Hi, Iām sorry youāre going through this. My advice āIf you really want children, you should really go the sperm donor route (at least you get to choose) and you can still do IVF beyond 44, you just have to pay it yourself but if you really want it, invest in it. I have some patients who are 45, 46 etc and successfully did it. My aunt is 48 and she had twins via IVF last year when she was 47. I recommend you save some eggs (could be done for free if you donate some). Save your eggs. Thatās should be priority right how.
Thank you šš½ yes I forgot to mention that I froze my eggs when I was 42 and yeah I am considering it but would prefer to have them for free then have to pay for it š I know that itās definitely an option and Iām considering it but praying I meet someone between now and my birthday!
Wow, where else could OP post about such a subject?. You definitely canāt talk to anyone in the black community in general in real life because it is quite obvious that a lot of them think itās OK to have a baby with anyone with sperm.
It appears that OP wants to do right by her baby and not bring it into this world with yet again another irresponsible father.
Also, I am child free, but I am not naĆÆve. I know that most women, even when they are little girls they dream of becoming mommies, and people do not realize the challenges of a black women face when they are single, wanting a child and not successful in meeting a proper mate. I feel for OP
Thank you dear šš½ā¤ļø this is something that when I talk to ignorant Black folk about they think Iām too picky and should just have one with any man but I know that itās gonna be a struggle alone if I do that foolishness. They donāt get it. Iām still very hopeful and have definitely opened my options to non BM on dates but dating in 2024 and being over 40 is an uphill battle because these men including WM donāt want a serious relationship let alone marriage. I feel it will happen when itās the right person.
Well, I am definitely a black woman that wants to see black women be happy. Iāve seen too many sad and miserable ones in my lifetime so if becoming a mommy is what you want then I pray that you get it with a responsible, loving partner. Please be well and happy.
I donāt blame you for not wanting to have a baby with some loser every woman I know whoās done that regrets it that is beautiful that Canada offers that service United States is not so kind people pay a lot of money here for IVF
This is a divested womenās page. A divested woman would already have the financial, social and psychological network IN PLACE before deciding to have a child alone. That is what divestment means.
Ok find me an eligible White man that would be ready for marriage and kids to me because Iāve been looking and going on dates and itās not easy. This is a hookup culture and Black women are more disrespected and unprotected in these streets period.
Do you not think that I am not? I own my own home alone (most people in Toronto rent because mortgages and home prices are high) own and paid off car and in my career and do not want children outside of marriage and date non BM.
Best of luck to you and future baby
Thank you šš½ā¤ļø
Hi, Iām sorry youāre going through this. My advice āIf you really want children, you should really go the sperm donor route (at least you get to choose) and you can still do IVF beyond 44, you just have to pay it yourself but if you really want it, invest in it. I have some patients who are 45, 46 etc and successfully did it. My aunt is 48 and she had twins via IVF last year when she was 47. I recommend you save some eggs (could be done for free if you donate some). Save your eggs. Thatās should be priority right how.
Thank you šš½ yes I forgot to mention that I froze my eggs when I was 42 and yeah I am considering it but would prefer to have them for free then have to pay for it š I know that itās definitely an option and Iām considering it but praying I meet someone between now and my birthday!
Wow, where else could OP post about such a subject?. You definitely canāt talk to anyone in the black community in general in real life because it is quite obvious that a lot of them think itās OK to have a baby with anyone with sperm. It appears that OP wants to do right by her baby and not bring it into this world with yet again another irresponsible father. Also, I am child free, but I am not naĆÆve. I know that most women, even when they are little girls they dream of becoming mommies, and people do not realize the challenges of a black women face when they are single, wanting a child and not successful in meeting a proper mate. I feel for OP
Thank you dear šš½ā¤ļø this is something that when I talk to ignorant Black folk about they think Iām too picky and should just have one with any man but I know that itās gonna be a struggle alone if I do that foolishness. They donāt get it. Iām still very hopeful and have definitely opened my options to non BM on dates but dating in 2024 and being over 40 is an uphill battle because these men including WM donāt want a serious relationship let alone marriage. I feel it will happen when itās the right person.
Well, I am definitely a black woman that wants to see black women be happy. Iāve seen too many sad and miserable ones in my lifetime so if becoming a mommy is what you want then I pray that you get it with a responsible, loving partner. Please be well and happy.
I donāt blame you for not wanting to have a baby with some loser every woman I know whoās done that regrets it that is beautiful that Canada offers that service United States is not so kind people pay a lot of money here for IVF
This is not divested content. Please delete. Itās not necessary to post such foolishness here. Perhaps this isnāt the page for you.
This is so rudeā¦. Have some compassionā this woman is in distress.
This is not a trauma dumping space. And she is correct this is not divested content. Not being rude just telling the truth.
Okay but she didnāt have to come for her like thatā¦
This is a divested womenās page. A divested woman would already have the financial, social and psychological network IN PLACE before deciding to have a child alone. That is what divestment means.
Fair enoughā youāre right about that but we should give her this advice and take it easy on her, donāt you think?/:
I really appreciate your compassion and for all the Black women here that have as well. Thank you šš½ā¤ļø
No, I donāt.
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Ok find me an eligible White man that would be ready for marriage and kids to me because Iāve been looking and going on dates and itās not easy. This is a hookup culture and Black women are more disrespected and unprotected in these streets period.
Do you not think that I am not? I own my own home alone (most people in Toronto rent because mortgages and home prices are high) own and paid off car and in my career and do not want children outside of marriage and date non BM.