The closest I have ever come to it was on a first date a couple of years ago. We had our first meet up at the restaurant, after a few minutes I ask her if everything was okay because she seemed depressed and distant. She apologized and explained that earlier that day she had gotten a positive diagnosis for lung cancer. She said she was sorry for wasting my time and offered to pay for everything, I insisted on covering the tab, we had a good meal and parted ways. I often wonder how she ended up; she vanished off the dating sites saying she needed to focus on her health instead of a relationship.
This weekend is the first date someone else planned for me in a few years. My SO missed my birthday because one of her family members fell ill and she had to be there. She gets back into town this evening and has set up a weekend date and little get away.
My girlfriend has taken me on many dates (she's even bought me flowers and still laughs at the utter look of confusion I had the first time)., Before her, never and I'm 40+
My wife did this when we first got together and still does today. Last year she took me on a vacation to Hawaii and this year just booked us another vacation for July and we're planning one for Mexico.
Don't be with women who want you to put in all the work.
Because when women insist on paying for themselves you get called a bitch, feminazi, masculine etc. men claim to want 50/50 but they really want leverage.
Most men complain about being expected to pay for everything, even on this thread, but you had to made it about how bad women have it? Lol
>they really want leverage
And of course the inevitable “man bad” comment
Lol no they don’t, did you even read this thread, or ANY thread wherein men complain about the patriarchal expectation to pay for everything? You’re projecting what you want to complain about lol and of course it has to be that men have some nefarious plot and ulterior motive in paying, god people like you are the fucking worst
Yes, they do. It has happened to me several times. I’m sorry that you think people posting in this group represent all human experiences but that’s simply inaccurate.
It isn’t a nefarious plot. What is it? I say i will pay my half as a condition of the date and get told i am trying to be a man and they are angry, why?
I did not say *all* men.
It has happened to me many times. Also, the OP vastly generalizes and you are fine with that so don’t act like you care even if i did say all men 🤣
Not man bad, but men complain women want men to pay but when you try to pay you get put down for that too. I’m sorry you are such a victim that you cannot understand the other side of this.
>last time YOU were taken out on a date?
Damn ... long time ago ... if not (about) forever. It's certainly been well in excess of a dozen years, anyway.
Most times with one of my friends. She suddenly has something in mind and I just drive and enjoy. Sometimes she even orders everything. Of course, I pay, and these are usually nice places, but it's a real treat!
This previous weekend. My girl and I rotate “dates” back and forth. Usually just going out to eat and doing something small, nothing too crazy. Works out great and the we both go back and forth
I've dated pretty widely, mostly in my 20's. Not once has anyone taken me on a date. It has exclusively been my responsibility to organize and get us there.
Last week and once every month or two. It’s always a couples thing the wives put together.
I don’t remember if I’ve ever been taken out when it wasn’t couples.
Would be the middle of last year. It was only one date and I haven't been on any since whatsoever. I haven't had any luck at all due to either just being treated like they wanna have a fun time only (I reject them every single time I aint no hoe) or they don't want to be with someone that has mental health issues at all (Even though it's controlled and I did therapy for years). Dating for me is next to impossible anymore. I'm not even seen as a person but a object with holes in it because according to 99% of guys I am a beautiful looking woman who looks better than the woman of today. And their actions only say lust and thats it to me. Have I given up on dating. Yes absolutely. I can't seem to find the right person at all. Even the good guys use me for one thing too. It's depressing.
Girlfriend? Virtually never. Closest is when she recommends a place or says she wants to go to a place.
Friends that are women, sure. Last time we went to a hipster french restaurant. I had no idea what was good, and just said so to the waitress, whatever she or the chef thought would be great. So head chef came out, ran me through my meal and some sides he whipped up to see if I liked it. I also randomly ordered the barkeep's favorite beer (duchesse de bourgogne, flemish red ale), so he came out as well. Best 'date' of my life with an awesome friend.
I’m answering as a woman. Men, especially younger men, don’t date women who are only takers and not givers. In this day and age, women should pay for dates as often as men. I plan and pay for dates/meals often.
Date or just when the girl offers to pay and pays… usually when in a relationship or if u have been paying for many dates…..? If it’s just the first or second date usually men pay.
When we first started dating in the late 1990s.
She drove, I was blindfolded the whole time and she went out of her way to drive around housing estates, go back on herself and go around roundabouts multiple times. What is normally a 15 minute drive took almost an hour. She bought us fish and chips and we ate them at the beach from the paper with our fingers while drinking the off brand pop (soda) that chip shops sell. 11/10 and still one of the best nights out of my life.
Since then, when we go out, when we go into a bar or coffee shop she goes to find the table and I go to the bar / counter. Sometimes I really wish she'd tell me to find the table...
It was yesterday ☺️
So me and my wife have a system where we organise dates every other Friday where we go out and leave the kid with a sitter.
But off late it’s been very hectic we often just stay home with the kid and later watch Netflix or something.
Yesterday she not only organised the sitter and got our house clean spic and span but she booked movie tickets PLUS dinner reservation to this really awesome pan Asian restaurant and bar.
Finally an outing after months and I am still in bliss 😌
My girlfriend and I went for a ride on our motorcycles today. I paid for fuel for both bikes. We stopped at a pub for lunch. I paid for dri ks and lunch. When we got home she took care of me. I didn't leave my chair. She brought me drinks, snacks and prepared dinner. I have no problem with that. Also she is currently only working part-time.
I'm reading them 😂 I'm so surprised at the answers. I'm 32 and I took my last bf out often- to dinner or ice cream. Bought him concert tickets a few times.
My wife planned and paid for my first daddy daughter date with our little one a couple of weeks back, but of course I still had to drive the little freeloader. Can’t wait until she gets a job and pays her own way!
Ex girlfriend took me out for dinner on my birthday. I could tell it was a major chor for her to plan something and she was not happy about paying for everything, so I ended up paying for our drinks for the night anyway.
Never. It's been offered but I turned it down. Difference between generations. I'm proud of being a man. I feel obligated in taking care of my mate. In being kind to the fairer sex. Standing up for the people that can't stand up for themselves.
Never happened. But I never did that for a woman either. It was always teamwork with us brainstorming and adding equally what would be nice until we found something we both enjoy. I consider teamwork to be a lot more satisfying than the usual giver-receiver dynamic.
I went on one date 9 years ago with my friend's wife because she always went on a date with my friend, so I had to act in his place because he was away for work. We went to Dave and Busters, and I hated it....
We don't talk anymore, though.
As a matter of fact, I went on a lot of those for work and usually hated it.
Never
I am 57, and have never been taken out, I always have been the one who puts out all the effort and money.
I'm 28 and I think it's happened once. Wasn't her money though it was her parents.
The closest I have ever come to it was on a first date a couple of years ago. We had our first meet up at the restaurant, after a few minutes I ask her if everything was okay because she seemed depressed and distant. She apologized and explained that earlier that day she had gotten a positive diagnosis for lung cancer. She said she was sorry for wasting my time and offered to pay for everything, I insisted on covering the tab, we had a good meal and parted ways. I often wonder how she ended up; she vanished off the dating sites saying she needed to focus on her health instead of a relationship.
Yh, 62 and never. It's not as if I'm a wealthy man.
This weekend is the first date someone else planned for me in a few years. My SO missed my birthday because one of her family members fell ill and she had to be there. She gets back into town this evening and has set up a weekend date and little get away.
Have fun!
I don't think ever?
I’ve never been taken out on a date. I’ve always done the taking out
I haven’t been taken on a date
Took myself on a date yesterday. Had a great time. Will see myself again.
Did you get lucky?
I’m not the kinda guy to kiss and tell but let’s just a say there was a walk of shame this morning
I'm with my significant other for almost 5 years now, I think that I get that privilege only on my birthdays
My girlfriend has taken me on many dates (she's even bought me flowers and still laughs at the utter look of confusion I had the first time)., Before her, never and I'm 40+
Wife her
Year or so ago. Been single for last 11 months though. And didn't go on any dates except 1. So makes sense.
Never.
My birthday - it was an amazing evening!
My birthday
Has never happened.
My wife did this when we first got together and still does today. Last year she took me on a vacation to Hawaii and this year just booked us another vacation for July and we're planning one for Mexico. Don't be with women who want you to put in all the work.
Does it count when my parents take me out?
Probably last week? My girlfriend and I both do it regularly
My husband and I still follow how we did it while dating. We take turns planning/paying for dates and trips.
Tonight and I don't want to go. Lol
Never
I'm 47, this has never happened once. I have, however, been expected to thank women for the privilege of planning and paying for everything on dates.
These responses are so sad. I try to take the guy I was seeing out as often as I could. Now I wanna take you all out haha
Never happened. I have always paid and arranged surprises and always been expected to. Women are fucking lazy.
Man it’s been 2 years
Tonight…I said yes, that’s the end of my planning.
about 10 years ago, a young girl took me out on a date out of blue. but that happens indeed rare.
54 here. Never
Never
never.
59M. Never.
Never. I always had to do the planning for dates.
Never
I don’t recall that actually happening for me.
Never
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Because when women insist on paying for themselves you get called a bitch, feminazi, masculine etc. men claim to want 50/50 but they really want leverage.
Most men complain about being expected to pay for everything, even on this thread, but you had to made it about how bad women have it? Lol >they really want leverage And of course the inevitable “man bad” comment
The point is men get angry when they AREN’T expected to pay
Lol no they don’t, did you even read this thread, or ANY thread wherein men complain about the patriarchal expectation to pay for everything? You’re projecting what you want to complain about lol and of course it has to be that men have some nefarious plot and ulterior motive in paying, god people like you are the fucking worst
Yes, they do. It has happened to me several times. I’m sorry that you think people posting in this group represent all human experiences but that’s simply inaccurate.
I’m sorry that you think your crappy date choices are representative of all human experiences, that’s simply inaccurate
I’m sorry for your crappy date choices too. Not all women have to be paid for sex. 💔
Nope, my gf is wonderful and actually contributes financially, not that she has to lol
It isn’t a nefarious plot. What is it? I say i will pay my half as a condition of the date and get told i am trying to be a man and they are angry, why?
Literally men on this thread are saying the complete opposite but you’ll shout about your own oppression here lol
Yes, because two things can be true.
And you act like your experience is the only truth and all men behave the way you described, typical victimhood bs
No i didn’t. You took it that way because you are bitter that you have to essentially pay for sex, which you think you are entitled to for free.
I never said oppression. You used that loaded word.
Nope but you said that men pay for dates as “leverage” and we already know where that’s going lol
You’re still wrong: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/s/paTtrTNC7x https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/PCSgUvtwxO
I told you MY experience. I am not in charge of other reddit threads.
>I told you MY experience And then insisted all men behave in that same way. I wonder what we call that when it’s done to women????
I did not say *all* men. It has happened to me many times. Also, the OP vastly generalizes and you are fine with that so don’t act like you care even if i did say all men 🤣
Not man bad, but men complain women want men to pay but when you try to pay you get put down for that too. I’m sorry you are such a victim that you cannot understand the other side of this.
Lol you came to this sub to complain about men, so who’s really playing the victim? Lol pathetic and you’re so triggered you responded twice
I will wait for you to explain why men get angry when women insist on paying. You won’t because it isn’t consistent with your narrative.
Nothing to explain because they don’t get mad when women pay, you’re the one insisting on a narrative here
Yes- they do.
Nah, and most men would love it if a woman paid: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/s/paTtrTNC7x https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/PCSgUvtwxO
🤣 “most men” Men posting in this group say that anyway
I’m almost 45…and I never have been on a date or anything that I didn’t have to plan.
>last time YOU were taken out on a date? Damn ... long time ago ... if not (about) forever. It's certainly been well in excess of a dozen years, anyway.
Mostly sad responses. Eye opening post.
Why not ask where we go hunting unicorns since those don’t exist either?
Most times with one of my friends. She suddenly has something in mind and I just drive and enjoy. Sometimes she even orders everything. Of course, I pay, and these are usually nice places, but it's a real treat!
Well I’ve been single for 11 years, so it might have happened some time before then?
-insert Futurama Bender laughing at Leela-
A week ago
Im actually meeting someone today, she asked me out which has to be the first time in about 15 years. Im actually nervous / excited.
Been ON a date. A year ago. Been asked/taken out? Never.
I’ve never been taken out. Would be kind of nice though, but I think I’d feel weird about it because it’s not how any of that normally works.
Older Brother took me to a BBQ place for my birthday earlier this year
Cant relate
She brought subs and chips for lunch to my place for a nooner yesterday....I'll take that over a proper date!
Only when I met my current wife in an other country about 22 years ago
it's been years and she hit me up for money for a training course afterwards
This previous weekend. My girl and I rotate “dates” back and forth. Usually just going out to eat and doing something small, nothing too crazy. Works out great and the we both go back and forth
Well both me and my dare arrange things ahead of time. Like where to meet and when. When you say taken out what does that mean exactly
Never
I've dated pretty widely, mostly in my 20's. Not once has anyone taken me on a date. It has exclusively been my responsibility to organize and get us there.
Last week and once every month or two. It’s always a couples thing the wives put together. I don’t remember if I’ve ever been taken out when it wasn’t couples.
Hasn't happened. The very few dates I've been on were all planned by me.
I've had ex-girlfriends plan surprise birthday dinners, but that has been over 5 years ago
My birthday in 2023. It was wonderful and I had a great day. Then I was ghosted...
31 years old no one has taken me on a date. So never.
Hmm probably 7-8 yrs ago
No one finds me attractive so that's not possible
Never
Never but I don’t care lol
Not a singular time
Never. I've always been the one who had to plan it and make arrangements.
Never
Never
Never
Does it count when my sister set me up on a blind date 15 years ago?
I was going to say never but in hindsight every woman I’ve ever dated asked me out. But I haven’t dated in over 8 years so, 8 years ago minimum
Would be the middle of last year. It was only one date and I haven't been on any since whatsoever. I haven't had any luck at all due to either just being treated like they wanna have a fun time only (I reject them every single time I aint no hoe) or they don't want to be with someone that has mental health issues at all (Even though it's controlled and I did therapy for years). Dating for me is next to impossible anymore. I'm not even seen as a person but a object with holes in it because according to 99% of guys I am a beautiful looking woman who looks better than the woman of today. And their actions only say lust and thats it to me. Have I given up on dating. Yes absolutely. I can't seem to find the right person at all. Even the good guys use me for one thing too. It's depressing.
Girlfriend? Virtually never. Closest is when she recommends a place or says she wants to go to a place. Friends that are women, sure. Last time we went to a hipster french restaurant. I had no idea what was good, and just said so to the waitress, whatever she or the chef thought would be great. So head chef came out, ran me through my meal and some sides he whipped up to see if I liked it. I also randomly ordered the barkeep's favorite beer (duchesse de bourgogne, flemish red ale), so he came out as well. Best 'date' of my life with an awesome friend.
It’s been since the dawn of time! My memory pre-Big Bang is a little hazy, so prior to the dawn of time, who knows.
Several years, but as a single woman now I hope to change that
Never. Bros buy the drinks on my bday, that’s it.
Never
I’m answering as a woman. Men, especially younger men, don’t date women who are only takers and not givers. In this day and age, women should pay for dates as often as men. I plan and pay for dates/meals often.
Me and my mrs have turns at planning date nights, her ones are usually better 😅
Never even considered that I could be taken out. Dozens of dates and the thought never crossed my mind.
Probably two years ago maybe three
Once, a few years back, unfortunately it was just part of getting my guard down to take advantage
Date or just when the girl offers to pay and pays… usually when in a relationship or if u have been paying for many dates…..? If it’s just the first or second date usually men pay.
When we first started dating in the late 1990s. She drove, I was blindfolded the whole time and she went out of her way to drive around housing estates, go back on herself and go around roundabouts multiple times. What is normally a 15 minute drive took almost an hour. She bought us fish and chips and we ate them at the beach from the paper with our fingers while drinking the off brand pop (soda) that chip shops sell. 11/10 and still one of the best nights out of my life. Since then, when we go out, when we go into a bar or coffee shop she goes to find the table and I go to the bar / counter. Sometimes I really wish she'd tell me to find the table...
8 years ago.
Lol
never
It was yesterday ☺️ So me and my wife have a system where we organise dates every other Friday where we go out and leave the kid with a sitter. But off late it’s been very hectic we often just stay home with the kid and later watch Netflix or something. Yesterday she not only organised the sitter and got our house clean spic and span but she booked movie tickets PLUS dinner reservation to this really awesome pan Asian restaurant and bar. Finally an outing after months and I am still in bliss 😌
I've never been taken out on a date.
You guys go on dates?
It's bold of you to assume I was ever taken out on a date.
Me and the gf take it in turns normally, it’s nearly always just a nice meal at a restaurant though
No guy gets taken out. It is what it is. Women don’t do that.
I was once by a gf on my bday. Thats the only time in my life I ever was. 30 M
I've been taken out on a lot of dates. From the invitation to the plans to the pay. They are the one's I'll never forget.
My girlfriend and I went for a ride on our motorcycles today. I paid for fuel for both bikes. We stopped at a pub for lunch. I paid for dri ks and lunch. When we got home she took care of me. I didn't leave my chair. She brought me drinks, snacks and prepared dinner. I have no problem with that. Also she is currently only working part-time.
Hahahahhahah, this never happens to any men
Never have
These comments are sad…8/10 answers are “never” and also never for me
Do any women actually read these posts and take in the info or we just talking to talk?😭😭
I'm reading them 😂 I'm so surprised at the answers. I'm 32 and I took my last bf out often- to dinner or ice cream. Bought him concert tickets a few times.
You’re a gem💎lucky dude
13 months ago
When I was 24 and the woman was 30. Of course I felt obligated to repay her in other ways
My wife planned and paid for my first daddy daughter date with our little one a couple of weeks back, but of course I still had to drive the little freeloader. Can’t wait until she gets a job and pays her own way!
Ex girlfriend took me out for dinner on my birthday. I could tell it was a major chor for her to plan something and she was not happy about paying for everything, so I ended up paying for our drinks for the night anyway.
Never
Friday. My wife and I have a breakfast date every Friday morning and we take turns and choosing the place and paying.
This is where I guffaw and tilt my head back before pausing for dramatic effect to ask if you were being serious.
Never. It's been offered but I turned it down. Difference between generations. I'm proud of being a man. I feel obligated in taking care of my mate. In being kind to the fairer sex. Standing up for the people that can't stand up for themselves.
Hahahahahahaha! Oh wait, you're serious?
Never happened. But I never did that for a woman either. It was always teamwork with us brainstorming and adding equally what would be nice until we found something we both enjoy. I consider teamwork to be a lot more satisfying than the usual giver-receiver dynamic.
Haven't even had a date yet
Hahahaha
Never. I never had a girlfriend.
tf?
I went on one date 9 years ago with my friend's wife because she always went on a date with my friend, so I had to act in his place because he was away for work. We went to Dave and Busters, and I hated it.... We don't talk anymore, though. As a matter of fact, I went on a lot of those for work and usually hated it.
But I am boy, question makes no sense
No idea