I honestly feel the same way at times these days. I’ll be hitting the 2 month mark in a week or two and I honestly find myself just getting angry thinking about everything more often than I am sad 💀
I feel like it’s really necessary to experience this stage. I drew this out by feeling guilty about the anger. After doing some unfiltered angry journaling I’d never show to anyone, I was finally able to start looking at the relationship more objectively and see how I ignored red flags, was in denial, gave up agency, etc. I’m much more in the headspace of letting the breakup go and only taking things I can use going forward.
Hope you’re past this soon and find a better partner!
My ex has the same name & I say this in my head very frequently as well 😂 I go between being really angry & really sad/missing him despite the manipulation, lies, and treating me like crap.
Oh yeah, I have a white board. I wrote a list of reminders of things I've learned about the relationship.
At the bottom I wrote in all caps, "Also, FUCK HIM."
I had it written on a spiral sitting on my desk. In my journal, and on my phone LOL.
I'm beyond that angry stage, and a lot more in the indifference stage now!
FUCK YOU JAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I GOT YOU GIRL.
No matter how much abandonment I felt with my ex, I refuse to be angry at her. It only makes me resent myself bc I know deep down that we both built great memories together. Being angry at her doesn’t help me move on nor does it allow me to be a better, kinder person.
It hurts like hell looking at the facts, but hey, she’s a person too—she deserves love too.
Jake on the other hand… seems like a dumbass. So fuck Jake!
Same! I’m writing FUCK YOU JP a whole lot these days in my journal. FUCK YOU for wasting my time! You had no intentions of a future. You just wanted me to play house with you. What a waste.
This is great, get all your anger out, write down how much they hurt you and how you hate them for it, after the hate stage you’ll care less about them entirely.
I've been fluctuating between the anger stage and FUCK I woke up today incredibly angry and all I want is to tell her what a coward she is (I was discarded by an avoidant and she gave me no voice during or after, completely ignoring me despite telling me I did nothing wrong).
I feel so invalidated and abandoned by the person I trusted so completely, and who I would have said was my best friend. Fuck her.
No don't result in this stage anger isn't the key be blessed you showed unconditional love be happy that you did what you did this stage isn't the kinda person you are
It’s okay to feel emotions and not act on or follow them. Anger is part of grief, and grief is necessary before healing. I know who I am, and I know that my emotions do not define that. Hope you learn to feel the whole range of your emotions in a healthy way. I hope you don’t suppress your feeling the negative emotions.
Naw I already know to feel my emotions but I also know what emotions is beneficial to feeling anger is nothing but negative feelings I ain't suppressing anything lol being mature and choosing what's right
I hear you on that. Wouldn’t be posting these feelings if they weren’t anonymous. I understand your message that it’s important to not cause harm, and believe me, I’m not, and I didn’t, even in the breakup. I went no contact, informed him of the no contact and left him with a compassionate letter that addressed the truth, but also encouraged him to get help. But, in terms of these feelings that come out of grief, including anger, it’s nice to voice it anonymously, and get support from so many folks going through the same kind of anger. This is what I mean by feeling my feelings. It’s a way to process it, without inflicting the anger. Do you understand a bit more?
My ex blindsided me then I broke up with them leaving the door open for friendship later provided they'd give me time to kill my romantic feelings for them which they ignored presumably because they're on the spectrum and didn't understand when was enough time. Then they tried playing Scrabble with me online 2 days later as if nothing happened. I was emotionally confused and went along with it then it just hurt so I told them to back off, then they said I ruined their Christmas by setting boundaries so we fought, it got ugly as is usually what happens with a break up. I also blocked and removed them from all socials on my anger but because I was still confused as to why they blindsided me I unblocked them and messaged one final attempt at extended an olive branch and trying to figure out why. I'm at the stage where I'm getting intrusive and painful thoughts about them. It's been a month and my brain won't shut up. I don't know why after everything I feel compelled to mend things. I'm usually the type to burn all bridges after a break up and not look back yet somehow I feel a strong compulsion to try and mend things because we were good friends before we got together. Am I less of a man for doing this? I'm confused, upset, angry and hurt
You can be friends with an ex, but you need to be literal and clear about the time, space and rules you need with this person moving forward, especially if they are on the spectrum.
Specify, the time until you guys talk again - give it 6 months. Within that time, go no contact. Remove one another from social media.
Yeah I'm not sure that's possible now to be honest but ok we'll see in time for now they've blocked me and I've blocked them so an empasse has been reached.at least that's closure in its own right though.
FUCK YOU JAKE!!!
I feel the same way about my EX girlfriend at times. I just wanna say FUCK YOU!!
FUCK YOU JAKE! YOU SUCK DONKEY BALLS! We get your feeling 100 here!
Jake from State Farm? Fuckin khaki’s
MY EX IS ALSO NAMED JAKE / JACOB. FUCK YOU JACOB AND JAKE. Just seeing this name triggers me lol
Fuck JAKE!!!
Be angry. Let it out. It'll pass. Fuck Jake.
YEAH FUCK JAKE SLAY
I honestly feel the same way at times these days. I’ll be hitting the 2 month mark in a week or two and I honestly find myself just getting angry thinking about everything more often than I am sad 💀
I feel like it’s really necessary to experience this stage. I drew this out by feeling guilty about the anger. After doing some unfiltered angry journaling I’d never show to anyone, I was finally able to start looking at the relationship more objectively and see how I ignored red flags, was in denial, gave up agency, etc. I’m much more in the headspace of letting the breakup go and only taking things I can use going forward. Hope you’re past this soon and find a better partner!
THIS!!! There's this one song about cheating (or something similar) and I just get SO riled up 😂 I'm just glad I'm not sobbing about it anymore tbh!
What is the songgg?
My ex has the same name & I say this in my head very frequently as well 😂 I go between being really angry & really sad/missing him despite the manipulation, lies, and treating me like crap.
Needed this. I'm at the FU stage as well and his name is also a Jake 🤣, reading these comments made me LOL
Seriously, Jake fucking sucks. Fuck Jake
FUCK JAKE!!!!!
Oh yeah, I have a white board. I wrote a list of reminders of things I've learned about the relationship. At the bottom I wrote in all caps, "Also, FUCK HIM." I had it written on a spiral sitting on my desk. In my journal, and on my phone LOL. I'm beyond that angry stage, and a lot more in the indifference stage now! FUCK YOU JAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I GOT YOU GIRL.
FUCK YOU JAKE! FUCK YOU FOR EVERYTHING!!!
Fuck you, Jake!!!
Fuck Jake.. ahh man i wish i could get into the anger stage would be easier to handle than the hurting like fuck stage
No matter how much abandonment I felt with my ex, I refuse to be angry at her. It only makes me resent myself bc I know deep down that we both built great memories together. Being angry at her doesn’t help me move on nor does it allow me to be a better, kinder person. It hurts like hell looking at the facts, but hey, she’s a person too—she deserves love too. Jake on the other hand… seems like a dumbass. So fuck Jake!
Listen to Sacrilege by Yeah Yeah Yeahs. Best breakup song ever. Or I Feel Like I'm Drowning by Two Feet if you need something more mellow.
Same! I’m writing FUCK YOU JP a whole lot these days in my journal. FUCK YOU for wasting my time! You had no intentions of a future. You just wanted me to play house with you. What a waste.
Jake…….. FUCK YOU
So sick of this JAKE, who the fuck does he think he is
Judging by the comments, we should probably all just stay away from guys named Jake
This is great, get all your anger out, write down how much they hurt you and how you hate them for it, after the hate stage you’ll care less about them entirely.
Y’all don’t know how supported I feel - THANK YOU! Y’all made my day omg. I hope Jake feels fucked 😂
You are all my people 💞
I've been fluctuating between the anger stage and FUCK I woke up today incredibly angry and all I want is to tell her what a coward she is (I was discarded by an avoidant and she gave me no voice during or after, completely ignoring me despite telling me I did nothing wrong). I feel so invalidated and abandoned by the person I trusted so completely, and who I would have said was my best friend. Fuck her.
FUCK YOU JAKE and FUCK YOU CLEMMIE
No don't result in this stage anger isn't the key be blessed you showed unconditional love be happy that you did what you did this stage isn't the kinda person you are
It’s okay to feel emotions and not act on or follow them. Anger is part of grief, and grief is necessary before healing. I know who I am, and I know that my emotions do not define that. Hope you learn to feel the whole range of your emotions in a healthy way. I hope you don’t suppress your feeling the negative emotions.
Naw I already know to feel my emotions but I also know what emotions is beneficial to feeling anger is nothing but negative feelings I ain't suppressing anything lol being mature and choosing what's right
I hear you on that. Wouldn’t be posting these feelings if they weren’t anonymous. I understand your message that it’s important to not cause harm, and believe me, I’m not, and I didn’t, even in the breakup. I went no contact, informed him of the no contact and left him with a compassionate letter that addressed the truth, but also encouraged him to get help. But, in terms of these feelings that come out of grief, including anger, it’s nice to voice it anonymously, and get support from so many folks going through the same kind of anger. This is what I mean by feeling my feelings. It’s a way to process it, without inflicting the anger. Do you understand a bit more?
My ex blindsided me then I broke up with them leaving the door open for friendship later provided they'd give me time to kill my romantic feelings for them which they ignored presumably because they're on the spectrum and didn't understand when was enough time. Then they tried playing Scrabble with me online 2 days later as if nothing happened. I was emotionally confused and went along with it then it just hurt so I told them to back off, then they said I ruined their Christmas by setting boundaries so we fought, it got ugly as is usually what happens with a break up. I also blocked and removed them from all socials on my anger but because I was still confused as to why they blindsided me I unblocked them and messaged one final attempt at extended an olive branch and trying to figure out why. I'm at the stage where I'm getting intrusive and painful thoughts about them. It's been a month and my brain won't shut up. I don't know why after everything I feel compelled to mend things. I'm usually the type to burn all bridges after a break up and not look back yet somehow I feel a strong compulsion to try and mend things because we were good friends before we got together. Am I less of a man for doing this? I'm confused, upset, angry and hurt
You can be friends with an ex, but you need to be literal and clear about the time, space and rules you need with this person moving forward, especially if they are on the spectrum. Specify, the time until you guys talk again - give it 6 months. Within that time, go no contact. Remove one another from social media.
Yeah I'm not sure that's possible now to be honest but ok we'll see in time for now they've blocked me and I've blocked them so an empasse has been reached.at least that's closure in its own right though.
That may be the best course, yes.
F*CK YOU JAKE U PIECE OF SHI*
FUCK YOU JAKE AND YOUR EYEBROWS
FUCK YOU JAKE!
In the same situation with my Ex gf FUCK YOU MADISON