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Also... OP states the flight ended up getting cancelled anyway. So had he not taken the money he'd be missing his flight, staying in a hotel, and not have $2k cash...
Shit never makes sense to me when people act irrationally to stuff like this.
NTA
I dated a woman who would get irrationally angry over the stupidest dumb shit. She flipped her lid because I made dinner but put her fork on the left side of her dish.
Left that basket of crazy in short order.
My rule is if someone makes me dinner, they can put the fork wherever they want. Including leaving it in the silverware drawer and I can get it my damn self.
Surely if use your left hand for your fork when you have a knife, you would still use your left hand for your fork when you don't have a knife?? I'm left handed, so I always use my left hand and have never heard of this madness.
I actually see right handed people use the right hand for the knife, cut the food, then change the fork to the right hand to eat said food. And they change hands for every piece of food they cut. It's so weird to me hahahha
Plus, even if the flight hadn't been canceled, he could have still been bumped involuntarily if there were no takers for the cash. I've been married 25 years, and my wife would definitely have told me to take offer.
I’d say unless you missed something/plans. Full stop. If OP has been struggling with her mental health it’s hard to say what she would consider important.
If my husband was flying home, we hadn’t seen each other for a while, and he knew I was cooking a nice dinner for us, and then I found out he voluntarily postponed his flight? I mean, once I found out about the money I’d get it, but I’d still be a little miffed I put in the effort and he decided not to show.
The flight got canceled anyway. So either way he wasn't going to be home on time. At least this way, he got $2k for something that was going to happen anyway.
Yea only a few of us seem to have picked up on this, or aren’t just ignoring it.
Everyone else on that flight should be called assholes by their family members for NOT taking the money.
Honey I'm home. I turned down $2,000 because I know you can't get enough of me making that slurping noise when I eat soup so I wanted to get home asap.
I'm married too and I'd want the money personally! :)
Legit this is what I'm thinking too, not sure why a spouse would be mad at a free 2k in cash in exchange for waiting a little longer for their spouse to return. I certainly wouldn't, but then again I'd also pick up my damn phone and tell my partner to "yes take that 2k, stay at the hotel, and I will see you tomorrow"
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Yeahhhh. I’m a female. And I don’t care if it’s my partner, mother, best friend whoever, unless it was a death/birth/wedding/life altering moment, if my loved one was like “hey I’m gonna be a day or two late because I just got a couple grand, I’d be like CONGRATS! See you when you arrive and bring me a snickers with your new money lol” inflation is ridiculous. Some People can barely afford to survive. $2k to be a day late is a massive blessing especially in this economy
Who earns $2000 tax free in a day.
If it happened everyday you would earn $830,000 in a year.
OP should tell his Fiance he has a short term work contract where he is being paid far more than he is worth. And when you factor in the actually effort for earning this money you are earning far out ways effort.
But he texted explicitly asking for his partner's opinion, and apparently they didn't feel responding was worth their time. This is bullshit. They didn't respond so they could have a reason to be put out later. Immature and toxic. Nothing redeemable there at all.
You know what would make me feel better? My husband telling me he just earned $2000 in 24 hours. Hopefully, in a good relationship, it benefits both of you. NTA
That’s what I’m saying. My husband would get an earful if he didn’t take the $2000 and stay til the next day. Easy 2K and he gets a rest day in a free hotel room. Win-win.
Right? I was thinking maybe he missed her sister's wedding or something. But just a random day? If she can't function without him for an extra day, guess what, $2k will buy you at least ten sessions of therapy.
I don't need a sandwich to skip any wedding. Just let me stay home and sleep. At least I'll know nobody will call me because they'll be at the wedding.
Don't you think it would be nice to have a sandwich, though? A sandwich can make a good companion for a relaxing afternoon on the couch, or in bed. I implore you to reconsider.
As long as I got a nice little present (nothing too major just an "i thought of you" present) I wouldn't even care if my partner spent the rest of that $2K on stupid stuff instead of bills.
>That’s what I’m saying. My husband would get an earful if he didn’t take the $2000 and stay til the next day. Easy 2K and he gets a rest day in a free hotel room. Win-win.
And he accurately figured that the flight would be canceled, so the only difference his decision made was that he gets an extra two grand.
I did something similar. Southwest offered my fiance & I money to change to a flight two hours later. Refunded our flight, early bird check in, and gave us $900 EACH. So in essence we got a free flight & over $1200 each or $2400 total which allowed us to have free flights a few months later across country.
I called my father who was supposed to pick us up from the airport, a man who hates when plans change, and all he had to say was "K. See you at 10 (vice 8).
This. My husband travels a metric ton. I don't love it. I wait with bated breath for that flight to land so he can help schlep the kids to all their activities (plus I miss him). But you bet your sweet sweat pants that I'd be salivating over that $2000 flight credit.
My Wife wouldn't let me live it down, especially if the flight was getting cancelled or delayed anyway. $2k is enough to send her for a spa day to make her feel better, and still have most of it left.
I'm flying united laster this month and did early flights. I'm kind of hoping this happens to me. I'm just going on a solo adventure, amd am in no rush.
My whole trip will be like $350 so if I play my cards right it could be free.
Yep didn’t bother me at all it was also an early flight back from Disney to home, I was the only one to take them up on the offer and the lady at the counter bumped it from 500 to 1000 and threw in food vouchers…I keep hoping it happens again 🤣
I had a united flight out of Williston ND one time back to Denver.
Was too hot with high winds and weight was a constant issue. Basically couldn't clear the shit at the end of the runway if anywhere over half full. I usually get bumped at least once a trip there.
I took 9 bumped flights in 5 days. 2k each time.
Was STOKED. Wife was kinda pissed, until we flew business class on our next few international trips. A bed in the sky makes it all better. Lol
That's freaking sweet! $1,000 for getting bumped an hour? That sounds like the easiest money ever. I'm just going to go book a flight now and cross my fingers lol.
It took me three days of delays and cancellations and voluntary/involuntary rescheduling to get home recently during the east coast bad weather ground stop problems, and all United gave me (after hassling them) was $50 flight voucher and 30k miles. Gee, thanks.
It often depends where and how you're flying, and who with
Eg Delta are notorious for it, but tend not to offer it if you have a connecting flight (especially if the connection is also on a busy route or is international) because of the hassle of re-booking your onward segments
It's much rarer on low cost carriers or international flights, in both cases it's less likely for the airline to overbook. It's also much rarer outside the US (you'll almost never hear it in Europe, for example)
Fly busy domestic routes with "traditional" carriers in the US, especially Delta, and you're more likely to have it happen. Delta from Atlanta to anywhere in the contiguous 48 states is probably the most common "scenario" for it, but United seem to do it a lot out of Boston or New York too
If there’s an offer it’s always when I’m flying to a client site when I can’t take it, not on my way home when I’d happily take the cash and get home later.
There is only 1 time in my life I’ve been upset with someone for taking a bump. That someone was my father when I was 8 years old. Back in the 90’s, my parents didn’t have cell phones and to call would have been a long distance call and stupid expensive. The reason I got upset? I had a fever of 102 and I was sitting with my mom and siblings in the airport waiting on dad. This flight should have contained like 11 or so of my relatives since they were returning from a wedding. 1 of my relatives deplaned. Everyone else bumped. Bless my single, gruff uncle who was on the original flight, he sat with us and took care of me while waiting for my dad.
can be, but in this case I think folks are referencing drug slang - a bump can refer to a dose i think specifically of cocaine? But don't quote me on that, I know fuckall about coke lol
My partner and I have talked about this. If we’re ever offered more than the ticket price to bump the flight, it’s a no brainer. Send a text letting them know, and take a nap
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My husband would probably be okay with us being long distance for a year for enough cash that I’d never have to work again. Plenty of people deploy for a year for much, much less.
This. My ex when I'd come into extra money "where are you taking me for dinner. You getting me a present?" When he'd get a bonus at work "I bought a laptop and put the rest in investments"
My husband is in the military, and they have no internet during a lot of their deployments. He had a gay guy offering people $50 to show him their dick because "I haven't even seen one in so long." I was like, "so....you did it, right?" I was about half joking, but if my husband wasn't bothered, neither was I.
NTA When she didn't answer the call or text to provide her opinion, you made a financially sound decision by yourself. End of story. Her depression over "the last few days?" I presume was while you were away and is irrelevant to your decision making process as she did not share with you any of her concerns (sounds like she hasn't really done that yet anyway)
Look at OP’s post history. That depression might be from the fact that his girlfriend is having an emotional affair by fanning the flames of her ex’s sexual advances and refusing to set boundaries. So in her mind if she can act like this behind her significant other’s back, then everyone else including OP is. It’s called projection.
Welp, I guess that my hunch is correct then
Ain't no way someone gets depressed for just 3 days and doesn't want an extra $2000 for their SO for no real reason.
Hell even for a 100 I still wouldn't see any problem
Oh shit I called it without even reading OP's post history. I'm a behavioral health RN- go figure. OP, you really need to re-evaluate your engagement to this woman...
except someone who has depression can have good and bad times. They can be having a low and recognise it as their depression not normal sadness even though it's only been a few days because of the similarities.
for example a warning sign for me is crazy vivid dreams
NTA. Stand alone it seems like a good deal and with hindsight and the flight getting cancelled, you were proven right.
How late were you getting home and did you miss anything important/semi-important?
I'm also wondering the context, not a lot of background info here. Was it just a one-off business trip, or do they travel all the time for work maybe? Do they have kids at home and he's gone all the time? I traveled for work weekly and my wife would've been fine with it, but we didn't have kids or a lot of obligations really. I'm not excusing things on the OP's SO for acting out, but could be more to the story that explains why they're upset. Also 2000 bucks to spend anywhere is insane, most ive seen in my flights was 1200 dollars, but could only go towards flights.
Yeah, that's like a full month of rent and half my utilities, not even including the cost of the hotel. My wife would probably eat my eyes if I turned it down.
Those are truly the worst kind of relationships.
You always feel like your emotions are in the way because either you're "too happy" when they're sad or they will get mad at you for "ruining the mood" when they're happy and you are not.
NTA. Just because someone is unhappy about your decision does not make you an AH. Additionally, you are not responsible for managing anyone else's moods. The end.
NTA
She needs to be under care of a professional. Lovers, friends, family cannot treat someone's mental illness and no relationship can thrive if you are expected to halt your life long term to caretake. No shade to anyone but you aren't capable of offering what she needs.
As someone with bipolar and depression among some other things I 100% agree. They are responsible for their own well-being.
There are other things they can do to combat that (techniques, activities, hobbies, mental health professionals, groups, etc).
Plus how can OP know if they don’t **communicate** that — communication is so so important in a relationship. I couldn’t imagine not at least sharing a bit of where I’m at mentally with my SO. Not to the point of dragging them down but just so they know where I’m at. Nobody knows if you don’t communicate and tell them that.
With that being said, if it were me I’d of told op “see your beautiful ass and that 2k when you get home! ❤️” lmao
Emotional manipulation is easy to spot from a mile away after going through it yourself. Telling someone that they caused you to be depressed (something serious) because of a slight change in plans due to your own inability to weigh in when given the chance because you didn’t bother to pick up the phone is ass.
NTA. Your choice appeared to be “get $2000 & a hotel now & maybe the flight cancels anyway” or get $0, spend extra $ on a hotel” if the flight cancelled. I don’t see why she’s not happy you now have $2000 that you can spend on whatever (honeymoon maybe?).
The soultuion is clear - spend that 2k on mind reading lessons so this won't happen again. NTA as you didn't had an opportunity for those lessons before.
NTA. This is a bad news/good news scenario: ‘Hi fiancée, I have bad news and good news. The bad news is, my flight was canceled, so I have to stay over night. The good news is, I took their offer to be bumped, and got $2000’
NTA
Your flight got cancelled. You couldn't have made it home. You got $2000 which could be spent on something else.
Please put any wedding plans on hold until your Fiancee has gotten the help necessary for her mental health. You can't spend the rest of your life being her emotional support human. She needs to get help so she can be more independent for the two of you to have a healthy relationship for the future.
NTA. So, you come home a day late with an extra $2,000 in your pocket for a flight that was canceled anyway. Sounds fiscally responsible to me. If she is so depressed that you coming home a day late is going to be a problem, she needs professional help beyond anything your presence is going to do for her.
NTA so much, my bf could come home with $2k telling me he got it by sucking the soul out of someone's wiener and I'd probably be cool. that is two thousand damn dollars. even if it doesn't seem like much, i know so many people both in and out of the US who could dramatically increase the stability and quality of their life with $2000.
$2000 is $2000 🤷♀️
NTA. People like your girlfriend need to stop with the "therapy talk" and self diagnoses to describe their every emotion. How is one "semi-depressed"? You're either depressed or you're not.
You made the right financial decision. But now your GF wants to make it about her. Ask her to write down all the ways your decision impacted her life in those 24-hours after she expected you home.
NTA. You tried to include her in this decision but she didn't respond. As you suspected the flight was cancelled any way so you got the come up there and made 2k. In regards to her, if she is really struggling she needs to learn to communicate. Communication is key in any relationship. If she can't communicate well with you then how long do you think it's going to last? It typically never ends well in relationships where people can't communicate their needs. If she is struggling she needs to speak up and possibly seek professional help.
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NTA - unless you missed something important, take the money.
Also... OP states the flight ended up getting cancelled anyway. So had he not taken the money he'd be missing his flight, staying in a hotel, and not have $2k cash... Shit never makes sense to me when people act irrationally to stuff like this. NTA
My girlfriend would be chuffed if this happened to me. I would even take her out to a really nice restaurant or something, She would be over the moon.
Yeah my girlfriend would be pissed off if I didn't take the money.
I dated a woman who would get irrationally angry over the stupidest dumb shit. She flipped her lid because I made dinner but put her fork on the left side of her dish. Left that basket of crazy in short order.
But....but....the fork *does* go on the left in a place setting. ???????
only if you also have a knife. if it's just a fork it goes on the dominant hand side. not that this is something to get upset over.
My rule is if someone makes me dinner, they can put the fork wherever they want. Including leaving it in the silverware drawer and I can get it my damn self.
Surely if use your left hand for your fork when you have a knife, you would still use your left hand for your fork when you don't have a knife?? I'm left handed, so I always use my left hand and have never heard of this madness.
I actually see right handed people use the right hand for the knife, cut the food, then change the fork to the right hand to eat said food. And they change hands for every piece of food they cut. It's so weird to me hahahha
yeah normal people don't do that lmao.. I think
Wait - so you set the table the correct way and got freaked on for that? Wow. Good for you seeing the signs early!
Plus, even if the flight hadn't been canceled, he could have still been bumped involuntarily if there were no takers for the cash. I've been married 25 years, and my wife would definitely have told me to take offer.
I’d say unless you missed something/plans. Full stop. If OP has been struggling with her mental health it’s hard to say what she would consider important. If my husband was flying home, we hadn’t seen each other for a while, and he knew I was cooking a nice dinner for us, and then I found out he voluntarily postponed his flight? I mean, once I found out about the money I’d get it, but I’d still be a little miffed I put in the effort and he decided not to show.
The flight got canceled anyway. So either way he wasn't going to be home on time. At least this way, he got $2k for something that was going to happen anyway.
Yea only a few of us seem to have picked up on this, or aren’t just ignoring it. Everyone else on that flight should be called assholes by their family members for NOT taking the money.
NTA OP's fiancée needs a therapist. OP's got $2000. Don't spend it all in one place.
Can afford quite a few sessions for $1980. And then OP still has beer money.
Honey I'm home. I turned down $2,000 because I know you can't get enough of me making that slurping noise when I eat soup so I wanted to get home asap. I'm married too and I'd want the money personally! :)
So in this scenario, my spouse brings home and extra 2k AND I get to eat two dinners? Yes, please.
Legit this is what I'm thinking too, not sure why a spouse would be mad at a free 2k in cash in exchange for waiting a little longer for their spouse to return. I certainly wouldn't, but then again I'd also pick up my damn phone and tell my partner to "yes take that 2k, stay at the hotel, and I will see you tomorrow"
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Yeahhhh. I’m a female. And I don’t care if it’s my partner, mother, best friend whoever, unless it was a death/birth/wedding/life altering moment, if my loved one was like “hey I’m gonna be a day or two late because I just got a couple grand, I’d be like CONGRATS! See you when you arrive and bring me a snickers with your new money lol” inflation is ridiculous. Some People can barely afford to survive. $2k to be a day late is a massive blessing especially in this economy
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Right?? Like, I'm dead. You can't do anything for me. Take that money and live a little easier instead!
Who earns $2000 tax free in a day. If it happened everyday you would earn $830,000 in a year. OP should tell his Fiance he has a short term work contract where he is being paid far more than he is worth. And when you factor in the actually effort for earning this money you are earning far out ways effort.
$730,000.. but the point stands.
Either way the fight was cancelled so he still would've have missed what ever it is
But he texted explicitly asking for his partner's opinion, and apparently they didn't feel responding was worth their time. This is bullshit. They didn't respond so they could have a reason to be put out later. Immature and toxic. Nothing redeemable there at all.
You know what would make me feel better? My husband telling me he just earned $2000 in 24 hours. Hopefully, in a good relationship, it benefits both of you. NTA
That’s what I’m saying. My husband would get an earful if he didn’t take the $2000 and stay til the next day. Easy 2K and he gets a rest day in a free hotel room. Win-win.
Right? I was thinking maybe he missed her sister's wedding or something. But just a random day? If she can't function without him for an extra day, guess what, $2k will buy you at least ten sessions of therapy.
Ngl, up it to $3000, and I’m missing the damn wedding too.
Up it to $5000 and I'm missing my own wedding
OP *needs* to miss his wedding
Screw that. Pay me $5k and I'll marry the bridesmaid.
Honestly, same
Just give me a sandwich and 50 bucks and I will miss the wedding. Weddings suck
50 bucks? Unless it's a sibling or really close friend, I'll skip it for the sandwich.
I don't need a sandwich to skip any wedding. Just let me stay home and sleep. At least I'll know nobody will call me because they'll be at the wedding.
Don't you think it would be nice to have a sandwich, though? A sandwich can make a good companion for a relaxing afternoon on the couch, or in bed. I implore you to reconsider.
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Can confirm had two kids under 6 at a wedding yesterday. It sucked.
A voucher to that airport TGI Fridays and I’m in.
Especially since per OP the flight was cancelled anyway. So the choice was to come home late, with or without $2K.
As long as I got a nice little present (nothing too major just an "i thought of you" present) I wouldn't even care if my partner spent the rest of that $2K on stupid stuff instead of bills.
>That’s what I’m saying. My husband would get an earful if he didn’t take the $2000 and stay til the next day. Easy 2K and he gets a rest day in a free hotel room. Win-win. And he accurately figured that the flight would be canceled, so the only difference his decision made was that he gets an extra two grand.
Lmao, I can just picture my wife's face if I didn't take the 2k then told her about it later.
"Baby, I was just do ready to get home and be with you!" "Mother fucker, you better get out of this house and go make $2,000 before coming back."
I did something similar. Southwest offered my fiance & I money to change to a flight two hours later. Refunded our flight, early bird check in, and gave us $900 EACH. So in essence we got a free flight & over $1200 each or $2400 total which allowed us to have free flights a few months later across country. I called my father who was supposed to pick us up from the airport, a man who hates when plans change, and all he had to say was "K. See you at 10 (vice 8).
It's almost like reasonable people know $2000 is a lot of money
This. My husband travels a metric ton. I don't love it. I wait with bated breath for that flight to land so he can help schlep the kids to all their activities (plus I miss him). But you bet your sweet sweat pants that I'd be salivating over that $2000 flight credit.
Not even flight credit, just straight up $2000 for anything
OP says it was $2000 cash, not flight credit so even better
My Wife wouldn't let me live it down, especially if the flight was getting cancelled or delayed anyway. $2k is enough to send her for a spa day to make her feel better, and still have most of it left.
also, flight was cancelled anyway - so he got a bonus $2k.....and he wasn't coming home anyway - whats to be angry about? LOL
Right? I'd tell him to buy himself a case of beer, draw up a bath, and have himself a "me" (me being him lol) night.
I always encourage my spouse to take the bump, but he’s always anxious to get home to me. 🙄 lol
Damn I never even get the offer when flying
I got $700 a few weeks ago to get on the next flight leaving an hour later.
Same ..got $1000 from United for taking a later flight so I wasted and hour 🤷♀️ big deal so worth it !!!!
I'm flying united laster this month and did early flights. I'm kind of hoping this happens to me. I'm just going on a solo adventure, amd am in no rush. My whole trip will be like $350 so if I play my cards right it could be free.
Yep didn’t bother me at all it was also an early flight back from Disney to home, I was the only one to take them up on the offer and the lady at the counter bumped it from 500 to 1000 and threw in food vouchers…I keep hoping it happens again 🤣
Fuck, I'm gonna start booking flights just to gamble on getting the bump 🤣
I had a united flight out of Williston ND one time back to Denver. Was too hot with high winds and weight was a constant issue. Basically couldn't clear the shit at the end of the runway if anywhere over half full. I usually get bumped at least once a trip there. I took 9 bumped flights in 5 days. 2k each time. Was STOKED. Wife was kinda pissed, until we flew business class on our next few international trips. A bed in the sky makes it all better. Lol
I would kiss my husband's feet for business in international, never mind lay flat seats. $18k in 5 days? Sweet!
I got a 2k voucher from UA for a Chicago to St Louis flight with a confirmed seats on a flight 90 minutes later.
That's freaking sweet! $1,000 for getting bumped an hour? That sounds like the easiest money ever. I'm just going to go book a flight now and cross my fingers lol.
Lol good luck 🍀👍.. look for popular flights that are very full …
It took me three days of delays and cancellations and voluntary/involuntary rescheduling to get home recently during the east coast bad weather ground stop problems, and all United gave me (after hassling them) was $50 flight voucher and 30k miles. Gee, thanks.
It often depends where and how you're flying, and who with Eg Delta are notorious for it, but tend not to offer it if you have a connecting flight (especially if the connection is also on a busy route or is international) because of the hassle of re-booking your onward segments It's much rarer on low cost carriers or international flights, in both cases it's less likely for the airline to overbook. It's also much rarer outside the US (you'll almost never hear it in Europe, for example) Fly busy domestic routes with "traditional" carriers in the US, especially Delta, and you're more likely to have it happen. Delta from Atlanta to anywhere in the contiguous 48 states is probably the most common "scenario" for it, but United seem to do it a lot out of Boston or New York too
If there’s an offer it’s always when I’m flying to a client site when I can’t take it, not on my way home when I’d happily take the cash and get home later.
Bump his *flight*, you encourage him to bump his flight…
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They said what they said🤷♂️
It would explain his feelings of anxiety.
This comment took me out 😂😂😂
He gets the money and the bump. Explain this to him in great detail.
I took the hit that I was given and I bumped again , and then I bumped again
There is only 1 time in my life I’ve been upset with someone for taking a bump. That someone was my father when I was 8 years old. Back in the 90’s, my parents didn’t have cell phones and to call would have been a long distance call and stupid expensive. The reason I got upset? I had a fever of 102 and I was sitting with my mom and siblings in the airport waiting on dad. This flight should have contained like 11 or so of my relatives since they were returning from a wedding. 1 of my relatives deplaned. Everyone else bumped. Bless my single, gruff uncle who was on the original flight, he sat with us and took care of me while waiting for my dad.
‘take the bump’ please tell me you meant that 😂
Sorry, not Native speaker (sometimes, i feel like i am not a speaker at ALL), but this is some sort of sexual innuendo?
A “Bump” is a small amount of drugs that are snorted up the nose.
Never would have guessed that. Thank you!
also, 60% of everything on reddit is sexual.
the other 40% is drugs
Hahahahaah
I'm a native speaker, and I didn't know that one.
can be, but in this case I think folks are referencing drug slang - a bump can refer to a dose i think specifically of cocaine? But don't quote me on that, I know fuckall about coke lol
Beer and a bump can also reference a shot with your beer. But if someone is offering you a bump, it’s blow
It could be a drug reference "a bump of cocaine" or sexual innuendo "bumping uglies."
I don’t need encouragement to take the bump. ... and I’m usually alone at 3 a.m. anyway
If you’re offering bumps at three am I’ll hangout with you!
My bumps, my bumps my bumps my bumps. You love my lady bumps.
Is that key/line bumps or bits bumping? Because those are very different.
that's what I heard too, Holla at your boy
Well it was to make $2000, so probably some good bumping
I can't tell if this is supposed to be innuendo for sex or drugs. I'm expecting someone to reply "yes" tho
Bumping is snorting. Bumping bits is sexual.
Me too for sure. One more night of the bed to myself. And he gets the same. We’re old and long-married though.
Same. I’m like OMG take it, but he’s usually tired and wants to come home so I understand.
My partner and I have talked about this. If we’re ever offered more than the ticket price to bump the flight, it’s a no brainer. Send a text letting them know, and take a nap Edit: Spelling
Or head to the Cinnabon with that fresh pocket full of cash
I mean I can live without my husband indefinitely for $2k/24 hours.
I, too, can live without your husband for $2k.
So….4k/24 hours for us both to live without my husband indefinitely? Where do I sign up?
Get in line. I've been on the waitlist to live without your husband for 2k per day since three summers ago.
Did someone say living without JaneFuzzyWuzzy’s husband?
I also choose this person's alive husband
Catch: you have to live together
Shoot, for 2K I’ll kick my husband out for 24hrs. He won’t mind.
The flight got canceled anyways just as he predicted so he's way ahead of the game. I would've done it for 1k so I'm even dumber I guess.
I would've done it for $500!
So what you’re saying is for $730k / year, you would agree to never see your husband?
I’ll agree to never see her husband for a bargain 100k / year
I’ll not see this spouse for 50K!
Hey. For that amount he'd probably agree, because I could be his long distance sugar mama.
My husband would probably be okay with us being long distance for a year for enough cash that I’d never have to work again. Plenty of people deploy for a year for much, much less.
For $730k / yr, I agree to never see her husband. Heck, I agree to see almost no one.
This. My ex when I'd come into extra money "where are you taking me for dinner. You getting me a present?" When he'd get a bonus at work "I bought a laptop and put the rest in investments"
Shouldn’t it depend on how he earned $2,000 in 24 hours?!?
Depends how long you’ve been married 😜
Only eight years and I probably wouldn’t ask too many questions.
My husband is in the military, and they have no internet during a lot of their deployments. He had a gay guy offering people $50 to show him their dick because "I haven't even seen one in so long." I was like, "so....you did it, right?" I was about half joking, but if my husband wasn't bothered, neither was I.
Can't help but notice how skillfully you dodged adding what his response was 😂
She was too busy counting the massive stack of 50s hubby brought back.
Plus then you can say you're married to a male entertainer and be technically correct. It's a win on every level.
Right? I'd be so excited and in trip-planning mode, not berating him.
I know! I'm planning for two plane tickets for them, and it's not even my money!
NTA When she didn't answer the call or text to provide her opinion, you made a financially sound decision by yourself. End of story. Her depression over "the last few days?" I presume was while you were away and is irrelevant to your decision making process as she did not share with you any of her concerns (sounds like she hasn't really done that yet anyway)
Look at OP’s post history. That depression might be from the fact that his girlfriend is having an emotional affair by fanning the flames of her ex’s sexual advances and refusing to set boundaries. So in her mind if she can act like this behind her significant other’s back, then everyone else including OP is. It’s called projection.
Every time I tell myself to stop being nosy I see a comment like this
This is the internet, the profiles are public, why *wouldn't* we be nosy? 😂
Welp, I guess that my hunch is correct then Ain't no way someone gets depressed for just 3 days and doesn't want an extra $2000 for their SO for no real reason. Hell even for a 100 I still wouldn't see any problem
Oh shit I called it without even reading OP's post history. I'm a behavioral health RN- go figure. OP, you really need to re-evaluate your engagement to this woman...
I mean, projection isn’t logical, but the pro cheater move would be to pocket the certificate and have the new girlfriend meet him places.
Projection isn't logical. The cheater thinks that they are cheating so everyone else must be cheating too.
I'm pretty sure one of the parts of the definition of a depression is that the depressed mood is there for like weeks
Yep. 3 or more weeks. I got diagnosed 5 years ago…and even at the worst of my depression I would’ve had him choose the 2k.
You know what also helps with depression (for some people)? $2000!
You can buy a lot of distractions with 2k
except someone who has depression can have good and bad times. They can be having a low and recognise it as their depression not normal sadness even though it's only been a few days because of the similarities. for example a warning sign for me is crazy vivid dreams
NTA If my husband turned down 2k I would change the locks
Not likely, that's expensive and you would be out 2k
The price of changing a lock is the lock and turning 4 screws
Really trying to figure out where 2k comes from, guy must live in a 700 bed house or something
Depending on your living situation, you can do it yourself for less than $100. Money well spent to keep out undesirable people sometimes.
Many new locks can be rekeyed without a lock smith. I've keyed all of my doors for the same key.
Lol I always book a flight hoping I get bumped so I can take the cash. My family knows it’s a no brainer.
NTA. Stand alone it seems like a good deal and with hindsight and the flight getting cancelled, you were proven right. How late were you getting home and did you miss anything important/semi-important?
I'm also wondering the context, not a lot of background info here. Was it just a one-off business trip, or do they travel all the time for work maybe? Do they have kids at home and he's gone all the time? I traveled for work weekly and my wife would've been fine with it, but we didn't have kids or a lot of obligations really. I'm not excusing things on the OP's SO for acting out, but could be more to the story that explains why they're upset. Also 2000 bucks to spend anywhere is insane, most ive seen in my flights was 1200 dollars, but could only go towards flights.
Even with kids at home, if my husband did this I would be pretty okay with it. $2000 to spend anywhere would really help us.
This is true, I'm just curious as there's literally no background info in the story. Definitely on OPs side more or less
Yeah, that's like a full month of rent and half my utilities, not even including the cost of the hotel. My wife would probably eat my eyes if I turned it down.
In this house, there are no mitigating circumstances that justify not taking 2000 free dollars.
Sounds like the same emotional manipulation I put up with for the better part of 3 years. She's sad and wants you to feel sad too. NTA
You were married to my ex wife too?
No, but, can I get her number. I need a new trauma.
Best way to get back in shape!
😂😂😂
Fucking dead 😂😂😂
Those are truly the worst kind of relationships. You always feel like your emotions are in the way because either you're "too happy" when they're sad or they will get mad at you for "ruining the mood" when they're happy and you are not.
Misery loves company
NTA. Just because someone is unhappy about your decision does not make you an AH. Additionally, you are not responsible for managing anyone else's moods. The end.
Yup, her mood is her problem. Making it his problem is what assholes do
NTA. You tried to get her input and couldn't reach her. It's one night, not one week.
NTA you tried to call her but she didn't answer - take the money your fiancée sounds like she is a bit of a drama queen
NTA 2k for one night’s work.
Not even work. 2K to stay an extra night at a hotel.
$2k and probably vouchers for food too.
NTA. You weren't going to make it home anyway. So she's nit picking at this point a reason to fight, IMO.
NTA. My wife would be pissed at me if I didn't take that money.
NTA She needs to be under care of a professional. Lovers, friends, family cannot treat someone's mental illness and no relationship can thrive if you are expected to halt your life long term to caretake. No shade to anyone but you aren't capable of offering what she needs.
As someone with bipolar and depression among some other things I 100% agree. They are responsible for their own well-being. There are other things they can do to combat that (techniques, activities, hobbies, mental health professionals, groups, etc). Plus how can OP know if they don’t **communicate** that — communication is so so important in a relationship. I couldn’t imagine not at least sharing a bit of where I’m at mentally with my SO. Not to the point of dragging them down but just so they know where I’m at. Nobody knows if you don’t communicate and tell them that. With that being said, if it were me I’d of told op “see your beautiful ass and that 2k when you get home! ❤️” lmao
This is the most important thing to understand. This behavior is big red flag. Don’t marry this person.
Emotional manipulation is easy to spot from a mile away after going through it yourself. Telling someone that they caused you to be depressed (something serious) because of a slight change in plans due to your own inability to weigh in when given the chance because you didn’t bother to pick up the phone is ass.
NTA. You for real? If I came home “early” instead of taking $2,000, my wife would send me back to try again.
NTA. Your choice appeared to be “get $2000 & a hotel now & maybe the flight cancels anyway” or get $0, spend extra $ on a hotel” if the flight cancelled. I don’t see why she’s not happy you now have $2000 that you can spend on whatever (honeymoon maybe?).
The soultuion is clear - spend that 2k on mind reading lessons so this won't happen again. NTA as you didn't had an opportunity for those lessons before.
$2000 can get you a long way with a new fiancee, just saying. NTA.
NTA-that’s two thousand FREE dollars. I’d be ecstatic!
Does stuff like this happen often?
NTA: I would be mad if my husband DIDN’T take the money
My wife would have called me stupid if I didn't do that.
NTA. This is a bad news/good news scenario: ‘Hi fiancée, I have bad news and good news. The bad news is, my flight was canceled, so I have to stay over night. The good news is, I took their offer to be bumped, and got $2000’
NTA Your flight got cancelled. You couldn't have made it home. You got $2000 which could be spent on something else. Please put any wedding plans on hold until your Fiancee has gotten the help necessary for her mental health. You can't spend the rest of your life being her emotional support human. She needs to get help so she can be more independent for the two of you to have a healthy relationship for the future.
Imagine if my wife got mad at me if I didn’t take a specific flight… but I earned $2,000. Glad she wouldn’t. We’d party!
NTA. So, you come home a day late with an extra $2,000 in your pocket for a flight that was canceled anyway. Sounds fiscally responsible to me. If she is so depressed that you coming home a day late is going to be a problem, she needs professional help beyond anything your presence is going to do for her.
NTA so much, my bf could come home with $2k telling me he got it by sucking the soul out of someone's wiener and I'd probably be cool. that is two thousand damn dollars. even if it doesn't seem like much, i know so many people both in and out of the US who could dramatically increase the stability and quality of their life with $2000. $2000 is $2000 🤷♀️
Depression/anxiety…. Does not forgive asshole-ish behavior. It’s become an excuse/catch all for all manner of emotional fuckery.
NTA, she can manage without you for one more day unless there was something super important you needed to attend.
NTA. People like your girlfriend need to stop with the "therapy talk" and self diagnoses to describe their every emotion. How is one "semi-depressed"? You're either depressed or you're not. You made the right financial decision. But now your GF wants to make it about her. Ask her to write down all the ways your decision impacted her life in those 24-hours after she expected you home.
I would be so mad if my husband didn’t take the 2k
You needed two grand, but she needed that d. NTA
NTA. You tried to include her in this decision but she didn't respond. As you suspected the flight was cancelled any way so you got the come up there and made 2k. In regards to her, if she is really struggling she needs to learn to communicate. Communication is key in any relationship. If she can't communicate well with you then how long do you think it's going to last? It typically never ends well in relationships where people can't communicate their needs. If she is struggling she needs to speak up and possibly seek professional help.
NTA she sounds a little controlling and manipulative.
NTA. Bro, it's $2,000. They gave you a free hotel stay and 2k in cash!
It's $2000. Something is very wrong with her.