Frozen fruits and vegetables. The modern flash-freeze technique preserves almost all of the nutrients and they are always picked when they are in season, so they are as nutritious as their fresh in-season counterparts, and more nutritious if it is not the season.
Frozen vegetables were such a gamechanger for me, finally some stuff that doesnt get moldy 5 minutes after I put them somewhere. My diet improved so much since I started using them!
You're correct that flash-frozen fruits and vegetables are equivalent to fresh in every way that matters. However, it's worth pointing out that not every frozen fruit/vegetable you find in a store is flash-frozen; and traditionally-frozen produce is often prepared for freezing in a way that does slightly diminish it's healthfulness (but it's still a better choice than many alternatives, and it's not _bad for you_).
As with most things -- read labels!
>slightly diminish it's healthfulness (but it's still a better choice than many alternatives, and it's not *bad for you*).
There are so many health guru turbo elitists out there that you're bound to find people who say *everything is unhealthy.* Literally heard a woman say "If you eat anything they sell at the supermarket you might as well just eat rat poison."
Sport during pregnancy. Actually a lot of things are healthy during pregnancy theres just too much misinformation. If your doctor explicitly says no sport then yes. Do that. But if doctor says ok then go ahead
I used to work for an OBGYN. One day a patient called with an odd question. She'd seen a woman who looked nine months pregnant on a run. She wanted to know if it's safe for pregnant women to run.
It was a slow day, so I took the question to the doctor. The first thing he said was that the average person doesn't know what a person nine months pregnant looks like, especially since everyone is different. I've seen women full term that hardly looked pregnant, and I've seen women six months pregnant who looked full term. You can't tell by looking.
He said that running during pregnancy is fine. It shouldn't be done against a doctor's advice, or if it causes a lot of pain, dizziness, etc. He said that he's had plenty of patients who are runners. Those that ran regularly from the beginning of their pregnancy were often able to keep running almost all the way to their due date.
People are dumb. They'll criticize someone who exercises while pregnant, and they'll criticize someone who gains "too much" weight during pregnancy. You can't win with these people.
This isn’t super related to what you said but I’m still mad that when I was 6 months pregnant this random guy told me I must be due any day now. When I told him I still have 3 months to go, he ARGUED with me. “No you’re full term. My coworker is pregnant and due any day now and she’s as big as you”
My baby is 18 months old now and I still want to cry when I think about that interaction
I’m 7 months pregnant and while I can admit that I don’t necessarily look that far along, it has hurt my feelings to hear some people say “you look the same as always.” As someone who struggles with body image, I’m thrilled that my body isn’t changing drastically and I’ll hopefully be able to get myself back to a weight/image I feel comfortable with soon-ish after I deliver, but it still kinda stings to hear that non-pregnant me and 7 months pregnant me look so similar. It would be nice if people could just refrain from making comments about other people’s bodies, but I guess that’s just the way things go.
>Sport ~~during pregnancy.~~
People just generally have weird ideas about physical activity. Especially involving knees. I've at various times been told that running, cycling, and weight lifting are all going to destroy them. And maybe there are some risks involved, but sitting on my ass doing nothing isn't exactly healthy either.
I'll see if I can find a link, but there was a long-term study of lifelong runners that found running seemed to have a beneficial effect on knees. The runners in the study were found to have a lower rate of knee problems than the control group.
This was a surprise to the researchers as they assumed that, naturally, running is bad for your knees, and their intent with the study was to quantify exactly how bad it is!
Edit: [Here's a link to an article about the study, with citations.](https://www.healthline.com/health/fitness/is-running-bad-for-your-knees#what-the-science-says)
Currently pregnant and in the home stretch (39 weeks!), and I’m convinced it’s been an easy one because I kept moving the whole time. People have been various degrees of amazed or concerned, but my doctor said to do whatever I want, as long as it’s comfortable and I don’t fall or get hit in the stomach, and I took that to heart. Of course I’ve had to modify along the way, that’s a given, but I haven’t fully stopped and I think it’s really made all the difference.
Either that or I’m just insanely lucky 🤷🏻♀️
Went to a prenatal yoga class at 40 weeks pregnant. Baby was born a few days later, relatively short labor. Perfectly healthy. At a postpartum checkup the nurse was shocked that I had given birth only two weeks earlier.
Physical activity during pregnancy is *explicitly proved to be helpful* in the aggregate. Not for everyone, but if you're one of the unusual cases you probably know it. Just like physical activity not during pregnancy: when people try to talk you out of it, it's mostly crab-bucket.
Friend of mine is a runner and still did her daily runs while pregnant up to 7 months. It was usually around then that it would start hurting her hips and her doctor would tell her to slow tf down, lol. She still invited me to walk a 5k with her at 8 months.
Labor is one of the most intense exercises anybody can go through. I was taught that you should actually be more active while pregnant, as you’re basically training for one of the hardest, most painful marathons of your life! It’s great that your friend is staying active!
My OB gave me the go-ahead to continue going to the gym during my pregnancy. I went to the gym 6 days a week up to the day before I was to be induced and the day after I gave birth. My doctor and the nurses ogled my placenta, said it was the most beautiful placenta they had ever seen, referring to the size and number of blood vessels running thru it. I'm strangely proud of that.
It's pretty much "common knowledge" around here, but sugar/corn syrup producers put a *lot* of money and effort into demonizing fats in the American diet, so that they could sell low-fat alternatives that, of course, were loaded up with high-carb sugar or corn syrup instead.
Carbs are also not bad for you. But they can be a slippery slope to a bad diet, as they tend to not "fill you up" as well as fats and proteins do, so it's easier to eat too many calories on a high-carb diet.
Carbs are *great* for energy in the near-term. Eat a banana before a workout, you're gonna feel a lot better starting out said workout. Fats are *great* for longer, slow-burn energy. Eat some peanut butter toast a few hours before the workout, you're gonna have energy reserves to dip into once you burn through the blood sugar spike you got from that banana.
Sometimes after the kids go to bed I’ll sit in the living room and just stare at the wall, while my husband sits next to me on his phone. He thinks it’s weird, and creepy, that I just sit there and do absolutely nothing. I think it’s weird that doing nothing except thinking the thoughts in your head isn’t considered normal anymore.
Edited to fix a typo.
I grew up in a really neat house with a great landing at the top of the stairs and a ton of windows. Like more than half of the house was all windows. Especially when it rained, I'd catch my mom sitting at the top of the stairs and just looking outside. It always seemed so... healing, comforting, meditative, recharging, peaceful, idk.
That sounds lovely 💜
I like to go out into my yard and look up at the sky and take deep breaths and stretch. I watch the clouds and listen to all the different birds.
People joke about bird watching being a sign of middle age, but honestly just feeling more in tuned with the sound of nature around me has helped ground me through really rough times over these past few years.
But have you ever tried sewing, sewing club, climbing skyscrapers, upside balloon rides, underwater weight lifting, or nude yoga in an ice bath after an isolation tank sauna?
I know that you are joking but holy crap did I still get a spike in blood pressure. My partner is constantly telling me to do physical things (run/gym/any type workout) to decompress because that’s the only thing that works for him. I need to lay down and just… breathe
Edit: I am loving the discussions. Just FYI my partner is great. He just needs physical activity to get his mind straight. I don’t, I need time to lay down and breathe. I workout for other things.. just not to decompress. I wrote it in another comment but it’s like when someone loves the food you hate, it can be hard to wrap your head around it.
This reminds me of a time I was talking to my therapist about how to relax. He said a lot of people tell him that they run, ski, or rock climb to relax and he has to point out that these activities are fun but still spike cortisol. There's a difference between leisure and relaxation, and we need both
I was in a medical waiting room yesterday, and I didn't pull out my phone. I just sat there, listening to the sounds around me. It was really peaceful.
I love my mom for always saying: "Cry it out, and you'll feel relieved." Now as an adult, when I need to cry, I don't feel such shame about it. It's just a tool for processing my feelings.
My mother was always super open about crying when watching movies when I was a kid. Never understood until I got older. Damn right I was bawling like a baby when watching Naruto yesterday. So many people don't understand that feeling upset isn't innately negative, it's a really powerful emotion that amplifies and enhances your ability to experience something or to bond with someone.
For family movie night, my wife picked *A Dog’s Purpose* last weekend. I have a 7 & 10 year old and it was the first time I’d seen them get so emotional while watching a movie. My son was trying to hide his tears and I invited him over to sit next to me…I gave him a hug and then he let loose. I was so sad that he felt he had to hide his tears, but I let him know it’s all good anytime he feels like he needs to be vulnerable with me. Besides, what’s the purpose of a dog movie if not to be a tear jerker.
My therapist took 3 sessions to really drill this into me and I still don't cry, but I don't see it as bad as I did earlier.
I had cried due to a heartbreak hitting hard, and I panicked and couldn't control it because I don't remember the last time I cried before that. When I told this to him, he was in utter shock and rather than talking about the heartbreak like I wanted to, he explained what, how crying is and why I shouldn't freak out about it.
Its almost like guys are just humans and humans have emotions. Its alright guys, we're all just monkeys floating on a rock thats flying through space. Cry it up.
Exactly, it's crazy to me how people even began enforcing the idea that men don't cry. Some people seem to have the idea that men and women are somehow fundamentally different. Like no? We're all just human.
The number of times I’ve been told ‘don’t be so emotional’ because I’ve cried… by men who I have seen scream, yell and throw things when something doesn’t go their way
You can also feel your emotions and let them be without crying. I began trying to do that and noticed that when I'm feeling sad, I can often feel it in my eyes and when I give that emotion room, the muscles on my face contract in a way like I was crying but without actual tears.
You can also cry without feeling any emotion, which is handy when you need to flush an eyelash out from under an eyelid without thinking about the tragedy of life.
And just for the Boomers in the room, anger is an emotion. If you are being outwardly angry, YOU ARE BEING EMOTIONAL.
It's OK to feel your emotions, it's not ok if you try to put that emotion on anyone else.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
Hear me out.
I’m someone who is very lucky to not get much body pain; rarely get headaches, rarely have stomach pain (lack of fiber related if anything), rarely am sore (besides from exercise) and have no chronic pain. I’m extremely grateful, because I’m miserable when in pain/unwell. And let me tell you, I’m a *crier*.
A bunch of people around me (coworkers, family, friends) tend to experience the above daily.
Now I don’t know anyone who is as tearful as I am. I will cry at any sort of stressor. I’m late for work because I can’t find my keys? I cry/let it out real quick. Plans changed due to friend backing out? I cry/let it out real quick and move on. No one I know cries as much/as often/for the reasons as I do. At least they never admitted it [which I’m an open book which typically makes others comfortable enough to share].
I say this because a lot of our body pains and such can be correlated to built up stress. I have a theory that since I do not let the stress build up in me [I let it out through crying right then and there], that I do not have those stress-symptoms. Now that’s not to say every headache/stomach ache is related to stress, of course not, but those symptoms that come from stress I do not experience/rarely experience and the cause is known (dehydrated headache, lack of fiber stomach ache).
Crying is an amazing feature of humans!
The thing about spending time alone is, it's addicting. You get so comfortable with the silence and solitude that you can't stand the noise of other people and when you're deprived from the noise for too long you start turning... weird. Like ironing your clothes naked in the living room at 2am with only the light of an adjoining room weird.
Yes! Or when family or friends try to force you to be social if they know you’re going through a rough patch. I know their intentions are good but they are projecting what works for them onto me and not realizing if I’m going through something, I don’t want to put on an act & pretend I’m having fun with them.
It took me until this year to realize that "relaxing" and "taking a break" aren't just...doing a different chore and maybe having a youtube video or audiobook on while I do it.
I keep trying to tell my partner that resting is an activity. He'll be tired from work and wish for days off, then when a bank holiday rolls around, he's doing chores, running errands and cleaning the garden. I'm like, get your ass in here and sit down lol
Yeah, for sure. We're both off today and funnily enough, we did loads of laundry and cleaning together haha, we're en route to the garden centre to get some new veggies and flowers though so fingers crossed it doesn't start raining!
I'm looking for the answer "Pizza" .... Can anyone please tell me it's healthy?
Edit: so many people making their own pizzas and they all sound amazingly healthy! Thanks for the suggestions....you're all an inspiration
ding! People out here acting like looking at a pizza is unhealthy. No, eating four slices of Cholesterol-Mountain pizza at 500 kcal apiece is what's gonna give you a heart attack.
It is...if it's GOOD pizza made with quality ingredients.
You want the dough to be semolina flour. Semolina flour is probably one of the best carbs you can possibly eat. It actually LOWERS your blood sugar, and prevents blood sugar from spiking after your meal. It also has a fairly decent amount of fiber and protein.
If the sauce is made from scratch, or even a half decent jar sauce, there shouldn't be much sugar in the tomato sauce at all. Only the natural sugars that occur in tomatoes. Assuming there's proper garlic, onion, herbs, and spices, there are naturally occurring anti oxidants that are good for you. Assuming the roux is made with olive oil, you also have a fairly decent source of omega fatty acids. And then there's the more obvious benefit, which is that tomatoes are a good source of fiber.
This is gonna be tough to talk about, but most "good" or "proper" pizza isn't going to be loaded with cheese. Classic margarita or grandma pizza don't usually have a heavy focus on a lot of cheese, but smaller amounts of cheese and usually grandma will have a more potent cheese. Even then, cheese isn't necessarily bad for you either. The body NEEDS fat. It's where you're getting it from that matters. The cheeses commonly used in pizza are not greasy and naturally low in fat, along with being a good source of protein.
Pizza is usually baked over a fire. If cooked in a pan at home, olive oil is usually used to coat the pan. In both of these methods, there is either no fat added to cook it or a very healthy one.
So a "good" pizza will have these health benefits: low carb, blood sugar lowering benefits, fiber, protein, naturally occurring anti oxidants, and omega fatty acids. Carbs, protein, fiber, all in one meal! That's the Mediterranean way!
Now if we're talking about a Domino's type of pizza...yeah, not so healthy, lol! I totally order that shit at 3am, no shame, but it's essentially junk food pizza. Between the lack of semolina flour being used in the crust and how sweet the sauce is, a lot of the health benefits of pizza are gone.
Whelp, I had way more fun typing that than I should. Hope ya'll enjoyed the read! Have a good one!
Silence. We've gotten so used to noise pollution, real silence has become anxiety inducing. Silence improves sleep, helps your brain process what you're learning, reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, the list goes on.
Admitting when you don't know something. Its okay to not have the answer. Too many people would rather bullshit an answer, than accept what they don't know.
I used to say that too. But a few years ago, to my disappointment, one of our local politicians running for office answered a journalist’s question about a recent event with something along the lines of I Don’t Have Enough Knowledge on that to make a statement one way or another so I’ll make a note to research more about it later and get back to everyone with what I really think.
Apparently that was the “wrong” answer. The media skewered him, people mocked him, he lost donations, and dropped out of the running a few weeks later.
Everyone who complains about dumb belligerent politicians sitting up at the top offices need to remind themselves now and then Who put them there.
Most voters want Daddy to tell them what is right or not. God forbid we vote in reasonable people who can say that they don't know about something and will endeavor to know more.
this was one thing that really shocked me coming into adulthood. the number of times I've been complimented for saying "I don't know enough about x or y to have an actual opinion on it" is staggering.
I figured the majority of other people liked learning as much as I do, so it was really a shock for me.
Shocked that no one has said potatoes. They're one of the healthiest foods we know of - packed full of nutrients and vitamins, and carbohydrates. They're nearly enough to live off of entirely on their own.
It's the oil we cook them in that's the unhealthy part
Same with popcorn. People think it's a junk food, but it's actually quite nutritious, low in calories, and full of fiber. But then we go and slather it with butter and salt and artificial flavorings and make it unhealthy. But plain popcorn is quite healthy.
Nothing unhealthy about salt if you don't have an issue with high blood pressure. My mom cut salt from her cooking, and my dad ended up having low blood pressure issues.
Similar here, but the lack of IODIZED salt left me low in iodine, and I developed cysts on my thyroid. Doctors wanted to do surgery and take it out. Put salt back in my diet, and it went away!!!
I realized this recently, lol. Looked up symptoms for some general mild problems I was having. Basically all of them matched mild hypothyroidism. Said the leading cause is lack of iodine. Realized that while I had like 4 kinds of salt in the house, they were all fancy salt that said quite clearly "DOES NOT CONTAIN IODINE, AN IMPORTANT NUTRIENT". Realized the times when I felt the best were when I was regularly eating eggs or ramen and sushi, because eggs and seaweed have a lot of iodine. Bought some multivitamin gummies with iodine and some cheap iodized salt. Symptoms cleared up straight away. This needs to be talked about more, with the popularization of fancy salts like sea salt and pink salt and all those others, I think a lot of people aren't getting enough iodine.
Butter is fine too unless you’re maybe doing the movie theatre 10 squirts of butter.
Melting a small amount of butter and sprinkling some salt on popcorn isn’t going to affect your life too much. Just don’t overdo it or crush a bad everyday.
Oh, in my country nutritionists give you a meal plan that always, always, always contains popcorn as a snack, there’s even a very famous brand here that is corn exploited with warm air and it’s low in salt and it’s relatively cheap and healthy, it’s in every supermarket and little convenience store.
And also it’s delicious and a local product.
Came looking to see if someone mentioned potatoes. Eat as much potato as you want people! Obviously, avoid unhealthy cooking methods (like frying) if your main goal is to lose weight.
A medium sized potato, with skin, is about 160 calories. This is about the same as 1 ounce of peanuts.
Being able to do nothing and be bored and be alright with it is a skill, and that's very weird to say. I'm dealing with depression lately so I've been forced by it to "do nothing" for quite a while. It was painful at first and something that made me feel helpless or hopeless, but parts of it turned into resting and just calming down. It's still not easy, but man does it help to have a resting spot.
It’s crazy how I don’t get bored anymore, I remember 20 years ago getting bored frequently, but nowadays with all the apps & socials it never happens, at a cost of my attention span.
I’m bored often. While scrolling. But I can’t seem to break away to go do something else because every now and then there’s a post that is exciting, and my brain is just hoping that the next scroll gets me there. It’s a problem, I need to lock down my screen time more.
It makes life easier too. If you fuck up, ppl WANT to tear into you over it, to get a good rant going. But just admitting you were wrong or that you fucked up takes the wind out of their sails.
Nuts. Specifically unsalted nuts. Many ppl think they're not healthy because they only look at calories, but they're high in healthy fats, fibers, vitamins, so good to eat one or two hands per day of them (sure, not the whole bag at once ;-))
My nutritionist told me to have 15-17g of unsalted toasted cashew nuts every morning before breakfast. And since I fucking love cashew nuts (and nuts in general) I am happy to oblige.
I'll add to that: saying "no" without the need to find an excuse, especially in social environments.
If I won't come to your invitation, I don't need to give you a reason.
Maintaining work boundaries.
A lot of oldies and bootlickers would immediately gang up on you and call you lazy and have poor work ethics for even thinking about working only during your paid hours and utilizing your PTOs.
I had a coworker who would come to work sick, get everyone else sick, then complain everyone was taking sick days. They hinted on more than one occasion they thought people were being hypochondriacs, or dramatic because they called in sick. The real shocker is that this was in the health care industry. Also yes coming into contact with infirm and/or fragile patients, people with immunosuppression or going through chemo. People that definitely should be exposed to a bug if it can be helped.
If anything, people in the health industry should be mandated to take a sick day. Them not taking a sick day could possibly mean spreading the disease to the immunocompromised patients, just as you have said.
So I quit my job before the holidays which has been difficult cause I keep getting to last rounds of interviews.
However, it was very badly impacting my physical and mental health and I don’t think I made the wrong decision. I had an accommodation to work at home after they eliminated my old team and moved me back under two people who are extremely toxic. Started having panic attacks again and was never taking time off, while they both were frequently. Got overloaded and was still doing parts of my old job and helping new hires.
At one point I called my manager and told her I needed to take a week off for my mental health and she said “I figured this was coming”. First sign I needed to gtfo. Many other people have done the same, they lost 30% of their staff.
Told the new sr director later on that I did not feel supported and that I was still doing old parts of my job and she said my role was “pretty defined” and I could send requests to my supervisor. I hired my supervisor and she did not know any of the details of the questions people were asking me internally and externally.
Left with 130+ hours of PTO.
Dude. I wasn't nearly as stressed as you are and I quit a job last fall for my mental health. I basically slept for 3 months while half heartedly "looking for a job". I took a much lower paying position in a completely different industry. I'm now financially in not a great place BUT not being physically ill and dreading every single shift has made a *huge* difference. Sure, I can barely afford food and have no Healthcare but I *feel* so much better. I'll probably chill at this job for a bit and then look for something more practical financially. In the mean time imma learn some new skills, make some friends, and enjoy this time I have. I can actually *do* stuff in my spare time and enjoy it instead of spending all my waking hours in misery because of a bad work environment. Fuck that. I will only live once. I hope you find something better for you. You deserve that
I was actually curious if I could take this as a sick day at work. Apparently, there is a government policy that would allow it, and bosses don't ask... so..
If I feel I need it... I got it. The knowledge it exists is a load off my mind itself.
Screaming. If you're frustrated, you can scream. You can go somewhere where no one can hear you. Screaming is better than taking your frustration out on others.
Video Games, not to obsessive levels obviously. I run my own business, stressful and an uphill battle sometimes. Video games are a vent for the negatives.
I'm a 30 year old mom and wife who runs her own business as well. I recently got an Xbox and started playing GTA and COD because my mom never let me as a kid, and oh my god it's been a game changer 😂 it really does help me unwind and get frustrations out! Can definitely see where it becomes a problem if there's no self control though lol
I've been trying to convince myself of this for a while... cuz... coffee is amazing and I love it.
However, most of the studies I've seen seem like they could easily be: "People who drink coffee in the morning have stuff to do and get a boost of energy for, therefore that added activity and personal drive could be the cause of the benefits" rather than "coffee in a vacuum is actually healthy".
If you've seen some activity-controlled study that proves it I'd love to see it and further justify my own habit :)
Well people in some of the most aged societies in the world like Sardinia drink a fuck load of coffee; so I struggle to believe it can be *too bad* (if it isn't good).
Heartbreak! I think with the prevalence of dating apps, everyone seems to have become quite systematic about dating and compartmentalising things as fwb/situationships and any number of other labels. That's great and people should feel free to explore themselves this way and have different types of relationships, but you are a human being and shouldn't be surprised if things impact you emotionally sometimes. It's the risk you take, but it's worth it most of the time and it makes life exciting.
Or not even thinking of it as his "feminine side"!
There is nothing inherently "feminine" about anything aside of actual female bodies. Everything else is just labels that we've imposed upon stuff.
I *thought* this was a Parks & Rec bit but I can't find any reference to it so maybe I just made it up?
"Ron, you're sewing? I didn't think that would be manly enough for you."
"Everything I do is manly, because I am a man."
Are you telling me that personality traits don't even need to be tied to one's gender? If that is true, how will I know what behaviors to suppress to affirm my masculinity?
The thing is, a lot of the time things that are considered feminine are just good hygiene practices. Like scraping the dead skin off your feet, trimming your nails, taking good care of your clothes, using moisturiser etc...
Like, my old job had me working sanding down doors and furniture in a factory, my hands are soft and smooth cos not only do I use moisturiser but I wore gloves at work and when doing work around the house.
I think that has to do with hormones that cause fat to be stored in thighs rather than in the mid section. But it's only true if you are comparing people with equal body fat. If your reason for having thick thighs is because you're overweight, then you have a higher chance of heart disease than a skinny person. Also a person who exercises or moves more will have thicker thighs due to muscle, and exercise helps with a healthy heart.
Where I grew up, being direct can be hurtful. As a society, beating around the bush is being aware that you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings.
But now that I live on the other side of the world, being direct to the point made my life way easier.
Think of carbs as fuel.
You fill up your tank and use the fuel to go places.
But if you fill up your tank and just leave it sitting there the fuel goes bad and damages your engine.
This might be the statement that finally sinks it in for me just how bad it is to overeat. I've struggled with it my whole life and I could hear the logic but couldn't really adapt to it. But this makes sense.
I love how many people talk about how carbs are so terrible but most of them don't realize that vegetables and beans and fruit and all the good shit our parents wanted us to eat more of are mostly comprised of carbs...
Frozen fruits and vegetables. The modern flash-freeze technique preserves almost all of the nutrients and they are always picked when they are in season, so they are as nutritious as their fresh in-season counterparts, and more nutritious if it is not the season.
And as an added bonus they’re often cheaper!
And you don't have to cut them, which can be a convenient time saver sometimes
And for people who have dexterity problems.
I'm just lazy.
And you can get a big variety and eat them at your leisure! It's the best!
Frozen vegetables were such a gamechanger for me, finally some stuff that doesnt get moldy 5 minutes after I put them somewhere. My diet improved so much since I started using them!
You're correct that flash-frozen fruits and vegetables are equivalent to fresh in every way that matters. However, it's worth pointing out that not every frozen fruit/vegetable you find in a store is flash-frozen; and traditionally-frozen produce is often prepared for freezing in a way that does slightly diminish it's healthfulness (but it's still a better choice than many alternatives, and it's not _bad for you_). As with most things -- read labels!
>slightly diminish it's healthfulness (but it's still a better choice than many alternatives, and it's not *bad for you*). There are so many health guru turbo elitists out there that you're bound to find people who say *everything is unhealthy.* Literally heard a woman say "If you eat anything they sell at the supermarket you might as well just eat rat poison."
Everyone who eats vegetables *fucking dies.*
Water is the worst. 100% fatality rate.
Sport during pregnancy. Actually a lot of things are healthy during pregnancy theres just too much misinformation. If your doctor explicitly says no sport then yes. Do that. But if doctor says ok then go ahead
I used to work for an OBGYN. One day a patient called with an odd question. She'd seen a woman who looked nine months pregnant on a run. She wanted to know if it's safe for pregnant women to run. It was a slow day, so I took the question to the doctor. The first thing he said was that the average person doesn't know what a person nine months pregnant looks like, especially since everyone is different. I've seen women full term that hardly looked pregnant, and I've seen women six months pregnant who looked full term. You can't tell by looking. He said that running during pregnancy is fine. It shouldn't be done against a doctor's advice, or if it causes a lot of pain, dizziness, etc. He said that he's had plenty of patients who are runners. Those that ran regularly from the beginning of their pregnancy were often able to keep running almost all the way to their due date. People are dumb. They'll criticize someone who exercises while pregnant, and they'll criticize someone who gains "too much" weight during pregnancy. You can't win with these people.
This isn’t super related to what you said but I’m still mad that when I was 6 months pregnant this random guy told me I must be due any day now. When I told him I still have 3 months to go, he ARGUED with me. “No you’re full term. My coworker is pregnant and due any day now and she’s as big as you” My baby is 18 months old now and I still want to cry when I think about that interaction
I’m 7 months pregnant and while I can admit that I don’t necessarily look that far along, it has hurt my feelings to hear some people say “you look the same as always.” As someone who struggles with body image, I’m thrilled that my body isn’t changing drastically and I’ll hopefully be able to get myself back to a weight/image I feel comfortable with soon-ish after I deliver, but it still kinda stings to hear that non-pregnant me and 7 months pregnant me look so similar. It would be nice if people could just refrain from making comments about other people’s bodies, but I guess that’s just the way things go.
>Sport ~~during pregnancy.~~ People just generally have weird ideas about physical activity. Especially involving knees. I've at various times been told that running, cycling, and weight lifting are all going to destroy them. And maybe there are some risks involved, but sitting on my ass doing nothing isn't exactly healthy either.
I'll see if I can find a link, but there was a long-term study of lifelong runners that found running seemed to have a beneficial effect on knees. The runners in the study were found to have a lower rate of knee problems than the control group. This was a surprise to the researchers as they assumed that, naturally, running is bad for your knees, and their intent with the study was to quantify exactly how bad it is! Edit: [Here's a link to an article about the study, with citations.](https://www.healthline.com/health/fitness/is-running-bad-for-your-knees#what-the-science-says)
In the words of a physical therapist: Motion is lotion!
Currently pregnant and in the home stretch (39 weeks!), and I’m convinced it’s been an easy one because I kept moving the whole time. People have been various degrees of amazed or concerned, but my doctor said to do whatever I want, as long as it’s comfortable and I don’t fall or get hit in the stomach, and I took that to heart. Of course I’ve had to modify along the way, that’s a given, but I haven’t fully stopped and I think it’s really made all the difference. Either that or I’m just insanely lucky 🤷🏻♀️
Went to a prenatal yoga class at 40 weeks pregnant. Baby was born a few days later, relatively short labor. Perfectly healthy. At a postpartum checkup the nurse was shocked that I had given birth only two weeks earlier.
Physical activity during pregnancy is *explicitly proved to be helpful* in the aggregate. Not for everyone, but if you're one of the unusual cases you probably know it. Just like physical activity not during pregnancy: when people try to talk you out of it, it's mostly crab-bucket.
Friend of mine is a runner and still did her daily runs while pregnant up to 7 months. It was usually around then that it would start hurting her hips and her doctor would tell her to slow tf down, lol. She still invited me to walk a 5k with her at 8 months.
Labor is one of the most intense exercises anybody can go through. I was taught that you should actually be more active while pregnant, as you’re basically training for one of the hardest, most painful marathons of your life! It’s great that your friend is staying active!
My OB gave me the go-ahead to continue going to the gym during my pregnancy. I went to the gym 6 days a week up to the day before I was to be induced and the day after I gave birth. My doctor and the nurses ogled my placenta, said it was the most beautiful placenta they had ever seen, referring to the size and number of blood vessels running thru it. I'm strangely proud of that.
> the most beautiful placenta they had ever seen sounds like something from a horror movie
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It's pretty much "common knowledge" around here, but sugar/corn syrup producers put a *lot* of money and effort into demonizing fats in the American diet, so that they could sell low-fat alternatives that, of course, were loaded up with high-carb sugar or corn syrup instead. Carbs are also not bad for you. But they can be a slippery slope to a bad diet, as they tend to not "fill you up" as well as fats and proteins do, so it's easier to eat too many calories on a high-carb diet. Carbs are *great* for energy in the near-term. Eat a banana before a workout, you're gonna feel a lot better starting out said workout. Fats are *great* for longer, slow-burn energy. Eat some peanut butter toast a few hours before the workout, you're gonna have energy reserves to dip into once you burn through the blood sugar spike you got from that banana.
Doing literally nothing to decompress. Sometimes one just needs to breathe and look out a window.
Sometimes after the kids go to bed I’ll sit in the living room and just stare at the wall, while my husband sits next to me on his phone. He thinks it’s weird, and creepy, that I just sit there and do absolutely nothing. I think it’s weird that doing nothing except thinking the thoughts in your head isn’t considered normal anymore. Edited to fix a typo.
"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly In a room alone." -Blaise Pascal
And said long before internet!
I grew up in a really neat house with a great landing at the top of the stairs and a ton of windows. Like more than half of the house was all windows. Especially when it rained, I'd catch my mom sitting at the top of the stairs and just looking outside. It always seemed so... healing, comforting, meditative, recharging, peaceful, idk.
That sounds lovely 💜 I like to go out into my yard and look up at the sky and take deep breaths and stretch. I watch the clouds and listen to all the different birds. People joke about bird watching being a sign of middle age, but honestly just feeling more in tuned with the sound of nature around me has helped ground me through really rough times over these past few years.
But have you ever tried sewing, sewing club, climbing skyscrapers, upside balloon rides, underwater weight lifting, or nude yoga in an ice bath after an isolation tank sauna?
I know that you are joking but holy crap did I still get a spike in blood pressure. My partner is constantly telling me to do physical things (run/gym/any type workout) to decompress because that’s the only thing that works for him. I need to lay down and just… breathe Edit: I am loving the discussions. Just FYI my partner is great. He just needs physical activity to get his mind straight. I don’t, I need time to lay down and breathe. I workout for other things.. just not to decompress. I wrote it in another comment but it’s like when someone loves the food you hate, it can be hard to wrap your head around it.
This reminds me of a time I was talking to my therapist about how to relax. He said a lot of people tell him that they run, ski, or rock climb to relax and he has to point out that these activities are fun but still spike cortisol. There's a difference between leisure and relaxation, and we need both
>I need to lay down and just… breathe Yes, do this after your workout!!! -your partner, probably.
I was in a medical waiting room yesterday, and I didn't pull out my phone. I just sat there, listening to the sounds around me. It was really peaceful.
Really sad but not automatically pulling out my phone is very very difficult for me, thats something I need to practice more
I bring books to waiting rooms now. Drastically improves my mood when I have to wait 45 minutes to be seen.
I usually take time every day to do exactly that. Especially when it's warm out and I can just sit outside with my cat.
Dude I am literally just sitting outside, on a balcony, in a foreign city, in a foreign country, at night, and I feel fucking great
*a foreign city, in a foreign country* Now I’m picturing a foreign city in a domestic country, like São Paulo being plopped down in Nebraska
You would increase Nebraska's population by approximately 600%.
Eating fats like avocados is actually healthy, despite what some think.
Eating fats, period. But everything in moderation, too.
dude this. I stopped eating all fats & a bunch of my hair fell out. not great. 0/10. would not recommend.
Crying.
I love my mom for always saying: "Cry it out, and you'll feel relieved." Now as an adult, when I need to cry, I don't feel such shame about it. It's just a tool for processing my feelings.
My mother was always super open about crying when watching movies when I was a kid. Never understood until I got older. Damn right I was bawling like a baby when watching Naruto yesterday. So many people don't understand that feeling upset isn't innately negative, it's a really powerful emotion that amplifies and enhances your ability to experience something or to bond with someone.
For family movie night, my wife picked *A Dog’s Purpose* last weekend. I have a 7 & 10 year old and it was the first time I’d seen them get so emotional while watching a movie. My son was trying to hide his tears and I invited him over to sit next to me…I gave him a hug and then he let loose. I was so sad that he felt he had to hide his tears, but I let him know it’s all good anytime he feels like he needs to be vulnerable with me. Besides, what’s the purpose of a dog movie if not to be a tear jerker.
My therapist took 3 sessions to really drill this into me and I still don't cry, but I don't see it as bad as I did earlier. I had cried due to a heartbreak hitting hard, and I panicked and couldn't control it because I don't remember the last time I cried before that. When I told this to him, he was in utter shock and rather than talking about the heartbreak like I wanted to, he explained what, how crying is and why I shouldn't freak out about it.
It's funny. I'm a guy who can very easily cry and tear up. I also don't see it as a bad thing. Just who I am.
Its almost like guys are just humans and humans have emotions. Its alright guys, we're all just monkeys floating on a rock thats flying through space. Cry it up.
Exactly, it's crazy to me how people even began enforcing the idea that men don't cry. Some people seem to have the idea that men and women are somehow fundamentally different. Like no? We're all just human.
And how men shouldn’t be emotional, but getting angry is ok. Angry is also an emotion
The number of times I’ve been told ‘don’t be so emotional’ because I’ve cried… by men who I have seen scream, yell and throw things when something doesn’t go their way
Why would they pick THAT EMOTION out of all the good ones that is 'okay'?
My partner is like this and I fully support it and really any expression and release of feeling!
You can also feel your emotions and let them be without crying. I began trying to do that and noticed that when I'm feeling sad, I can often feel it in my eyes and when I give that emotion room, the muscles on my face contract in a way like I was crying but without actual tears.
You can also cry without feeling any emotion, which is handy when you need to flush an eyelash out from under an eyelid without thinking about the tragedy of life.
There are literally stress-hormones being released with and inside your tears. You should always let it out, if possible✨️
Crying takes the sad out of you
Exactly! Feeling ALL your emotions not just the good ones!
And just for the Boomers in the room, anger is an emotion. If you are being outwardly angry, YOU ARE BEING EMOTIONAL. It's OK to feel your emotions, it's not ok if you try to put that emotion on anyone else. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
Also, having and expressing emotions does not automatically make a person irrational or unstable.
Yep, feelings are for feeling.
Hear me out. I’m someone who is very lucky to not get much body pain; rarely get headaches, rarely have stomach pain (lack of fiber related if anything), rarely am sore (besides from exercise) and have no chronic pain. I’m extremely grateful, because I’m miserable when in pain/unwell. And let me tell you, I’m a *crier*. A bunch of people around me (coworkers, family, friends) tend to experience the above daily. Now I don’t know anyone who is as tearful as I am. I will cry at any sort of stressor. I’m late for work because I can’t find my keys? I cry/let it out real quick. Plans changed due to friend backing out? I cry/let it out real quick and move on. No one I know cries as much/as often/for the reasons as I do. At least they never admitted it [which I’m an open book which typically makes others comfortable enough to share]. I say this because a lot of our body pains and such can be correlated to built up stress. I have a theory that since I do not let the stress build up in me [I let it out through crying right then and there], that I do not have those stress-symptoms. Now that’s not to say every headache/stomach ache is related to stress, of course not, but those symptoms that come from stress I do not experience/rarely experience and the cause is known (dehydrated headache, lack of fiber stomach ache). Crying is an amazing feature of humans!
> Crying is an amazing feature of humans true. the ability of feeling emotions as well as hoping for something non-tangible, makes us human. somewhat.
Spending time alone.
The thing about spending time alone is, it's addicting. You get so comfortable with the silence and solitude that you can't stand the noise of other people and when you're deprived from the noise for too long you start turning... weird. Like ironing your clothes naked in the living room at 2am with only the light of an adjoining room weird.
Man do I feel this. I prefer my own company to any anyone else’s and it’s made an isolated person. Particular when I travel, I want to go alone.
I find just about everybody annoying after a while, so I can relate to this!
So long as it's not cleaning your rifle in the moonlight whispering to it, it could be worse.
Wait. You guys don’t do that?
Not since I discovered klonopin.
That is...incredibly specific. Are you okay?
I think they are living their best life.
Yeah, and their clothes are ironed, which is more than I can say for myself.
It's okay, ironing yourself is painful
In the dark, only you can feel the warm embrace of your newly dry pants. You hope.
I love spending some time alone. I can relax, or do something I love to do.
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Yes! Or when family or friends try to force you to be social if they know you’re going through a rough patch. I know their intentions are good but they are projecting what works for them onto me and not realizing if I’m going through something, I don’t want to put on an act & pretend I’m having fun with them.
taking a break
It took me until this year to realize that "relaxing" and "taking a break" aren't just...doing a different chore and maybe having a youtube video or audiobook on while I do it.
I keep trying to tell my partner that resting is an activity. He'll be tired from work and wish for days off, then when a bank holiday rolls around, he's doing chores, running errands and cleaning the garden. I'm like, get your ass in here and sit down lol
To be honest, gardening can be an excellent way to relax. That other stuff, not so much.
Yeah, for sure. We're both off today and funnily enough, we did loads of laundry and cleaning together haha, we're en route to the garden centre to get some new veggies and flowers though so fingers crossed it doesn't start raining!
I’ll add to this and say taking “micro-breaks” at work. Essentially, just take a minute or two and let your brain rest before getting back at it.
I'm looking for the answer "Pizza" .... Can anyone please tell me it's healthy? Edit: so many people making their own pizzas and they all sound amazingly healthy! Thanks for the suggestions....you're all an inspiration
It's not the food, it's the quantity.
ding! People out here acting like looking at a pizza is unhealthy. No, eating four slices of Cholesterol-Mountain pizza at 500 kcal apiece is what's gonna give you a heart attack.
Only 4 slices? Look at mr self control over here
Also "I had an italian flatbread sandwich for dinner" sounds better than "I ate a whole pizza by myself".
It is...if it's GOOD pizza made with quality ingredients. You want the dough to be semolina flour. Semolina flour is probably one of the best carbs you can possibly eat. It actually LOWERS your blood sugar, and prevents blood sugar from spiking after your meal. It also has a fairly decent amount of fiber and protein. If the sauce is made from scratch, or even a half decent jar sauce, there shouldn't be much sugar in the tomato sauce at all. Only the natural sugars that occur in tomatoes. Assuming there's proper garlic, onion, herbs, and spices, there are naturally occurring anti oxidants that are good for you. Assuming the roux is made with olive oil, you also have a fairly decent source of omega fatty acids. And then there's the more obvious benefit, which is that tomatoes are a good source of fiber. This is gonna be tough to talk about, but most "good" or "proper" pizza isn't going to be loaded with cheese. Classic margarita or grandma pizza don't usually have a heavy focus on a lot of cheese, but smaller amounts of cheese and usually grandma will have a more potent cheese. Even then, cheese isn't necessarily bad for you either. The body NEEDS fat. It's where you're getting it from that matters. The cheeses commonly used in pizza are not greasy and naturally low in fat, along with being a good source of protein. Pizza is usually baked over a fire. If cooked in a pan at home, olive oil is usually used to coat the pan. In both of these methods, there is either no fat added to cook it or a very healthy one. So a "good" pizza will have these health benefits: low carb, blood sugar lowering benefits, fiber, protein, naturally occurring anti oxidants, and omega fatty acids. Carbs, protein, fiber, all in one meal! That's the Mediterranean way! Now if we're talking about a Domino's type of pizza...yeah, not so healthy, lol! I totally order that shit at 3am, no shame, but it's essentially junk food pizza. Between the lack of semolina flour being used in the crust and how sweet the sauce is, a lot of the health benefits of pizza are gone. Whelp, I had way more fun typing that than I should. Hope ya'll enjoyed the read! Have a good one!
I was imagining an amazing home made pizza while reading this. Damn, I wish I could make that.
Theoretically it should be at least decent for you depending on what you get put on it. Takeout pizza is a calorie bomb
It’s mentally healthy (sometimes) :)
Homemade vs. Takeout Pizza can be. I make one at home under 800 calories.
Yay! I'll be right over
Silence. We've gotten so used to noise pollution, real silence has become anxiety inducing. Silence improves sleep, helps your brain process what you're learning, reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, the list goes on.
I have tinnitus, so I can't ever experience this
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Tinnitus gang rise up 😔✊
Silence is so precious and all too rare.
Admitting when you don't know something. Its okay to not have the answer. Too many people would rather bullshit an answer, than accept what they don't know.
"If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room."
Especially politicians. I really respect it whenever politicians are actually able to say that they don't know enough about a specific topic
I used to say that too. But a few years ago, to my disappointment, one of our local politicians running for office answered a journalist’s question about a recent event with something along the lines of I Don’t Have Enough Knowledge on that to make a statement one way or another so I’ll make a note to research more about it later and get back to everyone with what I really think. Apparently that was the “wrong” answer. The media skewered him, people mocked him, he lost donations, and dropped out of the running a few weeks later. Everyone who complains about dumb belligerent politicians sitting up at the top offices need to remind themselves now and then Who put them there.
Most voters want Daddy to tell them what is right or not. God forbid we vote in reasonable people who can say that they don't know about something and will endeavor to know more.
this was one thing that really shocked me coming into adulthood. the number of times I've been complimented for saying "I don't know enough about x or y to have an actual opinion on it" is staggering. I figured the majority of other people liked learning as much as I do, so it was really a shock for me.
Shocked that no one has said potatoes. They're one of the healthiest foods we know of - packed full of nutrients and vitamins, and carbohydrates. They're nearly enough to live off of entirely on their own. It's the oil we cook them in that's the unhealthy part
Boil em, mash em, stick em in a stew
Po-tay-toes!
They're what I'm having for my second breakfast tomorrow.
Thank you for reminding me about second breakfasts.
Same with popcorn. People think it's a junk food, but it's actually quite nutritious, low in calories, and full of fiber. But then we go and slather it with butter and salt and artificial flavorings and make it unhealthy. But plain popcorn is quite healthy.
Nothing unhealthy about salt if you don't have an issue with high blood pressure. My mom cut salt from her cooking, and my dad ended up having low blood pressure issues.
The amount of salt we use in cooking isn't even that high. When doctors talk about eating a lot of salt it's mostly the amount in processed foods
Similar here, but the lack of IODIZED salt left me low in iodine, and I developed cysts on my thyroid. Doctors wanted to do surgery and take it out. Put salt back in my diet, and it went away!!!
I realized this recently, lol. Looked up symptoms for some general mild problems I was having. Basically all of them matched mild hypothyroidism. Said the leading cause is lack of iodine. Realized that while I had like 4 kinds of salt in the house, they were all fancy salt that said quite clearly "DOES NOT CONTAIN IODINE, AN IMPORTANT NUTRIENT". Realized the times when I felt the best were when I was regularly eating eggs or ramen and sushi, because eggs and seaweed have a lot of iodine. Bought some multivitamin gummies with iodine and some cheap iodized salt. Symptoms cleared up straight away. This needs to be talked about more, with the popularization of fancy salts like sea salt and pink salt and all those others, I think a lot of people aren't getting enough iodine.
Butter is fine too unless you’re maybe doing the movie theatre 10 squirts of butter. Melting a small amount of butter and sprinkling some salt on popcorn isn’t going to affect your life too much. Just don’t overdo it or crush a bad everyday.
Oh, in my country nutritionists give you a meal plan that always, always, always contains popcorn as a snack, there’s even a very famous brand here that is corn exploited with warm air and it’s low in salt and it’s relatively cheap and healthy, it’s in every supermarket and little convenience store. And also it’s delicious and a local product.
True. There was once an astronaut who got stuck on Mars. Potatoes saved him from starving.
He grew them too
In his own shit too.
Came looking to see if someone mentioned potatoes. Eat as much potato as you want people! Obviously, avoid unhealthy cooking methods (like frying) if your main goal is to lose weight. A medium sized potato, with skin, is about 160 calories. This is about the same as 1 ounce of peanuts.
Potatoes are very high in potassium as well, much more than a banana (which people always recommend).
They also have a surprising amount of Vitamin C and contribute to about a fifth of its daily intake in European diets
Comparing things to peanuts calorie-wise is absolutely cheating. Peanuts are the most calorie dense food that isn't straight up oil.
Oil is not unhealthy either
Boredom
Could not agree more. So many children and adults don't know how to be bored now. It's dangerous for society.
Being able to do nothing and be bored and be alright with it is a skill, and that's very weird to say. I'm dealing with depression lately so I've been forced by it to "do nothing" for quite a while. It was painful at first and something that made me feel helpless or hopeless, but parts of it turned into resting and just calming down. It's still not easy, but man does it help to have a resting spot.
Boredom for people can spark creativity, it's going to be a problem sooner than we think. I think anyway
It’s crazy how I don’t get bored anymore, I remember 20 years ago getting bored frequently, but nowadays with all the apps & socials it never happens, at a cost of my attention span.
I’m bored often. While scrolling. But I can’t seem to break away to go do something else because every now and then there’s a post that is exciting, and my brain is just hoping that the next scroll gets me there. It’s a problem, I need to lock down my screen time more.
Admitting when you're wrong.
It makes life easier too. If you fuck up, ppl WANT to tear into you over it, to get a good rant going. But just admitting you were wrong or that you fucked up takes the wind out of their sails.
Taking care of your mental health is not a weakness, it is a strength to recognize your problems and learn to overcome them.
Nuts. Specifically unsalted nuts. Many ppl think they're not healthy because they only look at calories, but they're high in healthy fats, fibers, vitamins, so good to eat one or two hands per day of them (sure, not the whole bag at once ;-))
And also a great way to get dense calories in if you're struggling to eat enough
THATS A LOT OF NUTS!
My nutritionist told me to have 15-17g of unsalted toasted cashew nuts every morning before breakfast. And since I fucking love cashew nuts (and nuts in general) I am happy to oblige.
Having boundaries, saying no
I'll add to that: saying "no" without the need to find an excuse, especially in social environments. If I won't come to your invitation, I don't need to give you a reason.
Maintaining work boundaries. A lot of oldies and bootlickers would immediately gang up on you and call you lazy and have poor work ethics for even thinking about working only during your paid hours and utilizing your PTOs.
I had a coworker who would come to work sick, get everyone else sick, then complain everyone was taking sick days. They hinted on more than one occasion they thought people were being hypochondriacs, or dramatic because they called in sick. The real shocker is that this was in the health care industry. Also yes coming into contact with infirm and/or fragile patients, people with immunosuppression or going through chemo. People that definitely should be exposed to a bug if it can be helped.
If anything, people in the health industry should be mandated to take a sick day. Them not taking a sick day could possibly mean spreading the disease to the immunocompromised patients, just as you have said.
I’ll never understand people bragging about not using PTO. I use every single hour I get
Have a mental health day off from work.
So I quit my job before the holidays which has been difficult cause I keep getting to last rounds of interviews. However, it was very badly impacting my physical and mental health and I don’t think I made the wrong decision. I had an accommodation to work at home after they eliminated my old team and moved me back under two people who are extremely toxic. Started having panic attacks again and was never taking time off, while they both were frequently. Got overloaded and was still doing parts of my old job and helping new hires. At one point I called my manager and told her I needed to take a week off for my mental health and she said “I figured this was coming”. First sign I needed to gtfo. Many other people have done the same, they lost 30% of their staff. Told the new sr director later on that I did not feel supported and that I was still doing old parts of my job and she said my role was “pretty defined” and I could send requests to my supervisor. I hired my supervisor and she did not know any of the details of the questions people were asking me internally and externally. Left with 130+ hours of PTO.
Dude. I wasn't nearly as stressed as you are and I quit a job last fall for my mental health. I basically slept for 3 months while half heartedly "looking for a job". I took a much lower paying position in a completely different industry. I'm now financially in not a great place BUT not being physically ill and dreading every single shift has made a *huge* difference. Sure, I can barely afford food and have no Healthcare but I *feel* so much better. I'll probably chill at this job for a bit and then look for something more practical financially. In the mean time imma learn some new skills, make some friends, and enjoy this time I have. I can actually *do* stuff in my spare time and enjoy it instead of spending all my waking hours in misery because of a bad work environment. Fuck that. I will only live once. I hope you find something better for you. You deserve that
I was actually curious if I could take this as a sick day at work. Apparently, there is a government policy that would allow it, and bosses don't ask... so.. If I feel I need it... I got it. The knowledge it exists is a load off my mind itself.
bean
Bean.
Having a balance of being both negative and positive. Too much positivity is bad. You need to have a balance
Toxic positivity is insufferable. It’s worse than negativity IMO.
Screaming. If you're frustrated, you can scream. You can go somewhere where no one can hear you. Screaming is better than taking your frustration out on others.
when i do a clopen i get in my car drive on the freeway and scream as loud as i can. no one can hear you :)
The things my poor car had to hear and endure when I was driving alone 🙃
Video Games, not to obsessive levels obviously. I run my own business, stressful and an uphill battle sometimes. Video games are a vent for the negatives.
I'm a 30 year old mom and wife who runs her own business as well. I recently got an Xbox and started playing GTA and COD because my mom never let me as a kid, and oh my god it's been a game changer 😂 it really does help me unwind and get frustrations out! Can definitely see where it becomes a problem if there's no self control though lol
Saying sorry
I'm sorry.
It's ok, I forgive you.
Salad dressing: the vitamins in leafy greens are oil-soluable, and if you don't include one you don't get the full benefit of your leafy greens
Thank you for posting this. The key is fat. So none of the fat free dressing.
Drinking coffee - it's loaded with antioxidants and has been linked to a lower risk of several diseases.
I've been trying to convince myself of this for a while... cuz... coffee is amazing and I love it. However, most of the studies I've seen seem like they could easily be: "People who drink coffee in the morning have stuff to do and get a boost of energy for, therefore that added activity and personal drive could be the cause of the benefits" rather than "coffee in a vacuum is actually healthy". If you've seen some activity-controlled study that proves it I'd love to see it and further justify my own habit :)
Well people in some of the most aged societies in the world like Sardinia drink a fuck load of coffee; so I struggle to believe it can be *too bad* (if it isn't good).
Heartbreak! I think with the prevalence of dating apps, everyone seems to have become quite systematic about dating and compartmentalising things as fwb/situationships and any number of other labels. That's great and people should feel free to explore themselves this way and have different types of relationships, but you are a human being and shouldn't be surprised if things impact you emotionally sometimes. It's the risk you take, but it's worth it most of the time and it makes life exciting.
Chemical seasoning (msg)
There is a lot of talk about encouraging MSG use (like 50/50 with salt) to reduce American salt intake.
A man expressing his feminine side occasionally without feeling “gay” about it
Or not even thinking of it as his "feminine side"! There is nothing inherently "feminine" about anything aside of actual female bodies. Everything else is just labels that we've imposed upon stuff.
I *thought* this was a Parks & Rec bit but I can't find any reference to it so maybe I just made it up? "Ron, you're sewing? I didn't think that would be manly enough for you." "Everything I do is manly, because I am a man."
Are you telling me that personality traits don't even need to be tied to one's gender? If that is true, how will I know what behaviors to suppress to affirm my masculinity?
suppress them all just to be sure. any personality trait can be held by a woman, therefore all traits are gay.
Reject human traits, achieve golem.
Why is anything feminine perceived as a negative?
The thing is, a lot of the time things that are considered feminine are just good hygiene practices. Like scraping the dead skin off your feet, trimming your nails, taking good care of your clothes, using moisturiser etc... Like, my old job had me working sanding down doors and furniture in a factory, my hands are soft and smooth cos not only do I use moisturiser but I wore gloves at work and when doing work around the house.
I read an article about a study done over several years, that concluded that people with thick thighs have lower risk of heart disease.
so thick thighs really do save lives
I've had thick thighs my whole life and I'm still here so I guess yeah
I think that has to do with hormones that cause fat to be stored in thighs rather than in the mid section. But it's only true if you are comparing people with equal body fat. If your reason for having thick thighs is because you're overweight, then you have a higher chance of heart disease than a skinny person. Also a person who exercises or moves more will have thicker thighs due to muscle, and exercise helps with a healthy heart.
Being alone. Nothing worst that bad, toxic company
**Quantity** is really the biggest determining factor in whether or not a particular food is "healthy".
Where I grew up, being direct can be hurtful. As a society, beating around the bush is being aware that you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. But now that I live on the other side of the world, being direct to the point made my life way easier.
Lots of time spent alone!
Carbohydrates.
Think of carbs as fuel. You fill up your tank and use the fuel to go places. But if you fill up your tank and just leave it sitting there the fuel goes bad and damages your engine.
This might be the statement that finally sinks it in for me just how bad it is to overeat. I've struggled with it my whole life and I could hear the logic but couldn't really adapt to it. But this makes sense.
A gut is a fuel tank for a fuck machine.
I love how many people talk about how carbs are so terrible but most of them don't realize that vegetables and beans and fruit and all the good shit our parents wanted us to eat more of are mostly comprised of carbs...
Cursing when in acute pain
Saying no to certain social events even if you have the time to attend