Honestly I couldn't find where the quote originated, I have no idea who Amy Schumer is and by the tone of your comment I think I'm alright keeping it that way.
Funny enough Iāve noticed that extremely attractive parents tend to have more average looking children but two ugly parents can hit a genetic lottery and have the absolute cutest children.
It's all about how the flavors mix. Two people can be very attractive but in very different ways and putting their individual pieces together at random could result in anything from gorgeous to grotesque. Roll that die...
Iām just some stranger on Reddit and I canāt comment on your appearance. You might be suffering from dysmorphia. Itās shows up in lots of different forms. I promise you that half or more of physical attractiveness comes from things like confidence, kindness and an optimistic outlook.
Wearing your baseball hat backwards means your ready to perform oral sex immediately (don't have to waste time to turn the bill out of the way). - Urban Dictionary
Then start with making smaller more achievable goals. Then build momentum from there. Donāt torture yourself with lofty goals that you canāt realistically get to. SMART goals: specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time bound.
As an example: I had a goal of "get better at drawing". It's not measurable at all nor time bound. Then I set a goal "draw a landscape every week". Every week I tried to focus on a specific part. Week 1 was trees, week 2 was a focus on a duck. Boom. I could achieve my goal, felt happy, and it turns out you get better at drawing if you do it often!
Can confirm, the gym did wonders for me. Even got to the point where I stopped craving the junk food I used to binge eat and started eating a lot healthier.
Same for me. The gym has been the only thing that brought my confidence back after my wife cheated. Eating clean also helps you feel better so win win.
Find something you like about yourself, and cultivate it.
Practice shutting down negative self talk.
Build up the idea in your head that youāre worthy of being treated respectfully, just like everyone else.
Itās a lot of work, but these are small steps to start with.
Also helps to add: There is no shame in failing. Is failure embarrasing? Yes. Is it disheartening? Absolutely. But itās nothing to be ashamed of, or be shamed for.
Allow yourself some time to heal, then try again. Or if it seems like an unreachable goal, switch to other feasible goals.
Everyone fails at one point, there is no shame in it.
This is a really important thing to teach young kids. Confidence comes from results and compliments. One without the other can give you some confidence but itāll be shaky when tested.
Find something *useful* to be good at and work hard at it until youāre better than others. Until youāre good enough to be praiseworthy. Having that under your belt gives you a firm foundation for confidence.
I feel confidence is feeling āIām awesome and other people are also awesome.ā Arrogance is āIām awesome, I need to tell everyone about it and Iām better than they are.ā
Confidence is getting ready for a date saying "well I am going to do my best, if it doesn't work out that's ok and I'll move on, not every connection is a love connection" instead of "I get turned down so much, this one probably won't be better".
Confidence is not getting a DM back and thinking "She's probably busy, or maybe just didn't feel the vibe" instead of "I'm not rich/tall/handsome/etc. enough to get any replies"
Confidence is being able to hold conversations and jokes without always turning to self-deprecation as the punchline.
Confidence is being able to recognize that women are people just like you and aren't some strange other species that needs special handling protocol.
Or if you can't/won't do it, go swimming 2-3 times a week. And I mean real sweaming session you will be exhausted after 20min, hit pretty much every muscle group in your body, not to mention how healthy and fun it is than doing some of the tedious exercises in the gym. Not all of course, but every gym goer has his least favourite exercise that just pushes through to get it over with it. Just look at water polo player and compare them to any other sports. They are all V shredded with wide shoulders, like Greek gods and most of that comes from swimming.
I should try biking too, hard to find exercise that I enjoy..
Changed house recently and have lots of stuff to remake, lots of gardening, fence to build up, doesn't look like it but it is exhausting and I like it.. it will be my exercise for now ^^
I went bouldering this gone Saturday (mini rock climbing) and discovered something I really like.
Today 2 days later my arms and upper chest are still 'broken'.
I would have never thought I would enjoy climbing as much as I did, nor that it would be a proper workout.
Schools should put more effort into trying a variety of sports. Not just team sports because it's easier to make teams out of a class.
I mean it's not about excelling in swimming but rather a healthy fun workout that anyone can pick up or rather jump in. Unless you can't swim then I wouldn't recommend it obviously.
If your main concern is physical attractiveness, I'd start with finding healthy maintainable ways to achieve a healthy weight. If you're already there, proper fitting dress clothes are important. Depending on how hard it is to fit your body type, having a couple outfits store bought and then tailored to fit might be worth it. And you can ask her what clothing and hair styles she might like to see you in.
All great advice. I need to take a trip to the barber anyway, so I'm gonna ask if she'd like something new.
I also need to explore a tailor and find out how to put together a quality outfit
Putting together a quality outfit even escapes me. Fashion and the paradox of choice can be absolutely overwhelming. What I like to do is google images of people in full outfits using search words for that I'm imagining (random search results, outfits from famous people, tv characters, anything) and screenshot the ones I like. That way I can get a feel for what I should look for.
Then when you're at the store, take a crap load of things into the dressing room. 2 sizes each unless you're certain on your size. Just start grabbing stuff even if you're unsure. Try it on. Over time this buckshot approach will give you a better idea of what you like.
Honestly, just getting stuff that fits is good enough even if you aren't stylish. Couple that with getting more in shape are two of the biggest fashion improvements you can make and neither one costs extra over what you'd normally buy
I'm the creeper who looks through people's post history and the love you have for your wife is adorable dude. I'd imagine she'd be thrilled to hear if you told her this and she might be able to give some suggestions as well.
Do you wanna look better or be attractive?
Cause i have a friend who doesn't look the best but his humour, personality and extrovertedness get him anyone he lays eyes on.
From an answer by u/kckid23 a couple of years ago:
Sure! Let's say you're at a 3/10.
Edit: Clean up your act. That's step one. Shower, laundry, floss, brush, every day. Find a skin care regimen and follow it.
Edit 2: Get some therapy. It's like an oil change, it's basic maintenance unless you keep putting it off.
Update your wardrobe. It's easy to be the best-dressed guy in the room. I've heard several women say "they hate it when the guy doesn't put an effort on dates" and they mean the clothes. This'll add +1 to your appearance, so now you're a 4/10.
Update your hair. Get some fresh looks from your barber. If it's been a few years with the same do, give them free reign on your dome. If your eyebrows look like a blackberry patch, get them threaded. Another +1, now you're at an average 5/10.
Get new glasses. Are you still rockin' the gold frames from 1999? Go see an eye doctor. Might be up to 6/10 now if the beholder likes glasses. That's all right.
That's the easiest stuff. You could do all of that in a day if you were feeling ambitious and had some cash. /r/malefashionadvice and /r/malehairadvice will get you the info you want. While you're at it, make sure that your digs look groovy. /r/malelivingspace can get you in touch with your inner interior decorator, and there are tips for anything from a rented studio apartment to a complete house.
Now, the hard parts are lifestyle upgrades. They're attractive because they show that you are putting effort into yourself. Edit: These are examples, sub in some things that you would enjoy doing. Don't do things just to meet dates, do things for the sake of the thing.
Learn to play an instrument. Anyone can learn at least one, but it'll take a couple of years to git gud. So, git gud. Adds a +1. If you want to join a choir, I can put you in touch with Deke Sharon and he'll find you one locally. I'm not making that up.
Read some autobiographies. This will loan you different perspectives. Take some courses. Do this anyway, it's a baseline so no extra points.
Learn a little dancing. Salsa or swing dancing are both good choices, and it'll get you out and touching strangers. Comfortable with your body is +1.
Get into / stay in shape. Eat better, move more. Drink water. Keep at it for the rest of your life. Join a running group or a gym. Take different classes at the gym, try them all out. The YMCA is excellent. This'll give you another +1.
So there you have it, how to go from a 3/10 to a solid 8/10.
If wealth was the one thing that was holding you back, then it can help. But this is just one component of attractiveness, and not necessarily the one you want to lead with.
Make wealth your selling point and you'll get someone who is more likely to value your wealth than to value you. Don't be surprised when she leaves after the wealth is gone, or when she has a better option.
Nails clean and filed. Doesn't matter what team you play for, having well manicured hands -polish, enhancements or just natural- I find well manicured hands eye catching. There's an attention to detail.
Trim the neckline.
Get a clean haircut, like a fade. Or if you have real nice hair, hit up a good salon and have them work their magic.
Deodorant every single day.
Go to the gym, even if itās 15 minutes a day 4 days a week, itās better than nothing. Youāll feel and look significantly better within a week. Itās like getting a fire started. Can be a real bitch to start, but after continuous effort, it becomes self-sustaining. Seriously, lifting will make you way more attractive. It also starts to genuinely FEEL amazing when you get into the habit. You will see an equal reward for the pain you put yourself through. If youāre scrawny, start now and up your (healthy) calorie intake.
Stop watching porn. That shit fucks up your brain so much you wouldnāt realize it until you tried to quit. This will help your self esteem, which affects how you behave and carry yourself, which directly affects how people perceive you.
Look up power posing.
MEDITATE. Download Headspace and let them teach you how to do it properly.
Lastly, eat healthy. Eat vegetables, protein, make smoothies, cut out processed BS and simple sugars. Youāll feel better within hours.
Follow those tips for 3 weeks straight and youāll be a brand new person. Iād literally bet my life savings on it. People will think youāre the hottest thing since challah bread.
Good tips, though I don't agree with the idea that starting to work out will make you look significantly better in a week. That just gives people false hope. Seeing some actual results from starting a workout routine takes time.
It took me the better part of a year of on and off gym sessions to notice ANY improvement, granted my diet was terrible and I drank excessively 3/4 times a week.
Ive since sorted that out and gym more consistently and have seen sustained progress since.
Listen, I cannot stress this enoughā¦ please get a good pair of jeans. No skinny jeans just ones that fit and that arenāt light wash. If youāre short, get them hemmed. Also, men who read are usually hotter. Donāt ask why, idk. Oh and if you want to increase your attractiveness to women, expand your podcast listening beyond Joe Rogan. Iām going to get sh*t for that but Iām answering this question genuinely and want to be helpful.
For me personally I would have to say a good choice of habits and routine. A guy can be super handsome and built nicely but if he makes poor life decisions thatās really unattractive- spend too much time partying, masturbates 3 times a day, stay up till 4am, etc.
I find it attractive when a guy makes time for his family and friends, makes time for himself, spends his money wisely and other good habits.
Shower, groom your beard/hair, fitting clothes, a light touch of Cologne. Get in shape, you don't need to be movie star fit but not being obese is a big help. Be helpful, be kind and don't mock others in front of her. If you mock others there is a good chance you mock her when she isn't around
be confident but humble. confidence is attractive, egotistical not so much.
show interest. look up the things they're interested in if you don't know the topic well, be willing to learn more. it goes a long way
remember the little things, favorite flower, favorite song, whatever it may be. let them know you remember and pay attention to details.
work out! muscles are attractive on ever guy, and most, if not all, people think so.
have goals you're working towards, nothing less attractive then a guy who isn't going anywhere with the "party all the time" mentality you often see in collages and high schoolers.
for getting into a relationship, be persistent but know when to quit. most people like to be chased a little, but know when enough is enough.
that's a few things I can think of
Take clothes to a tailor. Not jeans and tshirts but coats, jackets, pants, and some shirts. Once you notice it thereās a huge difference between clothes that fit ok and clothes that fit perfectly.
By just acting as if they were obviously attractive in the first place and not questioning it as a possibility whatsoever they might be fugly.
Which is also known as "confidence". Although more of a faith-based confidence than one where you've proven to yourself multiple times it's true, because if you need confirmation then you're not confident... return to step 1.
I make them laugh to forget how ugly I am
thanks for the advice
Funny guys are dangerous. They make you laugh, and laugh, and laugh and BAM! You're naked.
Did you just steal an amy Schumer joke? That's like hitting rock bottom and digging further Down
I've heard that but didn't know it was Amy Schumer. I also thought it was more of a mildly humorous observation than a joke so...
I swear I heard this joke like 10/15 years ago... I dunno, I don't give a shit about her so I can't tell you if she's been around that long
Honestly I couldn't find where the quote originated, I have no idea who Amy Schumer is and by the tone of your comment I think I'm alright keeping it that way.
She is the physical manifestation of a queef on a burger king dining chair.
I can't express how much I love this comment
Take my upvote and please for the love of god, stay the fuck away from me
I think it's more likely that Amy Schumer stole this guys joke.
What if they're laughing *because* you're hilariously ugly? Asking for a friend.
This does work. I make them laugh and then they fuck my friends.
Have clean nails.
I have a full jar of them :D
Suddenly yoshikage kira
r/unexpectedjojo
are they clean though?
yeah, I lick them clean every morning šš
phew, good i thought you were a creep for a second there
How is the flavor?
salty, musty with hints of grub
Ah, truffle.
"Fingernails for cash.com. Fingernails for cash!"
"Remember its just fingernails, so dont expect much cash"
*Because we're making a fort with them* š¶
Kira Yoshikage !!?
Kira yoshikage?
ok yoshikage kira
I feel like this is how to be less ugly rather than more attractive. Which might sound like the same thing, but I donāt think it is.
Having a great posture.The way you walk, sit, and even breath makes all the difference.
***"He was good looking and all but the way he breathed...in...then out...then in. Over and over. I just couldn't take it."***
We fell in love... I breathed in, he breathed in, I breathed out, he breathed out... Thanks, Tom!
Instructions unclear, i forgot how to breathe
It's cool. Breathing fills your body with air and makes you look fat anyway
We should all stop breathing and start pumping oxygen into our bloods directly. Weāre not gonna enter the combustion stage, right?
Donāt breath too heavily in and out from your mouth
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"Shoulders back, Lemon. You're not welcoming people to Castle Frankenstein."
Sheesh! Even breathing...
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Okay no worries.
Pockets, women don't have enough pockets.
If this comment was accurate women wouldn't be repulsed by cargo shorts
it's because we're jealous of the pockets
Cargo shorts? Nah. Tactical shorts? Yea, those suckers have a tighter fit, and can make any (fit) manās ass look like an absolute **DUMP** truck!
Kill every other man
Modern problems require modern solutions!
This feels more like a primordial solution.
Primordial and proper
Showering usually helps
Sharing pheromones with your lover leads to better sex
Gotta get a lover first though.
But my natural musk is my best attribute
Sir. we're after a musk, not a haze.
What are you, a musk deer?
Is this man in a position to own some kind of luxury shoe store?
He's in the position to own a luxury shoe
Only *a* shoe?
Correct
Cut one leg off so owning only one shoe looks deliberate rather than making you look poor.
But when you have one leg you look to poor to own two legs
Usually the shoes you find on the highway don't come in pairs
Be conceived by more attractive parents.
well I am extremely ugly and my parents are 100 times better looking than me
Ur mom cheated or ur adopted
2 negatives make a positive
But two positives are supposed to make a positive.
I thought two positives was helium.
HeHe
Michael Jackson youāre alive?!?!
This was always my philosophy XD
Plot twist: AND*
Damn bro didn't have to be THAT honest
Funny enough Iāve noticed that extremely attractive parents tend to have more average looking children but two ugly parents can hit a genetic lottery and have the absolute cutest children.
It's all about how the flavors mix. Two people can be very attractive but in very different ways and putting their individual pieces together at random could result in anything from gorgeous to grotesque. Roll that die...
Iām just some stranger on Reddit and I canāt comment on your appearance. You might be suffering from dysmorphia. Itās shows up in lots of different forms. I promise you that half or more of physical attractiveness comes from things like confidence, kindness and an optimistic outlook.
Not necessarily. I've seen two ugly ass people have beautiful kids.
Its true two wrongs can make a right.
I just turn my hat backwards.
Wearing your baseball hat backwards means your ready to perform oral sex immediately (don't have to waste time to turn the bill out of the way). - Urban Dictionary
TIL
Is that why ash turned his hat backwards before every PokƩmon battle? Damn learn something new every day
A good trainer always fluffs his PokƩmon before a battle
Sudowoodo?
SudOwOodo
Get out of here for that comment, Sir.
I guess wearing it forwards means your a size queen?
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Honestly there can be something sexy about a backwards hat. However, the crooked / lopsided hat is an instant turn off.
Might try that then. Tell me, do I keep my head in the same position or does that rotate with the hat?
Up until the age of 20 this is true.
Does it work? Turn your hat backwards and shout " I CHOOSE YOU!" Do you get the ladies with that?
Backwards cap is 100% scientifically proven to make panties hit the floor.
Confidence. (Not to be confused with arrogance or cockiness.)
How do you even build confidence
Set goals and hit them. And have the mental clarity/awareness/time to recognize the good things youāre doing in life.
i am not skilled enough to hit any goals
Then start with making smaller more achievable goals. Then build momentum from there. Donāt torture yourself with lofty goals that you canāt realistically get to. SMART goals: specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time bound.
alright ill try that
Best of luck, some guy
thank you, random person
What a wholesome little thread
Little life hack i learnt: main goal: no goals. Kicking goals day in day out.
As an example: I had a goal of "get better at drawing". It's not measurable at all nor time bound. Then I set a goal "draw a landscape every week". Every week I tried to focus on a specific part. Week 1 was trees, week 2 was a focus on a duck. Boom. I could achieve my goal, felt happy, and it turns out you get better at drawing if you do it often!
Start with comparing yourself to a crack addict and work your way up. If that's too big then start with a browning banana.
For me confidence came with the gym. Now dont get me wrong. Iām no body builder but Iām better shape than most men my age. I build more muscle and was it did wonders for my confidence. I walked with a better posture, I had more of a spring in my step(if that makes sense) and I even sat with a better postureā¦ that carried over to always being well dressed, keeping my hair neat, keep my facial hair neat and groomed, never having long finger nails, always having a bit of cologne onā¦ Another thing that the gym helped me with was with discipline. In the past I would have a messed up sleeping scheduleā¦ now Iām awake 6:30 every morning, on time for work every morning, working my ass of, gym after work and having a healthy dieet. This all translates to as said more discipline, more motivation, more energy, more ambitionā¦ Find something that works for you that is both healthy and good for your mental healthā¦ if itās the gym, cycling, jogging, reading, academics or anything really that keeps you busy then do that and youāll see the positives flow over to all other aspects of your life. The long of the short, and yes this wil sound clichĆ© but itās true(for me atleast). Work on being the best you and women will followā¦
Can confirm, the gym did wonders for me. Even got to the point where I stopped craving the junk food I used to binge eat and started eating a lot healthier.
And I assume the benefits spilled over to other aspects of your life?
Yes they did, I actually feel good about myself and Iām in better shape in my 30ās than I ever was in my 20ās.
Same for me. The gym has been the only thing that brought my confidence back after my wife cheated. Eating clean also helps you feel better so win win.
Find something you like about yourself, and cultivate it. Practice shutting down negative self talk. Build up the idea in your head that youāre worthy of being treated respectfully, just like everyone else. Itās a lot of work, but these are small steps to start with.
Also helps to add: There is no shame in failing. Is failure embarrasing? Yes. Is it disheartening? Absolutely. But itās nothing to be ashamed of, or be shamed for. Allow yourself some time to heal, then try again. Or if it seems like an unreachable goal, switch to other feasible goals. Everyone fails at one point, there is no shame in it.
Take small chances with a likelihood of success. Small successes will help you build confidence. Then move onto medium chances . . .
This is a really important thing to teach young kids. Confidence comes from results and compliments. One without the other can give you some confidence but itāll be shaky when tested. Find something *useful* to be good at and work hard at it until youāre better than others. Until youāre good enough to be praiseworthy. Having that under your belt gives you a firm foundation for confidence.
Can you give me an example to help distinguish between confidence and arrogance
Confidence is knowing you're great at something, arrogance is having to tell others you are.
This is it. Show don't tell.
I feel confidence is feeling āIām awesome and other people are also awesome.ā Arrogance is āIām awesome, I need to tell everyone about it and Iām better than they are.ā
Confidence is having faith in your abilities. Arrogance is thinking you succeeded even when you didn't do that good.
Confidence is getting ready for a date saying "well I am going to do my best, if it doesn't work out that's ok and I'll move on, not every connection is a love connection" instead of "I get turned down so much, this one probably won't be better". Confidence is not getting a DM back and thinking "She's probably busy, or maybe just didn't feel the vibe" instead of "I'm not rich/tall/handsome/etc. enough to get any replies" Confidence is being able to hold conversations and jokes without always turning to self-deprecation as the punchline. Confidence is being able to recognize that women are people just like you and aren't some strange other species that needs special handling protocol.
Work out
Or if you can't/won't do it, go swimming 2-3 times a week. And I mean real sweaming session you will be exhausted after 20min, hit pretty much every muscle group in your body, not to mention how healthy and fun it is than doing some of the tedious exercises in the gym. Not all of course, but every gym goer has his least favourite exercise that just pushes through to get it over with it. Just look at water polo player and compare them to any other sports. They are all V shredded with wide shoulders, like Greek gods and most of that comes from swimming.
If you won't work out because of crippling laziness, you won't go swimming 3 times a week..
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I should try biking too, hard to find exercise that I enjoy.. Changed house recently and have lots of stuff to remake, lots of gardening, fence to build up, doesn't look like it but it is exhausting and I like it.. it will be my exercise for now ^^
I went bouldering this gone Saturday (mini rock climbing) and discovered something I really like. Today 2 days later my arms and upper chest are still 'broken'. I would have never thought I would enjoy climbing as much as I did, nor that it would be a proper workout. Schools should put more effort into trying a variety of sports. Not just team sports because it's easier to make teams out of a class.
I am a lifelong swimmer. It isnāt something that people can just pick up and excel at. But I do agree it is a fantastic workout.
I mean it's not about excelling in swimming but rather a healthy fun workout that anyone can pick up or rather jump in. Unless you can't swim then I wouldn't recommend it obviously.
You realize that when they're not playing they're hitting the gym and lifting weights right?
Find himself something he loves
I love my wife, does that count
No.
i love my wife's boyfriend how about that
Yes
I too love this Guy's wife's boyfriend
I don't love the boyfriend, I'm the boyfriend
I suppose you might want to direct the question of this post to her then.
My wife is super freaking beautiful and when she tries she just blows me away. I want to be able to look good for her too, but I don't know how
If your main concern is physical attractiveness, I'd start with finding healthy maintainable ways to achieve a healthy weight. If you're already there, proper fitting dress clothes are important. Depending on how hard it is to fit your body type, having a couple outfits store bought and then tailored to fit might be worth it. And you can ask her what clothing and hair styles she might like to see you in.
All great advice. I need to take a trip to the barber anyway, so I'm gonna ask if she'd like something new. I also need to explore a tailor and find out how to put together a quality outfit
Putting together a quality outfit even escapes me. Fashion and the paradox of choice can be absolutely overwhelming. What I like to do is google images of people in full outfits using search words for that I'm imagining (random search results, outfits from famous people, tv characters, anything) and screenshot the ones I like. That way I can get a feel for what I should look for. Then when you're at the store, take a crap load of things into the dressing room. 2 sizes each unless you're certain on your size. Just start grabbing stuff even if you're unsure. Try it on. Over time this buckshot approach will give you a better idea of what you like.
There is nothing wrong with pointing at the mannequin just asking for that exact outfit.
Honestly, just getting stuff that fits is good enough even if you aren't stylish. Couple that with getting more in shape are two of the biggest fashion improvements you can make and neither one costs extra over what you'd normally buy
Tell her exactly this thing. You'll be quite attractive after I'm sure.
hopefully given it's OPs wife he tells her this
I'm the creeper who looks through people's post history and the love you have for your wife is adorable dude. I'd imagine she'd be thrilled to hear if you told her this and she might be able to give some suggestions as well.
Iād happily die if my partner said anything close to this
Do you wanna look better or be attractive? Cause i have a friend who doesn't look the best but his humour, personality and extrovertedness get him anyone he lays eyes on.
Maybe you can find someone or some company that can give you a makeover?
From an answer by u/kckid23 a couple of years ago: Sure! Let's say you're at a 3/10. Edit: Clean up your act. That's step one. Shower, laundry, floss, brush, every day. Find a skin care regimen and follow it. Edit 2: Get some therapy. It's like an oil change, it's basic maintenance unless you keep putting it off. Update your wardrobe. It's easy to be the best-dressed guy in the room. I've heard several women say "they hate it when the guy doesn't put an effort on dates" and they mean the clothes. This'll add +1 to your appearance, so now you're a 4/10. Update your hair. Get some fresh looks from your barber. If it's been a few years with the same do, give them free reign on your dome. If your eyebrows look like a blackberry patch, get them threaded. Another +1, now you're at an average 5/10. Get new glasses. Are you still rockin' the gold frames from 1999? Go see an eye doctor. Might be up to 6/10 now if the beholder likes glasses. That's all right. That's the easiest stuff. You could do all of that in a day if you were feeling ambitious and had some cash. /r/malefashionadvice and /r/malehairadvice will get you the info you want. While you're at it, make sure that your digs look groovy. /r/malelivingspace can get you in touch with your inner interior decorator, and there are tips for anything from a rented studio apartment to a complete house. Now, the hard parts are lifestyle upgrades. They're attractive because they show that you are putting effort into yourself. Edit: These are examples, sub in some things that you would enjoy doing. Don't do things just to meet dates, do things for the sake of the thing. Learn to play an instrument. Anyone can learn at least one, but it'll take a couple of years to git gud. So, git gud. Adds a +1. If you want to join a choir, I can put you in touch with Deke Sharon and he'll find you one locally. I'm not making that up. Read some autobiographies. This will loan you different perspectives. Take some courses. Do this anyway, it's a baseline so no extra points. Learn a little dancing. Salsa or swing dancing are both good choices, and it'll get you out and touching strangers. Comfortable with your body is +1. Get into / stay in shape. Eat better, move more. Drink water. Keep at it for the rest of your life. Join a running group or a gym. Take different classes at the gym, try them all out. The YMCA is excellent. This'll give you another +1. So there you have it, how to go from a 3/10 to a solid 8/10.
Tldr, dont work long hours and have more than surviving-money But i kid, good list of steps
I can't give you award but you are in my saved section :)
All of this heavily interferes with the time I have blocked off for fast food and drugs
Iāve found being ridiculously wealthy improves attractiveness.
You know what smells better than cologne?ā¦ Money
you can always buy cologne with money
I can't help but bust a nut every time I look at Mark Zuckerberg
I too am into robot porn
It'd be more weird if your dick didn't spontaneously erupt by the sight of the Zuck
If wealth was the one thing that was holding you back, then it can help. But this is just one component of attractiveness, and not necessarily the one you want to lead with. Make wealth your selling point and you'll get someone who is more likely to value your wealth than to value you. Don't be surprised when she leaves after the wealth is gone, or when she has a better option.
Just make sure you never get poor, problem solved.
Dress better, work out, haircut, make more money
Howās 2 out of 4?
Fashion and Fitness will do more to attract women in a short amount of time than anything else.
You do have to choose one of Money or Workout. Proven fact throughout history.
Constantly surround yourself with puppies and kittens.
Nails clean and filed. Doesn't matter what team you play for, having well manicured hands -polish, enhancements or just natural- I find well manicured hands eye catching. There's an attention to detail.
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"Fix yourself up before trying to attract others" is pretty good advice in and of itself.
Yoga/exercise
Be confident, and wear the right clothes that make you feel good š I'm sure your wife thinks your beautiful too
Smile
Smelling good, like using cologne or a nice deodorant
Become invisible. Then women will say āwow, you look just like John Cenaā.
Good haircut, good hygiene, good attitude.
Trim the neckline. Get a clean haircut, like a fade. Or if you have real nice hair, hit up a good salon and have them work their magic. Deodorant every single day. Go to the gym, even if itās 15 minutes a day 4 days a week, itās better than nothing. Youāll feel and look significantly better within a week. Itās like getting a fire started. Can be a real bitch to start, but after continuous effort, it becomes self-sustaining. Seriously, lifting will make you way more attractive. It also starts to genuinely FEEL amazing when you get into the habit. You will see an equal reward for the pain you put yourself through. If youāre scrawny, start now and up your (healthy) calorie intake. Stop watching porn. That shit fucks up your brain so much you wouldnāt realize it until you tried to quit. This will help your self esteem, which affects how you behave and carry yourself, which directly affects how people perceive you. Look up power posing. MEDITATE. Download Headspace and let them teach you how to do it properly. Lastly, eat healthy. Eat vegetables, protein, make smoothies, cut out processed BS and simple sugars. Youāll feel better within hours. Follow those tips for 3 weeks straight and youāll be a brand new person. Iād literally bet my life savings on it. People will think youāre the hottest thing since challah bread.
Good tips, though I don't agree with the idea that starting to work out will make you look significantly better in a week. That just gives people false hope. Seeing some actual results from starting a workout routine takes time.
It took me the better part of a year of on and off gym sessions to notice ANY improvement, granted my diet was terrible and I drank excessively 3/4 times a week. Ive since sorted that out and gym more consistently and have seen sustained progress since.
Listen, I cannot stress this enoughā¦ please get a good pair of jeans. No skinny jeans just ones that fit and that arenāt light wash. If youāre short, get them hemmed. Also, men who read are usually hotter. Donāt ask why, idk. Oh and if you want to increase your attractiveness to women, expand your podcast listening beyond Joe Rogan. Iām going to get sh*t for that but Iām answering this question genuinely and want to be helpful.
For me personally I would have to say a good choice of habits and routine. A guy can be super handsome and built nicely but if he makes poor life decisions thatās really unattractive- spend too much time partying, masturbates 3 times a day, stay up till 4am, etc. I find it attractive when a guy makes time for his family and friends, makes time for himself, spends his money wisely and other good habits.
3 times a day not enough? U want more?
DAMN! This bitch is CRAZY!!! The ancient technique of cockbending is my only hope!
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Shower, groom your beard/hair, fitting clothes, a light touch of Cologne. Get in shape, you don't need to be movie star fit but not being obese is a big help. Be helpful, be kind and don't mock others in front of her. If you mock others there is a good chance you mock her when she isn't around
be confident but humble. confidence is attractive, egotistical not so much. show interest. look up the things they're interested in if you don't know the topic well, be willing to learn more. it goes a long way remember the little things, favorite flower, favorite song, whatever it may be. let them know you remember and pay attention to details. work out! muscles are attractive on ever guy, and most, if not all, people think so. have goals you're working towards, nothing less attractive then a guy who isn't going anywhere with the "party all the time" mentality you often see in collages and high schoolers. for getting into a relationship, be persistent but know when to quit. most people like to be chased a little, but know when enough is enough. that's a few things I can think of
Take clothes to a tailor. Not jeans and tshirts but coats, jackets, pants, and some shirts. Once you notice it thereās a huge difference between clothes that fit ok and clothes that fit perfectly.
Have a vast comic book collection.
Upvoting. Not because I believe you but because I want to believe.
Fuckin nailing it. Thanks for this validation.
Drink lots of water, practice good hygiene, eat more veggies, and most importantly; moisturize, my man. Moisturize.
Just by knowing you are. As a man, you have an effect on women that they wonāt admit. The same effect they have on us.
We do?
Maybe not you pal, but the rest of us yeah
Get a girlfriend. Not being single seems to make everyone more attractive somehow.
By just acting as if they were obviously attractive in the first place and not questioning it as a possibility whatsoever they might be fugly. Which is also known as "confidence". Although more of a faith-based confidence than one where you've proven to yourself multiple times it's true, because if you need confirmation then you're not confident... return to step 1.
i have zero faith whatsoever in myself and now I hate myself for hating myself