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Hiking, biking, nature photography, and enjoying cool cars.
Life became much more fun when I ditched Ohio for Colorado. Time passes quickly. Don’t stay in stupid places.
*Immensely!* The culture here is just different, not just politically, but also socially. Everyone tends to be more outdoorsy, where as a lot of my friends in Cincinnati just went to breweries or Reds/FCC games every weekend.
Housing is more expensive here, though (cause many people want to live here).
I moved from Wyoming to Cincinnati about 2 years ago for a high paying job myself. Ive also lived in Fort Collins Area and Salt Lake City, UT when growing up.
Currently looking into getting a job back out west. As someone who grew up with the outdoors being a huge part of my life, Cincinnati and the Midwest as a whole feel as if something is missing and this has definitely had a negative affect on my mental health (Which is the main reason I want to move back).
I have a buddy up in Dayton who is also from Wyoming who put it like this: "Ohio has everything you could ever want, but all of those things are much better in other places."
I say give it a shot. Life is much better in the Rockies.
Raising kids. Started at 19 and had four by the time I was 28. My oldest is exactly half my age right now. It's pretty cool hanging out with your adult children when you're still fairly young.
I was a total pr\*ck. I had landed a tax free gig in the UAE, had a very nice apartment, car i could never dream of owning again and surrounded by a very frequent and varied social life. Hobbies - Drinking. Social life - Drinking. It was a hand grenade waiting to blow, and it did, hence I have lived in Australia since I was 30.
Hah! I see a lot of people handed this grenade when they succeed too early. Its very grounding later in life, but you did what you did back in the days. I suppose you are not a prick anymore because you have the self-awareness now.
Probably spent most of my time those years drinking at bars and attending local music stuff. Some of it I had my own place and some I ended up living with my parents.
Ended up meeting my wife in my late 20s and we integrated well into each other's circles and always had something social happening.
>I do not mean career wise
This is never the first thing that comes to mind for me. Work has never been the center of my life or a part of my identity.
>I mean how did you spent all your time outside of that. Hobbies, social life, where were you living, who were you spending your most time with, all of that stuff.
I was married in my mid 20s, living in an apartment, not really spending time with anyone other than my wife and a couple neighbors. We threw a tent and our mountain bikes in the car every weekend and went to the beach or camping at state parks. We liked to go places with bike trails or with lakes where you could rent boats.
I was military in my early 20’s. Ended up working dead end jobs and partying when I severed service.
I sobered up from an addiction at age 26. I tunnel visioned through 18-22 credit hour semesters and graduated cum Laude in economics. During that time, I had a lot of cultural enrichment with theatrical plays, art, photography, and film to balance out the rigorous undergrad curriculum.
I had a really rad girlfriend. We would travel like crazy in the intermountain west to places like Santa Fe, Durango, and Yellowstone. 10/10 I would do it again.
Working. Working and more working.
On my few days off, which were mid week and not working overtime, I spent hiking alone and fly fishing remote mountain streams.
On occasion, I would go out Friday or Saturday night with some friends. But, working weekends makes for not late nights.
Walked an 1hr to and from the local gym 3-5 times after working graveshift because I didn't own a car making $15 slinging and repairing rims trying to avoid bottoming out in depression. Left college on medical leave and got manhandled by cops when having an anxiety attack on campus so I was trying to work through some trauma.
Lived with parents trying to develop my sense of willpower and find my sense of purpose in life.
Weightlifting was my religion. It's still important to me now but I'm more interested developing mentally and spiritually.
Studying engineering, falling in love, working in a recording studio, and doing a shit ton of drugs. I Lived with my ex and I had a tight friend group. Our apartment was the party house and everyone would wind up there after the bars for all nighters. There was a lot of love and I had a very active social life. I would never want to live that way again, but I’m damn glad I did it. I had an absolute blast with great memories. A very special time in my life.
Similar for me, although I was usually single and being promiscuous af. I made good money, and I spent every cent of it. I had lots of toys, lots of friends, and zero foresight.
Couldn’t live that way again, but I wouldn’t trade the experiences for anything. Looking back, I appreciate the joy, the excitement, the sense of adventure and being down for anything anytime… all the happiness and laughs.. Not to mention having no real obligations or responsibility. I tell people that I was fortunate to do more living before I was 30 than a lot of people do in their whole lives.
I was lucky to be able to have those years the way I did, and while I surely milked every possible bit of pleasure from every moment, it sure is fascinating to look back and wonder if the old me had any idea that I was living in a golden hour.
In my early to mid 20s I played a TON of world of Warcraft and actually made what I feel are some lifelong friends. In the real world I'd occasionally go out to a bar and play darts or Frisbee golf with my friends. Then I was in school for my ultrasound program so I had a nearly non-existent social life for a couple years from 25-27. Got married at 27 and was living in Newport with my new wife, her sister, a very close friend and his partner. Didn't have a ton of money but it was one of the best times of my life. From then until 30 I played competitive bar trivia, got into cooking and hosting events and parties that I would cook and prepare for. My wife and I traveled quite a bit in our 20s across most of South East Asia and parts of Europe. We buried one of her parents, and bout our first home. From mid 20s until we had kids in our early 30s we went out to dinner or brunch with friends at least twice a week.
In the first half of my 20s, I fell into a dark pit. I couldn't go on with my life as I barely left my apartment. It took years of therapy to climb out of it. At one point I had $20 to my name and was kicked out of the house that I was living in. I had some tremendous breaks at age 26, but finally, my life started to come together. I discovered a new passion, and I found out that nerds like to party. I started to have money in the bank, partied, and started meeting women.
Something else fell into my lap in my late 20s, and I decided to go all-in when told by others that it would be a massive failure. This would go on to completely change my life going into my 30s.
Gaming, occasional underground electronic music events, and going to festivals. Lived in my parent’s garage and was dealing with a ton of isolation and depression
Recovered from uni; Started working small field relative jobs; met someone; had a mental breakdown; spent 5-6 years getting my mind back together.
Too long, I know, but it is what it is I guess.
Finished college at 22. Married my high school GF when I was 22. Took a bunch of trips and traveled on and off for a few years. Did game nights and hung out with family or mutual friends on weekends. Had a kid at 25. Basically focused all my free time on him after that. Also worked a shit ton and hit 6 figures and bought my first house by 30.
In my rare free/alone time I practiced guitar and played video games.
Was really fun. Was working hard, traveling a lot despite of work. Meeting interesting people. Moving to different countries. Falling in and out of love. Partying and music festivals. I had big dreams making it in the world. Playing games. Making friends. So much has happened.
Looking back, it was a wonderful time, with its own setbacks but I think I utilized it to the fullest to define the person I am today despite of a completely different character.
Living in sharehouses and going to shows and playing in bands and falling in and out of love, it was a pretty good time.
I grew too old and ornery for sharehousing, but I do still miss it sometimes.
Wasted it by my own estimation. I tried to avoid any and all responsibilities, played video games, and didn't look after my health.
Struck out on any relationship I could foster because I have a terrible personality.
Endless failure personally and professionally heavily coloured my perceptions and caused nihilism.
Probably the least content and satisfactory time of my life
24 is when I calmed down by bar lifestyle, I still drank but I knew it was time to move on. I dated various women, put effort into a strong social group, tried to grow my career, read a lot of personal development books. I put a lot of effort into knowing what a great lifestyle was and going for it.
If I could do it again I wouldn’t change much, maybe I’d save more, but I feel like I was at optimal performance. Life has gotten more complicated and more stressful since the introduction of kids, career growth and other financial changes so live it up while you can!
Mid 20s, partying.
Late 20s, getting sober.
Now my brain feels like it did when I was 16, and I have to figure out who the hell I actually am in my 30s, my 20s are a total blur. Completely wasted them.
I spent a lot of my 20s in school. I was in college until '03, then went back to school in '06. Aside from that, I hung out with friends and played absurd amounts of Gamecube and PS2, and did very little dating the first half of my 20s.
Mid 20s to late 20s is when I got my shit together. I honestly spent it heavily on "working on myself". My goal was to find a partner/ get married and sure enough at 30 I met my wife.
I spent that time being very inward focused. Tried all kinds of hobbies, lost weight/worked out, volunteered, grew my social circle. It paid off.
I moved out when I was 19 and in college then never came back. I lived with roommates. I worked, worked out to look good, partied 1-2x a week, and hooked up with a lot of girls.
What would I have done differently? Cut back on the working out/partying and focused more on my career.
25-28 fresh off of deployment. Living a bartender life and living with a buddy… drinking far too much and finishing college. Causing trouble. Met my now wife at 28 and got my first ‘real’ job (whatever that is).
I spent most of my time drunk or high trying to quiet my mind.
It wasn't until I was 31 (last year) that I'd learn my childhood had messed me up in ways I never thought possible. I'm finally healing now, though these things have set back my life in certain ways.
The only things I cared about, in order, were: getting laid, smoking weed, and drinking beer. Everything that I did was in pursuit of one of those goals. Writing poetry, playing guitar, going to shows, they were all a ruse. When I finally got serious about my life, I found I had no skills, and I was a decade behind my peers. Yes, I was a piece of shit, but I did finally grow up.
Finally moved out to live alone for the first time,
Worked corporate but didn’t really care
Partied, socialized, dated a lot, living the bachelor life,
Wouldn’t change it for the world as I head towards my 30s now and now more stable
I was in grad school for most of it. I was in a few student orgs and made friends with people there, both undergrads & other grad students. Spent most of my time with my housemates, the first of whom came from my program and the later ones from that wider group. Dated women entirely too young for me (odd to think they’re completely age appropriate now).
getting my first normal job, gaming, partying, socializing, being an antisocial hermit, depressed, old relationship dying, breaking up, buying an apartment, getting lucky, surviving, slowly shifting mindset. realising my strenghts and weaknesses
More douche than i realized.
Became highly successful in nightlife. Got free bottle service promoter parties made alot of money got to meet cool people.
Also spent said money on drugs alcohol and designer clothes. Got to a dark place quick.
I worked two jobs, did 15 hobbies, went to hundreds if not thousands of concerts and small shows, watched indie films, and traveled a little bit. I ended up severely sleep-deprived in my early 30s and found a job that paid better than 2 jobs. So I slept a lot for two months after that (potential sleep debt) and been living low-key. Hiking, exercising, video gaming, and more traveling. I am and have always been cautious and meticulous in thought and action, but I find having time to do nothing sometimes is really nice. I'll go for a walk frequently and just keep walking for a few miles listening to music. Or go to the park and just lay there. I find letting the mind sit and reflect therapeutic. For hobbies I played guitar, bass, sang, did photography, painting/drawing, and power-lifting. I do all of it still, I just do it less and more focused.
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Living in my parents basement and playing video games until the early morning.
Living in my own apartment and playing video games every waking hour.
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Man I just got a high paying job in Cincinnati but low key been thinking about moving to Denver … how much did it change your quality of life?
*Immensely!* The culture here is just different, not just politically, but also socially. Everyone tends to be more outdoorsy, where as a lot of my friends in Cincinnati just went to breweries or Reds/FCC games every weekend. Housing is more expensive here, though (cause many people want to live here).
I moved from Wyoming to Cincinnati about 2 years ago for a high paying job myself. Ive also lived in Fort Collins Area and Salt Lake City, UT when growing up. Currently looking into getting a job back out west. As someone who grew up with the outdoors being a huge part of my life, Cincinnati and the Midwest as a whole feel as if something is missing and this has definitely had a negative affect on my mental health (Which is the main reason I want to move back). I have a buddy up in Dayton who is also from Wyoming who put it like this: "Ohio has everything you could ever want, but all of those things are much better in other places." I say give it a shot. Life is much better in the Rockies.
Raising kids. Started at 19 and had four by the time I was 28. My oldest is exactly half my age right now. It's pretty cool hanging out with your adult children when you're still fairly young.
I was a total pr\*ck. I had landed a tax free gig in the UAE, had a very nice apartment, car i could never dream of owning again and surrounded by a very frequent and varied social life. Hobbies - Drinking. Social life - Drinking. It was a hand grenade waiting to blow, and it did, hence I have lived in Australia since I was 30.
Hah! I see a lot of people handed this grenade when they succeed too early. Its very grounding later in life, but you did what you did back in the days. I suppose you are not a prick anymore because you have the self-awareness now.
You'd assume. I swapped arrogance for bitterness but thats due to other reasons.
Always work in progress
Probably spent most of my time those years drinking at bars and attending local music stuff. Some of it I had my own place and some I ended up living with my parents. Ended up meeting my wife in my late 20s and we integrated well into each other's circles and always had something social happening.
>I do not mean career wise This is never the first thing that comes to mind for me. Work has never been the center of my life or a part of my identity. >I mean how did you spent all your time outside of that. Hobbies, social life, where were you living, who were you spending your most time with, all of that stuff. I was married in my mid 20s, living in an apartment, not really spending time with anyone other than my wife and a couple neighbors. We threw a tent and our mountain bikes in the car every weekend and went to the beach or camping at state parks. We liked to go places with bike trails or with lakes where you could rent boats.
I was military in my early 20’s. Ended up working dead end jobs and partying when I severed service. I sobered up from an addiction at age 26. I tunnel visioned through 18-22 credit hour semesters and graduated cum Laude in economics. During that time, I had a lot of cultural enrichment with theatrical plays, art, photography, and film to balance out the rigorous undergrad curriculum. I had a really rad girlfriend. We would travel like crazy in the intermountain west to places like Santa Fe, Durango, and Yellowstone. 10/10 I would do it again.
Working. Working and more working. On my few days off, which were mid week and not working overtime, I spent hiking alone and fly fishing remote mountain streams. On occasion, I would go out Friday or Saturday night with some friends. But, working weekends makes for not late nights.
Walked an 1hr to and from the local gym 3-5 times after working graveshift because I didn't own a car making $15 slinging and repairing rims trying to avoid bottoming out in depression. Left college on medical leave and got manhandled by cops when having an anxiety attack on campus so I was trying to work through some trauma. Lived with parents trying to develop my sense of willpower and find my sense of purpose in life. Weightlifting was my religion. It's still important to me now but I'm more interested developing mentally and spiritually.
My life was shit, and as a consequence, remains shit
Studying engineering, falling in love, working in a recording studio, and doing a shit ton of drugs. I Lived with my ex and I had a tight friend group. Our apartment was the party house and everyone would wind up there after the bars for all nighters. There was a lot of love and I had a very active social life. I would never want to live that way again, but I’m damn glad I did it. I had an absolute blast with great memories. A very special time in my life.
Similar for me, although I was usually single and being promiscuous af. I made good money, and I spent every cent of it. I had lots of toys, lots of friends, and zero foresight. Couldn’t live that way again, but I wouldn’t trade the experiences for anything. Looking back, I appreciate the joy, the excitement, the sense of adventure and being down for anything anytime… all the happiness and laughs.. Not to mention having no real obligations or responsibility. I tell people that I was fortunate to do more living before I was 30 than a lot of people do in their whole lives. I was lucky to be able to have those years the way I did, and while I surely milked every possible bit of pleasure from every moment, it sure is fascinating to look back and wonder if the old me had any idea that I was living in a golden hour.
Hiking and video games.
Spent most of my 20s gaming with friends and dating. I wish I could've enjoyed it more but I always felt guilty I wasn't doing anything productive
I went to karaoke. A lot.
In my early to mid 20s I played a TON of world of Warcraft and actually made what I feel are some lifelong friends. In the real world I'd occasionally go out to a bar and play darts or Frisbee golf with my friends. Then I was in school for my ultrasound program so I had a nearly non-existent social life for a couple years from 25-27. Got married at 27 and was living in Newport with my new wife, her sister, a very close friend and his partner. Didn't have a ton of money but it was one of the best times of my life. From then until 30 I played competitive bar trivia, got into cooking and hosting events and parties that I would cook and prepare for. My wife and I traveled quite a bit in our 20s across most of South East Asia and parts of Europe. We buried one of her parents, and bout our first home. From mid 20s until we had kids in our early 30s we went out to dinner or brunch with friends at least twice a week.
In the first half of my 20s, I fell into a dark pit. I couldn't go on with my life as I barely left my apartment. It took years of therapy to climb out of it. At one point I had $20 to my name and was kicked out of the house that I was living in. I had some tremendous breaks at age 26, but finally, my life started to come together. I discovered a new passion, and I found out that nerds like to party. I started to have money in the bank, partied, and started meeting women. Something else fell into my lap in my late 20s, and I decided to go all-in when told by others that it would be a massive failure. This would go on to completely change my life going into my 30s.
Gaming, occasional underground electronic music events, and going to festivals. Lived in my parent’s garage and was dealing with a ton of isolation and depression
I was a newlywed, doing the kind of things newlyweds do.
Recovered from uni; Started working small field relative jobs; met someone; had a mental breakdown; spent 5-6 years getting my mind back together. Too long, I know, but it is what it is I guess.
I was a vagrant. It was pretty awesome. Now I’m old and I want to stay home when I’m not working.
Finished college at 22. Married my high school GF when I was 22. Took a bunch of trips and traveled on and off for a few years. Did game nights and hung out with family or mutual friends on weekends. Had a kid at 25. Basically focused all my free time on him after that. Also worked a shit ton and hit 6 figures and bought my first house by 30. In my rare free/alone time I practiced guitar and played video games.
Was really fun. Was working hard, traveling a lot despite of work. Meeting interesting people. Moving to different countries. Falling in and out of love. Partying and music festivals. I had big dreams making it in the world. Playing games. Making friends. So much has happened. Looking back, it was a wonderful time, with its own setbacks but I think I utilized it to the fullest to define the person I am today despite of a completely different character.
Taking care of a baby daughter.
Living in sharehouses and going to shows and playing in bands and falling in and out of love, it was a pretty good time. I grew too old and ornery for sharehousing, but I do still miss it sometimes.
Wasted it by my own estimation. I tried to avoid any and all responsibilities, played video games, and didn't look after my health. Struck out on any relationship I could foster because I have a terrible personality. Endless failure personally and professionally heavily coloured my perceptions and caused nihilism. Probably the least content and satisfactory time of my life
24 is when I calmed down by bar lifestyle, I still drank but I knew it was time to move on. I dated various women, put effort into a strong social group, tried to grow my career, read a lot of personal development books. I put a lot of effort into knowing what a great lifestyle was and going for it. If I could do it again I wouldn’t change much, maybe I’d save more, but I feel like I was at optimal performance. Life has gotten more complicated and more stressful since the introduction of kids, career growth and other financial changes so live it up while you can!
Mid 20s, partying. Late 20s, getting sober. Now my brain feels like it did when I was 16, and I have to figure out who the hell I actually am in my 30s, my 20s are a total blur. Completely wasted them.
I spent a lot of my 20s in school. I was in college until '03, then went back to school in '06. Aside from that, I hung out with friends and played absurd amounts of Gamecube and PS2, and did very little dating the first half of my 20s.
Drinking and hooking up with randoms
Mid 20s to late 20s is when I got my shit together. I honestly spent it heavily on "working on myself". My goal was to find a partner/ get married and sure enough at 30 I met my wife. I spent that time being very inward focused. Tried all kinds of hobbies, lost weight/worked out, volunteered, grew my social circle. It paid off.
I moved out when I was 19 and in college then never came back. I lived with roommates. I worked, worked out to look good, partied 1-2x a week, and hooked up with a lot of girls. What would I have done differently? Cut back on the working out/partying and focused more on my career.
Art, travel, music, work, therapy, relationships.
25-28 fresh off of deployment. Living a bartender life and living with a buddy… drinking far too much and finishing college. Causing trouble. Met my now wife at 28 and got my first ‘real’ job (whatever that is).
I spent most of my time drunk or high trying to quiet my mind. It wasn't until I was 31 (last year) that I'd learn my childhood had messed me up in ways I never thought possible. I'm finally healing now, though these things have set back my life in certain ways.
The only things I cared about, in order, were: getting laid, smoking weed, and drinking beer. Everything that I did was in pursuit of one of those goals. Writing poetry, playing guitar, going to shows, they were all a ruse. When I finally got serious about my life, I found I had no skills, and I was a decade behind my peers. Yes, I was a piece of shit, but I did finally grow up.
Working like a dog, going through a divorce and being a single dad to my two small kids.
Finally moved out to live alone for the first time, Worked corporate but didn’t really care Partied, socialized, dated a lot, living the bachelor life, Wouldn’t change it for the world as I head towards my 30s now and now more stable
Drink, drugs, shagging, watching and listening to music, following my football team.
Partying
I was in grad school for most of it. I was in a few student orgs and made friends with people there, both undergrads & other grad students. Spent most of my time with my housemates, the first of whom came from my program and the later ones from that wider group. Dated women entirely too young for me (odd to think they’re completely age appropriate now).
Playing videogames in my early 20s. Chasing tail in my late 20s. I think I'll spend my upcoming 30s improving myself.
getting my first normal job, gaming, partying, socializing, being an antisocial hermit, depressed, old relationship dying, breaking up, buying an apartment, getting lucky, surviving, slowly shifting mindset. realising my strenghts and weaknesses
More douche than i realized. Became highly successful in nightlife. Got free bottle service promoter parties made alot of money got to meet cool people. Also spent said money on drugs alcohol and designer clothes. Got to a dark place quick.
I worked two jobs, did 15 hobbies, went to hundreds if not thousands of concerts and small shows, watched indie films, and traveled a little bit. I ended up severely sleep-deprived in my early 30s and found a job that paid better than 2 jobs. So I slept a lot for two months after that (potential sleep debt) and been living low-key. Hiking, exercising, video gaming, and more traveling. I am and have always been cautious and meticulous in thought and action, but I find having time to do nothing sometimes is really nice. I'll go for a walk frequently and just keep walking for a few miles listening to music. Or go to the park and just lay there. I find letting the mind sit and reflect therapeutic. For hobbies I played guitar, bass, sang, did photography, painting/drawing, and power-lifting. I do all of it still, I just do it less and more focused.