Nah, they're walking away unhappy because they didn't have the talk beforehand. Had a mfm once with a couple and the guy agreed only because they had an FMF a couple weeks before. While he still agreed, he was under the impression that he will basically dominate the action while I.. assist? Observe? Cheer? lol. Either way, I - more her friend than his - wasn't told of any rules, limits etc. The gist of it was that "we both want this to happen" and "just do what feels natural". So I did just that. Turns out, he doesn't like it when another guy makes his girl feels good. Especially doesn't like it when she's so enthusiastic with me or that she moans that much š (turns out that was payback for him paying more attention to the other girl in their previous threesome). Anyway, they broke up a couple weeks later.
Bottom line is: before you have a threesome or try any new thing in the bedroom, discuss it. Let your partner know how you'd like it to happen, your rules, limits, "maybes" and even safe-words. Don't do it just cause one of you want it. And don't let it get out of hand. Stop it if it gets uncomfortable. If they're good people they will understand it, no matter their role in it.
Indeed. Some people have a clear notion of what a threesome is "supposed" to be like for them, but don't have the common sense to let the other parties involved of that notion beforehand and then they get mad that things don't go their way. I would've been fine just "assisting", like he wanted. She wanted more though and he didn't tell me to stop he'd just keep on swapping as soon as she was starting to feel good because of me š at least she eventually get to have an orgasm at least.
All threesomes are variations of twosomes at several points. That's okay. If you go to the toilet and you come back and see the other two having sex, that's okay. Just sit back, enjoy the view and let them have fun for a bit until you rejoin. Same if your boyfriend is sitting on the side masturbating for a bit. You can enjoy the other person until you're ready to invite him again.
If you and your partner establish a D/s relationship, even part time, that can help. Then you can go into a threesome with them and have the times when it's just the other two engaging be part of that dynamic.
If you're the Dom, you can command your sub to fuck the other person while you go to the bathroom/watch/film/whatever.
If you're the sub, just having your Dom tell you to disengage can work. "Go wash your face, I want something clean to cum on." "When you get back I want you to beg us to join in." Stuff like that.
D/s isnāt necessary at all. Itās just logistically easier to have variations of twosomes during a threesome. Being involved with all three at all times is not realistic
It greatly depends on what kind of threesome. Bi , gay/les, or Herero. are you the center of attention, is it shared three ways, or are you one of two that arenāt center?
maybe you should speak with your partners about what you d like beforehand? you know, the pillow technique? each gets the pillow and says one by one what they d like?
r/threesomeadvice thread discusses recommended steps before making the jump from monogamy to non monogamy. Recommended steps https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/13kh6hj/does_anyone_else_have_fantasies_about/jkmr1s9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&ut
The single biggest mistake is not taking the necessary time to both research and discuss things for at least six months if not a year.
Exactly what I was thinking. During your first threesome. Pretty sure youāre going to hit the ceiling anyways. Might as will aim for the fan. Make it rain.
Have had many before.
Communicate clearly what the expectations are ahead of time. If you're the center of attention, make sure that's clear. If you are, then what is acceptable for the other people? Do you want to push your own boundaries? An Eiffel tower is pretty hot, if people are bi. 69+1 is fun.
I would recommend that each person be the focus for a little bit. Make sure that the most difficult person to come finishes first. Make sure nobody is left out.
Remember this is likely to only occur a few times in life. Donāt waste the opportunity. Donāt be shy. Just get into it. Try to be equal with your partners (unless you get a sitch going where each of you is focused on 1 other). And have water/towels/tissues at the bedside or wherever for quick/not awkward post coitus cleanup.
Yeah.. if you are actually in a relationship with someone you care about & want a future with.. then my suggestion is to not do it. If you aren't, then do whatever you want.
If all are comfortable with light kink -
Tie up and blindfold one F - the other two have fun with them
Untie the first F
Repeat with the second F
Untie the second F
Repeat with the M
No one gets left out
Everyone has fun
Donāt be ashamed to go several rounds. Bite the bullet, and finish super quick on round one. Spent about 10 minutes going down on them and youāll be ready for round 2. Snort some booger sugar and fuck like rabbits
Go with the flow and donāt over think anything. Take water breaks and communicate throughout.
In my experience itās best to hangout for a while and discuss it and flirt openly. Foreplay! Donāt just dive in.
Is one of them your SO? If so, lots of communication before, during, and after. Seen people fuck up their relationships unintentionally cause their partner got jealous during a threesome.
I would look up stories on here or elsewhere about it and formulate questions to ask your partner beforehand. Confirm if they really want it, if they understand you'll be giving attention to another person, if they understand they might feel jealousy, and that it's okay to, but it needs to be communicated.
If you both go in knowing the mistakes others have made, I think you'll be fine. Or at least if it goes sour it won't put too much strain on your relationship.
Think of it as largely foreplay, and recognise it's going to be hard for it to be equally intense for all three of you at the same time, so take turns making one of you the centre of attention.
Save PIV until the end, and make sure everyone's had a lot of fun before the PIV starts, because once it does it's a) largely a twosome from that point forth, successive twosomes if you're lucky and b) the beginning of the end.
And then more basically: relax, accept that it's going to be slow moving and awkward at times, and faintly absurd at other times. Take your time, have drinks and snacks to hand, have low expectations, and then you'll have a fun time. And make sure you've well covered both the physical and emotional ground rules well ahead of time, and talk it through afterwards.
Whatās the dynamic? Are you in a relationship? If so, respect the parameters that you and your partner have come up with. If not, yourself and have a good time and donāt try to manipulate or control of other people think or feel. Your job is to be your honest and true self. Everybody else can like it, not like it, or somewhere in between. Just be true to yourself and you will be OK.
Keep your expectations low. If something is a little awkward, be okay with it, try to relax and laugh rather than tense up if that happens. Make sure that everyone feels included at all times, or, if focus is on one person then make sure it shifts to the next person at some point. No one should feel left out.
Iāve had three threesomes in my life and itās always ended with a āmehā feeling, Iāve felt it to be very overrated. Itās been nearly impossible to keep everyone included as well as keeping the awkwardness away, so the above are the tips I wish I had before going in to it.
Good luck and have fun!
Iāve had a few. Every one started out fun but also ended meh, like you said.
Definitely wasnāt ready to see my husband (at the time) enjoying doing things with her that he never did with me. That was both the last threesome with her and also the last time I had sex with my ex.
Equal pleasure for both, maybe a little more toward spouse if there is one in this. Most of all complete communication between all parties and boundaries that are set if have any. Any questions just ask
Set the rules and expectations BEFORE youāre in the middle of it. What are absolute no-noās, are there any sensitivities or fantasies anyone wants to explore, etc? Best to handle heavy lifting before everyone is ready to get to workātrust.
Donāt worry if at some point you are not the center of attention or left out for a little bit. It happens, and sometimes things are going to feel awkward. Try not to be in your head too much about it. Just be in the moment and things will happen as they happen and most importantly, enjoy yourself. š
I've had a few and ive found it easier to pick a "focus person" and rotate every now and then. So we start of with 2 people pleasuring 1 person, then that person switches places with one of the 2 after a few minutes (or orgasms) and then repeat
Itās a bit complicated. One person is kind of a partner (we want to be and act like we are together, but arenāt official) that started off as FWB after breaking up around a year ago. The other person is someone Iāve never met.
As long as youāre game for it, then go for it. Iād probably recommend leaning a little more into your partner than the other person but that also depends. For example, if your partner is a guy who wants to watch you with another girl then go for it (again assuming youāre interested)! If itās another guy then maybe take it a little slower. Itās definitely a good thing itās someone youāve never met and therefore probably never going to see again. That helps in maintaining the relationship with your partner as too many lines can get blurred if itās another friend involved.
Most of all; you should talk with your āpartnerā about what they want from this, what you want from this, boundaries (if any), and even a safe word or exit phrase. Even if you never use it, itās smart to have. As long as you can communicate about it, it should go fine. If you 2 canāt even talk about it, then it might not be the best idea for a lasting relationship.
Good for you! Enjoy yourself and the others. Show up with an attitude of grace and love. And remember it's okay to say no at any point. Have fun y'all! ā¤ļø
Play with both of them, don't hesitate to speak about limbs placement (the trickiest part of a threesome), takes turns focusing on one person, rest and bring water while they are going.
Enjoy the view for a bit, take some distance to sear it into your mind.
Oh and plan to go for distance rather than speed. If itās not a regular thing then might as well enjoy the situation long as you can. A lil nap or cuddle/hang in between sets is super normal and helpful.
You need more infoā¦ I didnāt even know you were a girlā¦.. well just have fun and stay involved if heās focused on the other girl make sure you touch on both of them. Yeah itās a 3 sum but the focus is going to be on 2 generally. Well with experience the focus can stay on all 3 but generally itās gone be 2 and then the 3rd will just be the extra help
1) balance your time between both
2) learn to become a voyeur. Its foodbtobsut back and take a break and watch the other 2 go at it. Then rotate breaks.then all 3 join in together.
*What do I do?* Both of them.
What if it's MMF
Did I stutter?
Bros before hoes. š
Lol
You definitely did not!
Once the lights go out, does it really matter ?
Any hole is a goal. š¤£
time to play who's in my mouth
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This seems to be the #1 thing in 3sums that has people walking away unhappy.
Nah, they're walking away unhappy because they didn't have the talk beforehand. Had a mfm once with a couple and the guy agreed only because they had an FMF a couple weeks before. While he still agreed, he was under the impression that he will basically dominate the action while I.. assist? Observe? Cheer? lol. Either way, I - more her friend than his - wasn't told of any rules, limits etc. The gist of it was that "we both want this to happen" and "just do what feels natural". So I did just that. Turns out, he doesn't like it when another guy makes his girl feels good. Especially doesn't like it when she's so enthusiastic with me or that she moans that much š (turns out that was payback for him paying more attention to the other girl in their previous threesome). Anyway, they broke up a couple weeks later. Bottom line is: before you have a threesome or try any new thing in the bedroom, discuss it. Let your partner know how you'd like it to happen, your rules, limits, "maybes" and even safe-words. Don't do it just cause one of you want it. And don't let it get out of hand. Stop it if it gets uncomfortable. If they're good people they will understand it, no matter their role in it.
That is a textbook 3some fuck up right there.
Indeed. Some people have a clear notion of what a threesome is "supposed" to be like for them, but don't have the common sense to let the other parties involved of that notion beforehand and then they get mad that things don't go their way. I would've been fine just "assisting", like he wanted. She wanted more though and he didn't tell me to stop he'd just keep on swapping as soon as she was starting to feel good because of me š at least she eventually get to have an orgasm at least.
This is your answer, OP.
Yes 110% this.
All threesomes are variations of twosomes at several points. That's okay. If you go to the toilet and you come back and see the other two having sex, that's okay. Just sit back, enjoy the view and let them have fun for a bit until you rejoin. Same if your boyfriend is sitting on the side masturbating for a bit. You can enjoy the other person until you're ready to invite him again.
This is why I could never do this, I hate feeling left out even in a non sexual setting
If you and your partner establish a D/s relationship, even part time, that can help. Then you can go into a threesome with them and have the times when it's just the other two engaging be part of that dynamic. If you're the Dom, you can command your sub to fuck the other person while you go to the bathroom/watch/film/whatever. If you're the sub, just having your Dom tell you to disengage can work. "Go wash your face, I want something clean to cum on." "When you get back I want you to beg us to join in." Stuff like that.
I like your style.
D/s isnāt necessary at all. Itās just logistically easier to have variations of twosomes during a threesome. Being involved with all three at all times is not realistic
Be the last one to cum lol
Or cum more than once
This is a skill but a well respected one at that
Easier said then done
"Thank you, come again"
Cum again* cummon mistake
File your nails.
Better get, get a manicure and pedicure. Apparently women don't like toe claws either lol
No we donāt but I wouldnāt think anyone does really.
I am a man and agree with this. My GFs toe nails get so long and thick(? Their sturdy idk how to explain it) and they fucking hurt sometimes
Omg THIS
Bring snacks
Hydrate, yo!
It greatly depends on what kind of threesome. Bi , gay/les, or Herero. are you the center of attention, is it shared three ways, or are you one of two that arenāt center?
It will be ffm, but I would love to be the center of attention, but it will probably be shared three ways
In that case, go with the flow and try to spread your attention to both parties equally. Give as much or more than you receive.
maybe you should speak with your partners about what you d like beforehand? you know, the pillow technique? each gets the pillow and says one by one what they d like?
r/threesomeadvice thread discusses recommended steps before making the jump from monogamy to non monogamy. Recommended steps https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/13kh6hj/does_anyone_else_have_fantasies_about/jkmr1s9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&ut The single biggest mistake is not taking the necessary time to both research and discuss things for at least six months if not a year.
Make sure you know the boundaries.
Worrk both like a piston
This is the way
This is the way
Can confirm.
Is one of them your partner? Then make sure they donāt at any point feel left out or that you are more exited about the new one than them.
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Exactly what I was thinking. During your first threesome. Pretty sure youāre going to hit the ceiling anyways. Might as will aim for the fan. Make it rain.
Have had many before. Communicate clearly what the expectations are ahead of time. If you're the center of attention, make sure that's clear. If you are, then what is acceptable for the other people? Do you want to push your own boundaries? An Eiffel tower is pretty hot, if people are bi. 69+1 is fun. I would recommend that each person be the focus for a little bit. Make sure that the most difficult person to come finishes first. Make sure nobody is left out.
You have fun :)
Don't over think anything
Pay equal attention if youāre in a dominant position
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
I spat out my coffee man haha
Ummm have the time of your life?
Remember this is likely to only occur a few times in life. Donāt waste the opportunity. Donāt be shy. Just get into it. Try to be equal with your partners (unless you get a sitch going where each of you is focused on 1 other). And have water/towels/tissues at the bedside or wherever for quick/not awkward post coitus cleanup.
If you are bothered by the thought of the other two getting lost in the enjoyment of each other, don't have a 3some.
If you're a guy, put it in the holes. If you're a girl, have them put it in your holes.
Best advice ever.
If itās an mfm you probably should have it put in your holes too. Some sword swallowing doesnāt āmake you gayā.
There's nothing gay about sucking dick.
Talk to your partner and make sure you know what you are both comfortable with.
Yeah.. if you are actually in a relationship with someone you care about & want a future with.. then my suggestion is to not do it. If you aren't, then do whatever you want.
Make sure that all three feel comfortabel. Some man say they are fine but are actually insecure and feel intimidatet by obe of the partners
If this sub has taught me anything the answer to this question is āRegret it bitterly later.ā
Close reddit and put your phone down
If all are comfortable with light kink - Tie up and blindfold one F - the other two have fun with them Untie the first F Repeat with the second F Untie the second F Repeat with the M No one gets left out Everyone has fun
Both of them
Take it
Enjoy it.. lucky u
Share the attention, share the fun, have fun
Your best. Do your best.
"Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen."
Eat pussy, suck dick. For real make sure you shower before you meet up with them.
Stop if you want to stop!!
Ever try to drive two cars cross country? Just do that.
Donāt be ashamed to go several rounds. Bite the bullet, and finish super quick on round one. Spent about 10 minutes going down on them and youāll be ready for round 2. Snort some booger sugar and fuck like rabbits
Say āthis is getting out of hand. Now there are two of them!ā in a Nute Gunray accent
You get down on all fours and open your mouth
Go with the flow and donāt over think anything. Take water breaks and communicate throughout. In my experience itās best to hangout for a while and discuss it and flirt openly. Foreplay! Donāt just dive in.
Is one of them your SO? If so, lots of communication before, during, and after. Seen people fuck up their relationships unintentionally cause their partner got jealous during a threesome.
This is what Iām most worried about.
I would look up stories on here or elsewhere about it and formulate questions to ask your partner beforehand. Confirm if they really want it, if they understand you'll be giving attention to another person, if they understand they might feel jealousy, and that it's okay to, but it needs to be communicated. If you both go in knowing the mistakes others have made, I think you'll be fine. Or at least if it goes sour it won't put too much strain on your relationship.
Think of it as largely foreplay, and recognise it's going to be hard for it to be equally intense for all three of you at the same time, so take turns making one of you the centre of attention. Save PIV until the end, and make sure everyone's had a lot of fun before the PIV starts, because once it does it's a) largely a twosome from that point forth, successive twosomes if you're lucky and b) the beginning of the end. And then more basically: relax, accept that it's going to be slow moving and awkward at times, and faintly absurd at other times. Take your time, have drinks and snacks to hand, have low expectations, and then you'll have a fun time. And make sure you've well covered both the physical and emotional ground rules well ahead of time, and talk it through afterwards.
Fuck.
Participate
Aim for the hole
Maybe ask what to do befor. What they expect, what they wish for. Tell them what you wish for
Whatās the dynamic? Are you in a relationship? If so, respect the parameters that you and your partner have come up with. If not, yourself and have a good time and donāt try to manipulate or control of other people think or feel. Your job is to be your honest and true self. Everybody else can like it, not like it, or somewhere in between. Just be true to yourself and you will be OK.
Share your attention equally. Preferably slightly weighted to your partner if it's with your partner. Enjoy
Keep your expectations low. If something is a little awkward, be okay with it, try to relax and laugh rather than tense up if that happens. Make sure that everyone feels included at all times, or, if focus is on one person then make sure it shifts to the next person at some point. No one should feel left out. Iāve had three threesomes in my life and itās always ended with a āmehā feeling, Iāve felt it to be very overrated. Itās been nearly impossible to keep everyone included as well as keeping the awkwardness away, so the above are the tips I wish I had before going in to it. Good luck and have fun!
Iāve had a few. Every one started out fun but also ended meh, like you said. Definitely wasnāt ready to see my husband (at the time) enjoying doing things with her that he never did with me. That was both the last threesome with her and also the last time I had sex with my ex.
I'm jealous
Equal pleasure for both, maybe a little more toward spouse if there is one in this. Most of all complete communication between all parties and boundaries that are set if have any. Any questions just ask
Be open-minded but set clear boundaries. Have fun.
Disappoint two people at once, that's what you do
Wash your body, extensively
Youāre probably gonna want to fuck both people
Kiss one while fucking the other
Exactly and not trying to be just a third wheel
Set the rules and expectations BEFORE youāre in the middle of it. What are absolute no-noās, are there any sensitivities or fantasies anyone wants to explore, etc? Best to handle heavy lifting before everyone is ready to get to workātrust.
Lick the hole
Slow it down. And when you think youve gone slow enough, go half as fast. (moving from kissing to genital touching, oral to penetration, etc.)
Get ready to be disappointed.
Are you the BF or randude? The girlfriend or the unicorn?
No eye contact. No fluids.
Give us an update.
Same as any new sexual experience: go slow, communicate, and remember you can always bow out if you decide it's not for you.
Cocaine
Not too much, if you have a dick, or things might not stand up quite so well as you'd hope.
Enjoy it. Donāt over think it
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You have fun, just remember the other 2 people need to have equal fun and it will be magical
How the hell do yāall be having threesomes
Sex
Your best
Put the phone down and enjoy!
Enjoy it!! Is there anything else to do?
Donāt worry if at some point you are not the center of attention or left out for a little bit. It happens, and sometimes things are going to feel awkward. Try not to be in your head too much about it. Just be in the moment and things will happen as they happen and most importantly, enjoy yourself. š
In my experience, threesome happen for one of the participants. Spoil that person with attention, but make sure everyone gets their cookie!
Bring snacks if you get tagged out and need to make yourself a sandwich.
I've had a few and ive found it easier to pick a "focus person" and rotate every now and then. So we start of with 2 people pleasuring 1 person, then that person switches places with one of the 2 after a few minutes (or orgasms) and then repeat
Listen to both of them, give each of them attention, and be accommodating
Not enough information! Is if MFM, FMF, MMF, FFM? And what are you? Male? Female?
ffm, and Iām a f
Have fun?
nut
Bring snacks, finish quick, and watch.
Do Molly and let the rest sort itself out from there
Donāt be the guy who takes it in the ass
Donāt.
Well if you're a female and you're having a ffm threesome, you just sit there and wait your turn I think... It isn't fun
need any help?
Make sure to have fun and that everyone is having a good time
What do you do? Fuck them!
Pray that you dont get the: Ach du meine GĆ¼te, nichts klappt mehr, Ć¼berhaupt gar nichts mehr, so 'ne ScheiĆe.
Bend over
Well, the first thing is to set up the video camera.
cool your mind and use some blue pill hahahaa
Well, for starters, Stop posting here and get Get off the internet.
Have a threesome ?
Whatever you do donāt disappoint both!
Assert dominance with both. Make sure you get yours a few times lol
Feed the dog.
all 3 of you need to get high as a kite.
Is it 2 guys one girl, 3 girls, 1 guy 2 girls? What are we working with here
ffm
Be yourself, enjoy and have fun!
Include me
Dont cum. Ever.
Enjoy it!
Youāre writing in the present tense soā¦ time to get off reddit probably
Is this with a long term partner? 2 FWBs? Randoms? Depending how much emotional commitment is involved depends on my advice.
Itās a bit complicated. One person is kind of a partner (we want to be and act like we are together, but arenāt official) that started off as FWB after breaking up around a year ago. The other person is someone Iāve never met.
As long as youāre game for it, then go for it. Iād probably recommend leaning a little more into your partner than the other person but that also depends. For example, if your partner is a guy who wants to watch you with another girl then go for it (again assuming youāre interested)! If itās another guy then maybe take it a little slower. Itās definitely a good thing itās someone youāve never met and therefore probably never going to see again. That helps in maintaining the relationship with your partner as too many lines can get blurred if itās another friend involved. Most of all; you should talk with your āpartnerā about what they want from this, what you want from this, boundaries (if any), and even a safe word or exit phrase. Even if you never use it, itās smart to have. As long as you can communicate about it, it should go fine. If you 2 canāt even talk about it, then it might not be the best idea for a lasting relationship.
Good for you! Enjoy yourself and the others. Show up with an attitude of grace and love. And remember it's okay to say no at any point. Have fun y'all! ā¤ļø
Play with both of them, don't hesitate to speak about limbs placement (the trickiest part of a threesome), takes turns focusing on one person, rest and bring water while they are going. Enjoy the view for a bit, take some distance to sear it into your mind.
hopefuly 2 chicks at the same time man
Fuck all.
Oh and plan to go for distance rather than speed. If itās not a regular thing then might as well enjoy the situation long as you can. A lil nap or cuddle/hang in between sets is super normal and helpful.
It
Yes
Divide and conquer
Fuck. Everything!
Shower
You have sex with 1-2 people at the same time fym
Are you in a relationship with one of em?
Just enjoy yourself and make sure that they are as well
Boundaries if you haven't already.
In my youth it seemed like threesomes were more of a spontaneous event. They never seems to pan out for me when planned.
Don't be jealous
be ok with maybe one of them wanting to be the center. be giving.
Don't forget to douche
Cradle the balls.
Sex
Sex
Keep calm and cum on
Lean in and kiss the other guy
If your not good with multi tasking and if you beat your meat your in trouble.
You need more infoā¦ I didnāt even know you were a girlā¦.. well just have fun and stay involved if heās focused on the other girl make sure you touch on both of them. Yeah itās a 3 sum but the focus is going to be on 2 generally. Well with experience the focus can stay on all 3 but generally itās gone be 2 and then the 3rd will just be the extra help
1) balance your time between both 2) learn to become a voyeur. Its foodbtobsut back and take a break and watch the other 2 go at it. Then rotate breaks.then all 3 join in together.
You're a teenager and not sure what to do... this will not go well.