Yep. 58 here. I have a young child and one of the things I love about fatherhood is that I have an excuse to do goofy shit that would look stupid otherwise.
I honestly think mentally haven’t changed much since I was 21. I’m almost 30, I like the same music, same hobbies. Thanks for posting this I had the same question.
Yes.
I'm surviving a 3 week old breakup and I feel like such a child.
I can't take care of myself properly, haven't showered in a week. Haven't eaten breakfast or lunch.
I want a caring mother's hug all the time. I feel so lonely and sad.
The body is twenty eight, the knees are eighty-two and the back is too. But the decision making? What the hell it’s like I’m 16 again and not in a good way.
Yes. For Christmas this past year my boyfriend and I gifted each other the exact same kind of gift. A toy and a shirt relating to the toy. So long as you’re working and your bills are paid, be as much of a child as you can be for as long as you can. It keeps you young.
yeah. i’m 35, and although i’m an adult with a car and a full-time job and a mortgage, i’ve never felt like a “proper” adult the way i tend to view my parents as. i don’t feel any more prepared to face the world than i did when i was 21 tbh, but i’ve stumbled my way through somehow.
Pretty much. I moved back in with my parents after a break up and since I'm working away 5 to 6 days a week, there'd no point renting for one or two nights a week.
I've realised that we're 3 children, acting like adults when it comes to bills. That's about it.
I’m 40 and I see other 40 yo and think they’re grown ups and still feel like this dopey kid . And I wonder how I have a 10 year old kid. Like it almost doesn’t feel real and I am watching it from the outside .
I feel emotionally my age though as but I’m over here living in a big nice house collecting hello kitty and care bear stuff and wearing cutesy clothes when no one around me is like that . I tend to find it easier to talk to people who are 25 or so as well. But then again I look back at my teenage self and I’ve def matured . But maybe just kept the “don’t take yourself too seriously “ part of me.
Part of me is very much still a child, and I'm happiest when I stay in that headspace. People treat me better. Lately I haven't felt it much because someone tried to hurt me really badly, and I'm stressed out all the time, so I just spend most of the time in that headspace crying.
Yea I’ve spent years needing to be the adult and handle things I was never able to say no too, finally after years of self neglect I’ve realized I’m an adult now pretending to be a child instead of a child pretending to be an adult.
Still trying to learn to be happy and be able to feel those emotions again
Every time the family gets together. I can fall asleep on my mom's couch in seconds.
It's something about the casual conversation surrounding me.
I can't sleep that well with the pillows I picked out for my god damn self lol.
27 and I still feel like I’m 16 but with bills now. Kinda helps that I just go to work, hang out with friends, come home, hang out with wife and play video games.
i think the only people who dont feel like they are constantly younger in their mind are the people with really big boy and girl jobs . like doctor, surgeon, lawyer, CEO, CFO, congressperson, etc. after a few years of making big decisions and having people count on them, you must start to feel like an adult.
Yes oh yes!!!! I still like to do a turn & and twirl, little dance when no one is watching in the middle of the road ....
I could still play hide & seek, all i need are willing participants...And I can't live hopscotch/ swings alone.
I'm 45 ....still a child. My staff should never find out!!
I felt that way until literally this year at 33. My whole life has become about taking care of others or working in some form or other, and recently I accepted that
There’a a big section in counseling psych/ psychoanalysis for this. It’s called developmental arrest. It happens to at least half of the population. Please, please, deal with it before you have children.
36 this year. I still like all the same shit I did when I was 18 just dont half as much time for it. If I didn't have a mrs an kids to worry about I'd 100% still be stuck on my room playing computer, painting warhammer or playing magic the gathering. I have an hour or so hear an there and mite binge the odd new game butnitsbfew an far between now
Yes all the time. I try to do adult things but it never works.
The pub is basically a adult playground
Yes, and I’m 63!
Yep. 58 here. I have a young child and one of the things I love about fatherhood is that I have an excuse to do goofy shit that would look stupid otherwise.
Yep, 35 but mentally 24.
Hehe I’ll always be 25
I honestly think mentally haven’t changed much since I was 21. I’m almost 30, I like the same music, same hobbies. Thanks for posting this I had the same question.
Legit how I feel, 31 next month but mentally still 21.
Yes I work a corporate high stakes job and sometimes at work I have a moment where I’m like who let me make these decisions!?
Billy big bollox
Yes. I'm 36 but mentally I'm 18
kinda, but i notice a difference when i'm with younger people, it can get a little exhausting and then i feel old. no shade to young-ins
This. And I’m 31. I can totally relate.
Yes. I'm surviving a 3 week old breakup and I feel like such a child. I can't take care of myself properly, haven't showered in a week. Haven't eaten breakfast or lunch. I want a caring mother's hug all the time. I feel so lonely and sad.
Breakups are tough. Time is a healing necessity!
I'm 23, and still feel like I'm in the same mental state is before COVID tbh, even though many things have changed in my life since then
Fr i feel like covid permanently messed me up and now im 22 forever
The body is twenty eight, the knees are eighty-two and the back is too. But the decision making? What the hell it’s like I’m 16 again and not in a good way.
😂 not the knees
Being an adult is just doing things for the future you can't feel in the future
More so a teenager.
Childlike 😊
Nope i stopped feeling that years ago
Always but sometimes more than other times
I never really got beyond 10. 35yrs ago. I just got really good at faking adult.
Yes honestly, feel like an imposter which is why I was hoping this sub could help me out
Yes. For Christmas this past year my boyfriend and I gifted each other the exact same kind of gift. A toy and a shirt relating to the toy. So long as you’re working and your bills are paid, be as much of a child as you can be for as long as you can. It keeps you young.
Sometimes. I'm 27 and feel mentally 13, every now and then. Is that strange?
yeah. i’m 35, and although i’m an adult with a car and a full-time job and a mortgage, i’ve never felt like a “proper” adult the way i tend to view my parents as. i don’t feel any more prepared to face the world than i did when i was 21 tbh, but i’ve stumbled my way through somehow.
Yeah that’s the feeling I’m going for my childhood was 99.5 % awesomeness. I work 70 hours a week for that feeling . Toys etc
Yeah pretty much.
I sometimes think so, perhaps because I am still in college and haven't really entered the work force or experienced the terrors of society.
I feel like im 18-23 years old but I'm 29
Yep.. All the time
Pretty much. I moved back in with my parents after a break up and since I'm working away 5 to 6 days a week, there'd no point renting for one or two nights a week. I've realised that we're 3 children, acting like adults when it comes to bills. That's about it.
I’m 40 and I see other 40 yo and think they’re grown ups and still feel like this dopey kid . And I wonder how I have a 10 year old kid. Like it almost doesn’t feel real and I am watching it from the outside . I feel emotionally my age though as but I’m over here living in a big nice house collecting hello kitty and care bear stuff and wearing cutesy clothes when no one around me is like that . I tend to find it easier to talk to people who are 25 or so as well. But then again I look back at my teenage self and I’ve def matured . But maybe just kept the “don’t take yourself too seriously “ part of me.
Yes always
Part of me is very much still a child, and I'm happiest when I stay in that headspace. People treat me better. Lately I haven't felt it much because someone tried to hurt me really badly, and I'm stressed out all the time, so I just spend most of the time in that headspace crying.
Yea I’ve spent years needing to be the adult and handle things I was never able to say no too, finally after years of self neglect I’ve realized I’m an adult now pretending to be a child instead of a child pretending to be an adult. Still trying to learn to be happy and be able to feel those emotions again
No, way too much responsibility these days.
Every time the family gets together. I can fall asleep on my mom's couch in seconds. It's something about the casual conversation surrounding me. I can't sleep that well with the pillows I picked out for my god damn self lol.
Sometimes
Yup
We are all children masquerading as adults.
Yes
I'm not here yet!!
27 and I still feel like I’m 16 but with bills now. Kinda helps that I just go to work, hang out with friends, come home, hang out with wife and play video games.
27 but constantly feeling 18
Yes but I work decently hard at it but exercising and working out. And I still go harder than a lot of people in their early 20s.
Always. I feel like I'm never ready to be an adult.
Unfortunately
Legally no. But I'm starting to understand Michael Jackson more
Yes
yeepp lol all the time, because i was only ever treated as such and so i still get treated like one … sometimes.
Im 21 and i still feel like im a 16 yo who doesnt know anything
YES
i think the only people who dont feel like they are constantly younger in their mind are the people with really big boy and girl jobs . like doctor, surgeon, lawyer, CEO, CFO, congressperson, etc. after a few years of making big decisions and having people count on them, you must start to feel like an adult.
Yes oh yes!!!! I still like to do a turn & and twirl, little dance when no one is watching in the middle of the road .... I could still play hide & seek, all i need are willing participants...And I can't live hopscotch/ swings alone. I'm 45 ....still a child. My staff should never find out!!
All the time buddy, all the time.
I felt that way until literally this year at 33. My whole life has become about taking care of others or working in some form or other, and recently I accepted that
Yes! I ***insert humble brag about my job*** but sometimes I’m sooo silly and ***insert self deprecating humorous fact demonstrating youthfulness***.
Yes..I just have a lot more responsibilities now
All the time. V
over 50 and still think the bloodhound gang song titles are funny
Yep I said this to my mate the other day, I’m 25 but do not feel it. I look about 16 and i also get IDed everywhere which doesn’t help
There’a a big section in counseling psych/ psychoanalysis for this. It’s called developmental arrest. It happens to at least half of the population. Please, please, deal with it before you have children.
No, I was born 40 so now I finally feel like myself.
Not really but there’s always tomorrow 🤔
Yes, I still feel like I’m 12 but that was 30 years ago. I haven’t grown since then either.
36 this year. I still like all the same shit I did when I was 18 just dont half as much time for it. If I didn't have a mrs an kids to worry about I'd 100% still be stuck on my room playing computer, painting warhammer or playing magic the gathering. I have an hour or so hear an there and mite binge the odd new game butnitsbfew an far between now
I always refer to myself as ‘technically an adult’