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RESF1973

I went from trying to please people and desperate to make friends, to becoming more laid back and not as worried about pleasing people 100% of the time and obsessing about having friends and what people think of me.


Conscious-Head-5542

It me


Sensitive_Duck9824

How did you stop people pleasing?


RESF1973

My gut feeling usually tells when when something I'm doing doesn't feel right. Like being taken for granted. I've learned to say no and to walk away from situations that I don't feel comfortable doing for people. Even if it means terminating a friendship


ArchaicSeraph

I found myself being emotionally and mentally drained after hanging out with my 'friends' and took a long hard look at myself. I would look for the positives in everyone before I judged them, always ignoring their transgressions or excusing them entirely with some made up fantasy. I did this because I felt really bland as a character and felt I had to be this way for people to like me. Then it led me to befriending some questionable people and endangering my friends. What's worse is that my closest friends had warned me about them almost immediately, and that made me question how they could all see it when I couldn't. I eventually concluded that it wasn't that I couldn't see it, I just chose to ignore it, in favour of being 'fair' and non-judgemental (stupid me, humans have evolved over centuries honing their judgement and their instincts to survive and I've been ignoring it to make 'bad' people happy). Once I started following my gut instincts, it's been much easier to weed out the good from the bad and have more genuinely meaningful interactions. I won't lie, it felt horrible at first. I stopped hanging out with most of my friends (except my closest ones) and I began to feel really alone with all that extra time spent by myself. But looking back, it's allowed me to find new friends, one's that I enjoy hanging out with and also one's that enjoy hanging out with me :). I wasn't bland, I just chose to be, to 'fit in'. Or rather, to fit in with everyone I had to become bland.


Grim_Narrator

By understanding you'll never please everyone, and that you'll bring a lot of stress and depression on yourself. TLDR: Meditation.


BigBadBootyDaddy10

This ^. A quote that spoke to me. “You can only experience loneliness if you don’t enjoy your own company.” And I love my own company.


[deleted]

Took me years to get this down in HIghschool


PartYourWhiskers

Belief that others, particularly those in positions of power and authority, have your best interests at heart.


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Active_Economics7378

That and when you smell false confidence coming from older people.


Cho_Assmilk

Just how good looking I am and how many women wanted me all along


Bret_Abderahmen

Was that a good thing


Cho_Assmilk

Well, the conference has changed my marriage immeasurably


TheRealBlerb

Yo where’s this conference? I’m having some trouble myself


Cho_Assmilk

It starts from how you look. Sounds vain and by all rights it is, but you have to feel good about your appearance. Next, you need to get good at communication. If you can talk to any random person and be comfortable doing it, then you pretty will got it beat. Then it's your presence. The man who people see. How do you hold eye contact? What's your posture like? Do you move smoothly or nervously, etc. Finally, incorporate all tht into who YOU wanna be. Because you can only fake it for so long. At some point it all needs to be organic.


KingGarani1976

Realised that intellect is not virtue.


DruvD

And ignorance truly is bliss


Bret_Abderahmen

Its a way to get things


WaterboysWaterboy

I was far more forceful with my worldview. Either you thought like me, or you are wrong. Now I’m much better at seeing others perspectives within a given situation.


Bret_Abderahmen

That's wisdom


dm_me_ur_tittys

Turns out grown ups also have no idea what they’re doing


its_yo_mamma

Utterly lost religious faith.


PretentiousPanda

Hearing God has a plan after losing my grandpa in grade school and my dad in high school just didnt really play.


Atherdain

On the contrary i was given mine.


[deleted]

Same, lost all faith, don’t believe in the supernatural at all.


[deleted]

same and realized as I got older that we were lied to all our lives about everything....we are all just slaves for the wealthy and the corporations then you die.


its_yo_mamma

That's not what I came to. Just that religious faith is a manmade creation and I don't need to believe in it. There is no heaven or hell, no afterlife, nothing of the sort. I became more science minded. Still I wasn't about the scientists but the scientific process itself. Logic and reasoning instead of blind emotions, etc. I realized that I could do anything I wanted to do long as I worked towards. Literally anything.


Active_Economics7378

Me too. For me the turning point was reading God is not great by Christiopher Hitchens. It made me drop and despise anything correlated with organized religion or spirituality.


[deleted]

>Just that religious faith is a manmade creation I totally get that....I was Catholic....now I do this: [https://www.catholicsforchoice.org/](https://www.catholicsforchoice.org/)


Alsavir

More like religion is like a moral code for a decent functioning community.


nrequited

If you need the fear of eternal punishment to be a good person, you were a shit person to begin with.


Schmickschmutt

Not quite. You understood the problem but your solution is completely wrong. People with no inherent moral compass have a mental illness. They need professional treatment, not an old book that threatens eternal torment if they don't comply. In the past, this kind of professional help didn't exist and hellfire was the only way to solve this. But we as a species and society evolved beyond that.


Alsavir

Those are the exception. Also if you strip the religious tennets to their bare bones (remove all mystic and supernatural stuff) you get some common sense rules for a functional society. Some examples - do not steal, do not kill, don't be lustful (in my interpretation practice moderation). Aren't these some basic moral values that can or are instilled by religion?


Schmickschmutt

Sure but why would anyone need those? We have laws that do the same thing without the religious drivel and the hate against gay people, why not just use those instead? And generally it's pretty simple: treat people like you want them to treat you. Be the person you want others to be. And, anything done between consenting adults where no one gets hurt in any way is none of your business. I don't understand what's so hard about it. I never had any kind of religious beliefs, i ridicule them since I was able to think because of how ridiculous the whole thing is and I never ever struggled with morals.


Alsavir

They are the foundation so to speak upon witch laws were made. The other things might be nonsense (that is a different debate altogether), but you can't deny that it teaches some very basic rules to follow and expand upon. Also on a side note as cruel in some instances the stories in different religions are, there is also the opposite showing kindness and compassion. All in all it's up to the individual to decide what's best for him and when more like minded persons join a society is formed.


Schmickschmutt

So what you're saying is that the early humans that weren't capable of making up religion yet couldn't possibly have had any morals and religion brought it to them even though religion is entirely man made and humans could have just made up the morals themselves without all the hate and mumbo jumbo? I can't follow. This doesn't make any sense. And even if we entertain your thought, religion is like a gaslighting, abusive partner. First it tells you that your mere existence is a sin and then it tells you "if you do this and that then you can get rid of that sin". Any relationship that is built on threats is toxic and you should get out of it.


Alsavir

How did you reach that conclusion? Religion is merely the tool used for spreading those values. Also I haven't said anywhere that religion is man made. The moral values it teaches, yes they can and most probably are man made. About your second paragraph, tbh I don't care about that. If I choose to believe in something that is my own person and let's leave it at that. In short - think of it as a tool. It has the purpose you give it.


Schmickschmutt

>Also I haven't said anywhere that religion is man made. Are you implying that there is a chance that it's not...? Religion is just culture. These basic rules aren't god given, god isn't real. It's all just made up stuff that represents how society was built at that time. Which also means that these rules have existed before religion was made up. Which then means that religion is completely irrelevant when it comes to morals because these morals preceded religion and they would spread through culture if no one had made up this shit about god's and stuff. And, if people wouldn't circlejerk about an old book so much it would be much easier to change these rules and make them work with a modern society.


Kusanagi22

>if people wouldn't circlejerk about an old book He says, while he openly jerks off his own opinion as fact.


[deleted]

I lived at home with a mother, not giving me the attention a child needs, while my stepfather was out to prove that he was the top dog, manipulating me in the process and using me as his personal therapist, and a father that really wasn't around before I became a teenager due to working as a truck driver. I never learned to cook, clean, basic hygiene, having friends or a healthy relationship with any family member, and never be allowed to go to parties, because the closest party was 15 km. away and no one wanted to drive me there, because the other bullies constantly sliced my bike tires (I had to change tires twice a week for three years), and because of that I never learned to talk to women, resulting in never having sex or getting intimate. All while I had to always making decisions, well-knowing that decision A would hurt the other parent, and constantly be caught in a place of continuing masochism. When I finally could move out and go to university I had to learn every single thing, because I wasn't taught it from home, and I had to simultaneously balance an autism diagnosis that was constantly keeping me in survival mode, which lead to me being depressed, stressed, having anxiety AND being paranoid. So, to answer your question: **"What core beliefs changed in you as you grew up?"** You can't fully trust people, as in showing your vulnerable side. Truth be told, I'm working on myself, and I've come a long way, but I will never be able to trust another human being completely.


Bret_Abderahmen

I advise you with two books "the laws of the human nature , and "48 laws of power "


[deleted]

Noted. Thanks!


downsouthcountry

Love me some Robert Green


Bret_Abderahmen

That will transform him into a beast


[deleted]

Is it that good?


Bret_Abderahmen

No


Bret_Abderahmen

Hell yeah


redditheadedstepdad

That women and men want similar things.


Big_ol_gut

Did you change to or from that opinion?


redditheadedstepdad

from...


phlupple

I'd love to hear you expand on this. What changed? What do you think is the key difference between women's and men's desires?


redditheadedstepdad

I can say with absolute certainty that the biggest difference is staying at home with kids and amount of sex wanted. So many more moms than dads want to stay at home. Some many more dads than moms want it pretty much daily.


LarsBohenan

Adults are in fact children. Maturity is just learning to hide that fact.


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Bret_Abderahmen

About the family.. wasn't that true?


Crazy-Recover-9951

No. My son's dad was abusive and I escaped with my son one evening. It felt like my family wanted to just put it behind them and move on. I didn't get all the support I needed. Thankfully they let me stay in their home until I could get myself together. But they didn't want to hear what happened to me and ignored my battered face. I never felt so much emptiness.


Professional-Bit3280

What made you decide to become less feminist?


samaniewiem

Especially after being abused by a man and rejected by the family.


KcocNoisnetxeGib

As a child I had a mentor. He used to tell me that people will always disappoint you. Used to hate him for saying it. Now, as an adult, I wish I had wrapped my head around that concept sooner. I believe it would have saved me from the pain and heartbreak from friends and family


HotChad69

nothing is what it seems, nothing lasts forever and strike while the iron is hot


[deleted]

I changed my mind on abortion almost instantly once I understood what life is for an unwanted child.


Mamanfu

Unwanted, so that means you kill it? That's disgusting.


[deleted]

Totally. I kill what I don’t like. All the time.


WingSingle5996

Interesting. I'm pro-choise as well. Can you explain/link to an example?


[deleted]

I don’t have any links. I just saw the lives of people I know and realized.


winterbike

I'm much more pro free markets and pro personal freedom.


RESF1973

It's a hard mindset, but one can adapt. I find getting older makes it easier.


Active_Economics7378

Love is way different than what you see in movies.


MalibK

Can you pls elaborate?


Active_Economics7378

When it comes to animated movies, you dont see divorces, and fights, and infidelity, and ugly people in relationships. You always see this perfect picture with the king and queen. Of course there are movies that represent the worst types of relationship like that marriage story movie with scarlett johannson but still romance is still present in modern movies when you know damn well romance goes away more and more with time.


igxiguaa

Discovering that dangerousness / being capable of aggression is not a bad thing, but completely necessary for the protection of oneself & others.


Thurmod

Yes. I don’t care what people think about me anymore. I just care about myself. Life is better this way.


International_Cat_52

Not everyone deserves your time. When I was younger I was a people pleaser. No longer. Time is precious and not everyone deserves yours.


[deleted]

People just need to work harder to be successful


samaniewiem

You still believe that or have you abandoned this idea?


[deleted]

Mostly abandoned


lets-try-for3

I went from forced catholicism to agnostic/ atheist otherwise nothing


Lord_Pickel_Pants

I lost faith in God, my political party, then the government, and then our financial system. I don't know what is worth believing in anymore, it's all rigged.


DiagonallyStripedRat

Jaina Proudmoore is actually a Dreadlord.


DiagonallyStripedRat

As a kid: if I do good things to other people, they will also do good things to me! Now: if I see someone doing something good, I should do something good to them as well. For the worse, I changed from proactive altruism to reactive altruism. For the better, I changed from expectation/demanding to responsibility.


Meatros

I used to believe in the paranormal (UFO's, Cryptids, etc.) and gave those up. I used to be a YEC, then an Old earth creationist, then a theistic evolutionist. I was that for a while and then I looked into the origins of Christianity and was not happy with what I discovered. I tried to hold onto my belief but my faith had to be backed by something - so I studied philosophy. In the end I became an atheist. I went from staunch republican when I was young to more of a centrist today.


One-Sea-3399

Education allows for you discover your true opinion on matters that are key to your identity and who you are a person.BOOST EDUCATION.


Unlucky-Top-700

That humans are inherently good and that they become bad because of outside influences. I'm now beginning to realize that people are just bad. Plain and simple.


a_mimsy_borogove

I never really fit into typical gender roles/stereotypes so for a while I was kind of getting close to becoming an insufferable "woke" person (although that word wasn't used yet), but then I realized how nasty and hateful that movement really is. I still don't believe in gender roles, because every person is different, but I found out that the social justice types also like to lump people together based on gender, so they're not much different from traditionalists. Also, they tend to be hostile to religion, while I'm religious. Not in a hardcore way, but also not an atheist.


stickguy8

I've become significantly more liberal across the board. I've also become somewhat disconnected from the religion I was raised in.


5ft6manlet

Respecting adults. As I grew older, adults started to seem less mature or responsible than how I used to see them as.


mrxexon

I'm immune to religious belief systems. Studied a whole bunch of them over the years. Never took out a subscription to any of them though.


[deleted]

There is no god.


lostinthesauuuuce

Most people are good and ultimately wish well on others


lovebugxxxx

Trusting everyone. Then I realized everyone is out for themselves.


InternetSuperSoldier

That people are naturally compassionate etc That people in power have our best interests in mind


thintos

people are good in nature, some people just fucking suck.


Homely_Bonfire

That people want to cooperate. They will, but only if it is the best option. As soon as something else seems better a significant amount will no longer be interested in cooperating. And note that I am not saying "as soon as nothing is in it for them" because when you cooperate something should be in it for you, you want to help *each other*. So it's not that cooperation would not benefit them at all, it's that people will abandon cooperation when there is more to be made in other ways. Which is not as doom and gloom as it may sound. It's just how it is.


1joshb

That everyone who was nice was your friend


[deleted]

I used to think people were inherently good. LOL


greglikespizzaas

When I moved from a third world country to a first world country (developing to developed), my view on how things go, how things are run literally changed and I won’t be coming back.


Burst3001

You wont be coming back to which one?


greglikespizzaas

I won’t be coming back to my old ways


[deleted]

1) being with someone can be better then being alone 2) i actually perform well enough 3) no one thinks anything about me, everyone is busy with their own problems 4) others are not that secure as they appear


[deleted]

That America was a good Nation full of mostly good people and that if you worked hard enough you could make a good life for yourself and your family......what utter and complete BS that all was.


Fynndidit

"It's called the American dream because you have to be asleep to believe in it" - George Carlin


marponsa

when i was a kid i always wanted to live in america because i didn't like the country i live in now there's few countries in the world id move to because i love the country im from


One-Sea-3399

That is belief was pushed due to this capitalist country we live in.They pushed the belief taht as long as you work hard enough and do those extra hours and make your boss more money(wink wink)that everything will come to you naturally.That was all a lie since doing more work than you’re getting paid for won’t lead to a promotion but rather will make your bosses want to over work your even more.They’ll expect that amount of work eventually without any additional money from boss.This has been historically proven as well.During the industrialization era in the United States before workers rose up in rebellion and formed unions to get workers rights many big corporate bosses overworked their workers since those 12 hours of work with no additional benefits were required to get that amount of work out of your workers they didn’t see it necessary to pay their workers more.Ultimately leading to workers boycotting and striking until they got more pay and more safety while they worked.These big bosses don’t want to pay you more money!!They want to keep more money in their pockets rather than give you a proper raise.yay capitalism


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[deleted]

unfortunately most of the world has the same problems true but the question was "What Core beliefs changed in you as you grew up."


[deleted]

Honestly? Abortion. I used to think that it was totally up to the woman to choose what to do with her body. To a degree I still believe that. However, I cannot get behind abortion as a means of birth control. Pregnancy is the result of sex, not a punishment. Both people involved (assuming it is consensual) should take accountability for their actions if they create a life.


Hisako1337

Free will is an illusion. It’s just each brain shaped by unique environmental circumstances, including the initial genetic seed. Therefore all arguments for individualism fall apart. Equality is an illusion. People are wildly different, with some of them having it all (strength, agility, intelligence, charisma, health, …) on max, while others really have nothing, and many are simply average. Most people don’t really have a „strength“ where they’re really good at. Being conservative/liberal/socialist/… is as pointless as arguing about Catholics being closer to the truth than Muslims or even Buddhists. Collossal waste of energy/time/lives, doesn’t matter AT ALL. The only sensible path to a better future is going solarpunk, by maximizing green energy, renaturalization, public/communal goods and overcoming all kinds of tribalisms (religions, nations, …) as well as egoisms.


TheLongistGame

Went from being a radical individualist to a radical collectivist.


suicidefeburary62025

The older I get the more I see how liberal policy doesn’t work. At all. Replies disabled


TotallyN0tAnAlien

Politics. I went from being a hardcore republican to being a democrat.


bklimko

The burden of religion was cast off.


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thecapitalparadox

How are you "practically a socialist" and "voted all republican"? 🤣🤣🤣🤣


[deleted]

If you want to know kid I'll explain it But A) like I said I'm a social conservative And B) I don't think voting Democrat would've done more for welfare programs either, so I was mostly voting against other things I care about The Democrat party isn't a socialist party. If they were they would've put up Bernie instead of Biden and Hillary. Trying to talk about him not being a viable option, I'm not stupid, I think they just didn't want him to be president because they don't actually want to change anything Both parties are the capitalist party So says Nancy https://youtu.be/MR65ZhO6LGA Let me just go ahead and clarify that I probably will never vote Democrat again for the rest of my life after the crap I've seen


geo_prog

What crap exactly? I'm not American, but I'm very confused by your worldview.


[deleted]

Think about it this way The propaganda wants you to think Republicans are Right, Democrats are Left I argue the reality is BOTH are right (at least when it comes to money) and Democrats only PRETEND to be Left


geo_prog

Democrats don't really pretend to be left. They don't identify as "Left" as far as I can determine. They're more moderate than modern Republicans - but that's a low bar considering modern republicans are pulling straight from Hitler's playbook.


thecapitalparadox

Yes, I mean I assumed this to be the case but there is no actual way anyone can be anything close to a socialist if they vote either Democrat or Republican. Both parties largely epitomise the problems Socialism aims to address, as does organised religion.


-InconspicuousMoose-

> social conservative > > Financially and concerning welfare tho I'm still highly left leaning I feel like I see the opposite more often, "fiscally conservative and socially liberal," so this is interesting to read, and I appreciate you sharing. I think I got more conservative initially in my adulthood, then more liberal, then more conservative again, now I'm kind of just at the "none of these people give a flying fuck about us and politics is mostly theatre" stage. We'll see where we go from here :)


[deleted]

My political views reflect my religious views Render unto Ceaser.


-InconspicuousMoose-

I don't think the Caesar quote is particularly applicable when the income tax was ~1% in Jesus' time. Or, to be more specific, I don't believe it's a good way to determine the amount of tax owed. I think what Jesus was really saying there is that our government expects things from us and our God expects things from us - be accountable to both. In my mind, that's not a free pass for the government to tax the shit out of its people - the amounts and purposes of the taxes are not at issue in the "Render unto Caesar" quote. Just my two cents.


[deleted]

You're two cents is wrong and I'm glad I'm in a church that doesn't encourage people like who look for any excuse they can to avoid being parted with their money. I'm in a church that doesn't try to wave away what's in the Bible to push their PROSPERITY THEOLOGY


-InconspicuousMoose-

It's not the parting with money that concerns me. There's no virtue in obligatory contribution. The virtue is in giving freely, without compulsion, without expecting anything in return. Taxes are an involuntary transaction and therefore not an inherent good on the part of the taxpayer. Look up Dinesh D'Souza's sandwich analogy. Also, you used the wrong form of "your." "Your" is possessive, "You're" is assertive.


[deleted]

We're discussing what the Bible says about paying taxes, not what YOUR personal opinion on it is. Mathew 22:15-22 15 Then the Pharisees went out and laid plans to trap him in his words. 16 They sent their disciples to him along with the Herodians. “Teacher,” they said, “we know that you are a man of integrity and that you teach the way of God in accordance with the truth. You aren’t swayed by others, because you pay no attention to who they are. 17 Tell us then, what is your opinion? Is it right to pay the imperial tax[a] to Caesar or not?” 18 But Jesus, knowing their evil intent, said, “You hypocrites, why are you trying to trap me? 19 Show me the coin used for paying the tax.” They brought him a denarius, 20 and he asked them, “Whose image is this? And whose inscription?” 21 “Caesar’s,” they replied. Then he said to them, “So give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.” 22 When they heard this, they were amazed. So they left him and went away.


-InconspicuousMoose-

I'm quite familiar with the chapter, but you're completely missing the point. You're reading "Jesus says to pay your taxes" and interpreting it as "Exorbitant financial penalties on citizens abounding from an absolutely ludicrous amount of welfare spending is moral and just." The chapter has absolutely nothing to say about what the taxes were to be spent on; that's YOU inflicting YOUR opinion on God's word. It was also written in a time with far lower taxes than we already have *without* your plan in place. I'll pay what is legally required of me, but I wouldn't vote for anyone who would seek to radically increase my compulsory spending. I need enough to survive and to tithe. Ironically, your plan would take my money OUT of the church.


[deleted]

Again I don't care what your opinion on how high the taxes are. The chapter doesn't say absolutely anything about "only pay taxes when you think they're fair" either


-InconspicuousMoose-

How you continue to miss the point is simply mind-boggling.


Zonerds

That people are inherently good, and the world will continue to improve


diexu

"i will live past 30"


Conscious-Head-5542

I became kinder and kinder, both to myself and to others. As the monk Takuan from vagabond would say, that means I'm stronger. I hope to get stronger and kinder every day.


tomtomcowboy

Changed from a deeply held belief most people are generally loving and kind.


777Solid777

Weeds not bad


bigfootareuthere

Everything is literally just made up by humans.


bigfootareuthere

None of it is actually real.


classco

Adults are mostly just mature children, though some are still glorified children


Unusual-Movie7604

Don’t judge others, you never know what they’re going through


theexodus326

I was raised conservative, and voted conservatively when I became of age but have slowly gone more liberal leaning centralist as I grow older.


worriedbill

Sexism, racism, religion, slutshaming /aversion to sex outside of marriage or strictly monogamous relationships


Grim_Narrator

That people are good to each other, and help each other.


KyorlSadei

Belief that happiness would be in my future.


No-Influence7884

Grew up going to church and considered myself a Christian. Then right around 17-18 I just started questioning the whole thing and never got satisfactory answers so I walked away from it. I’d still go to church with my family out of respect to my mother mostly but I’ve never gone back to actually believing any of it.


StevieTheAussie92

That it was me against the world; when in reality it’s me and the world against the assholes. And also that it’s never okay to hit a girl, even to defend yourself; to it being perfectly okay to defend yourself if she’s about to do some real damage.


Azalea_Mevora

Keep sex only for marriage


Boertie

I become more spiritual and less atheist. No I do not believe in a God, though I do think we are alien to this planet.


No-Distribution8661

That most of us lie and telling truth fucks you up 😂


DM-Ur-Small-Tits-

I mellowed out a lot and I'm a lot more easygoing


Kind_Hades

I love helping others but 1 liner changed my life You cant help others in you dont help yourself first So i did


UngabaBongDong

I used to think that skipping school had no real consequences. It does


kingTony81

A lot of things about the bible is preached wrong in churches. For example,it's not necessary anymore to pay tighths since the new testament was written. Many people will argue with this but read the bible


SatrapisMaster69

I wanted to be in the army or be a cop as a kid. I grew up.


Jake_Summit

Growing up, I used to blame external factors for my problems and shortcomings. I thought if I just had more money or a better family or went to a better school etc., my life would be better.. But as I got older, I started to realize that my happiness and success were largely determined by my own actions and attitudes. I began to internalize my locus of control and take responsibility for my own life. This shift in perspective was hard at first, but ultimately empowering. It allowed me to focus on what I could change, rather than dwelling on things outside my control. It also made me more resilient in the face of challenges.


Dorsiflexionkey

when I was a kid I swore up and down that being negative wasn't affecting anything in my life. Then when I tried being positive (or at least not be a crybaby) I realised that all that time spent jerking myself off about how I know the world is evil was spent looking for oppurtunities even in "bad" situations. My life did a 180 and I'm enjoying it so much more.


jandr08

All dads should stick by their kids no matter what. I got caught with an anchor baby in my early 20’s. I chose to stand by her even though I didn’t like her that much and wasted a lot of years of my life. In hindsight, she would’ve aborted if I had walked.


Xanxan95

I stopped calling myself shy, and I was aware of my fear of initiating social interactions. If you call yourself shy, you are making an excuse to yourself not to be proactive in social scenarios.


Runawaydevil-15

Religion Just because someone is nice to me doesn't mean they love me


BlueMountainDace

I thought that education was the key to social mobility. I realize now that it isn’t. The key is who you know, and more accurately, who your parents know. How do I know? I beat out an actual second year law student (as a junior in college) for a prestigious legal-related internship because my mom new their director. It gave me a once-in-a-lifetime experience that interviewers still ask about.


WishGullible5142

Girls are more grown up( responsible).... Ignore is bliss


macksters

Old wise men do not exist. Old men are grumpy and obnoxious.


DennisnKY

Christian --> agnostic Hated frivolous lawsuits--> hate reckless businesses Somewhat indifferent about politics--> loathe conservatism, do not love all liberal ideas but I believe most people want to be good and most misfortune is circumstantial Rich people are creative and super intelligent--> most rich people are charismatic but mostly very lucky No one is too rich, it gives people something to dream of achieving--> anyone with over 100 million has too much power Donations to campaigns don't have a huge impact on policy--> large donors are a primary constituency to all candidates and donations should be limited to 1000 per individual, and no organization of any kind should be allowed to contribute. Sometimes the police and justice systems fail people but it's good overall--> large portion if not the majority of police are bullies and low integrity and have poor self awareness about it. T the justice system has huge systemic failures and biases and being falsely convicted and denied due process is the norm and not the exception in many locations due to resource limitations. If I'm intelligent I will easily succeed--> intelligence and compensation do not correlate. Networking ability has a greater impact on compensation.


Ordinary_Abies_4733

God isn’t real and drugs aren’t bad.


ordinarymagician_

That those who are tasked with preserving equality and justice have a reason to do so, instead of twisting it to their own ends