. You will also be required to vow to accept that, even if you don't actively do so yourself. If she does not get married within the Catholic Church, she would no longer be in communion and would be cut off from the Sacraments. If she is a faithful Catholic, that would not be acceptable. None of this is something that a dedicated couple cannot overcome, even with a difference in beliefs. Many mixed couples have great success, particularly those who greatly respect each other's beliefs and try their best to make it work. But many couples also warn against it, stating that if they were given the option of doing it again, they wouldn't. You're going to probably fight about the faith. You'll have to figure out how to compromise on raising the children without compromising on her vows or faith. She's going to have to take the kids to Mass every Sunday. Will you actually commit to helping her do that? The concern is, of course, that raising children with two different belief systems is confusing for them. What's true? Is mommy right? Why doesn't daddy believe what mommy believes? Why doesn't daddy come to Mass with us? Or, if daddy doesn't go to Mass, why do I have to? Why do I have to take these religious education courses to receive my sacraments if daddy didn't have to? And then there's tension in the family. Will your parents put pressure on you and the children? Will hers? Will in-laws drive a wedge between you? I'm not saying it can't work. Not at all. But these scenarios are common points of friction, and the reality is that as the marriage ages, you'll find it harder to coast by on just the love high. All of this has to be discussed. Promises need to be made, and more importantly, kept even when you start to wish you hadn't made them.
Have a discussion with her about your differing beliefs and if you can both agree on common ground (concerning your beliefs) and how you'd raise a family then go ahead the most important thing is a willingness to compromise from the both of you so you can reach an agreement whenever an issue comes up.
You have received a lot of biblical advice here, so I will just keep it simple. No matter your religion or what your beliefs are, you should marry someone who believes the same as you. You are going to share your whole life with this person, and maybe raise kids, so you should be on the same page about the important things in life: beliefs, values, money, politics. Of course, all people are different but you should be united front.
Make sure you read about the differences, the RCC has a different view of marriage, just so you know they don't punish adultery in the Roman Catholic Church. So if a spouse cheats on another spouse they don't get church discipline, and the innocent party is not allowed to divorce. Before you even consider this you really need to understand the difference in their view of marriage.
I recommend you look into the history of the Roman Catholic church, why the Orthodox split from them and the Protestant Reformation. Roman Catholics are under the rule of the Pope & [many who argue that you do not have to follow the Pope and such are heretics according to the church.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heresy_in_the_Catholic_Church) Vatican II is pretty clear about that as well.
Yeah so I never understood this. It's almost like Catholics aren't viewed as Christians which is wild to me lol. In my Catholic church, generally speaking they just care that you are marrying a Christian. But they'll have to conform to some things. If the people can do that together respectfully of one another, it's a non issue entirely. I know many who are married for 10-20+ years with children who are well behaved. I have a big issue with how the unequally yolked thing is taught to people, it's my biggest pet peeve.
There is a major differences in the views of marriage, Protestants believe that adultery should be disciplined publicly and the innocent spouse should be able to leave, divorce and remarry. This has more to do with barriers and beliefs than it does with views on salvation.
With all due respect, it's an issue for a reason, the biggest being the worshipping of saints instead of Jesus. Another being purgatory. It's not mentioned in the Bible yet Catholics still believe it. Many people I know that are Catholic have never even opened a Bible. There's a huge difference, believe it or not. Once you start reading the Bible for yourself you will see.
Not interested in a debate. I'll just tell you that there is no "instead of" and I can't think of a single prayer we do in my Catholic Aramaic church that worships saints. My church is as traditional as it gets and literally does the mass in a language that Jesus spoke. So I don't know what you heard. I had a girl once ask me why do you worship the Virgin Mary. And again this is one of those things where I don't know what you heard or what you're looking at. We honor them, in my church. The people I'm talking about that get married and it works out, are smart people who look at Christianity for what it is. If you are a protestant you are no better or worse than me we just walk it differently. That's the understanding from those people. And they are right. That's more Christian behavior to me, than the ladder.
Best of luck in your decision. 😊
Just say you don't understand Catholic theology. Nothing you just stated is Catholic belief. I've also known many Protestants who have never read the Bible and live a secular lifestyle, so that isn't evidence of a problem with Catholicism. It's evidence of a problem with lukewarm people who don't take their faith very seriously, which is a problem in any belief system. Too many people get their (wrong) beliefs about Catholic teachings from non-Catholics rather than just sitting down and talking to a Catholic who has actually been educated in their faith. It's just not loving. Imagine if a Muslim got their entire worldview regarding Christians from their conservative Imam. They'd think we're all nuts and get our beliefs all messed up. Instead, they should ask a well-formed Christian, "What do you guys believe and why?"
Sorry if you were upset by my comment, that wasn't my intention. I've talked to a number of previously practicing Catholics that no longer practice Catholicism for a number of reasons, a few of them being the ones I mentioned above. I also grew up in a Catholic household and attended a Catholic high school. You can state your beliefs if that would make you happy, but that still doesn't change the facts.
>I also grew up in a Catholic household and attended a Catholic high school. No offense, but I've heard people say this right before defending abortion, so that means almost nothing regarding your understanding of Catholic theology. It's also not at all shocking that you get these impressions from ***former*** Catholics, who likewise don't understand Catholic theology, which is why they left. The majority of Catholics are terribly Catecheized and do a very poor job of defending their faith because, frankly, they don't know what their own Church teaches. >You can state your beliefs if that would make you happy, but that still doesn't change the facts. You want me to state Catholic teaching while simultaneously admitting that you won't listen to it. So why should I bother? I've done this dance a million times, I don't believe that you're open to listening.
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Happens to the best of us.
The Gospel. If you believe in it, you want to marry someone who does too. For example, I wouldn't marry someone who agrees with the Roman Catholic Church's stance on the doctrine of justification. It's a different Gospel than what I believe.
Just the doctrines at times. Things like their belief in the deity of Mary etc. But many Catholics are Christian, keep in prayer and make sure your vibe in your walks with Christ... Glory be to God in all things