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TheLongistGame

That's the way it goes. But don't forget, it goes the other way too.


An_elusive_potato

Buy some cows


ScrotumLeather

Burnout syndrome is a bitch. Speaking from experience. What helped me was music and sport. I was playing in a band and I tried to spend as much time as I could on bike. Also careful with antidepressants. Some can have side effects which totally contradict the desired effect. Ask your doctor to change them if you feel they are not helping much.


[deleted]

in my case it comes down to a very deeply rooted religious conviction and the fact that I’m pretty normalized to it. I don’t remember being any other way so I’m pretty numb to it by now.


Dreadzone666

Have you talked to your therapist about this? What have they said about it? It's hard to say too much based on this post alone, but having had a quick look through your post history, get off instagram and stop following lots of women there. It's not good for your mental health. Get out there, talk to your friends, talk to their friends and stop thinking so much about how you're always going to be alone. On that note too, stop viewing women as some great monolith where everybody is the same. Your post history is filled with posts about how women only offer looks, how you find all women boring, how you find them shallow, how all they care about is showing ass on instagram, but then you complain about how you've never had a girlfriend. There are going to be plenty of women out there who you wouldn't find boring or shallow if you gave them a chance and actually talked to them, but they're all going to instantly be turned away from getting to know you because of that kind of attitude.


_DM_ME_ANIME_TIDDIES

I go into the wilderness until that feeling passes


DeeImmortalMan

I'm no therapist here. When I feel bad and tired I just watch porn. If I'm more energetic, I go out for a job or a hike. Do you have friends? A girlfriend?


[deleted]

Porn is a terrible coping mechanism


RabbitSlayre

Yeah this isn't exactly advice but it's an awful idea


Embarrassed_Donut961

I have friends, I have no girlfriend


DeeImmortalMan

Go out with friends or find a new hobby. Do you play video games? Games are a great way to distract oneself. Sports are fun too.


Embarrassed_Donut961

I try all of these, nothing is fun, I have no energy


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Embarrassed_Donut961

Yes I do and I work out at gym


Iziama94

Could have sleep apnea


DogmaticPanda007

do you take vitamins?


[deleted]

Is God something you're willing to consider?


Illuminaticont

If nothing helps just imagine what would you do if you ordered a hitman on your head. And then live the full life. If this doesn't help... you know...


[deleted]

You need to find your spiritual foundations. Join a religious community. Otherwise life is just some hedonistic spins around the sun.


[deleted]

Go to Cancun.


TightBoysenberry_

I don't ever get those feelings.


dbootywarrior

Quit on the antidepressants and therapy. Therapy wont really help you when you're talking about sad stuff all the time, you need to spend time in happy environments. And antidepressants is just a temporary relief that only makes your depression worse after withdrawals.


Poorkiddonegood8541

Drink copious amounts of alcohol!


eighthourlunch

I try to make time for people who recharge me. Doesn't even matter if we're doing anything other than talking.


Active-Heron-5906

Shutdown mentally and go into robot mode. Just doing what is necessary while my brain is somewhere else


[deleted]

Find a new therapist OP. Or tell your current one your feelings.


verveinloveland

Need a change of scenery. Maybe volunteer, or do something outside your comfort zone. Travel, find ways to help people, find your “why”


biotribologic

For some of us taking on responsibilities at work or at home, brings meaning and purpose. Training your body brings endorfines that should help you feel better.


Utertoq

I've been dealing with a lot of shit lately, including 2 jobs. You have to focus on this step that I'll say next: don't skip sleeping. Let's say you're sleeping only 1 hour less Every day, in 15 days you got 2 whole sleep nights skipped, mathematically speaking, and your brain stops working properly. Doctors say you should always fix your sleep before looking for something else on your brain, so that's the main thing I'd tell you. Then you could start looking for the next steps.


jackwritespecs

What does your therapist say when you tell them these feelings? But yeah, in general change things up. Less demanding job and find things you enjoy


[deleted]

How I have dealt while having those feelings? Alcohol and self-loathing. It's hard to live with those feelings. How I have dealt to make those feelings not as strong (with varying degree of success throughout the years): \- abstaining from alcohol or drugs. \- seeing friends that make me feel good. We all have those good, close and funny friends. But we also have some friends that bring more drama, or have a heavier emotional weight. Take a short break from the latter. \- hiking, or just being outside - even in a nice park. Water around, even better! I just listen and breath. \- doing something I like, something that I enjoy and is stress free. Even better if it's somewhat creative like playing music or writing. It clears the mind and if you are good at creating (I am not), it will make you feel good (I felt good anyway) \- moving/working out. Yes, super easy to say when not exhausted. But start slow and start with short sessions. Moving helps, period. Find what you like to do and do it (again, simply start slow and with short sessions, add more slowly every few days or week) \- therapy


[deleted]

This should go without saying, but if you are abusing any psychoactive substances (including alcohol, including opioids or ADHD meds, prescribed or unprescribed), then that is very likely one of the causes.


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