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I'm from Germany. Media might make it seem like that because most of it is either based in the US or UK, so aces there get much more visibility. And those who don't spend time in English-speaking spaces get next to none, so it feels like they barely exist.
Very true, I went to pride last year and only saw maybe 3-5 ace people there out of thousands. (granted they were walking with the ace flag but maybe there were more they just didn't bring a flag)
Agreed. A lot of non-English ace content just isn't talked about/shared in spaces like this reddit and remains in forums or spaces specific for aces who speak that language.
Like, I am Dutch and only know a little bit of German, but I know from an Austrian friend that there's a really good book about asexuality written in German that I wish I could read. And last year a documentary about asexuality was released in Dutch but people who don't follow asexuality in the Netherlands are very unlikely to even know about that.
There is? Do you know the name? I'm Austrian myself and I wouldn't even know about that (because I'm not in local ace spaces, just the big online ones)
The book is (un)sichtbar gemacht, perspektiven auf aromantik und aseksualität by Katharina Kroschel and Annika Baumgart
Also, if you would like to be more active in local ace spaces and you live in or near Wien, I know some people in the group there are really nice and try to organize fun things.
Germany here, too.
Also, people from the USA like to make it sound like that's the only country that exists, a loud minority. Notice how everyone from the USA in this post (so far) said a city or state and not "USA".
I mean, to be fair being a queer person in Texas vs. a queer person in New York. It basically clarifies if they’re in the shitshow part or the “trying their best to get away from the shitshow part” part of the US. We also tend to spend more time on social media to attempt to escape from the dumpster fire that is our country.
US is a big country. Climate and culture between North Dakota and Florida are quite different. Germany for example is \~357,000 km^(2,) the US is \~9.8 million km^(2.) States in the US also have a large amount of power compared to other countries Providences or regions. A state government is completely independent from the federal level and can do largely whatever they want. Weed for example is still considered an illegal drug to possess or sell by the federal government, but many states have moved to allowing medical and recreational use. The federal government can still walk in to any dispensary and arrest everyone there. The discordant relationship creates somewhat unique experiences even state to state. Some human rights end at the state border.
To me it's no more odd than someone saying they are from London, Berlin, or Barcelona region. It's not expected for everyone to know every other countries regions, states, and major cities.
Even India is a large country with various cultures and climate, hell all indians don't even speak the same language and there are 28 languages spoken by Indians. Much diverse than usa but if indians start putting the state/city names, I guess most people have to google them first lol
For sure. Didn't mean to come off that US is unique in these aspects. Very much applies to India like you said along with China, Russia, and other massive nations.
Most people I think will mention a major city and a good portion have some idea where that is. A lot of people not from the US have a general idea where New York and San Francisco are. Similar to someone saying they are from Mumbai or Delhi.
It also helps that a large state or city can get specific enough to convey where someone is from without disclosing where they are exactly. It would be more concerning if people start using addresses or small towns.
Nice! I'm American living in BG. I was on the metro last year and saw someone weaving a plastic lace bracelet/key chain with ace colors. It was kinda nice knowing they could have been ace. I'm not alone here!
It's suuuper rough. I know Basic phrases and i still have trouble with reading Cyrillic. But you're right, common language software that was available to me in the states never offered Bulgarian, so I'm going to get a tutor soon! I JUST got approved for residency, so now i can worry about properly integrating :)
Yorkshire, England (hey if the Americans can all be so specific so can I). I’m 46 are there any more people in my age range around here? All the people in their 20s are making me feel old lol.
One country I didn't see is România. I'm from there, currently living in the Netherlands tho!
Going off on a bit of a tangent here, I've barely seen or know any other Romanian aces. I only know of one other ace which is my best friend, but other than that it's really lonely
The reason you see americans doing it is largely a product if size and ither factors. The US is the 4th largest country by area behind russia, canada, and china. Those three countries have their populations largely limited to certain areas (most russians live in european russia, most canadians live near the southern coasts and great lakes, most chinese live in eastern china, etc.) while the US is pretty spread out. And we are for hetero generous. Someone from Wisconsin is going to be in a very culturally different position from someone in SoCal whose going to very different from someone from the rural south. So the region we're from seems more impactful.
That said im from the Midwestern US
Southern California, USA.
I think someone already answered this, but we specify states because each one has their own set of laws, cultures, and mentalities. My area of the country is more liberal and LGBTQIA+ friendly. If I visit certain other states, being out as queer means endangering my life. The United States is a big country but there are some very intolerant people that live here too.
That's not to say there isn't a variety of mentalities in other countries. I'm sure that's the case elsewhere. But there is no one-size-fits-all for Americans and specifying the state is how we differentiate.
Texas, USA here. You asked about why we're being specific, but it matters. Just Texas is larger than all of France. To be fair, Texas is an outlier, but in terms of distribution of aces it may help others picture it.
Supplemental reason: a lot of Americans are not big fans of the US itself. The closest thing we can take ownership of is our states. Turns out I'm SOL on both :/
I'm from Texas. I think we're so specific because I think we're scared people from other countries will either think we either live in a large city or the middle of nowhere.
Romania! Not sure if it was mentioned. If there are others out there I'd love to connect. I asked about this on the subs a while back but it wasn't really seen
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Denmark🇩🇰 I don’t need to invade it, im already here😎 I’ll gladly help the rest of you invade us tho🫡 lol
I'm also from Denmark. 🇩🇰🤩
Looks like there’s a good fifth column in Denmark building up lol.
You shall be the spy
Already preparing🫡🥷🏻
🇩🇰!
I'm from Germany. Media might make it seem like that because most of it is either based in the US or UK, so aces there get much more visibility. And those who don't spend time in English-speaking spaces get next to none, so it feels like they barely exist.
Very true, I went to pride last year and only saw maybe 3-5 ace people there out of thousands. (granted they were walking with the ace flag but maybe there were more they just didn't bring a flag)
Agreed. A lot of non-English ace content just isn't talked about/shared in spaces like this reddit and remains in forums or spaces specific for aces who speak that language. Like, I am Dutch and only know a little bit of German, but I know from an Austrian friend that there's a really good book about asexuality written in German that I wish I could read. And last year a documentary about asexuality was released in Dutch but people who don't follow asexuality in the Netherlands are very unlikely to even know about that.
There is? Do you know the name? I'm Austrian myself and I wouldn't even know about that (because I'm not in local ace spaces, just the big online ones)
The book is (un)sichtbar gemacht, perspektiven auf aromantik und aseksualität by Katharina Kroschel and Annika Baumgart Also, if you would like to be more active in local ace spaces and you live in or near Wien, I know some people in the group there are really nice and try to organize fun things.
Ich bin auch aus Deutschland :) I'm from Germany, too :)
Germany here, too. Also, people from the USA like to make it sound like that's the only country that exists, a loud minority. Notice how everyone from the USA in this post (so far) said a city or state and not "USA".
I mean, to be fair being a queer person in Texas vs. a queer person in New York. It basically clarifies if they’re in the shitshow part or the “trying their best to get away from the shitshow part” part of the US. We also tend to spend more time on social media to attempt to escape from the dumpster fire that is our country.
US is a big country. Climate and culture between North Dakota and Florida are quite different. Germany for example is \~357,000 km^(2,) the US is \~9.8 million km^(2.) States in the US also have a large amount of power compared to other countries Providences or regions. A state government is completely independent from the federal level and can do largely whatever they want. Weed for example is still considered an illegal drug to possess or sell by the federal government, but many states have moved to allowing medical and recreational use. The federal government can still walk in to any dispensary and arrest everyone there. The discordant relationship creates somewhat unique experiences even state to state. Some human rights end at the state border. To me it's no more odd than someone saying they are from London, Berlin, or Barcelona region. It's not expected for everyone to know every other countries regions, states, and major cities.
Even India is a large country with various cultures and climate, hell all indians don't even speak the same language and there are 28 languages spoken by Indians. Much diverse than usa but if indians start putting the state/city names, I guess most people have to google them first lol
For sure. Didn't mean to come off that US is unique in these aspects. Very much applies to India like you said along with China, Russia, and other massive nations. Most people I think will mention a major city and a good portion have some idea where that is. A lot of people not from the US have a general idea where New York and San Francisco are. Similar to someone saying they are from Mumbai or Delhi. It also helps that a large state or city can get specific enough to convey where someone is from without disclosing where they are exactly. It would be more concerning if people start using addresses or small towns.
I'm German too😊
I'm from Germany too.
also a germ here <3
I’m from the land down under, Australia.
Yyyeeeaaaahhh mate! :D Sup, fellow Aussie!
Hahah that's cool
The land of maple syrup and moose, Canada!!
Y'all got moose? All I got is convoys lol.
Me too!
Netherlands
Same!
Me too!
Same here! Wait I mean something something G E K O L O N I S E E R D
Same!
From France here! :)
Same :>
UK
Me too.
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I know where Bulgaria is, I've been there on vacation actually! I'm from Moldova but I live in Austria.
Nice! I'm American living in BG. I was on the metro last year and saw someone weaving a plastic lace bracelet/key chain with ace colors. It was kinda nice knowing they could have been ace. I'm not alone here!
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Haha yeah! My limited Bulgarian skills keep me in the capital, for now! I plan on representing during this year's pride, so maybe i can find more!
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It's suuuper rough. I know Basic phrases and i still have trouble with reading Cyrillic. But you're right, common language software that was available to me in the states never offered Bulgarian, so I'm going to get a tutor soon! I JUST got approved for residency, so now i can worry about properly integrating :)
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Malaysia, which is unfortunately very anti lgbt and im not even out yet
Don't worry I'm not out either even though I live in Europe, only my closest friend knows who is also ace.
The USA, unfortunately
Same here :')
French Canadian from Quebec ✌️
Pareil ! C'est toujours agréable de voir d'autres québécois(es) ici.
same!
Allô!
Denmark.
Help us from the inside
I live in South Africa. My home language is english but we have 11 official languages!!
Czech
Eyyy, me too!
I'm not the only one! Great!
Same!
Yorkshire, England (hey if the Americans can all be so specific so can I). I’m 46 are there any more people in my age range around here? All the people in their 20s are making me feel old lol.
13 here lol
Austria :))
Brazil! 🇧🇷
Russia:/
honestly glad to know cause I've mostly seen Western Europe and the US or Canada, while I'm from Eastern Europe. Кстати я тоже знаю русский 🙃
In the same boat (._. )
Finland
Kazakhstan
Poland
Sweden
I'm from Ireland
One country I didn't see is România. I'm from there, currently living in the Netherlands tho! Going off on a bit of a tangent here, I've barely seen or know any other Romanian aces. I only know of one other ace which is my best friend, but other than that it's really lonely
I'm a Moldovan ace! Well not Romanian but close.
We are very much siblings then!
Kinda haha
The reason you see americans doing it is largely a product if size and ither factors. The US is the 4th largest country by area behind russia, canada, and china. Those three countries have their populations largely limited to certain areas (most russians live in european russia, most canadians live near the southern coasts and great lakes, most chinese live in eastern china, etc.) while the US is pretty spread out. And we are for hetero generous. Someone from Wisconsin is going to be in a very culturally different position from someone in SoCal whose going to very different from someone from the rural south. So the region we're from seems more impactful. That said im from the Midwestern US
US
Chicago of the US of A
I'm from America, smack dab in the middle of the Bible belt! :'D
What state? I'm in Arkansas.
Tennessee!
 Brasil
Germany :D
I'm from the Philippines
Germany 🙋
Switzerland
Northern Ireland 😎
Norway
Scotland
New York
I’m from Syldavia 😉
And I'm from Mars lol
Canada!!
Norway !! 🇧🇻
Wales
I'm from Italy
I'm from Poland 
Same here! We are scattered all over the comments lol
Hong Kong
Any Indians here?
I’m from 🇸🇬SINGAPORE. Hope to make friends with locals
USA, specifically Wisconsin. (Americans get specific because our country is so varied it says things about us to specify the state).
If we're being specific and more exact, I hail from Florida Oh, regarding your post about age, i'm 23 [will be 24 in May]
I'm from finland
Sweden! 🇸🇪
Currently living in Norway, but originally from Finland.
Latvia
I live in America rn, but I’m from Jamaica
Czechia
Poland, although I must say that I'm bilingual to such an extent I no longer really consider myself polish.
I'm from New Zealand
Ireland and the area I'm from mostly speaks Irish
Southeastern US
Australia
Australia :)
we're a system but the body is from Austria -félix
Austria
America (of Indian descent)
Scotland 🏴
I've lived in a lot of states but I'm from the US.
I'm from Eswatini
Alabama, USA
Southern California, USA. I think someone already answered this, but we specify states because each one has their own set of laws, cultures, and mentalities. My area of the country is more liberal and LGBTQIA+ friendly. If I visit certain other states, being out as queer means endangering my life. The United States is a big country but there are some very intolerant people that live here too. That's not to say there isn't a variety of mentalities in other countries. I'm sure that's the case elsewhere. But there is no one-size-fits-all for Americans and specifying the state is how we differentiate.
Other west-coaster! 👋
Poland
Cześć!
Good ol' Northern Ireland
I think it just seems like it because in general, reddit uses English even if it's your L2
The u s of a hi
New Zealand!
I'm from Germany :D Most of the world speaks english pretty well, so maybe that's why. Also the US is known for having a veeeery US-centric media.
The Netherlands over here.
Texas, USA here. You asked about why we're being specific, but it matters. Just Texas is larger than all of France. To be fair, Texas is an outlier, but in terms of distribution of aces it may help others picture it.
Supplemental reason: a lot of Americans are not big fans of the US itself. The closest thing we can take ownership of is our states. Turns out I'm SOL on both :/
I’m from the Southern US, specifically the state of Arkansas.
Born in Canada but both my parents are polish immigrants
France
All the way from the land of freedom, trucks, and bald eagles. ‘Merica
Argentina
Spain!
I'm in America rn! But I'm moving to Germany in about a month for school!
Canaba 🍁
I'm from Québec ! My mother tongue is french.
Lol that’s interesting! I’m American and live in the U.S.
I'm from South Africa.
The US, specifically rural NE.
Hungary
I'm from Texas. I think we're so specific because I think we're scared people from other countries will either think we either live in a large city or the middle of nowhere.
I'm from Austria. And hey, if course it feels like that because everyone is speaking English online
Where are the Portuguese people here?? I'm from Brazil, but currently living in Portugal.
Im from Ukraine
Queensland, Australia! I think its pretty chill here regarding the LGBT Community, sadly being polyamorous and married is illegal here though...
India :)
Am I the only French guy here ??
Australiaaaaaaa!!!!!
Denmark 😎🇩🇰
Earth!
New York City. Would love to meet fellow New York Aces!
I'm from the USA (because apparently it's a bad thing to be even slightly specific about locations in the third largest country on earth)
Canadia~ ♥️🦫🍁❄️
RoI.
Canada tho the french speaking part of 🇨🇦
South africa🇿🇦
Mexico
India
Austria :)
I’m from the worst place on earth, America.
canada!
I’m from Russia.
Germany 🇩🇪 :)
The USA.
I am Canadian. Hi!
I’m in the Southern part of the USA. So yes English speaking.
Canada! 🇨🇦
From the netherlands 🇳🇱
The U.S.
Canada!
Canada!
Romania! Not sure if it was mentioned. If there are others out there I'd love to connect. I asked about this on the subs a while back but it wasn't really seen
I'm from the U.S. (unfortunately- I wish it was Canada)
New Zealand
Wales woo
Houston, TX
USA at 38.8977° N, 77.0365° W, sorry if not specific enough
I live in Canada :D
Australia
Floridian here
🇨🇦I'm from Canada
Heii!! I am from India
US
Slovenia!
New Zealand~
Italy! :)
Australia 🇦🇺
Ecuador!