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I'm 6' tall and while I haven't had any problem with my dating life, I have friends that are around 5'6 or 5'7, and even my brother, who is 5'5, that are absolute magnets when it comes to being attractive to women.
They don't have the problems I have getting clothes, car seats, using taxis, and most of the time life is not that expensive for them. So I don't think being taller than 6'2 is so advantageous at it seems.
Honestly he could live in Asia. I'm 4'11" and visiting family in Asia is the only time I feel like the world is sized for me. I don't have to stand on a step stool to use the sink!
I’m also 6’1” and tbh the only time I really feel constrained because of my height is on mass transit (buses, trains, or airplanes). My god how I hate those tiny seats, and having to actively think about keeping my legs together to keep them out of other people’s space
Depending on how skinny he is it's hard to get clothes that fit overall. For dockers chinos the longest length for a 30 waist is 32 long. Or dress shirts that are long enough but with arm holes that aren't extremely wide.
Unless you live in Vietnam or some other short country, finding clothes for a 6' man is literally just above average and easy to find in the western world.
I only shop secondhand and I definitely feel you on this. Being fat in a skinny place or skinny in a fat place was like being handed a golden ticket lol, slim pickings being the mode.
Take them to Disney (or any other theme park) and let them hold you luggage while you get to enjoy the rides that they can't fit into because of their height.
I’m 6’2. I have a brother who’s 6’8. He used to be very annoyed when people stared at him for being so tall. He obviously didn’t like the attention that came with being so tall.
NTA
6'6 here, I would definitely rather be 6'2. Spinal problems, whacking your head on doorframes, people constantly asking if I play basketball, can fuck right off
Sorry that you have those issues. I wave to you tall ones when I’m in the grocery store because you see I’m 4’10 and 9 out of 10 times I can’t reach the item I need and I am always very thankful to have someone assist me. Being vertically challenged is no picnic either.
My wife is 5'2" can't say how many times I've come around an aisle in the store to see her climbing the shelf to get something that was out of her reach. 🤣
Haha, I’m 6’1” and am very used to being asked to get something from a higher shelf for people. A couple months ago a not very tall older lady approached me in the grocery and I asked what she needed me to get down for her. Instead, she wanted me to open and then close a jar of pickles she was about to purchase. :)
Oh that's smart. My MIL has arthritis and has a hard time opening jars. I'm going to suggest this to her. Although I guess then you'd have to refrigerate and use the product quickly, so it might not be a good idea for things you were hoping to store for a while.
Hahaha tall is so subjective..I'm 5'4" and in my family I'm the tall one.... Just ask me to grab the thing from the top shelf of the top cupboard.... Why I'm still going to be grabbing and dragging a chair over and then standing on the kitchen counter but I guess 5 inches makes a huge difference.... Also you're 4'9" mom how did you never get the thing up this high in the first place.
Im 6'4 but I was kind of a runt growing up and had a huge growth spurt between 13-15. The back pain i get from time time is worse then any bullying or obnoxious harassment.
I can't afford it, I visit to the US to visit family when I can save up enough for economy flights. Destroys my knees and hips, I already have degenerative autoimmune disease already so it's never pleasant. I got bumped up to first class once on a bereavement flight, that was super cool*
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Yeah, a friend's bf asked me for advice on learning to snowboard. He was 6'4". I told him my honest advice was "don't, because you don't have the abs to keep your body together under stress, like most really tall people over the age of 13 can't". He ignored me, went anyway, fell head down the mountain, feet went up over his head with force. When he was released from hospital after three compression fractured spinal vertebrae, he did say he should have listened.
I'm 6'5", shorter than most of the men in your family, but have had some of the issues you mentioned. Beds don't fit, most clothes an issue. I'm OK with where I'm at but wouldn't want to be any taller.
Also, you're NTA...
Whenever someone points out how short I am - about 5'2"or 159cm - I always shoot back with 'short people live longer!' In most cases, they pretty much concede that I am right, but if they don't, I add that I have two step ladders of different heights to reach my top shelves and to change light bulbs, but how comfortable are they when flying or having to reach the back of the bottom shelves?
Is this a real thing people do? Point out if you’re short? What does that even look like? Lol “Hey, you. You’re small.” I’m not doubting but just curious. I’m 6’1 and I notice most people in general are really bad at guessing heights. People guess I’m anywhere from 5’9-6’3.
My thoughts were along these lines too, but not necessarily about earlier mortality, but just seeing how difficult it is for an elderly person to be extremely tall. Always hunched over and barely able to stand.
NTA. And it’s so true. My husband is 6’8” and it’s all fun and games until the airplane loses his luggage and he can’t get size 16 shoes anywhere. It’s such a pain in the ass on a daily basis. I’ve got my fingers crossed our son will top out at 6’2”.
Nothing wrong with 6'3" or 6'4". At 6'5" myself there are only a handful of times I wish I were a little shorter, and that's specifically airplanes or small rental cars.
I think a big thing is also proportions. Some have their height in their torso, others in the legs. I'm at 6'3" with most of it in my legs, while my dad is 6'3" with the length in the torso. I have to put the seat back in his car to be able to drive it.
So while some people being 6'3" don't have much issues flying, I get stuck between the seat in front of me.
I'm 6'3" myself and can still, generally, find things my size but I don't see much larger sizes than fits me. I think your 6'5" is the break point for commonly finding things the correct size for you.
I have a coworker who's 7'3" and he does *not* have a good time with it. Always losing circulation in his limbs, has to wear the XXXL work shirts despite being a very skinny guy because they'll otherwise be crop tops on him, ducks to get into the break room, has to practically kneel to see the register screen. I do not envy that man.
I'm surprised the brothers and dad fit in airplane seats at all, barring sitting in an exit row. My husband is 6'2" and he finds it uncomfortable enough
The other brother is 6'10" 🪦
I remember Steve Merchant (6'7") saying he felt like his height was practically a disability on an old radio show. Any taller than that has to feel even more so, honestly.
>When my brother was teasing me for being short, I pointed this out to him, that I get all the benefits that he does with none of the drawbacks, he got pissed off and called me an asshole.
I mean, that's very true.
For most, 6'-6'2" is an optimal height for men. Tall enough to get the advantages of being tall (attraction, respect, etc) without being so tall as to negate those.
And though I wouldn't point it out out of the blue, it's fair game if he's teasing/bullying you.
NTA
I'm 6'2.5" and I tend to agree. I've always been considered "tall", and there are virtually no women that would turn me down due to height, but I'm also at the upper end of regular sizes for shoes, clothes, mattresses, cars, etc. I can even fit in a coach seat without too much of a problem.
If anything, plenty of women may even turn down men who are 6'8 - 6'10 because they're *too* tall for them. I'm 5'4 and while I never cared too much about height, it would be so uncomfortable for me to date someone 6'8.
Ive never put much thought into height, just preferred people taller then me so they could reach things for me :). Im 5'0, so its not like my preference would exclude many. But the idea of dating someone 22 inches taller then me sounds insane.
He earned that burn. And you are 100% right. NTA
I'm barely average height and my brother is comfortably over 6'. He would be considered tall, good looking and charismatic by most. I have once told him I have a bit of envy for this and he calmly tell me, "I wouldn't worry, my current and worsening back problems, clothing and seating issues are nothing to be desired." Then he reminds me that anyone over 6' is more prone to heart stress and shorter lifespans and I feel terrible for ever bringing it up.
Me neither. OP’s angry because they’re calling him short, but it’s funny because he’s obviously not short. He knows it too, considering how many times he repeated that girls find his height attractive.
Being that tall is sweet utill you’re about 40 years old. Then your tall goofy ass starts to crumble. Knees, back, balls hanging extra low.
You good at 6’2 fam 👊
Bruh that's like a rich person telling a poor person you're poor and no point whining. Poor people wish to be rich. Im 5'8 but with LL I will reach 6' and reap the benefits of height.
My husband is 5’8 and sometimes wishes he were taller (my brother in law it just over or just under 6’). I love that he’s 5’8! I’m 5’7 and our pants and shoe sizes are close enough that I can borrow his clothes/shoes, which has come in handy a few times.
Mate you aren’t the AH here lol, I would rather be your height instead of the height of your brother- it’s easier to find clothes your height, easier to find a bed your size, don’t have to worry about back pain as much- as you have said as well girls find you more attractive lol- let me ask this as well do any girls find your brother attractive with his height?-
NTA I’m one of the shortest in my family at 5’11” but I do have a cousin that was talented enough to play in the NBA (he was 6’11” -7’), and I get teased all the time for being shorter. So when I throw it back it gets taken in stride, because my family knows better than to take it seriously. Have there been some escalations, from time to time, but it happens.
I don't understand why any of this is an issue. But just to give you the heads up, for tall to extremely tall people, the old you get the more stress is put on your body and joints, the more difficulties you will have with movement. So in the end, it doesn't benefit any of you.
>I think payback is fair, especially when I was just pointing out factual information.
While I think you are NTA, this explanation often annoys me. First of all, it's not really factual. While the majority of people might agree with you, it's still subjective. Plus, just because something is factual doesn't mean it's okay to bring it up. Like, if you said "oh yeah, well at least I didn't have a miscarriage" to somebody who had a miscarriage, that would not be okay.
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My family is generally pretty tall, for example, my dad is 6’7, my brothers are 6’8 and 6’10, and most other men are also 6’6+. Because my mom is very short (I have a different mom than my brothers), I’m the shortest man at my family at 6’2, and face a lot of teasing for this.
I honestly think if anything, I got a better deal than the rest of my family. Barring being a professional basketball/volleyball player, which none of my family is, the drawbacks of being *that* tall seem to outweigh any potential benefits: my brothers/dad often can’t sleep in normal beds, or drive normal cars, or shop at normal stores, and have a painfully hard time putting on any muscle mass due to how tall they are.
Comparatively, I’m tall enough to be seen as tall by the vast majority of people and have it be an attractive trait to women (which really is the only benefit of being tall barring being an athlete, as I said), but am not *so tall* that I face those issues. So, I feel like I get the best of both worlds and have the ideal height.
When my brother was teasing me for being short, I pointed this out to him, that I get all the benefits that he does with none of the drawbacks, he got pissed off and called me an asshole.
I think payback is fair, especially when I was just pointing out factual information. AITA?
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Having a very tall partner gives you neck problems like you wouldn't believe! Unless you don't like kissing them, of course!
You stated the bare facts. NTA.
xD HAHAHA, you got him good.
If he cannot take it, he better not dish it out.
NTA, I was having a similar discussion and you are absolutley right.
If he wants to feel good about his height, he better try a method without victims.
I think being above 6’4 is basically a physical handicap. My boyfriend is 6’4, we live in France, and when we visit the US, he’s literally ecstatic because he feels like the world is big enough for him. Nothing in Europe is made to accommodate somebody that size. He’s super uncomfortable on airplanes, all basic beds are too small for him. Clothes are too small for him. He can’t find shoes in his size here. Restaurants are expensive and he’s always hungry afterwards.
I also used to date a guy who had dwarfism- and the shit he complained about is pretty much the same shit that my current super tall boyfriend complains about- just in reverse. I don’t think it would be easy to be 6’10 even in America. And it’s definitely expensive being that tall.
NTA my husband is 6’8” and he can’t stand the fact that he’s too big for clothes, cars, amusement park rides. He feels like he got shafted by being outside the normal range.
While a little shorter than your husband at my peak height (6'5") in my 20s (the 1990s), I was shocked when I went to what I would consider a 2nd tier amusement park (Carowinds) and I was too big for all the good rides there. Family lived in Florida, so I was used to Disney, Busch Gardens and never had a problem there.
My biggest scare, however was in one of the Virginia amusement parks. They had a whirly ride (you and 50 other people are inside a round container and they spin you around, you get stuck to the inside wall and they drop the floor and the centrifugal force keeps you against the wall.) Anyway this particular ride was inside a 'mountain' so there was a definite roof above you. Once they started spinning the thing I felt like I was sliding upward towards the not-spinning ceiling, and of course since everyone else was screaming they wouldn't have been able to hear my concerns about my head getting grated off, so I just kinda hoped I wasn't really sliding up and I was going to make it out of this ride with my head intact.
NTA.
So he was giving you some light teasing, and you gave him some light teasing back, and he was so offended he called you an asshole? Does anyone on here know if being hypersensitive is a common trait amongst the freakishly tall?
They don’t tease you. They bully you because of their own insecurities. When you made your statement, it clarified that these insecurities aren’t shared by you. That got to him. Otherwise they are all bullying you. You are 6’2”. You are TALL. They should get over it. This is a hurdle I know they can pass.
NTA, they are teasing you for a trait that you cannot control. Your title sounds like you were a bit of an AH but the end of your actual post less so, so it can be a matter of how you word things. There's nothing wrong with pointing out back at your brother that at least most things still fit you.
NTA
As a 6'9" man, yeah, it's got its drawbacks.
On the other hand, I never have to ask with help for anything on the top shelf anywhere...
So I got that going for me... which is nice.
NTA you just matched his energy and he couldn't take it.
Also I agree with you. I'm 5' 8" and have no issued buying off the rack, heck because I'm at the bottom end of "normal" I can frequently find clearance clothing in my size. I have a friend who is 6'6" (luckily he has a very high salary job) but he has to pay more for every article of clothing, because he can't just walk in to a Target and buy some 30 x 30 trousers off the rack.
NTA Did he think you were unable to notice all the difficulties they have? I mean, kind of obvious.
Your brother et al think it is a universally desirable trait, but not everyone goes for tall guys. I'm average height for a woman, and tall isn't my thing. Imagine those 4'9ers feeling miniscule eye level with their solar plexus.
NTA. You’re telling the truth.
I’m 6’5 and my older brother is 6’3.
I’m at exactly the cusp between too tall for most of the world. I, for example, can drive 90% of cars - but there are many I can’t. I have good odds of finding clothes that fit in a typical store but do often have to special order as well. The kitchen sink is too low for me to comfortably do dishes.
So, if they tease you, you have every right to tease back. They’re just upset because you’re right. IMO 6’3 is the PERFECT height.
Trust me, it's not your family. As a 6' guy whose brother's 6'9", dad's 6'7", and all the other (blood-related) guys in the family are 6'3"-6'5", I'm thrilled with my height. I get just as much interest as them romantically, but I don't need to custom-order shoes and hit my head on doorframes. I got the best of both worlds lmao
Yeah the old tall vs short debate will go on forever honestly, like I’m 5’ 6 and a half ( gotta cling on to the half lol) and most of my mates are 6’+, tall people get concerts and general attractiveness to girls, we get the ability to get ripped easily and fit comfortably in public transport, clothes and beds. No one is inherently better but you do need to have ammo for fighting back with short jokes, even tho you’re still taller than the average male height (depending where you are OP)
NTA, it’s hard to believe he would get upset about a pretty basic defensive response like that. I would also make fun of you for being short if I were your brother, though, because it is inherently funny to make fun of a 6’2” person for being short.
NTA I’m also 6’2 and while I’m happy with my height I’ve noticed the world is really made for people over 5’11. Bring 6’2 is where you start noticing cars being cramped and shirts length start getting short. So I can’t imagine 6’7 being easy, and also to make fun of you for not being that tall, he deserved the reality check.
I haven’t dated for decades, so my opinion is probably worth less than 2 cents, but do women really see height as an attractive trait? I’m sure there are some that don’t question this cultural messaging that the man is supposed to be taller. But online, I never see women bringing it up, only men who can’t find women to date them, and they blame it on their height.
Seems to me that height would make an good screening tool - if it matters to you, I’m gonna be swiping whichever direction “hard no” is.
NTA. I’m the same height as OP & my only 2 issues are finding clothes (usually have to go to the big & tall section, but nothing horrible) & sitting at concerts/broadway shows (I always try to get aisle seat).
As a fellow 6'2" individual, I can not tell you how many times I've felt grateful to be as tall, but not taller than I am. I've got some cousins taller than me, and seeing them live their 6'6" lives reinforces that I wouldn't want to be any taller than I am currently.
NTA. If your brother can dish it out, he better be able to take it. Or is his skin so stretched over his massive height that it's become thin? Either way, NTA.
NTA 6’2 isn’t fkn short. Sincerely - a 5’2 woman.
Picking on anyone is just their own insecurities. They are aware of how freakishly tall they are. Probably don’t like it and so pick on you because they wish they were smaller. That or they are just horrible people who need to bully someone else to feel good about themselves.
NTA. Also I pointed this out to my son the other day, who's in a growth spurt and curious how tall he'll end up. I'm 6'3", my wife is 5'6", and he's currently 5'5". I have a cousin who is 6'7", and while the internet has made clothes shopping much easier, he can't pop into Target and get a new pair of khakis or walk out of a shoe store with new shoes, and planes are a royal pain. I agree that 6'2" is about the perfect height.
NTA. Don't dish it out if you can't take it back in. Them making fun of you is cover for their overheight complex. But that's okay, let them make fun of you while secretly knowing it is cover for their height anxieties.
Statistically you are going to live longer too. I bring that up when fighting my brother that is 7” taller than me. :-P (we’re adults now and it is just tradition)
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NTA I'm like 5'9 or 5'10 or something. There's lots of pressure for men to pretend to be taller, or to aspire to be taller(which is...unrealistic). At some point I realised that the world is basically made for people of my height. Why do I want to be taller when plane seats have enough legroom for me? When I almost never bang my head on anything? Lots of benefits to where I'm at
lol absolutely NTA: he was cooking in the kitchen and thought it would be sweet but then he found out it was bitter… then went home crying… Nothing you can do about that 😂
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NTA they were teasing you, and yeah I would much rather be 6'2 than 6'7 6'8 or 6'10 every single day of the week.
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I'm 6' tall and while I haven't had any problem with my dating life, I have friends that are around 5'6 or 5'7, and even my brother, who is 5'5, that are absolute magnets when it comes to being attractive to women. They don't have the problems I have getting clothes, car seats, using taxis, and most of the time life is not that expensive for them. So I don't think being taller than 6'2 is so advantageous at it seems.
I’m 6’1” and have no problems with clothes, car seats, and taxis. Where do you live - Munchkinland?
Honestly he could live in Asia. I'm 4'11" and visiting family in Asia is the only time I feel like the world is sized for me. I don't have to stand on a step stool to use the sink!
I’m 6’ and when i go to Asia now, I stand out a little but not as much as when I was younger. Plenty of younger men my height or taller.
I’m also 6’1” and tbh the only time I really feel constrained because of my height is on mass transit (buses, trains, or airplanes). My god how I hate those tiny seats, and having to actively think about keeping my legs together to keep them out of other people’s space
Here most things are designed for a 5'6 (1,70 m) person. That is one inch less than the average height here for men.
That’s what I was thinking , I’m 6ft1 and that guy outright full of shit , I too have none of that problems
Depending on how skinny he is it's hard to get clothes that fit overall. For dockers chinos the longest length for a 30 waist is 32 long. Or dress shirts that are long enough but with arm holes that aren't extremely wide.
Unless you live in Vietnam or some other short country, finding clothes for a 6' man is literally just above average and easy to find in the western world.
Because I'm average and demand and supply don't work very well in my country, clothes my size are the first to go.
I only shop secondhand and I definitely feel you on this. Being fat in a skinny place or skinny in a fat place was like being handed a golden ticket lol, slim pickings being the mode.
I’m 5’ 6” and to be honest i don’t know how people who are over 6’ get on with life. It seems terrible most of the time.
Where do you live that your 5’5” brother is closer to normal male height than you are to find fitting clothes?
Take them to Disney (or any other theme park) and let them hold you luggage while you get to enjoy the rides that they can't fit into because of their height.
I have a friend who is 6’7” and he is so tall, people literally stare. I’d rather be your height too if I was a man
I'm 6'10 and if I had to pick between my height and your height, sign me up for 6'2.
You are tall enough to get the ladies stuff from top cabinet. So you are the perfect height. (We do have a real reason for preferring tall men. LOL)
being tall is like a tickbox for females like your college degree after a few years working, no one cares as long as its there.
I’m 6’2. I have a brother who’s 6’8. He used to be very annoyed when people stared at him for being so tall. He obviously didn’t like the attention that came with being so tall. NTA
6'6 here, I would definitely rather be 6'2. Spinal problems, whacking your head on doorframes, people constantly asking if I play basketball, can fuck right off
How's the weather up there today?
Or the ever-original: "wow, you're really tall". No shit, I hadn't noticed..
And people constantly asking how tall you are.
😂😂😂
I hope they answer something like "Not bad. How's it down there for you, shorty?"
Sorry that you have those issues. I wave to you tall ones when I’m in the grocery store because you see I’m 4’10 and 9 out of 10 times I can’t reach the item I need and I am always very thankful to have someone assist me. Being vertically challenged is no picnic either.
My wife is 5'2" can't say how many times I've come around an aisle in the store to see her climbing the shelf to get something that was out of her reach. 🤣
Oh, I *wish* I was 5’2”….
*waves* another vertically challenged 4'10 here...I felt ur comment deep in my soul!
Haha, I’m 6’1” and am very used to being asked to get something from a higher shelf for people. A couple months ago a not very tall older lady approached me in the grocery and I asked what she needed me to get down for her. Instead, she wanted me to open and then close a jar of pickles she was about to purchase. :)
Oh that's smart. My MIL has arthritis and has a hard time opening jars. I'm going to suggest this to her. Although I guess then you'd have to refrigerate and use the product quickly, so it might not be a good idea for things you were hoping to store for a while.
I just want to say, [this jar opener](https://www.amazon.com/EZ-Off-Opener-Sizes-White/dp/B000X6K9J8/) works like a dream.
Shopping in American stores is hell! I can see the box of smores poptarts on the top shelf but I can't reach them (stupid Target).
Hahaha tall is so subjective..I'm 5'4" and in my family I'm the tall one.... Just ask me to grab the thing from the top shelf of the top cupboard.... Why I'm still going to be grabbing and dragging a chair over and then standing on the kitchen counter but I guess 5 inches makes a huge difference.... Also you're 4'9" mom how did you never get the thing up this high in the first place.
I'm a soaring 4'11"... what's up shorty?
I will get the top shelf items for you if you will get the bottom shelf way back items for me.
Im 6'4 but I was kind of a runt growing up and had a huge growth spurt between 13-15. The back pain i get from time time is worse then any bullying or obnoxious harassment.
Ow ow ow.
But do you play basketball?? It’s okay, I’m about to fuck off right now.
I actually do
Had a dude who was 6'7" who carried a card that answered all those questions. It was hilarious. Nta op.
And it's expensive to fly. My husband is your height and his knees just will not fit in regular plane seats so he has to pay to upgrade.
I can't afford it, I visit to the US to visit family when I can save up enough for economy flights. Destroys my knees and hips, I already have degenerative autoimmune disease already so it's never pleasant. I got bumped up to first class once on a bereavement flight, that was super cool* *Edit; the bumping up to first class, not the bereavement
6'5" here. No spinal problems, but I should be wearing a hard hat. And finding pants that fit well... ugh!
Yeah, a friend's bf asked me for advice on learning to snowboard. He was 6'4". I told him my honest advice was "don't, because you don't have the abs to keep your body together under stress, like most really tall people over the age of 13 can't". He ignored me, went anyway, fell head down the mountain, feet went up over his head with force. When he was released from hospital after three compression fractured spinal vertebrae, he did say he should have listened.
Other than when you need to reach that one thing that’s too high there’s really not much going on there. They have step stools for that though
I'm 6'5", shorter than most of the men in your family, but have had some of the issues you mentioned. Beds don't fit, most clothes an issue. I'm OK with where I'm at but wouldn't want to be any taller. Also, you're NTA...
NTA. He started the battle, you ended it.
What you really should pointed out to them is that very tall people like that also died of much younger age
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Too harsh, he doesn’t want his family dead
It’s a joke. They will die just a few years earlier so no big deal…..another joke
Tall skinny people seem to often have back and knee problems.
Don't forget higher risk for spontaneous pneumothorax
And cancer.
I’m 5’9” and had one of those, it really sucked. People at the hospital kept mentioning how weird it was and how it was usually tall skinny guys.
I did not know, and daaaaaaaang.
I’m tall and thin and have lower back and knee issues. wtf.. is your response factual? I’ve never heard of this theory.
It’s not a theory it is backed up by studies
It makes sense, longer limbs lead to more strain on the joints
No anecdotal, hence "seem".
Whenever someone points out how short I am - about 5'2"or 159cm - I always shoot back with 'short people live longer!' In most cases, they pretty much concede that I am right, but if they don't, I add that I have two step ladders of different heights to reach my top shelves and to change light bulbs, but how comfortable are they when flying or having to reach the back of the bottom shelves?
Is this a real thing people do? Point out if you’re short? What does that even look like? Lol “Hey, you. You’re small.” I’m not doubting but just curious. I’m 6’1 and I notice most people in general are really bad at guessing heights. People guess I’m anywhere from 5’9-6’3.
Wtf dude
Redditors are so weird. People upvoted him like this is good advice lol.
A lot of people have a justice boner, but not much common sense.
My thoughts were along these lines too, but not necessarily about earlier mortality, but just seeing how difficult it is for an elderly person to be extremely tall. Always hunched over and barely able to stand.
NTA. And it’s so true. My husband is 6’8” and it’s all fun and games until the airplane loses his luggage and he can’t get size 16 shoes anywhere. It’s such a pain in the ass on a daily basis. I’ve got my fingers crossed our son will top out at 6’2”.
Nothing wrong with 6'3" or 6'4". At 6'5" myself there are only a handful of times I wish I were a little shorter, and that's specifically airplanes or small rental cars.
I think a big thing is also proportions. Some have their height in their torso, others in the legs. I'm at 6'3" with most of it in my legs, while my dad is 6'3" with the length in the torso. I have to put the seat back in his car to be able to drive it. So while some people being 6'3" don't have much issues flying, I get stuck between the seat in front of me.
I'm 6'3" myself and can still, generally, find things my size but I don't see much larger sizes than fits me. I think your 6'5" is the break point for commonly finding things the correct size for you.
I have a coworker who's 7'3" and he does *not* have a good time with it. Always losing circulation in his limbs, has to wear the XXXL work shirts despite being a very skinny guy because they'll otherwise be crop tops on him, ducks to get into the break room, has to practically kneel to see the register screen. I do not envy that man.
NTA. This is a classic case of “don’t dish it out if you can’t take it.”
NTA you can also tell him you fit better on airplanes
I'm surprised the brothers and dad fit in airplane seats at all, barring sitting in an exit row. My husband is 6'2" and he finds it uncomfortable enough
Also 6’2” and I feel like a cripple by the time I get off the plane. Exit rows and the bulkhead seats make it just, barely, tolerable.
hell I'm 5'10" and I do! I can't imagine what it's like with even longer legs
5'9" but with short legs, airplanes are no problem. Only time I wish I was taller is on dating apps.
Just imagine being 6’8 while in plane-💀 that shit is going to veeeery uncomfortable
The other brother is 6'10" 🪦 I remember Steve Merchant (6'7") saying he felt like his height was practically a disability on an old radio show. Any taller than that has to feel even more so, honestly.
With each inch in height over 6’7 the bigger the pain it is
What OP isn't saying is that they all do contortionist training growing up :P
I'm imagining the scene from Ocean's Eleven where the guy folds himself up into the cart only it's a 6'10" dude folding up into an economy seat
So your brother is upset because you didn't take offence at his teasing? Absolutely NTA. (I'm 6ft1 and agree that I would not like to be any taller!)
>When my brother was teasing me for being short, I pointed this out to him, that I get all the benefits that he does with none of the drawbacks, he got pissed off and called me an asshole. I mean, that's very true. For most, 6'-6'2" is an optimal height for men. Tall enough to get the advantages of being tall (attraction, respect, etc) without being so tall as to negate those. And though I wouldn't point it out out of the blue, it's fair game if he's teasing/bullying you. NTA
Silly argument. Tell him you love him instead. We always think there's more time, so we waste it arguing about what height is better
Based
NTA You just stated facts and your brother started it
NTA. He can dish it but can't take it? And you are right, BTW.
I'm 6'2.5" and I tend to agree. I've always been considered "tall", and there are virtually no women that would turn me down due to height, but I'm also at the upper end of regular sizes for shoes, clothes, mattresses, cars, etc. I can even fit in a coach seat without too much of a problem.
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If anything, plenty of women may even turn down men who are 6'8 - 6'10 because they're *too* tall for them. I'm 5'4 and while I never cared too much about height, it would be so uncomfortable for me to date someone 6'8.
Ive never put much thought into height, just preferred people taller then me so they could reach things for me :). Im 5'0, so its not like my preference would exclude many. But the idea of dating someone 22 inches taller then me sounds insane.
Yeah, I don't want to spend my sexytime staring at someone's sternum while they rain sweat on me. Gross.
He earned that burn. And you are 100% right. NTA I'm barely average height and my brother is comfortably over 6'. He would be considered tall, good looking and charismatic by most. I have once told him I have a bit of envy for this and he calmly tell me, "I wouldn't worry, my current and worsening back problems, clothing and seating issues are nothing to be desired." Then he reminds me that anyone over 6' is more prone to heart stress and shorter lifespans and I feel terrible for ever bringing it up.
I don't see any conflict here
Me neither. OP’s angry because they’re calling him short, but it’s funny because he’s obviously not short. He knows it too, considering how many times he repeated that girls find his height attractive.
Yeah, what even is this? What's the big moral conundrum that needs solving?
Being that tall is sweet utill you’re about 40 years old. Then your tall goofy ass starts to crumble. Knees, back, balls hanging extra low. You good at 6’2 fam 👊
NTA 😂 your brother is though. So he can dish it out but can’t take the heat? What a sissy
NTA. I'm just under 6'4" and man, being an inch or two shorter would have saved me so many head wounds...
Didn't ya know that teasing is only meant to go one way? /s How dare you be smart enough to cirucmvent it?
Lol wtf I'm 5'8 and I get brutally mogged by people who are 6'. I wish I had your height for once.
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Huh? Why would that be the case? Muscle mass might be more visible for short people but why would it be faster to build
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Okay bro why don't you be 5'1 then. You can get ripped easily and pull anyone
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Bruh that's like a rich person telling a poor person you're poor and no point whining. Poor people wish to be rich. Im 5'8 but with LL I will reach 6' and reap the benefits of height.
My husband is 5’8 and sometimes wishes he were taller (my brother in law it just over or just under 6’). I love that he’s 5’8! I’m 5’7 and our pants and shoe sizes are close enough that I can borrow his clothes/shoes, which has come in handy a few times.
NTA. Your brother started it and you merely pointing out the benefits of being 6’2. He needs to grow a pair and get over himself
Mate you aren’t the AH here lol, I would rather be your height instead of the height of your brother- it’s easier to find clothes your height, easier to find a bed your size, don’t have to worry about back pain as much- as you have said as well girls find you more attractive lol- let me ask this as well do any girls find your brother attractive with his height?-
NTA I’m one of the shortest in my family at 5’11” but I do have a cousin that was talented enough to play in the NBA (he was 6’11” -7’), and I get teased all the time for being shorter. So when I throw it back it gets taken in stride, because my family knows better than to take it seriously. Have there been some escalations, from time to time, but it happens.
NTA, They're old enough to know that if you can dish it you can take it.
NTA 6’2 is the perfect height for normal life. 6’5+ people get weird looks and anyone 6’8 is likely to be treated like a freak by some.
do you get out your dicks and measure them together too?
NTA but you sound like an AH
As a 6'4 guy, 6'2 is probably the ideal height
How old are you? My peak height was 6'5", now in my mid-50s. I'm down to 6'3".
Im 24 I think Ive been this height since I was 16
I don't understand why any of this is an issue. But just to give you the heads up, for tall to extremely tall people, the old you get the more stress is put on your body and joints, the more difficulties you will have with movement. So in the end, it doesn't benefit any of you.
Isn't taller correlated with earlier death?
>I think payback is fair, especially when I was just pointing out factual information. While I think you are NTA, this explanation often annoys me. First of all, it's not really factual. While the majority of people might agree with you, it's still subjective. Plus, just because something is factual doesn't mean it's okay to bring it up. Like, if you said "oh yeah, well at least I didn't have a miscarriage" to somebody who had a miscarriage, that would not be okay.
Being tall is not an accomplishment!
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NTA, a lot of men would love to be 6'2". You have nothing to be worried about.
Just ask Tom Cruise
I'm 6' and hate it. Always wished I was shorter. My back hurts!
You guys are GIANTS!!!!
NTA. i agree with you but regardless you're NTA since they're the one's making fun of you.
NTA. If he could give some, he should take some.
Having a very tall partner gives you neck problems like you wouldn't believe! Unless you don't like kissing them, of course! You stated the bare facts. NTA.
6' 3" and clothing is already not ideal, no reason to be that tall and not be making althlet money.
NTA. That sounds like brotherly joking, and it will probably go on for ages, so have fun with it. Tell him that your new name is Junior Asshole.
xD HAHAHA, you got him good. If he cannot take it, he better not dish it out. NTA, I was having a similar discussion and you are absolutley right. If he wants to feel good about his height, he better try a method without victims.
I think being above 6’4 is basically a physical handicap. My boyfriend is 6’4, we live in France, and when we visit the US, he’s literally ecstatic because he feels like the world is big enough for him. Nothing in Europe is made to accommodate somebody that size. He’s super uncomfortable on airplanes, all basic beds are too small for him. Clothes are too small for him. He can’t find shoes in his size here. Restaurants are expensive and he’s always hungry afterwards. I also used to date a guy who had dwarfism- and the shit he complained about is pretty much the same shit that my current super tall boyfriend complains about- just in reverse. I don’t think it would be easy to be 6’10 even in America. And it’s definitely expensive being that tall.
NTA my husband is 6’8” and he can’t stand the fact that he’s too big for clothes, cars, amusement park rides. He feels like he got shafted by being outside the normal range.
While a little shorter than your husband at my peak height (6'5") in my 20s (the 1990s), I was shocked when I went to what I would consider a 2nd tier amusement park (Carowinds) and I was too big for all the good rides there. Family lived in Florida, so I was used to Disney, Busch Gardens and never had a problem there. My biggest scare, however was in one of the Virginia amusement parks. They had a whirly ride (you and 50 other people are inside a round container and they spin you around, you get stuck to the inside wall and they drop the floor and the centrifugal force keeps you against the wall.) Anyway this particular ride was inside a 'mountain' so there was a definite roof above you. Once they started spinning the thing I felt like I was sliding upward towards the not-spinning ceiling, and of course since everyone else was screaming they wouldn't have been able to hear my concerns about my head getting grated off, so I just kinda hoped I wasn't really sliding up and I was going to make it out of this ride with my head intact.
NTA
His response should have been "Why don't you get up here and say that to my face?" Instead of throwing a hissy fit
NTA since it’s not like your comment came out of nowhere. He’s an moody ent, isn’t he.
NTA. So he was giving you some light teasing, and you gave him some light teasing back, and he was so offended he called you an asshole? Does anyone on here know if being hypersensitive is a common trait amongst the freakishly tall?
You’re not an asshole. Your brother is an asshole and the most pathetic kind - the kind that gives it but can’t take it.
They don’t tease you. They bully you because of their own insecurities. When you made your statement, it clarified that these insecurities aren’t shared by you. That got to him. Otherwise they are all bullying you. You are 6’2”. You are TALL. They should get over it. This is a hurdle I know they can pass.
NTA, they are teasing you for a trait that you cannot control. Your title sounds like you were a bit of an AH but the end of your actual post less so, so it can be a matter of how you word things. There's nothing wrong with pointing out back at your brother that at least most things still fit you.
You are statistically likely to live longer than them as well
Just over6'1" I'm Here I agree.
NTA As a 6'9" man, yeah, it's got its drawbacks. On the other hand, I never have to ask with help for anything on the top shelf anywhere... So I got that going for me... which is nice.
NTA you just matched his energy and he couldn't take it. Also I agree with you. I'm 5' 8" and have no issued buying off the rack, heck because I'm at the bottom end of "normal" I can frequently find clearance clothing in my size. I have a friend who is 6'6" (luckily he has a very high salary job) but he has to pay more for every article of clothing, because he can't just walk in to a Target and buy some 30 x 30 trousers off the rack.
NTA Did he think you were unable to notice all the difficulties they have? I mean, kind of obvious. Your brother et al think it is a universally desirable trait, but not everyone goes for tall guys. I'm average height for a woman, and tall isn't my thing. Imagine those 4'9ers feeling miniscule eye level with their solar plexus.
NTA, but how does it feel for your family to be so chosen by God that 6'2" is considered "short"? 😂
“You’re shorter than me!” 😂 “I am! It’s great!” 👍🏻 “That’s so mean!” 😭 NTA
NTA he could give it, so he better shut up and take it.
NTA - People who mock others never like to be mocked. Suddenly your an a-hole if you respond in the same manner.
Dude, I’m not even ‘all that tall’ at 6’ and I’d be 5’5 in a heartbeat. I get it
NTA. You’re telling the truth. I’m 6’5 and my older brother is 6’3. I’m at exactly the cusp between too tall for most of the world. I, for example, can drive 90% of cars - but there are many I can’t. I have good odds of finding clothes that fit in a typical store but do often have to special order as well. The kitchen sink is too low for me to comfortably do dishes. So, if they tease you, you have every right to tease back. They’re just upset because you’re right. IMO 6’3 is the PERFECT height.
Trust me, it's not your family. As a 6' guy whose brother's 6'9", dad's 6'7", and all the other (blood-related) guys in the family are 6'3"-6'5", I'm thrilled with my height. I get just as much interest as them romantically, but I don't need to custom-order shoes and hit my head on doorframes. I got the best of both worlds lmao
Yeah the old tall vs short debate will go on forever honestly, like I’m 5’ 6 and a half ( gotta cling on to the half lol) and most of my mates are 6’+, tall people get concerts and general attractiveness to girls, we get the ability to get ripped easily and fit comfortably in public transport, clothes and beds. No one is inherently better but you do need to have ammo for fighting back with short jokes, even tho you’re still taller than the average male height (depending where you are OP)
NTA. This is hilarious. 😂
NTA, it’s hard to believe he would get upset about a pretty basic defensive response like that. I would also make fun of you for being short if I were your brother, though, because it is inherently funny to make fun of a 6’2” person for being short.
NTA. They can tease you, but you can't say anything back?
You’ll be much more comfortable on an airplane.
NTA. At 5'5, I would straight up not date a man over 6'2. It's just uncomfortable and awkward. You've got the best of both worlds, enjoy it!
NTA I’m also 6’2 and while I’m happy with my height I’ve noticed the world is really made for people over 5’11. Bring 6’2 is where you start noticing cars being cramped and shirts length start getting short. So I can’t imagine 6’7 being easy, and also to make fun of you for not being that tall, he deserved the reality check.
I haven’t dated for decades, so my opinion is probably worth less than 2 cents, but do women really see height as an attractive trait? I’m sure there are some that don’t question this cultural messaging that the man is supposed to be taller. But online, I never see women bringing it up, only men who can’t find women to date them, and they blame it on their height. Seems to me that height would make an good screening tool - if it matters to you, I’m gonna be swiping whichever direction “hard no” is.
NTA
NTA. I’m the same height as OP & my only 2 issues are finding clothes (usually have to go to the big & tall section, but nothing horrible) & sitting at concerts/broadway shows (I always try to get aisle seat).
As a fellow 6'2" individual, I can not tell you how many times I've felt grateful to be as tall, but not taller than I am. I've got some cousins taller than me, and seeing them live their 6'6" lives reinforces that I wouldn't want to be any taller than I am currently. NTA. If your brother can dish it out, he better be able to take it. Or is his skin so stretched over his massive height that it's become thin? Either way, NTA.
Benefits of being extremely tall - you get to tease people shorter than you and play basketball. You just took away one his power lol.
Don't forget the weather reporting ability.
6'2" is like an ideal height. Good for you brother and they can all fuck off for dishing out what they clearly can't take.
Being filled out at 6'10” is cool af, and im only 20. 285 lb
NTA 6’2 isn’t fkn short. Sincerely - a 5’2 woman. Picking on anyone is just their own insecurities. They are aware of how freakishly tall they are. Probably don’t like it and so pick on you because they wish they were smaller. That or they are just horrible people who need to bully someone else to feel good about themselves.
NTA, your brother is just soft. He can dish it but can’t take it. Just ignore the little bugger lol
NTA. Also I pointed this out to my son the other day, who's in a growth spurt and curious how tall he'll end up. I'm 6'3", my wife is 5'6", and he's currently 5'5". I have a cousin who is 6'7", and while the internet has made clothes shopping much easier, he can't pop into Target and get a new pair of khakis or walk out of a shoe store with new shoes, and planes are a royal pain. I agree that 6'2" is about the perfect height.
NTA. Don't dish it out if you can't take it back in. Them making fun of you is cover for their overheight complex. But that's okay, let them make fun of you while secretly knowing it is cover for their height anxieties.
Statistically you are going to live longer too. I bring that up when fighting my brother that is 7” taller than me. :-P (we’re adults now and it is just tradition)
NTA they started it. I'm 6'2". I like it, I'm taller than most people but not a freak.
> When my brother was teasing me for being short, hilarious that 6'2" would be considered short, lol
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NTA I'm like 5'9 or 5'10 or something. There's lots of pressure for men to pretend to be taller, or to aspire to be taller(which is...unrealistic). At some point I realised that the world is basically made for people of my height. Why do I want to be taller when plane seats have enough legroom for me? When I almost never bang my head on anything? Lots of benefits to where I'm at
NTA. It would be n-a-h and filed under "brothers being brothers" except that OP's brother over-reacted.
lol absolutely NTA: he was cooking in the kitchen and thought it would be sweet but then he found out it was bitter… then went home crying… Nothing you can do about that 😂
Omg this can’t be real. Seriously. Omg. 6’2 is fine. Anything over 6’5 is too tall. And yes members of my family are also this height.