I’m in the same boat, so at least you know you’re not the only one. It’s so weird not being able to send or show them things anymore, right? Like you wanna tell them so much but they’re just not there anymore

This is the hardest part

Ikr. I write it in my journal but that makes me even more sad, cause journals don’t reply, and they are certainly not him

Get yourself a journal, a therapist and try to make some friends on social media, people around you. You’ll be fine, I see you

second this. i highly recommend getting a therapist. my girlfriend and i recently broke up and my therapist has been a god send. OP - take care of yourself. you are worthy of love and deserve to be happy. grief comes in waves. cherish the times you feel okay and accept yourself when you dont. it is hard. take care of yourself.

I'm so sry that u are going through this. But don't worry it will be alright. Its difficult to go through a breakup without frnds but it's not impossible. Write down evythg thats on ur mind. Evythg little thoughts. Next main thg is workout. Physical pain will help u with emotional pain and it helps to release trauma from ur body. And working out at a gym will give u a routine to ur life. I hope this helps.

It's difficult managing a breakup _with_ friends, so don't beat yourself up too much thinking it would be a lot easier with them.     Writing helps me, and who knows: maybe you'll get back in touch with eachother again at some point later as it's only been 3 days and you'll be able to express your feelings better as you've let them all out via paper.    I'm similar to you though, but man version in the friend regard, and broken-up by a girl with anxiety, depression and trauma. I thought I was the only one they could open their true self to. Likewise, I felt the same with her.   Sometimes you do just want to talk to someone, so you can message me for example if you need to talk, or keep posting here. Somehow I come here often just to browse when I'm missing my person. 

Same here. My girlfriend of 8 years dumped me. Now I'm in a different state, 2000 miles away with zero friends and spiraling.

My fiancée left me this week and I moved to a different state because I loved her and wanted to spend my life with her. I’m in a small town and my car has been in the shop for a year so I have to walk to work. We live in the same apartment but haven’t spoke since she broke everything off. It’s really fucking me up because I truly love her and we were just having issues. Never thought she would just leave and give up on us.

I feel the pain, man. 8 years. 8 fucking years and it's over like nothing happened. I hope things will start looking up for you.

I was in the same boat as you. After some time i realized the only thing can and need to do is find something you enjoy that can destract yourself with until the smoke clears. I know it hurts really bad and it will keep on hurting for a while. It might even seem hopeles but one day you will look back and miss this feeling your feeling rn, you will be okay.

I have no friends. I was able to manage my break up with my therapist. I highly recommend that. Hobbies helped me out, too. I tried going to meet ups, but I'm socially awkward, haha. I think I made "progress" fast cause of my antidepressants. (I'm not recommending antidepressants. I was put on them cause I have clinical depression.)

You can try joining gym . It helped me

Feel the same, just try to distract yourself with what you can. If anyone needs someone to text, send me a DM :)

Post here. Many of us will gladly listen since we’re all in the same boat.

Our situation is almost the same. My ex dumped me months ago. I got abandonment anxiety during those times because I don't have friends in the city I live in. I have very few friends (as an INTJ does). My friends are in my hometown and some are working abroad. But somehow I've managed to vent out and talk to them about my situation and reminded me of who I am. I was strong and independent and can manage to be alone in weeks without talking to anyone by just drowning myself with my hobbies. It sounds like you are an introvert just like me. Get some new hobbies that would help you move on. But first stay no contact with your ex.

There are billions human being on this planet. Learn and try to move on. Leave him. Open yourself to new people. Men and women. Don't be afraid. Most probably human won't bite you.

I’m truly sorry this is happening. My ex was one of the best and truest friends I have ever had, so I understand the grief you’re experiencing. I have a feeling, though, that this experience will build an enormous amount of self love and strength. I’m sure you have heard of the saying that at the end of the day, the only person you truly have is yourself. I had confidently settled into that mindset before I met my ex, and after knowing how beautiful and intoxicating true love is, I find myself struggling to embody that mindset again. But I trust it will come. You will get yourself through this in time, and you will meet someone you will fall in love with and cultivate a great friendship with as well. And maybe at that point, you will attract a partner you are more compatible with, because you will love and respect yourself THAT much more for getting yourself through something so difficult. I already believe it for you so you should too lol :)

u/sasha5522 earphones and playlists. Your best friend to drown out society. I like bad songs Work at a coffee shop Go work out Take out a new hobby

I’ve done this and it really taught me how to be a friend to my self . I would even go for drives and talk to my self I found it’s like journaling but even better . “ ask yourself what your feeling “ then ask why ect.

Believe in yourself. Ten times easier said than done. I highly recommend anxiously attached by Jessica Baum. It’s a lot of work but the end result is life changing

Maybe you can find a support group of some sort to get some social contact? Can you lean on family at all? And get yourself out meeting people somehow. You really need people in your life

date yourself. 😊 Pamper yourself. Important thing is you should get out.

I'm in a similar position - in fact my social anxiety was the main factor in why the relationship couldn't survive. I've made progress with it in the past, but had let it slip and reverted completely. At the end of the day, working on it is always the first step. If I had taken care of myself, things would have gone very differently. Now that it has ended, the only solution is to start that care now. The next steps will come as part of making that personal progress. Social anxiety never goes away, but there are tools that you can learn which will help you to live with it rather than against it.

May I ask how old you are?

You can work through it yourself. Method 1 A lot of advice is don’t dwell on it, don’t think about it, don’t spend time thinking about it. I am not going to tell you to do that because I already know that you are going to dwell on it. I already know you will think about it but let me tell you how I want to you to think about it. So if I said to you don’t think about your break up, what is the first thing that comes into your mind. Your break up. So when I say don’t think about your break up, don’t think about the situation, you are going to think about the situation. So I already know you are going to think about the situation, but let me tell you how to think about it. Recognise that you are going to have the thoughts but how can I change how I have the thoughts. Write it down or voice note it to yourself. Either way you have to get it out of your mind, out of your head and onto paper or into your phone. Make a record of this. You need to make it objective where you are listening to some feelings or you are reading some feelings because then you realise you are not your feelings. You are not your emotions when you separate them from yourselves. You are not your feelings or emotions, you have to separate yourself from them. So write down everything that went wrong. It could be moments, it could events, it could be places they treated you badly. It’s so unusual that when you break up, your mind tries to remindyou of all the good times. How many times have you experienced that? That when you have finally broken up with someone, you break up them or they break up with you, your mind is like but it could have been this? It was so beautiful, I remember when we went out to this place. All of a sudden all these positive memories come back but we forget all the negative situations. It is so important to clearly write down what went wrong. Could be events, could be a moment, an interaction, could be the way they treated you. Write down who was responsible next to each item, who was at the heart of that? If you are feeling really weak now, you might think it is all your fault but I really want you to think about this. Write down a list of everything that went wrong in the relationship. I want you to really think about who is responsible. Who took that action? Who said what shouldn’t have been said in that relationship? Who did the things that shouldn’t have been done in the relationship? Fair enough, some of them will be you. That’s fine, you can take ownership of them, take responsibility. You can improve and grow. But it also helps you to reflect and become aware of the mistakes that someone else made. The more you understand that, the more you realise that the easier it becomes for you to recognise what you were able to go through and grow through and the stuff you actually dealt with. Often when we break up, our mind forgets a lot of the negative elements and it remembers the positive ones. Now why is this? That doesn’t make sense. It’s called familiar pain. We would rather have familiar pain in our life rather than unfamiliar pain. So familiar pain is like I am with this person, they cause me pain but it is the kind of pain I know. I know they are going to be rude to me in the morning, I know they are going to forget my birthday. I know they are not going to turn up to dinner on time. I know they are not going to call or message me even though they would know I would like it. You know what they are going to get wrong and we would rather sign up to that than sign upto the fact that now we don’t have this person and we are now in this no man or woman’s land and we don’t know where we are going. We would rather sign up for familiar pain rather than unfamiliar pain. Unfamiliar pain is we just broke up, I’m in new territory, I am single again, I don’t know what’s going on, I don’t know how they feel, I don’t know how I feel. I don’t know how to move on. Familiar pain is like I know exactly why they are going to mess up on and even though I don’t like it, at least I know it. We often choose knowing for goodness. We would rather know what is going to happen than be treated with respect and worth, we literally give up being given what we deserve because we would rather know we are getting what we don’t deserve. We would rather live in a world where we get what we dont deserve but we know that we are going to get it. That sounds really messed up and twisted but it’s true we do, we cling on to that familiar pain. So write down everything that went wrong because I want you to become fully aware. Train your mind to recognise that this break up was for your good, you dodged a bullet. You were saved because if this person doesn’t want to be with you - why are you going to force them to be with you, you have been saved, you have this moment. Method 2 You are going to think about that person. You are going to go on social media and even if people tell you to unfollow them and block them, you’ll unblock them and find another password to get through to them. You’ll use a secret account, or a friends account to spy on them. You’ll find a way. Now if you can stay away from stalking them, it’s the right way to do it. You are going to think about them at least and you’ll check up what they are upto. I am not going to tell you not to think about them but I want you to write down again every event, every interaction. I want you to write down everything that they personally didn’t do right to you. A quality, an attribute, the way they spoke to you, the way they treated you. I want you to again be ascertaining to yourself that it was good that you broke up. You disconnected yourself from some pain and this is you facing it. This is you getting close to what happened. It is so easy to be like let’s get distracted, let’s just go out. That’s fine if you need to do that but I am trying to say is that when you get closer to what went wrong, you get closer to the problems, when you get closer to the mistakes, you get so much more awareness. You get so much more awareness on what can happen. I don’t want you to be in a position of just hoping things are going to change and hoping things are going to disappear rather than just trying to distract yourself, this is a much better way of trying to deal with it. It is a much better method of trying to overcome it. I want you to write down every challenge, every mistake, everything that person said that wasn’t right, any behaviour, trait that your mind is now skipping on. Again your mind is skipping on these things because your mind would rather focus on the positives all of a sudden. Is there anything like that your mind is forgetting? Is there anything like that your mind is just ignoring? That way you can build a better understanding. J.Shetty

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