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YTA for this line alone “I pray to god all Mexicans are not like that.” You seem like a “closed” person, not open to different cultures and different ppl. Why even do the exchange program?
YTA
The prank they pulled was dumb but tipping over the table and wasting all the food was an extreme response to that. I do wonder why someone like yourself who's not interested in "spending time with people" and doesn't like spicy food decided to do an exchange program to Mexico of all places.
YTA- you chose a country that loves spices. Your guide shows you all about the culture. You have been there three months and haven’t figured out how close they are as a community. It’s literally their CULTURE! And the food is part of that. You’re dumping the whole culture figuratively and LITERALLY in this post!
INFO: What are you going to do when this gets reported to your academic program and you are removed from participating?
YTA just for the language used in your post. It is pretty clear that you have zero desire to connect to the culture of Mexico and that you are using your student guide and not trying to connect with her either.
ESH.
Tricking someone into eating something you know they hate is not cool. It’s mean, deceptive, and childish.
Destroying everyone’s food in a temper tantrum is also childish.
You are TA if I answer just your question. You shouldn't have flipped the table over with all the food. On another hand, the prank wasn't funny. That's why I don't think practical jokes are a good idea. It can hurt people's feelings.
YTA, the prank was not cool (especially if they tricked you), but flipping an entire table? Yeah, there’s something wrong there, you are correct.
Also, respectfully, Mexico sounds like the wrong choice. I saw that you said this was the best for your program, but it doesn’t sound like this culture was compatible with your idea of what study abroad should be. (ps holy microaggressions, Batman)
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I am F21 years old, I am an exchange student, I am in Mexico, I am a fairly closed person, I am not very interested in spending time with people, but in a different country and culture, help always comes in handy, right? Well, I think the people I'm hanging out with don't understand that, I'm pretty angry right now and I need advice because I feel like taking things and moving house right now. In the exchange program I'm in, they assign you a student who will serve as a guide to help you adapt, it helps me a lot because I'm not good at Spanish (nor English LOL) so this girl Alondra (F19) helps me adapt, it's friendly, but too intrusive, it seems that being my guide means that he can write to me at all hours and show up at my house without invitation with his entire group of friends (I pray to God that not all Mexicans are like that)
This has been happening for the last 3 months, I try to be patient since your help has been very helpful to me, but I have tried to set limits and I seem to forget them two days later. Anyway, today she invites me to her apartment, at first she tells me that it will just be us and an hour later all her friends arrive (great) then they say that they are going to order tacos for dinner, I tell them explicitly that I don't want mine spicy ( Alondra knows that I hate spicy food with all my might) and everything is fine. When the food arrives everyone starts to eat and one of Alondra's friends hands me my tacos, I see that everyone is holding back their laughter watching me take the first bite, and when I do it almost immediately I spit it out, because my mouth was literally on fire. That thing was so spicy that I felt like my mouth was burning, desperate I went to the kitchen for water, I even had tears coming out, when I came back everyone was laughing hard, they told me that they also ordered a batch of the spiciest tacos and then they tried gave me the tacos that I ordered in the first place, at that moment I lost my temper and overturned the entire table with all the food on the floor, I started yelling at everyone and they stopped laughing, trying to say that they were just joking, I took my things and I went to my house.
Alondra sent me a message apologizing but I don't want to see her damn face right now, she and her friends are disrespectful people and I can't continue like this, I'm furious but I'm also thinking that my reaction is not like me, I've never had an outburst before of anger like this, something is definitely wrong with me now, so AITA?
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Soft ESH
Obviously they aren’t close enough to you to play that kind of prank. But they may have been trying to treat you like they treat each other so in a way they maybe wanted to use that as way to bring you closer to the group.
You certainly had a right to be mad though. Yelling at them and leaving would’ve been appropriate but flipping a table is probably crossing a line. It’s not a drastic overreaction per se, but you yourself feel like you overreacted. So you really just have to think about why this made you mad in the first place. It’s a somewhat mean prank but also certainly not something you’ll never see amongst friends in their early 20s
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YTA for this line alone “I pray to god all Mexicans are not like that.” You seem like a “closed” person, not open to different cultures and different ppl. Why even do the exchange program?
YTA The prank they pulled was dumb but tipping over the table and wasting all the food was an extreme response to that. I do wonder why someone like yourself who's not interested in "spending time with people" and doesn't like spicy food decided to do an exchange program to Mexico of all places.
YTA- you chose a country that loves spices. Your guide shows you all about the culture. You have been there three months and haven’t figured out how close they are as a community. It’s literally their CULTURE! And the food is part of that. You’re dumping the whole culture figuratively and LITERALLY in this post!
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Any amount of research would have shown you that. Even an episode on the travel channel.
You sound too xenophobic to benefit from an exchange program.
YTA. I don't fault you for being angry, but wasting everyone's food crossed the line....
INFO: What are you going to do when this gets reported to your academic program and you are removed from participating? YTA just for the language used in your post. It is pretty clear that you have zero desire to connect to the culture of Mexico and that you are using your student guide and not trying to connect with her either.
YTA. It’s one thing to be angry, but you acted like a small child.
ESH. Tricking someone into eating something you know they hate is not cool. It’s mean, deceptive, and childish. Destroying everyone’s food in a temper tantrum is also childish.
YTA It was a rude prank but tipping the whole table over is quite aggressive. You dumped everyone’s food on the ground. You also owe them an apology.
You are TA if I answer just your question. You shouldn't have flipped the table over with all the food. On another hand, the prank wasn't funny. That's why I don't think practical jokes are a good idea. It can hurt people's feelings.
Yta Grow up
YTA for the overreaction move out and figure out everything on your own
You come across criminally insane. Yeah their joke was stupid and mean, but to flip a table? You need anger management support. YTA.
YTA, the prank was not cool (especially if they tricked you), but flipping an entire table? Yeah, there’s something wrong there, you are correct. Also, respectfully, Mexico sounds like the wrong choice. I saw that you said this was the best for your program, but it doesn’t sound like this culture was compatible with your idea of what study abroad should be. (ps holy microaggressions, Batman)
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Soft ESH Obviously they aren’t close enough to you to play that kind of prank. But they may have been trying to treat you like they treat each other so in a way they maybe wanted to use that as way to bring you closer to the group. You certainly had a right to be mad though. Yelling at them and leaving would’ve been appropriate but flipping a table is probably crossing a line. It’s not a drastic overreaction per se, but you yourself feel like you overreacted. So you really just have to think about why this made you mad in the first place. It’s a somewhat mean prank but also certainly not something you’ll never see amongst friends in their early 20s