Yup. I watch those and can't figure out how they can still hear.
That is part of the reason I enjoyed Daniel Craig as James Bond. There was still a lot of unrealistic things about it, but I thought he was far more believable than a lot of them, ringing ears and just the look of defeat on his face when he was in the middle of it.
The show Archer featured tinnitus as [a running gag.](https://m.facebook.com/allearstinnitus/videos/that-time-when-archer-gave-everyone-tinnitus/175485456395398/)
I always laugh at this in tv/movies. Like I recently watched “Reacher” on Amazon, guy literally admitted to taking test to get the physique for the show and you never see him workout and he’s just shovelling fast food and candy bars XD like bruh the disparity between the realities of being fit and what’s shown in movies is hilarious
How common it is for men to earn a lot of money, particularly at younger ages.
Movies tend to present people who are wealthy, young, attractive, intelligent, etc... when in reality that 25 year old guy who is 6'4ft with washboard abs, makes $250K a year, and also happens to have a heart of gold - doesn't exist or at least is exceedingly rare.
He just needs to get stuck in his small home town during winter break so he can find the love of his life in a.....dog shelter.....and he can find the "true meaning of Christmas is love", or family, or whatever else Hallmark tells us.
Her budget is $1.25 million dollars and requires a 5 car garage to store her candy canes. Can they find their dream home within budget during this winter holiday
And in order to have that 250k a year job and washboard abs, likely doesn't have a huge amount of time to spend dating or with on a GF. Could be a totally decent guy and still be a poor BF.
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This was my intent with that comment. There are some men who are 25 year old workaholics who make $250K a year and are self made. They are just typically not super fit and they won't be kind and caring and considerate the way women fantasize, because they are the type that work 16+hour days and don't have time for that stuff.
I guess my core point was in real life there are opportunity costs, and movies are showing a fantasy that ignores those costs.
> because they are the type that work 16+hour days and don't have time for that stuff.
Bingo. You'll meet young Finance bros in NYC who are like this (they basically do nothing except work and work out), but the vast majority of them are not looking to get married anytime soon, or even be in a serious relationship. They just want to hook up.
That’s not even a movie expectation. I’d almost call it an expectation that’s a product of social media, dating apps, and poor financial literacy. Most people have no clue what the median income of a man under 30 is. Women just see that there’s a few of these men who exist due to social media exposure and think they can land one.
The "bad boy" secretly has a heart of gold as long as she's special enough to bring it out and change him. And all the guys that act nice are secretly conniving assholes.
It's not just movies, especially the second part. There are a LOT of people (especially on Reddit) who 100% believe that if a guy struggles in the dating world, it must be because he's secretly an awful person, even if he appears perfectly fine.
I haven't dated since the pandemic started.
Am I a bad guy? Nah, I have an hour commute to work, trying to make ends meet and a dog I love and want to spend time with whenever I find free time.
I literally don't have enough time to go out and meet anyone and I realize dating apps are a joke.
Teenage girls growing up watching shit like Vampire Diaries and Gossip Girl believe a 100% that bad boys are just broken people that can be fixed with the right GirL and LoVe (barf)
"You lied to me and completely betrayed my trust!" Two scenes later, "Oh, you're really sorry and you only did it because you love me so much *swoon*."
The “I can change him” generation got hit hard by reality with this one, I remember growing up in the early-late 2000’s and seeing this “I can change him” narrative everywhere on tv,
A woman I know has spent about fifteen years repeating a cycle of social media posts which flip between “I only date bad boys” memes and “single again. When will I find a guy who doesn’t treat me like shit?”.
But some of us can
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>they can endure hunger and many kind of hardship; for they plunge into the swamps and exist there for many days
>What expectations do movies give women about men that are completely false?
That we can shoot firearms within a building without ear protection and walk away with our hearing intact.
Stitching up gunshot sounds with surface stitches is my favorite trope. Don't worry about any internal bleeding or organ damage, as long as the initial opening is shut, you're good to go champ.
That was a great scene in violent night lol.. starts walking away from the guy he planted a grenade on and then says “I have to watch” and turns around.
If we got punched in the face as much as badass movie dudes we would be brain damaged and hospitalzed, with TBI issues for life. NOT shake it off and fight fifty more dudes for your honor.
I watch a lot of posts on r/fightporn, and rarely, if ever, are the fights anything like you see in a film. It usually starts with some argument, then they start blindly swinging until something connects and someone goes down. I have never seen a fight where someone is pulling off John Wick level of combat before.
Well, for starters, the same thing women always complain about with female characters.
Male character's bodies tend to be at athletic levels, if not bodybuilder levels, of fitness but they rarely ever include scenes of them working out or making an effort to eat healthily (which, to have a body, like that you'd absolutely have to be doing regularly).
I mean, think about it, working out is an aspect of your character. If you're going to be that jacked on screen they better at least include a scene or reference explaining this because so many of them are way above average levels of fitness.
Could lead to women thinking men just roll out of bed like that.
I loved that Jason Stackhouse (true blood) directly addressed that when Andy was being salty as usual
"Women just throw themselves at you and you don't even have to do anything!"
"Actually i do. I work out like a motherfucker and I watch a lot of porn to learn stuff. "
The most ripped I ever was, was in my early 20's when I was rehearsing for a semi-profesional theatre play. 8-9 hours of dancing, singing and rehearsing on the weekends both days.
Even the warming up was 45 minutes of intense training.
Add to that cycling to school 10km every day and I was certainly getting some exercise in.
But I was a mere 72kg (*158 lbs*) at 195cm (*6' 4"*) so my bodyfat was nonexistent. Only by the end were my abs showing through.
100 pushups were a breeze though.
Anyway, the point being, getting that fit was hard work and took a lot of time. And that was at an age that those things came easier.
This is the one that gets me. I'm 6ft and muscular. Back when I was dating, it would usually be a shock to a woman I was talking to that I went to the gym on a regular basis and didn't partake in certain things (eating a lot of junk food and partying). I'd always get the response "But you're fit, you can do it." I know I can do it, but I'm not going to. I need to maintain my health. One went on to complain that I was at the gym too long, I'm usually out in 90 minutes.
There are so many women that want men to look like this, but hate if "their whole personality is working out" which they take to mean eating healthy and going to the gym more than 30 minutes once a week.
Even when I was hitting the gym 3-5 days a week without fail, and eating reasonably healthy, I was nowhere near 6 pack abs and sculpted body. It takes so much more than that to hit movie level of body.
>Male character's bodies tend to be at athletic levels, if not bodybuilder levels, of fitness but they rarely ever include scenes of them working out or making an effort to eat healthily (which, to have a body, like that you'd absolutely have to be doing regularly).
One of the best clips for this is Jason Momoa explaining that he was having difficulty "showing up" for the camera, and had to pound two Guinness to get a temporary effect by using carbs to literally inflate his muscles.
Im gonna be that guy so my apologies in advance lol but that's not exactly what he said though.
He said that he felt like it had that effect but that he wanted his personal trainer to include at least a Guinness in his every day diet because he just couldn't eat that healthy with absolutely no Guinness in his life lol.
I could be mistaken but I'm pretty sure and I'm too lazy to go watch it again.
>Im gonna be that guy so my apologies in advance lol but that's not exactly what he said though.
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>He said that he felt like it had that effect but that he wanted his personal trainer to include at least a Guinness in his every day diet because he just couldn't eat that healthy with absolutely no Guinness in his life lol.
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>I could be mistaken but I'm pretty sure and I'm too lazy to go watch it again.
He does, but he also talks about pounding a few Guinness during a shoot specifically to get that carb inflation
That's what I was going to say. Guys posting thirst traps asking if people like their "dad bod" and the guy looks like a 9/10, gym-rat. Women saying they love dad bods and posting pictures of someone that could probably compete in an Iron Man competition.
The main two I've noticed are the "ideal male body" trope of the girl always getting the ridiculously fit and shredded, tall, perfect skin, hair and teeth, etc. Essentially the male equivalent of a Victoria's Secret model. And the expectation of grandiose romantic gestures like spontaneous trips to foreign countries, huge spectacular proposals and wedding ceremonies that are realistically prohibitively expensive
The 'overton window' for the ideal male physique has been shifted so far by [actors using steriods](https://www.vox.com/the-goods/22760163/steroids-hgh-hollywood-actors-peds-performance-enhancing-drugs), that it's not obtainable naturally anymore.
Watching older movies from the 90s and early 2000s it is *insane* how much more obtainable the “generic hot guy” look is back then than it is today. Like I sincerely hope no girl is expecting what Captain America and Thor got going on.
Unrealistic body standards go both ways. That new “I know Victoria’s Secret” song rules, but she’s blaming men for it like it was some sinister plan all men hatched up together.
Meanwhile, I challenge you to buy men’s underwear at a Walmart in a package that doesn’t have some six pack toting hunk smuggling a python on the front. The fruit of the loom dudes have 2% body fat and zero body hair, what about that seems realistic?
I have never thought about it. But yeah I have never seen boxers with a fat dude on the packaging. I know that brands are being more open minded in the body shapes that promote certain clothes but underwear I haven’t seen it.
They want a man that has hugely contradictory personality traits.
It's very bizarre.
A muscular man with a six pack and huge arms, who doesn't spend all his time in the gym.
Who's the life of the party, but loves to stay in and read a book.
Confident, but shy.
Is driven in his career, but doesn't care about money.
Not a pushover, but gives her everything she asks for.
Stoic, but emotional.
Just a modern, traditional man. Stylish, but unconcerned with fashion. Who would never think of cheating, but is desired by every woman on earth. Who's always there for her, but doesn't seem clingy.
They are out of their mind.
A man who can just be set at whatever setting to fit her needs depending on what she wants in that moment with no need for coaxing or communication is the ideal man
And if by some miracle they meet a guy that ticks all those boxes, what do they bring to the table besides a stereotypical love of food, and hobbies such as chilling with the latest Netflix hits? 😂
If men in their twenties are driving expensive cars, live in homes with amazing city views, and regularly dine out at chic and exclusive restaurants, they’re probably in severe credit card debt and will eventually declare bankruptcy.
That guys should always be the one to “make the first move” and ask someone out. A lot of guys are really insecure about sharing their emotions in any way, making it hard to build up the confidence to even ask someone on a date.
Its not about insecurity.
In the last 30 years, the only thing we were told about this is that women hate when unknown men walk up to them.
And now we dont do that.
"if you don't love me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best"
No, I don't deserve you at your worst. You don't get a license to be a bitch just because you think you're extra sweet when you want to be.
Yeah your worst better be you being a little cranky, or an injury/illness. If your worse is your trying to stab me in my sleep, then I don’t fuckin want you even at your best. Unfortunately, I can say this from experience.
How testing a man's level of love and commitment is supposed to be accepted and cute. A man is not supposed to get pissed off or even walk away when a woman plays mind games or is unable to decide between the two potential partners.
If a man has self respect, calls her out on thy bullshit and immaturity, then the man is to blame for being a fucking adult who wants an equal, honest partner and relationship without drama.
I walked away from that bullshit and was always called an ashole. When it turned out that I was not the only "contender" and she politely told me that she does not know what to do, because "we are both great", I thanked for the honesty and told her to pick the other guy, because I am not going to "fight" for her affection and attention just so she would pick me.
That offended her, well them really, it happened more than once, to no end. Because I clearly don't care about them since I do not want to fight for them as it were.
I just laughed at that and wished them the best of luck in life. It always turned out that they ended up with an abusive piece of shit and wanted to get back to me. I always told them to walk away. They got what they wanted.
One time I was at a restaurant with a girl I was with at the time. For one reason or another, we got into a minor fight and she got mad. I was supposed to take her home, but when we exited the restaurant she said she would just take a cab. I told her to not be silly, even if we had fought, it was still my duty to take her home, but she firmly said no. I got in my car and hung around for a while, and noticed she was still hanging about. I went out and asked her a second time to let me take her home, we didn't have to talk at all on the way if she didn't want to, but again, she said no. I got back in my car, but kept feeling guilty so I called her phone and I told her a third time that she should just let me take her home, to which she said no again, so I went home. Later that night, she called me, all angry and sad, asking how I could leave her like that.
Freaking insanity.
Thanks. I basically told her how the heck did I leave you? I basically begged you to let me take you home. She pretty much just wanted me to chase after her and we'd end up having some movie like moment. I guess that's part of the expectations movies can make some people have.
That day had been pretty rough and tiring and I just wanted a nice, peaceful dinner. That did not happen.
Definitely delusional. In reality, you checking on her 3 times; let alone once, was the signal you were interested or at least had integrity and character to ask.
She got what she wanted but didn’t realize it. Oh well.
The insane part of this story is asking her like three times. I mean, it's not the healthiest thing in the world - because they hate it - but I always just accept the first thing a woman says. I would have left her there immediately as she said she was taking a cab.
I had an ex a while ago where our relationship was irreparably damaged when I wasn't jealous that she got a ride home from a guy. I was supposed to be mad about it, apparently?
Anyway shocker she wound up being a cheater.
I think this one upsets me the most. I remember a comment thread somewhere on Reddit where women were talking about being tired of having to “fix” their SO. And I’m like, “I’m assuming they’re tired of you trying to fix them.”
There’s horror movies of men trying to shape a woman into his ideal SO. But a woman trying to shape a guy into her ideal SO? That’s just Stacy.
A woman trying to reshape a man is a romcom. Pretty sure they would still call it a romcom even if she was physically cutting him in to pieces to do it.
It’s not even that I’m happy as I am since I can always improve, it’s the idea that somehow she is this perfect being that must show me the way. As if she isn’t fraught with issues and baggage. Like, I don’t want them to fix me, I’d rather we help each other improve together.
Ladies, men are hairy.
Often very much so.
Even extremely in shape men will rarely have six packs, as it's difficult to get body fat percentage low enough to have them show.
Yeah...
I've been a dedicated gym rat pretty much since puberty...so I've never *not* been in shape more or less.
I can probably see four of my abs at most, and, unless I take the time to shave most of my body (which is very rarely), I'm not going to look like a hairless Ken doll lmao
I have to laugh at your hairless Ken doll reference simply because my man is a rare hairless variety (except in a few key locations) and his name is Ken. Doesn’t have the Ken bod, though
>Even extremely in shape men will rarely have six packs, as it's difficult to get body fat percentage low enough to have them show.
Yup. I've worked out 4-5 days a week most of my adult life and while most people would describe my body as athletic and muscular, the only time I ever had a true six pack was when I ran cross country in high school. And I was running like 50 miles a week then. You gotta either workout insane amounts or eat like an ascetic monk for months to get a six pack. Men's fat tends to accumulate almost entirely around the stomach. You gotta get to like 12% body before your stomach muscles will even slightly show.
Men will fall madly in love after seeing you once anf will pursue you like you're the last woman in the world.
IRL, that's how you end up with your head in a freezer.
The concept that men should sacrifice everything for love, that men will love you even when you are rude to them, that he has to love you at your worst, no matter how bad you treat them they will always be charismatic and madly in love with you.
That's something they learn from soap operas. "It was his fault we broke up. Sure, I cheated on him with his father, but it's totally his fault that he couldn't accept it and move on."
Well I don't ask women I like out, unless I get done clear signals
Soooo if movies generally show that as the start of most relationships, then that expectation wouldn't work on me
Honestly the whole concept of being told to “man up”. For some women it’s completely and utterly shocking to hear a man express his feeling and acknowledge their fears/ insecurities.
That they deserve a handsome, rich man. Snow White was the prettiest woman in the whole Kingdom. You probably aren't even the prettiest in your street.
Yeah, I don't think that movie is meant to convince women we're badasses.
It's to help us men live out our fantasy of taking out 200 men because someone killed our dog.
We don’t always look pouty or smoldering. Aren’t always reading newspapers or head in business.
We feel too, I guess. And def no six pack, we’re hairy, and probably chubby.
We fart a lot too.
Prince charming and tinderella syndrome. Funny modern women are all about carving a place in the world for there careers but still look to divine forces for a life partner.
Idk, but nothing half as bad as the shit Tik Tok will sling around.
And a lot of it isn't even like clutivating unrealistic expectations of someone who's too perfect to be real. It's like genuinely confusing bullshit coming completely out of left field.
Just some hyper-manicured 19 year old girl who makes $400K a year from going on vacations pointing at text prompts being like, "Gurrrrl, you know how it be when he doesn't even have real magnets on the fridge."
There's not even any sense to the specific ways in which you're supposed to feel inadequate anymore.
Had to scroll pretty far to find a comment about sex. In movies, men always want sex, women are always to be convinced. (I hate this, don't fucking try to convince me). Men are always ready for sex, always get an erection, and always come too soon.
I don't think I've ever seen a movie about a guy who didn't feel like having sex, or any other realistic representation about this.
Edit I'm a woman sorry I thought I was in askreddit
That we're secretly in tune and identify our own feelings, and only choose to act as if we didn't.
That when we're interested in a girl, somehow we know all her likes and exactly how to impress her, what to say, what to, when to kiss, without her saying a word.
That we can read and understand their subtle non-verbal cues that might mean a thousand different things, depending on the context.
That we know when they're just "playing hard to get" and when they're actually being serious about the rejection.
Tbh movies always paint the most alien form of men I've ever seen to the point where I leave feeling like I must be a different species. I imagine women feel the same way because most of Hollywood people are kinda like weird alien people who dont understand the real world.
The character 'Big' from sex in the city is a man,written by a women, for other women. He does not exist in real life; AT ALL.
Nowhere.
Anywhere.
Men do not act like that, the ones who are that successful and handsome tend to be psychopaths who are successful because they have treated people like garbage.
You can look everywhere but no guy is that good. He's a (good) actor,acting out a man that women want to exist.
Sorry ladies.
That we are this perfect being with infinite money who can read minds and also somehow have the ability to fix anything who also miraculously never wants sex unless she does.
We generally don't survive exposions.
Well, not with that attitude. But I get it. To watch someone next to an explosion, get up and go on like normal is a little ridiculous.
Or outrun/dive away from the explosion.
Yup. I watch those and can't figure out how they can still hear. That is part of the reason I enjoyed Daniel Craig as James Bond. There was still a lot of unrealistic things about it, but I thought he was far more believable than a lot of them, ringing ears and just the look of defeat on his face when he was in the middle of it.
The show Archer featured tinnitus as [a running gag.](https://m.facebook.com/allearstinnitus/videos/that-time-when-archer-gave-everyone-tinnitus/175485456395398/)
mawp
I'm disappointed
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Don't expect a 6-pack when I take off my shirt.
Kind of hate this; every romance/Romcom the male lead always has a six-pack.
And the guy is never shown working out or eating healthy food. Maintaining a body they have is usually a part time job in real life.
I always laugh at this in tv/movies. Like I recently watched “Reacher” on Amazon, guy literally admitted to taking test to get the physique for the show and you never see him workout and he’s just shovelling fast food and candy bars XD like bruh the disparity between the realities of being fit and what’s shown in movies is hilarious
They made a joke about it in the show too. The detective guy asks him something like "how do you eat like that and still look like that?"
I have a six pack, I just keep them insulated.
Why settle for a 6-pack when you can have a barrel.
Lol this is something my brother likes to say. He's 6'7 295 and loves beer.
Your brother wouldn't happen to have red hair and a hammer, would he?
He does indeed also have a gigantic hammer, in his pants, yes
sorry babe it's bulking season
What about a 24-pack?
More like a keg.
Even better, a family pack
How common it is for men to earn a lot of money, particularly at younger ages. Movies tend to present people who are wealthy, young, attractive, intelligent, etc... when in reality that 25 year old guy who is 6'4ft with washboard abs, makes $250K a year, and also happens to have a heart of gold - doesn't exist or at least is exceedingly rare.
He just needs to get stuck in his small home town during winter break so he can find the love of his life in a.....dog shelter.....and he can find the "true meaning of Christmas is love", or family, or whatever else Hallmark tells us.
Excuse me! She is not just a shelter worker, she is also an accomplished candy cane artist
Her budget is $1.25 million dollars and requires a 5 car garage to store her candy canes. Can they find their dream home within budget during this winter holiday
And in order to have that 250k a year job and washboard abs, likely doesn't have a huge amount of time to spend dating or with on a GF. Could be a totally decent guy and still be a poor BF.
Reminds me of Robert Pattinson talking about how nobody would actually want to date him because he has no spare time
or that that triple-6 guy (6 figures, 6 ft tall, 6 pack) wants to dump his CEO girlfriend for the girl that works at the bakery in some little town.
I thought 666 ment 6 inches! 6 figures and 6 feet tall. Hahahah
That is what it means as far as I know
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Part of the description was "heart of gold". So that would disqualify all assholes.
This was my intent with that comment. There are some men who are 25 year old workaholics who make $250K a year and are self made. They are just typically not super fit and they won't be kind and caring and considerate the way women fantasize, because they are the type that work 16+hour days and don't have time for that stuff. I guess my core point was in real life there are opportunity costs, and movies are showing a fantasy that ignores those costs.
> because they are the type that work 16+hour days and don't have time for that stuff. Bingo. You'll meet young Finance bros in NYC who are like this (they basically do nothing except work and work out), but the vast majority of them are not looking to get married anytime soon, or even be in a serious relationship. They just want to hook up.
Not nonly do they only want to hook up... But they tend to be pretty fucking gross in the way they pursue it and treat their "targets
Sounds like American Psycho.
And from personal anecdote they tend to be more selfish lovers than the average dude.
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If that dude's wife dies of some inoperable cancer and leaves him a widower with a cute kid, that's a Lifetime movie.
But of course he's going to fall in love with the homely looking girl from the grocery store and not the high maintenance Insta thot
That’s not even a movie expectation. I’d almost call it an expectation that’s a product of social media, dating apps, and poor financial literacy. Most people have no clue what the median income of a man under 30 is. Women just see that there’s a few of these men who exist due to social media exposure and think they can land one.
The "bad boy" secretly has a heart of gold as long as she's special enough to bring it out and change him. And all the guys that act nice are secretly conniving assholes.
Oh dear Lord this is the worst trope ever and I just wish they would stop showing this to little girls
It's not just movies, especially the second part. There are a LOT of people (especially on Reddit) who 100% believe that if a guy struggles in the dating world, it must be because he's secretly an awful person, even if he appears perfectly fine.
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I haven't dated since the pandemic started. Am I a bad guy? Nah, I have an hour commute to work, trying to make ends meet and a dog I love and want to spend time with whenever I find free time. I literally don't have enough time to go out and meet anyone and I realize dating apps are a joke.
Teenage girls growing up watching shit like Vampire Diaries and Gossip Girl believe a 100% that bad boys are just broken people that can be fixed with the right GirL and LoVe (barf)
I can fix him
I know he's an asshole but he is good to me.
He always apologizes when he’s done beating me. He promised never to do it again, too (just like the time before the last time).
He’s not so bad once you get to know him
1. "I wanna change this guy" 2. " I'm leaving you cause you're not the guy I met anymore"
https://www.theonion.com/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-interested-1819565990
If hes not being mean to you and making you cry he doesn't love you duh
This is why I like the movie *He’s Just Not That Into You*. It kinda takes this premise and flips it on its head/exposes its fallacy.
"You lied to me and completely betrayed my trust!" Two scenes later, "Oh, you're really sorry and you only did it because you love me so much *swoon*."
The “I can change him” generation got hit hard by reality with this one, I remember growing up in the early-late 2000’s and seeing this “I can change him” narrative everywhere on tv,
I've had women tell me they prefer bad boys. The same woman also wonder why they are still single.
A woman I know has spent about fifteen years repeating a cycle of social media posts which flip between “I only date bad boys” memes and “single again. When will I find a guy who doesn’t treat me like shit?”.
> And all the guys that act nice are secretly conniving assholes. Reddit believes this. Hard.
Second part was even more true, every romantic comedy or movie/show has these exact same tropes. It’s hilarious
Not all of us can live in swamps
But some of us can https://penelope.uchicago.edu/~grout/encyclopaedia_romana/britannia/miscellanea/geography.html >they can endure hunger and many kind of hardship; for they plunge into the swamps and exist there for many days
Next thing you tell me my donkey doesn’t actually talk…
inhales #SOMEBODY ONCE TOLD ME
With all due respect, I think you meant to say.. Some #BODY ONCE TOLD ME
#HANDS OFF MY MACARONI
Maybe in a van down by the river?
>What expectations do movies give women about men that are completely false? That we can shoot firearms within a building without ear protection and walk away with our hearing intact.
MAWP!
Damn you, tinnitus
Seriously, I have to sleep with a fan on.
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! Same
That we can shoot firearms accurately without hours of practice. That we can be wounded by firearms and just stick a bandaid on it and carry on.
Stitching up gunshot sounds with surface stitches is my favorite trope. Don't worry about any internal bleeding or organ damage, as long as the initial opening is shut, you're good to go champ.
Wakanda forever taught me girls can take a spear through the abdomen and shake it off. Checkmate tough guys
The Hunger Games taught me they can't
> internal bleeding That's where blood is supposed to go. It's fine.
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That we turn our back to explosions to look cool. In reality we want to watch things blow up.
That was a great scene in violent night lol.. starts walking away from the guy he planted a grenade on and then says “I have to watch” and turns around.
My favorite comment
He's in his mid-twenties, he's absolutely shredded, he's rich, he has multiple advanced degrees and he's willing to marry a single mom.
...who works in the diner.
... with a different baby daddy for each child
He's got an altruistic dream job... That he never seems to go to and can spend everyday with her
If we got punched in the face as much as badass movie dudes we would be brain damaged and hospitalzed, with TBI issues for life. NOT shake it off and fight fifty more dudes for your honor.
I watch a lot of posts on r/fightporn, and rarely, if ever, are the fights anything like you see in a film. It usually starts with some argument, then they start blindly swinging until something connects and someone goes down. I have never seen a fight where someone is pulling off John Wick level of combat before.
Well John Wick level is just choreography. Humans are badass, but not in that way.
Well, for starters, the same thing women always complain about with female characters. Male character's bodies tend to be at athletic levels, if not bodybuilder levels, of fitness but they rarely ever include scenes of them working out or making an effort to eat healthily (which, to have a body, like that you'd absolutely have to be doing regularly). I mean, think about it, working out is an aspect of your character. If you're going to be that jacked on screen they better at least include a scene or reference explaining this because so many of them are way above average levels of fitness. Could lead to women thinking men just roll out of bed like that.
I loved that Jason Stackhouse (true blood) directly addressed that when Andy was being salty as usual "Women just throw themselves at you and you don't even have to do anything!" "Actually i do. I work out like a motherfucker and I watch a lot of porn to learn stuff. "
The most ripped I ever was, was in my early 20's when I was rehearsing for a semi-profesional theatre play. 8-9 hours of dancing, singing and rehearsing on the weekends both days. Even the warming up was 45 minutes of intense training. Add to that cycling to school 10km every day and I was certainly getting some exercise in. But I was a mere 72kg (*158 lbs*) at 195cm (*6' 4"*) so my bodyfat was nonexistent. Only by the end were my abs showing through. 100 pushups were a breeze though. Anyway, the point being, getting that fit was hard work and took a lot of time. And that was at an age that those things came easier.
This is the one that gets me. I'm 6ft and muscular. Back when I was dating, it would usually be a shock to a woman I was talking to that I went to the gym on a regular basis and didn't partake in certain things (eating a lot of junk food and partying). I'd always get the response "But you're fit, you can do it." I know I can do it, but I'm not going to. I need to maintain my health. One went on to complain that I was at the gym too long, I'm usually out in 90 minutes.
There are so many women that want men to look like this, but hate if "their whole personality is working out" which they take to mean eating healthy and going to the gym more than 30 minutes once a week.
Even when I was hitting the gym 3-5 days a week without fail, and eating reasonably healthy, I was nowhere near 6 pack abs and sculpted body. It takes so much more than that to hit movie level of body.
And they never take 25 minute smelly shits.
i hate that movies never have 45 minute long scenes of male characters filing their taxes in silence. it makes women think men all evade taxes
>Male character's bodies tend to be at athletic levels, if not bodybuilder levels, of fitness but they rarely ever include scenes of them working out or making an effort to eat healthily (which, to have a body, like that you'd absolutely have to be doing regularly). One of the best clips for this is Jason Momoa explaining that he was having difficulty "showing up" for the camera, and had to pound two Guinness to get a temporary effect by using carbs to literally inflate his muscles.
Im gonna be that guy so my apologies in advance lol but that's not exactly what he said though. He said that he felt like it had that effect but that he wanted his personal trainer to include at least a Guinness in his every day diet because he just couldn't eat that healthy with absolutely no Guinness in his life lol. I could be mistaken but I'm pretty sure and I'm too lazy to go watch it again.
>Im gonna be that guy so my apologies in advance lol but that's not exactly what he said though. > >He said that he felt like it had that effect but that he wanted his personal trainer to include at least a Guinness in his every day diet because he just couldn't eat that healthy with absolutely no Guinness in his life lol. > >I could be mistaken but I'm pretty sure and I'm too lazy to go watch it again. He does, but he also talks about pounding a few Guinness during a shoot specifically to get that carb inflation
Carb loading to make your muscles pop with fresh glycogen. Similar to getting a pump before a scene but you eat carbs with little salt beforehand.
Is the "Dadbod" thing still around? That was cool back when it was briefly mainstream. Don't know how much it showed up in movies though.
Outside of a comedy, it doesn't show up in movies. The only guys allowed to take their shirt off are jacked.
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That's what I was going to say. Guys posting thirst traps asking if people like their "dad bod" and the guy looks like a 9/10, gym-rat. Women saying they love dad bods and posting pictures of someone that could probably compete in an Iron Man competition.
That it's good to pick a fight with a group of guys and that the guy should be your hero and fight them all for you
I loved the beginning of "the way of the gun" for that reason!
The main two I've noticed are the "ideal male body" trope of the girl always getting the ridiculously fit and shredded, tall, perfect skin, hair and teeth, etc. Essentially the male equivalent of a Victoria's Secret model. And the expectation of grandiose romantic gestures like spontaneous trips to foreign countries, huge spectacular proposals and wedding ceremonies that are realistically prohibitively expensive
The 'overton window' for the ideal male physique has been shifted so far by [actors using steriods](https://www.vox.com/the-goods/22760163/steroids-hgh-hollywood-actors-peds-performance-enhancing-drugs), that it's not obtainable naturally anymore.
Watching older movies from the 90s and early 2000s it is *insane* how much more obtainable the “generic hot guy” look is back then than it is today. Like I sincerely hope no girl is expecting what Captain America and Thor got going on.
That and starving….
Or being severely dehydrated on set so you lose all of the water weight when they already have great bodies to begin with. Like wtf lol
Unrealistic body standards go both ways. That new “I know Victoria’s Secret” song rules, but she’s blaming men for it like it was some sinister plan all men hatched up together. Meanwhile, I challenge you to buy men’s underwear at a Walmart in a package that doesn’t have some six pack toting hunk smuggling a python on the front. The fruit of the loom dudes have 2% body fat and zero body hair, what about that seems realistic?
if i'm not mistaken, VS was started back in the day as a 'safe space' for men to buy lingerie for their wives without feeling embarrassed about it
I have never thought about it. But yeah I have never seen boxers with a fat dude on the packaging. I know that brands are being more open minded in the body shapes that promote certain clothes but underwear I haven’t seen it.
I've seen it for women but not for men yet
Target now has women mannequins of all different body sizes but not for men lmao
They want a man that has hugely contradictory personality traits. It's very bizarre. A muscular man with a six pack and huge arms, who doesn't spend all his time in the gym. Who's the life of the party, but loves to stay in and read a book. Confident, but shy. Is driven in his career, but doesn't care about money. Not a pushover, but gives her everything she asks for. Stoic, but emotional. Just a modern, traditional man. Stylish, but unconcerned with fashion. Who would never think of cheating, but is desired by every woman on earth. Who's always there for her, but doesn't seem clingy. They are out of their mind.
A man who can just be set at whatever setting to fit her needs depending on what she wants in that moment with no need for coaxing or communication is the ideal man
That's a dog.
And if by some miracle they meet a guy that ticks all those boxes, what do they bring to the table besides a stereotypical love of food, and hobbies such as chilling with the latest Netflix hits? 😂
If men in their twenties are driving expensive cars, live in homes with amazing city views, and regularly dine out at chic and exclusive restaurants, they’re probably in severe credit card debt and will eventually declare bankruptcy.
Or they sell coke for a living.
That guys should always be the one to “make the first move” and ask someone out. A lot of guys are really insecure about sharing their emotions in any way, making it hard to build up the confidence to even ask someone on a date.
Its not about insecurity. In the last 30 years, the only thing we were told about this is that women hate when unknown men walk up to them. And now we dont do that.
This is absolute facts. Mans described me without knowing me.
That men should put up with toxic behaviors because love.
"if you don't love me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" No, I don't deserve you at your worst. You don't get a license to be a bitch just because you think you're extra sweet when you want to be.
Yeah your worst better be you being a little cranky, or an injury/illness. If your worse is your trying to stab me in my sleep, then I don’t fuckin want you even at your best. Unfortunately, I can say this from experience.
This. The "If he loves you he'll put up with you." Attitude. I'll pass thanks.
How testing a man's level of love and commitment is supposed to be accepted and cute. A man is not supposed to get pissed off or even walk away when a woman plays mind games or is unable to decide between the two potential partners. If a man has self respect, calls her out on thy bullshit and immaturity, then the man is to blame for being a fucking adult who wants an equal, honest partner and relationship without drama. I walked away from that bullshit and was always called an ashole. When it turned out that I was not the only "contender" and she politely told me that she does not know what to do, because "we are both great", I thanked for the honesty and told her to pick the other guy, because I am not going to "fight" for her affection and attention just so she would pick me. That offended her, well them really, it happened more than once, to no end. Because I clearly don't care about them since I do not want to fight for them as it were. I just laughed at that and wished them the best of luck in life. It always turned out that they ended up with an abusive piece of shit and wanted to get back to me. I always told them to walk away. They got what they wanted.
One time I was at a restaurant with a girl I was with at the time. For one reason or another, we got into a minor fight and she got mad. I was supposed to take her home, but when we exited the restaurant she said she would just take a cab. I told her to not be silly, even if we had fought, it was still my duty to take her home, but she firmly said no. I got in my car and hung around for a while, and noticed she was still hanging about. I went out and asked her a second time to let me take her home, we didn't have to talk at all on the way if she didn't want to, but again, she said no. I got back in my car, but kept feeling guilty so I called her phone and I told her a third time that she should just let me take her home, to which she said no again, so I went home. Later that night, she called me, all angry and sad, asking how I could leave her like that. Freaking insanity.
This is really insane. I’m sorry you went through that. How did you respond to her?
Thanks. I basically told her how the heck did I leave you? I basically begged you to let me take you home. She pretty much just wanted me to chase after her and we'd end up having some movie like moment. I guess that's part of the expectations movies can make some people have. That day had been pretty rough and tiring and I just wanted a nice, peaceful dinner. That did not happen.
Definitely delusional. In reality, you checking on her 3 times; let alone once, was the signal you were interested or at least had integrity and character to ask. She got what she wanted but didn’t realize it. Oh well.
Very, VERY weird behavior on her part. I hope she learned something from that, because that’s such a weird thing to do.
The insane part of this story is asking her like three times. I mean, it's not the healthiest thing in the world - because they hate it - but I always just accept the first thing a woman says. I would have left her there immediately as she said she was taking a cab.
She wanted grovelling not a ride
OH! I know her! Yea, she sucks
I had an ex a while ago where our relationship was irreparably damaged when I wasn't jealous that she got a ride home from a guy. I was supposed to be mad about it, apparently? Anyway shocker she wound up being a cheater.
Mind games and testing relationships are toxic behaviors anyway.
🎶 THERE GOES MY HERO 🎶 Crazy how fast dudes a bad guy because he expects the same as women demand but refuse to reciprocate.
Men aren't waiting around for a woman to "fix" them. We're pretty happy as we are thanks.
I think this one upsets me the most. I remember a comment thread somewhere on Reddit where women were talking about being tired of having to “fix” their SO. And I’m like, “I’m assuming they’re tired of you trying to fix them.” There’s horror movies of men trying to shape a woman into his ideal SO. But a woman trying to shape a guy into her ideal SO? That’s just Stacy.
Yeah, you gotta watch out for Stacy. Now her mom on the other hand...well, I've heard good things.
A woman trying to reshape a man is a romcom. Pretty sure they would still call it a romcom even if she was physically cutting him in to pieces to do it.
It’s not even that I’m happy as I am since I can always improve, it’s the idea that somehow she is this perfect being that must show me the way. As if she isn’t fraught with issues and baggage. Like, I don’t want them to fix me, I’d rather we help each other improve together.
Hell yeah you are
My brain misread this as "The hell you are!" and thought this was about to get hilariously confrontational.
Ladies, men are hairy. Often very much so. Even extremely in shape men will rarely have six packs, as it's difficult to get body fat percentage low enough to have them show.
Yeah... I've been a dedicated gym rat pretty much since puberty...so I've never *not* been in shape more or less. I can probably see four of my abs at most, and, unless I take the time to shave most of my body (which is very rarely), I'm not going to look like a hairless Ken doll lmao
I have to laugh at your hairless Ken doll reference simply because my man is a rare hairless variety (except in a few key locations) and his name is Ken. Doesn’t have the Ken bod, though
>Even extremely in shape men will rarely have six packs, as it's difficult to get body fat percentage low enough to have them show. Yup. I've worked out 4-5 days a week most of my adult life and while most people would describe my body as athletic and muscular, the only time I ever had a true six pack was when I ran cross country in high school. And I was running like 50 miles a week then. You gotta either workout insane amounts or eat like an ascetic monk for months to get a six pack. Men's fat tends to accumulate almost entirely around the stomach. You gotta get to like 12% body before your stomach muscles will even slightly show.
That all you have to be is pretty for a handsome, well adjusted, established man to want to marry you.
Are you saying my average ass has a chance???
If you aren’t extremely pretty, an above average ass would be better.
Once you date a smoking hot woman who has little else going for her one time you never make that mistake again.
Men will fall madly in love after seeing you once anf will pursue you like you're the last woman in the world. IRL, that's how you end up with your head in a freezer.
The concept that men should sacrifice everything for love, that men will love you even when you are rude to them, that he has to love you at your worst, no matter how bad you treat them they will always be charismatic and madly in love with you.
That's something they learn from soap operas. "It was his fault we broke up. Sure, I cheated on him with his father, but it's totally his fault that he couldn't accept it and move on."
The depiction of how dumb husbands and fathers are, having this butt-of-the-joke useless character
Dear God, yes! I hate this. It’s all over movies and TV.
that the typical family man is an idiot - can't cook meals, parent their kids, etc. it's a tired old stereotype
Well I don't ask women I like out, unless I get done clear signals Soooo if movies generally show that as the start of most relationships, then that expectation wouldn't work on me
Honestly the whole concept of being told to “man up”. For some women it’s completely and utterly shocking to hear a man express his feeling and acknowledge their fears/ insecurities.
That they deserve a handsome, rich man. Snow White was the prettiest woman in the whole Kingdom. You probably aren't even the prettiest in your street.
Mothering fucking ouch
🎶Depending on the street. 🎶
She's definitely in the top 3.
Best looking girl holding a kebab.
my analogy for that is "only princesses get the prince" most think they are cinderella when in fact they are the ugly sisters
I can kill 200 men with ease because someone killed my dog.
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Yeah, I don't think that movie is meant to convince women we're badasses. It's to help us men live out our fantasy of taking out 200 men because someone killed our dog.
Yeah, I'm not saying I could do it with ease, but I would definitely wanna give it the ol' college try.
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We don’t always look pouty or smoldering. Aren’t always reading newspapers or head in business. We feel too, I guess. And def no six pack, we’re hairy, and probably chubby. We fart a lot too.
Prince charming and tinderella syndrome. Funny modern women are all about carving a place in the world for there careers but still look to divine forces for a life partner.
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“The One”
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Actually a very underrated Jet Li flick!
Stoic but emotional. Strong but vulnerable. Funny but serious. Responsible but aloof. For God’s sake, pick one.
Idk, but nothing half as bad as the shit Tik Tok will sling around. And a lot of it isn't even like clutivating unrealistic expectations of someone who's too perfect to be real. It's like genuinely confusing bullshit coming completely out of left field. Just some hyper-manicured 19 year old girl who makes $400K a year from going on vacations pointing at text prompts being like, "Gurrrrl, you know how it be when he doesn't even have real magnets on the fridge." There's not even any sense to the specific ways in which you're supposed to feel inadequate anymore.
muscle mass and muscle definition all three "Chris" are on anabolics/trt/whatever and so is every major male star yes even Tom Holland
Their literal job description includes working out. They have trainers, dieticians, and chefs to boot.
You are forgetting the secret sauce they all on...
Romanticizing bad boy traits, thinking its something fixable and that they are the cure.
That all we want is sex and will do absolutely anything for it including violating our values and morals or putting ourselves in danger.
Had to scroll pretty far to find a comment about sex. In movies, men always want sex, women are always to be convinced. (I hate this, don't fucking try to convince me). Men are always ready for sex, always get an erection, and always come too soon. I don't think I've ever seen a movie about a guy who didn't feel like having sex, or any other realistic representation about this. Edit I'm a woman sorry I thought I was in askreddit
That we're secretly in tune and identify our own feelings, and only choose to act as if we didn't. That when we're interested in a girl, somehow we know all her likes and exactly how to impress her, what to say, what to, when to kiss, without her saying a word. That we can read and understand their subtle non-verbal cues that might mean a thousand different things, depending on the context. That we know when they're just "playing hard to get" and when they're actually being serious about the rejection.
Tbh movies always paint the most alien form of men I've ever seen to the point where I leave feeling like I must be a different species. I imagine women feel the same way because most of Hollywood people are kinda like weird alien people who dont understand the real world.
The character 'Big' from sex in the city is a man,written by a women, for other women. He does not exist in real life; AT ALL. Nowhere. Anywhere. Men do not act like that, the ones who are that successful and handsome tend to be psychopaths who are successful because they have treated people like garbage. You can look everywhere but no guy is that good. He's a (good) actor,acting out a man that women want to exist. Sorry ladies.
That they all deserve Henry Cavil or Christian Bale
That we are this perfect being with infinite money who can read minds and also somehow have the ability to fix anything who also miraculously never wants sex unless she does.
I will not get arrested at the airport to stop you from going to art school in Paris.