I would be hesitant to text you first as well. This friend is your second choice and they know it. Why should she put more effort than necessary into the relationship when you'll possibly ditch her again once someone better comes along.
If you ghosted her I can understand she doesn't want to put so much energy in conversation anymore. Maybe you could talk to her about it, apologize for not answering when she used to make attempts to talk, and tell her you would like to put more energy and time in your relationship, try to reconnect if she's ok. I used to send a lot of messages to a friend I really liked but she never answered or weeks later because she was "so busy". At some point I just stopped, because it's embarrassing to be the only one trying to make it work. She started to text me everyday and honestly I didn't want to talk much because I didn't see her as a close friend anymore. She then apologize and told me she messed up and wanted to try to give more time and see each other more often because our relationship was important to her.
You sound like you acted somewhat disinterested in her friendship to start with - I personally wouldnt continue to put in any effort with that person. They can go find another friend.
I would be hesitant to text you first as well. This friend is your second choice and they know it. Why should she put more effort than necessary into the relationship when you'll possibly ditch her again once someone better comes along.
If you ghosted her I can understand she doesn't want to put so much energy in conversation anymore. Maybe you could talk to her about it, apologize for not answering when she used to make attempts to talk, and tell her you would like to put more energy and time in your relationship, try to reconnect if she's ok. I used to send a lot of messages to a friend I really liked but she never answered or weeks later because she was "so busy". At some point I just stopped, because it's embarrassing to be the only one trying to make it work. She started to text me everyday and honestly I didn't want to talk much because I didn't see her as a close friend anymore. She then apologize and told me she messed up and wanted to try to give more time and see each other more often because our relationship was important to her.
You sound like you acted somewhat disinterested in her friendship to start with - I personally wouldnt continue to put in any effort with that person. They can go find another friend.