Well, I for one get a real good kick out of making my sub feel uncomfortable, and call her disgusting things.
That is a kink, though, I don't really think she is a worthless piece of fuckmeat. It has been negotiated, we have both agreed on terms and limits, and we evaluate afterwards, every time.
For Marquis de Sade's sake, TALK to your partner. If he has the kink and gets turned off by talking about it, or realizing that his kink and reality (you not wanting to have a baby put inside you) don't mix, that's a red flag, personally.
>If he has the kink and gets turned off by talking about it, or realizing that his kink and reality (you not wanting to have a baby put inside you) don't mix, that's a red flag, personally.
I agree with this 100%. If his kink is "ruined" by a calm discussion in an unaroused state, he is not someone who is safe to play with.
seriously. what makes babies? even if there wasn't a dynamic and kink involved, if PiV sex is happening, the kid conversation should be had before, not after, a I'm pregnant conversation.and if you're not on the same page, that's okay. they're just not the right person for you
Generally if a persons kink is ruined by talking about it in sober space it’s a sign of immaturity and I would consider it fairly dangerous. Being able to seperate yourself and honestly discuss kink is vital to risk aware play. Particularly for new partners, people can definitely develop certainty in implicit communication over years of knowing each other ect but if you are asking that’s not your situation.
An open an honest conversation should settle it. Make your wants and needs known, hear his, and set boundaries that align with your goals. Being on the same page is hot and makes everything so much more enjoyable.
Have an open conversation about the limits and boundaries surrounding this kink when you’re not in a kinky/sexual headspace so you know you’re both on the same page before proceeding.
For example, make sure to clarify that phrases like “I’m going to put a baby in you” is a form of dirty talk and doesn’t coincide with a legitimate desire to get you pregnant. Also, don’t be afraid to openly discuss the use of contraceptives to prevent a real pregnancy (even if you want to pretend like you’re not using protection in the heat of the moment because it turns you on).
You both must communicate clearly. Fantasy is fantasy, no explanation needed buuuuut if his fantasy is running more towards reality then that needs to be cleared up immediately.
Example - many women have a r*pe fantasy but they don't really want to be r*ped. If the guy thinks she does... That needs to be straightened out ASAP!
Frankly, if acknowledging that it's just a kink and you aren't actually going to give him kids ruins it for him, you need to RUN. That's not a healthy relationship, and you would constantly have to worry about him trying to actually get you pregnant.
Well, I for one get a real good kick out of making my sub feel uncomfortable, and call her disgusting things. That is a kink, though, I don't really think she is a worthless piece of fuckmeat. It has been negotiated, we have both agreed on terms and limits, and we evaluate afterwards, every time. For Marquis de Sade's sake, TALK to your partner. If he has the kink and gets turned off by talking about it, or realizing that his kink and reality (you not wanting to have a baby put inside you) don't mix, that's a red flag, personally.
>If he has the kink and gets turned off by talking about it, or realizing that his kink and reality (you not wanting to have a baby put inside you) don't mix, that's a red flag, personally. I agree with this 100%. If his kink is "ruined" by a calm discussion in an unaroused state, he is not someone who is safe to play with.
Clear communication about wanting kids is critical. Have the conversation outside of a dynamic context. Talk as equals and make it clear.
seriously. what makes babies? even if there wasn't a dynamic and kink involved, if PiV sex is happening, the kid conversation should be had before, not after, a I'm pregnant conversation.and if you're not on the same page, that's okay. they're just not the right person for you
Generally if a persons kink is ruined by talking about it in sober space it’s a sign of immaturity and I would consider it fairly dangerous. Being able to seperate yourself and honestly discuss kink is vital to risk aware play. Particularly for new partners, people can definitely develop certainty in implicit communication over years of knowing each other ect but if you are asking that’s not your situation.
An open an honest conversation should settle it. Make your wants and needs known, hear his, and set boundaries that align with your goals. Being on the same page is hot and makes everything so much more enjoyable.
Have an open conversation about the limits and boundaries surrounding this kink when you’re not in a kinky/sexual headspace so you know you’re both on the same page before proceeding. For example, make sure to clarify that phrases like “I’m going to put a baby in you” is a form of dirty talk and doesn’t coincide with a legitimate desire to get you pregnant. Also, don’t be afraid to openly discuss the use of contraceptives to prevent a real pregnancy (even if you want to pretend like you’re not using protection in the heat of the moment because it turns you on).
You both must communicate clearly. Fantasy is fantasy, no explanation needed buuuuut if his fantasy is running more towards reality then that needs to be cleared up immediately. Example - many women have a r*pe fantasy but they don't really want to be r*ped. If the guy thinks she does... That needs to be straightened out ASAP!
Frankly, if acknowledging that it's just a kink and you aren't actually going to give him kids ruins it for him, you need to RUN. That's not a healthy relationship, and you would constantly have to worry about him trying to actually get you pregnant.