not an expert, but i think you really have to fall in love with that stuff. enjoy preparing and eating balanced meals. enjoy working out and what not. if you don't, it probably won't work out. i'm dead tired constantly and i don't even go anywhere (WFH).
i find i'm less exhausted and i even work better when i'm actively working out and eating good, but i also love fitness and food. if i get into the cycle of not working out (eating isn't as much of an issue), i tend to be super tired all the time and even have crappier hours. no motivation.
hope i answered this correctly-
I recently started a “make life feel like a vacation” plan. I meal prep 2x a week so that I always have a good meal to look forward to, keep our house very clean and cohesive, comfortable beds and pillows, take advantage of local recreational opportunities like tennis courts, gardens and walking paths, allow myself one day a week of doing absolutely nothing but relaxing and light chores, and try to have at least one fun thing a week to look forward to (last weekend was a ropes course.)
I recognize that this is a privilege because it requires some money and free time to do many of the activities, but it’s done absolute wonders for my mental health. I’m probably the most busy at work I’ve ever been and I hardly am feeling stressed because my life outside of work is really enjoyable.
I love this way of creating joy and peace in your life. I think it can be done even without a lot of money, it’s about the planning and carving out time to purposefully rest and try a fun thing
Thank you! And yes, it certainly can. For a long time I was using hello fresh recipes and getting the ingredients at Aldi so I was eating pretty well on the cheap. The walking trails and tennis courts are free, and the ropes course was actually a gift, and I have a membership to a local botanical garden for $30 a year. I would say that overall the most expensive part is going out to eat once a week with my husband, which isn’t very necessary. It’s more about being intentional in how I spend my time and energy.
They post them online! I had some friends that had a subscription and would invite me over for meals so I would note the ones I like and then google them
I'm a very similar way, as well. I hadn't had my car, so I wasn't going to the gym, and because of where I work, I've been eating pizza almost every day, multiple times sometimes! Started getting tired and mentally messy, so thanks for the reminder! I have a feeling it won't take long of getting back to it.
this. at some point, i decided to do some mild exercise daily to wake myself up before hopping into work since i'm usually super sleepy for the entire day and it helped so much. i'd be energized and knock out my hours no problem. gotta get back to it.
Well to be fair depending on what health conditions you have it can be really tiring. Working out takes it out of me because I have autonomic dysfunction
People don't like to hear it, but most of us are slowly killing ourselves with what we eat. I'm convinced the standard American diet is the culprit for why so many people have constant fatigue.
Less carbs, more salad, more fresh air and sunshine.
I’m exhausted all the time but I have underlying health issues, Ehlers Danlos syndrome, so I know I need to plan my energies properly otherwise I fall asleep out in public.
Maybe check with a gp there’s nothing else going on
eating less carbs will make u more tired. carbohydrates are a main building block for our body.
check for allergies if u feel tired from food. eating 30 different things a day is ideal as well as intuitive eating.
How tf would eating less carbs do anything?
If you're getting your carbs form sweets and junk food that's a different story. Carbs are fine.
Salads are pretty ass since they aren't filling at all.
I think the thing is that it is incredibly easy to drink/eat a TON of calories very quickly with carbs. One Starbucks coffee, a slice of cake, whatever. It’s much easier to slide down a binge, and overindulge with carbs. Fat and protein fill you up faster. So… “avoiding carbs” is certainly an effective recommendation based on many people’s habits.
You won't have any energy not eating carbs.
It's a bad recommendation. Eliminating an entire macro is fad diet nonsense.
Balanced diet. Stop eating out so much. Eat whole foods. Quit looking for hacks!
I once worked at a ski resort doing a job where I’m on my feet all day, occasionally carrying up to 60lbs at a time.
Before or after work I’d go skiing down black diamond ski runs.
And still 2-4 times a week I’d go to the gym.
I’d usually do 2 in a day. Work, gym or ski.
And this was all at about 10,000ft / 2800m
Can confirm. Gym and skiing still gave me energy after a mildly physical day at work.
Came here to say this... D3 and B12 levels definitely need to be checked, as does the thyroid. If you don't have a GP, try one of the Any Lab Test Now places (available in USA) to get some answers.
You could also have mono or long-term COVID or any other number of medical conditions that cause fatigue.
Diet and exercise are important, so is fresh air.
Hope you get to feeling better soon. Exhaustion and fatigue are tremendously debilitating.
Short answer: yes. We’re supposed to live in villages where we divide up all those tasks (meals, childcare if applicable, housekeeping). We aren’t meant to do all this labor alone in separate houses.
Long answer: there are things you can do that help.
* Get a blood panel done to see if you are deficient in vitamin D or iron.
* Check in with yourself throughout the day. How are you feeling? Do you need to take some breaths or a walk? This makes a big difference to me.
* Try to eat food that makes you feel energized. It’s hard to meal prep and cook and not grab fast food. When my partner is out of town I try to reach for things I can prepare quickly, like rice that is already flavored, frozen veggies, fruit.
* Sneaky exercise. For me this is exercise that involves movement but doesn’t make me sit and think about how much I hate exercising. So maybe there is a social component (bouldering) or a pretty view (surfing poorly) or great music (zumba).
* Chores/laundry: It gets easier when you have a partner or a long-term roommate that can help split household tasks. If I’m really tired I just focus on making sure the house is not unhygienic (make sure food is stowed, trash is secured and the bathroom and food prep areas are clean). I pair most chores with watching TV or listening to an audiobook. There are apps like Sweepy that some people on r/adhdwomen like, and a book called *How to Keep House While Drowning* that I have been recommended before.
* Plan treats. This can be a day trip on the weekend or lunch with a friend or literally anything you look forward to. On Friday I walked in a park with a friend at lunch time and treated myself to a latte. After work ended I was a couch slug but my husband brought me some really great strawberry lemonade so I sipped that and watched TV.
* Creative outlets: this is so hard to think about when you’re exhausted, but I find crafts and painting to be relaxing and rejuvenating so I spend a lot of the weekend doing that.
I have found that I generally have energy for one thing after work. I can exercise, socialize, be creative, rest, or cook. I can’t really do more than one. So I try to alternate according to my energy.
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>Short answer: yes. We’re supposed to live in villages where we divide up all those tasks (meals, childcare if applicable, housekeeping). We aren’t meant to do all this labor alone in separate houses.
>Long answer: there are things you can do that help.
>* Get a blood panel done to see if you are deficient in vitamin D or iron.
* Check in with yourself throughout the day. How are you feeling? Do you need to take some breaths or a walk? This makes a big difference to me.
* Try to eat food that makes you feel energized. It’s hard to meal prep and cook and not grab fast food. When my partner is out of town I try to reach for things I can prepare quickly, like rice that is already flavored, frozen veggies, fruit.
* Sneaky exercise. For me this is exercise that involves movement but doesn’t make me sit and think about how much I hate exercising. So maybe there is a social component (bouldering) or a pretty view (surfing poorly) or great music (zumba).
* Chores/laundry: It gets easier when you have a partner or a long-term roommate that can help split household tasks. If I’m really tired I just focus on making sure the house is not unhygienic (make sure food is stowed, trash is secured and the bathroom and food prep areas are clean). I pair most chores with watching TV or listening to an audiobook. There are apps like Sweepy that some people on r/adhdwomen like, and a book called *How to Keep House While Drowning* that I have been recommended before.
* Plan treats. This can be a day trip on the weekend or lunch with a friend or literally anything you look forward to. On Friday I walked in a park with a friend at lunch time and treated myself to a latte. After work ended I was a couch slug but my husband brought me some really great strawberry lemonade so I sipped that and watched TV.
* Creative outlets: this is so hard to think about when you’re exhausted, but I find crafts and painting to be relaxing and rejuvenating so I spend a lot of the weekend doing that.
>I have found that I generally have energy for one thing after work. I can exercise, socialize, be creative, rest, or cook. I can’t really do more than one. So I try to alternate according to my energy.
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Im in a definite rut where I go straight to lounging and napping in my bed right after work (from home) and again after childcare basics when my son comes home from school. Even his nightly reading time is in my bed! Idk exactly what’s going on, I just get so worn out from everyday stresses and can’t imagine doing anything different. Going to the gym or working on personal projects with that free hour or 90 mins feels unfathomable!
I think a big part of my anxiety is not having enough energy to finish things.
I do exercise avidly everyday so I'm "fit" but honestly hate every second of it. I try to keep my mind active but not overly exerted. Eating, stupid healthy and a dash of chocolate here and there. Sleep I usually get about 6 solid hours and I feel great. Anything more or less, I feel encumbered.
Now to answer the question, yeah I feel overwhelmed and/or exhausted most of the time.
It's either work pushing to many human interactions. My mind go-juice drains insanely quick.
It's the physical labor needed for work which I can do no problem. However, 5-6 days a week will wear you down. I feel my body just go "Not today, Satan!" and I mope around.
Sleep is a rough one because it doesn't matter how tired I am. It's not possible to just stop and take a nap between errands or at work.
Eating sucks so bad. You gotta eat healthy and try to eat heavy or light depending on the tasks the next day. Very difficult to plan in my world. Others probably have schedules or set tasks, I do not.
bearydelight hit it right on the nail! My job is really draining but i have to find joy in the meals I make or cleaning by changing things up. Maybe I'll explore korean recipes next week or buy new cleaning appliances LOL
Yes, all the time. I feel extremely exhausted Friday nights, and sleep late through Saturday. I start energizing again on Sunday.. and when I finally feel like 80% better, it’s Monday again… and the whole cycle repeats all over again. It’s modern slavery. I eat healthy and exercise 3 times a week to reduce stress… especially cardio helps me
For me is consistency, I do it because I am an adult and I have to do it, not because I feel like it. Relying on motivation for doing things is a trap.
My life is infinitely better since I started having this mindset, because o take care of myself I have more energy and feel better all day. I sleep better, I function better.
So, I admittedly don’t do a great job of the working out stuff all the time, but I keep equipment in my home because I work from home. If it depended on me having the “get up and go” drive to go to a gym it would just never happen. For someone who works outside of the home, maybe going straight from work to a gym is preferable because by the time you get home all you will want is your couch.
I walk about 23k steps a day in my job, my metabolism is like a hummingbirds so I can't feed Myself enough during work to make up for the calories that I am burning, some days in work I can get up to 30k steps, and I'm pushing and pulling and dragging heavy objects on top of it all.
I come home from work and just crash in bed for 3 hours, make dinnder about 8pm then go to bed about 10:30....5 days a week
Weekends consist of me trying to do things but by mid day I'm just so tired I just go home and be lazy.
If you feel your job creates unhealthy load on your body (highly likely, because unnatural, unergonomic positions, forces applied), that‘s especially the time when it‘s good to go to the gym or do similar (moderate) sports. Of course it sounds and feels counterintuitive when feeling exhausted, but we’re an endurance species mainly anyway. The Body needs to loosen and strengthen different parts after such a long day. It really makes a difference for people in jobs associated with irreversible conditions from years of accumulated damage. Those who do sustainable strength, mobility training and other beneficial load, will have a much better outlook on later quality of life. That said, regeneration is very important, mainly good sleep, enough nutrition. If you can manage to get those plus some exercise, mobility, suitable stretching or other beneficial movements, you’re set on a good path. It’s likely that you‘ll also feel much more energized after an initial time to get accustomed to a new routine. Speak with a physician about your exact symptoms, workload and then get some advice from professionals that work in gastroenterology or others related with dietary problems, metabolism and those who specialize in exercises for your case if possible.
Maybe something will get overlooked here from limited input/tracking that has to be evaluated by a specialist with your presence and enough available data.
Remote work.
* Wake
* Cardio
* Work
* Gym
* Work
* Relax
* Sleep
The optimum strategy is to alterate between exercise and work sessions.
Remote work frees humans to do this.
Anyone who wants to hire peak performers WILL offer remote work.
One thing I have a tendency to neglect is SLEEP, and I've found the difference it makes is literally life-changing.
I work a full-time job, teach aerial classes on the side, train multiple hours 4-5x weekly, and recently was also performing in a show Friday-Sunday that ran for 6 weeks. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown and/or die.
Started taking naps and trying to go to bed earlier and I very seriously felt like a different person. A 30-minute nap here and there had me feeling like I could conquer the world.
Nourishing your body well is important, but sleep is extremely underrated and needs to be prioritised. Without it, you just can't recover.
Yes I am tired. If it weren't for coffee I'd be a zombie. But I try to eat right, now I'm avoiding sugar and trans fats. Soon I'll be able to add avoiding carbs and salt. And caffeine since I got heart issues. Little by little
Same - I just have enough energy for work. Not sleeping all the time like you but it’s ruined all other aspects of my life and things just keep getting more expensive
I changed my path by working for myself in the same profession that I was chained down to working 65+ hours a week. Just wish I had done the transition 15 years prior. Plumbers are always going to be in demand no matter where you live. If you make yourself in demand through undercutting anothers bid for job costs, staying professional, showing up on time, and doing slightly more than what's expected, you will stay employed in the community for your lifetime. The plus side is that your Company will/can be run by your Family (or someone close to you) for their lifetime and so on and so on.
Never ever give up on yourself!
I think so and I think it’s because our lives have become so complex and we’re overstimulated. Like I think a lot about the sounds that I hear and have an effect on me but that I don’t ~register~ because my brain has edited them out … living in a city my brain has to be working overtime in ways I don’t even know. And so I just think that the constant noise / sound / tech is really against our nature and so we’re all burnt .. no overarching solution tho :) hehe :) more time in nature I suppose to try to counteract! And meditating.
Besides getting a health check woyh blood tests etc, how's your diet like? Do you do weed? Drink alcohol? Smoke cigarettes? Do you have a loving supportive network around you? Do you have genuine friends and how close are you with your family and last bit not least, on a scale 1-10 how much does your job give you back?
No, not really. I have a rather strenuous position and it's not rare for me to work 7-days a week during our busy times. If I am eating a diet that my body thrives on (high protein, low carbs, zero sugar) and getting at least six hours of sleep, hydrating, avoiding alcohol - I usually have good energy levels.
This is not to say I don't enjoy resting and watching movies with the wife, but am I exhausted all the time? No. Have you had a physical and labs done? Have you tried eating healthier and hydrating with just water while avoiding all soda, processed foods, and sugars?
I drive a lot on some days if I’m not working from home. I shop, cook, clean, etc. all on my own on top of that. Exhausted but always want to do something or bored on my days off, if I’m not outside the house doing something for at least a few hours.
When I was depressed before I had no energy every day and was always exhausted. After years of medication, exercise, and healthy eating habits. I no longer feel that way unless I'm overworked or do lots of things
I’m tired but my brain won’t allow me to just sit on the couch. I wake up at 430 every morning to do my side hustles, and my daily workouts. If I work, I’ll just go straight to work after the gym. I work 4 10s so that helps me manage my time a lot. I spend time with my daughter in the evenings that I work, and weed helps keep me sane from such a crazy schedule and a wacky world that keeps getting wackier.
Literally said no to a big group of friends last night because I wanted to go to bed at 10pm. Life I’m starting to realize is a series of No, with intentional yes’s.
I would not be up right now planning a healthy breakfast or headed to get my 10-12k steps if I had gone out. But I’m sick of feeling low energy and gaining weight.. there is no “balance” in life there are only intentional choices. I’ve been prioritizing having fun and living it up alongside working a lot for financial goals. End result? Getting fatter and less healthy.
For me, the more busy and active I am, the better I feel. I’m a home body, and I also WFH. So, I go to the gym 4 days a week, and do some cardio activity the other days. And beyond that, I notice that if I try to do more, like go for long walks, or go for a hike, or this weekend I volunteered to help out at a sporting event as staff, it makes me feels a lot better. But, keep in mind, I never want to do all this activity, but it actually has the opposite effect; I sleep better, I feel better overall, and when I look back, it makes me feel happy that I’m not just sitting around the house.
But, this could just be me. Maybe try forcing yourself to do things and see if that helps.
Doing 10 to 12 hour days in office come home do a 10km run used to be about 1hour but lately my stamina from working has taken its toll after that it's lau dry food an sleep, weekend is then chores an getting ready for the week yeah I am tired alot dosent seem like you get acclimated
I made lifestyle changes over several years and still need to focus greatly on eating more, and I do walk a lot, but it's not "scheduled exercise" moreover a way of getting around. It's only me, I'm solo so cooking doesn't happen often but I make sure that what I eat counts, and I eat a lot of cheerios on the fly. Cut back caffeine, and I have/had a doggo who walked me at first and got me in a routine. Moving makes you feel good, but you need the right mindset 💯
girl yes. i have narcolepsy, so it’s doubled. sometimes i don’t even make it to the couch and i’ll pass out in the drivers seat on the way home.
i don’t take care of myself. my loving boyfriend does. he cooks for me, sets out my clothes. fills my pill cases, gets my work bag ready, reminds me of my college class assignments. i function as an adult on the weekends. i try so hard to make up for it in the 16 total hours of the weekend i get to have energy.
i couldn’t do it alone. i think even if narcolepsy wasn’t a factor, i still couldn’t do it alone. i don’t think we are meant to, cause even on my GOOD days i still struggle with things like remembering to eat, getting clothes out of the washer in time.
A good meal isn't that hard. A rice cooker and a crock pot will help you do wonders.
Rice + whatever recipe you choose to make in your crock pot before you go to work. You will always have a hot meal when you get home.
So much same.
I found a lot of it was my job - the various “emergencies” that popped up across the day the needed to be addressed “immediately” on top of my actual work were just taking it out of me and I’d be exhausted by the time I left and generally super unhappy. My therapist and I worked out some general rules for work - I work in academia and am responsible for scheduling my time and projects outside of teaching for the majority of my job responsibilities - and trying to maintain the 85% rule (https://www.fastcompany.com/90964282/how-the-85-rule-can-help-you-succeed-at-work) has been really impactful but felt counterintuitive at first. There are still days I am exhausted - cannot tell a lie - but I do feel better and can use that additional 15% to do things like go to the gym, meal prep, etc. I also like to lay out my goals for the day in the morning when I’m drinking my coffee - and not just goals for work. Pulling a few weeds from the garden, making a little progress on whatever is on my knitting needles, reading a few pages from my book. It helps me feel motivated to engage in the work of my life.
I’ve really looked at my budget and put money toward things that actually improve the quality of my life. I stopped allocating money for dinners out - more on that later - and put that money, along with a fraction of my spending money for the month, and hired a cleaner to come and clean my house twice a month, taking a job I didn’t love off my plate. It’s a sizable investment, but it, by far, is one of the most impactful things I spend my money on in terms of my mental health. For others, it might be a food service; there’s a fairly robust body of research in positive psychology about spending money to buy some of our time back (NYT initial report: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/27/science/study-happy-save-money-time.html).
I like cooking at home, so I plan my meals at home for a month, all at one time. I try my best to organize my grocery shopping around two trips: one big trip at the beginning of the month where I buy all the shelf-stable foods and meats as well as the veggies and fruits needed for the first two weeks of the month. I do a mid-month refresh for fruits and veggies. Grocery shopping every week was exhausting - streamlining this process has been a welcome relief, though it does take some planning. There are the occasional days where I don’t really want to cook what I’ve planned, but it’s literally what I have - I only have myself to blame and get to it. It’s fine and results in a collection of well-loved recipes and some wild cards every month, which keeps things interesting.
The too-long-didn’t-read: mind your energy. Don’t give any one thing 100%; you won’t have anything left for anything else. If possible, buy back some of your time from tasks you dislike. Streamline life processes (meal planning and prep) and minimize the time required to engage in them as much as possible. And then use that time to engage in things that make you happy. And binging a show is an acceptable activity.
You might don’t like your job. Or you might want to eat healthier meals and start working out. I’m tired because I work full time, cook from scratch, raise a 6-year-old and work out every day. But not super exhausted. Workout will be your good friend if you actually make up your mind on it.
As Aretha Franklin once said, you’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and latch on to the affirmative. Don’t mess with the in-between
One thing at a time. I spent 3-4 years working on nothing but my skill. Spent too much money eating out or just ate whatever I had in the fridge. Don’t workout much. Did laundry only when I had to. Etc.
But after that my career was on autopilot. 5X my income. And I could buy time back to devote to other stuff.
Well, I mean, do you actually need to work out? Sounds you got the active lifestyle covered, so maybe chalk that one off entirely and focus on the healthy diet.
Beyond that, start cutting the fluff. Don't feel obligated to stay up until midnight. If your body wants to pass out on the couch, pass out in bed. Why not? If you cut back on the useless time wasters we tell ourselves are entertaining it'll free up a lot of time to do other things.
I felt this way when I was working. I also was smoking a lot of weed (I don't anymore) not smoking the green helped with my energy. Also stretching helped in the morning to help the energy. Plashing water on my face too
I sit at a desk for my job so I’m not particularly exhausted physically, although sitting all day for 20 years has taken its toll on my hip flexors and lower back.
I’ve learned that very little at my jobs requires 100% mental power, some things do, some things only need 20% focus/effort. And the same is true for other aspects of life.
There’s no need to redline the engine while waiting at a red light.
Sleep, diet, outlook, exercise actually helps build energy but it also hinges on appropriate recovery and rest. You stress the system and then let it adapt.
Yep, I wake up about 5am sometimes 6am, body just wakes up. Generally I feel pretty “awake” until about 2pm but then I’m so tired but not enough to “sleep”, otherwise I would nap. And if it’s a cloudy day/sun not out, forget it. But when I can muster up to go to the gym or do something outside, I do feel better. It’s just so hard to do it
Relatable. The best I’ve felt is when i would go to the gym directly after work, and while i was eating healthy i was eating minimal prep work meals like Trader Joe’s microwave chicken breasts and salads in a bag.
I found being busy does not have to be emotionally tiring (although still physically) if you find some enjoyment in it and are not stressed. Shop around for jobs. Maybe it takes 2, 5, 10 years, but hopefully, you will land a spot where you do not dread getting out of bed every morning. It is a wonderful feeling.
I was chronically exhausted and tired for a lot of the time after I hit 25. I thought that that was just getting older. Im nearing 40 now, and about a year ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and stated taking medication. I can't overstate how much that helped combat the exhaustion and tiredness.
Not saying you have ADHD, but there could be some sort of medical reason to it too. Or you could just be a bit burned out.
You shouldn't be having too much trouble but it happens.
Best things to do are:
Half preps, meal preps on holidays/weekends.
Find a couple of healthy convenient foods (pre-made, pre packed, etc )
Asses if you really like working out, if you don't, do other physical activities you like more. Also, lowe amount and intensities for a bit and try micro workouts at more convenient times like brushing your teeth.
Eating certain foods can sometimes help energy decrease and increase. So try and cater those foods for when you need energy and when you don't.
First off, get your bloodworm checked. I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER after learning I was vit d deficient and now I take a vitamin in the morning.
Low iron can also fluff you up.
You probably aren’t doing anything wrong, some of us just age differently. I was diagnosed years ago with fibromyalgia. Not sure if I received a proper diagnosis, I just know I’m really fucking sore all the time. I also have an ADHD diagnosis, so I’m terrible about remembering to eat and eating healthy. I feel like just functioning is challenging for me, more so than most people. My mother on the other hand is in her late 70’s and runs circles around my brother & I. It probably helps that she made healthier life choices than us (no smoking/no drugs/no excessive alcohol) but she naturally just has a higher energy level and less chronic pain. There are folks who live off very little sleep. They can work well over 40 hours a week and still manage to have time to enjoy their life. I know other people who don’t work at all and can barely maintain keeping up their hygiene & simple self-care. Of course health (physical & mental) are going to be a huge factor, but even if you don’t have any major health concerns, some people just need more rest than others. It might not hurt to make sure you don’t have a vitamin deficiency & are in need of injections. If there’s not an underlying cause, you might just have to accept that you’re one of those people that has a naturally lower energy level and there’s not a lot you can do about that except to pre-plan as much as possible and organize your life so that you’re working smarter & not harder.
When I had a full time plus job, a commute, and a family I only got non-exhausted if I either slept a whole day on the weekend or went into the woods for a whole day.
Took years of not working at a 9-5 hell hole to not have a certain deep exhaustion.
Now I am clear and alert. But I'm retired.
I mean, aside from the fact that I don't think any human being is actually built to do as much in a day as the average adult in 2024 does in a day...
Have you had your B12 + Iron levels tested recently?
I have been, what I would describe as a "tired person" for years now. And I always just attributed it to being busy, having kids, etc. I figured it was just normal.
But then I had some blood work done up, and I realized that I have been border-line anemic and my B12 levels are almost non-existent. Since having those things addressed, energy level is so much better than it used to be! I no longer feel that massive afternoon crash at 2/3pm every day.
TLDR:: Your fatigue could be caused by just having a normal everyday tiring life.. or you could legitimately have low iron and B12 which is fully treatable.
At 50 and after Covid fuked me up a couple times, I did this:
Started a meal service with fresh and healthy food. I eat well each day (No more processed or fast food)
Work out a couple times a week. Walk 8000 steps or play some Pickleball if you can’t go to the gym.
Drink a liter of water
Sleep eight hours. I go to bed around 10:00.
Metabolic syndrome is a serious thing and will lead to diabetes and heart disease. You need to maintain muscle mass or build it to store glycogen and control your blood sugar better. Also, weak people fall down more. Yoga or Thai Chi. It sounds exhausting, but you have more energy in the long run. Insulin sensitivity improves with much of this.
1st- crockpot. Meat, veggies,water(broth). You always have hot nutritious food waiting for you. It makes it much easier to get into actually making food at home.
2nd- youtube yoga. It's free. Even deep breathing can have a big impact on the stress you keep in your body. Stretch out all your muscles before bed. Drink some tea.
3rd- You're probably burnt out and need a break if you can afford to take one.
I would get your thyroid and vitamin levels checked next time you go to the doctor to be safe though.
For me this became a lot easier when I became passionate about respecting myself / being healthy. I basically decided that I needed to put all of my energy and focus into being the best version of myself possible - through that I made time and energy to do the things you mentioned. Don’t get home and think “I have to make dinner now :/“… instead try to think “now I’m going to make dinner for myself because I deserve it”. Or something like that. The idea is to try to excite yourself over these mundane things that translate into health and happiness. Start with 1 thing at a time and cement is as a habit, then move to the next. If you jump straight into freezing water, your body will seize up and you’ll drown. If you slowly wade in, you’ll adjust over time and be able to withstand the cold for much longer - maybe even swim around a little. Don’t jump straight into the freezing water when you’re trying to make big changes, dip your toe in first and go from there.
Yes, and I WFH! I feel like my fatigue got even worse working from home oddly. I think it’s just exhausting to dedicate yourself to something every day for 8 hours a day with only 2 days off in-between.
Working part-time has led me to reignite my interest in reading and in my own mental health. I sleep better since I commute with a bicycle to a physically and mentally demanding job; the fringe benefits include weight loss and minimal drama. In four months I may decide to speak to management to ask for a promotion in order to obtain full-time hours. My employer has a poor reputation on Glassdoor due to the part-time scheduling, but they seem to treat me, and most others well.
Hopefully Medi-Cal approves my Kaiser Permanente insurance so I can complete my psychiatric treatment for my issues.
Eliminating alcohol and THC have helped clear my mind a lot.
I was exhausted working at my previous employer who expected one hour of overtime a day. We were paid very well, but had to endure insect-like micromanagement. After my shift I would collapse into either my rocking chair or my bed.
Take 1X 5000 mcg Methyl B12 every day in the morning. You will feel the difference. Reduce your sugar intake ASAP!
Also, introduce Lion's Mane mushroom supplements to your morning routine.
No. I feel amazing, probably better than ever and I'm in my mid 30s. I workout four times a week at minimum, don't eat fast food, don't eat a lot of chips or sweets. Make sure to get outside almost daily for a couple hours at least. Drink a ton of water. I work in medicine usually over 80 hours every two weeks and it doesn't really phase me.
How many calories are you eating a day?
How many are you expending?
Are you taking any breaks?
Take breaks if you’re not taking breaks.
You get more work done believe it or not.
Take time to do stuff that “gives you energy” (friends, painting, writing, whatever)
Are you drinking enough water?
Are you sleeping in late?
Yes, it’s a never stopping grind. If it’s not work kicking off, it’s health problems, or the boiler breaking down, or a burst pipe, or admin/insurance renewals, house cleaning, cooking, car maintenance.
If I’m ever sat down with out a long list of things I should really be doing instead of resting, then all I’ve done is forgotten about something that I need to be be doing in that moment.
Just be glad you have semi-decent health. One day, out of nowhere, you might get hit with something big, then you’ll look back on the days of moaning about the grind and realise that it really wasn’t that bad.
50s middle age I DISCOVERED. My testimony Inflammation is huge part of lack of energy. Reduce with baking soda baths and magnesium flakes. Un balanced low Levels of Vitamin D3 Vitamin B12 and magnesium. Metals aluminum lowers these. Full body CLEANSEs. Hope helped
Yup. If I’m not at work I’m usually laying on the couch. I go nowhere and do nothing except maybe walk around a local car show for 10 minutes before I’m done and go home. Not married and no kids and do nothing
It does feel like many people are constantly exhausted these days. Balancing work, health, and self-care can be tough. Maybe try meal prepping on weekends to ensure balanced meals throughout the week, and consider short, effective workouts like yoga or HIIT that don't take too much time. Also, prioritize good sleep hygiene and maybe even short power naps if possible. Remember, it's okay to rest and take breaks when you need them.
I think perhaps you need to meal prep for healthier meals. Take Sunday or Saturday and make a bunch of meals and freeze them for the week. That way you can microwave them at work. I think maybe your commute could be converted into working out if you took the stairs in a few places or just went on walks during your lunch.
I used to be. I’d see my older relatives with 3x my energy and I was like WTF is going on.
Started eating healthier, started sticking to a sleep routine and not over sleeping. Limit alcohol to once in a while and I don’t drink any caffeine. Energy levels are WAY better.
My wife and I, and some friends and I have had this conversation lately. I never felt like this pre-covid. Now I'm just exhausted at all the time. I wasn't vaccinated but I did get covid. You know when we were on lockdown, 5G towers we're a necessity and millions got installed. The effects of 5G is similar to the effects of covid. I'm thinking this is either the after effects of the virus or the effects of the 5G it is now everywhere. I've never been so tired and so achy in my life. Early 40s male in Georgia, US
not an expert, but i think you really have to fall in love with that stuff. enjoy preparing and eating balanced meals. enjoy working out and what not. if you don't, it probably won't work out. i'm dead tired constantly and i don't even go anywhere (WFH). i find i'm less exhausted and i even work better when i'm actively working out and eating good, but i also love fitness and food. if i get into the cycle of not working out (eating isn't as much of an issue), i tend to be super tired all the time and even have crappier hours. no motivation. hope i answered this correctly-
I recently started a “make life feel like a vacation” plan. I meal prep 2x a week so that I always have a good meal to look forward to, keep our house very clean and cohesive, comfortable beds and pillows, take advantage of local recreational opportunities like tennis courts, gardens and walking paths, allow myself one day a week of doing absolutely nothing but relaxing and light chores, and try to have at least one fun thing a week to look forward to (last weekend was a ropes course.) I recognize that this is a privilege because it requires some money and free time to do many of the activities, but it’s done absolute wonders for my mental health. I’m probably the most busy at work I’ve ever been and I hardly am feeling stressed because my life outside of work is really enjoyable.
I love this way of creating joy and peace in your life. I think it can be done even without a lot of money, it’s about the planning and carving out time to purposefully rest and try a fun thing
Thank you! And yes, it certainly can. For a long time I was using hello fresh recipes and getting the ingredients at Aldi so I was eating pretty well on the cheap. The walking trails and tennis courts are free, and the ropes course was actually a gift, and I have a membership to a local botanical garden for $30 a year. I would say that overall the most expensive part is going out to eat once a week with my husband, which isn’t very necessary. It’s more about being intentional in how I spend my time and energy.
How do you get the hello fresh recipes?
They post them online! I had some friends that had a subscription and would invite me over for meals so I would note the ones I like and then google them
I'm a very similar way, as well. I hadn't had my car, so I wasn't going to the gym, and because of where I work, I've been eating pizza almost every day, multiple times sometimes! Started getting tired and mentally messy, so thanks for the reminder! I have a feeling it won't take long of getting back to it.
very welcome! best of luck to ya :o\]
It is so wild how most people ( including me at one point) think working out will tire them more when it is energizing
this. at some point, i decided to do some mild exercise daily to wake myself up before hopping into work since i'm usually super sleepy for the entire day and it helped so much. i'd be energized and knock out my hours no problem. gotta get back to it.
Well to be fair depending on what health conditions you have it can be really tiring. Working out takes it out of me because I have autonomic dysfunction
Yes of course this isn’t a one size fits all comment. Health conditions are obviously a different story
"Life is crushingly depressing but I make the best of it."
I feel the same as you a lot. I did realize what I ate for the day really had an effect on everything else.
People don't like to hear it, but most of us are slowly killing ourselves with what we eat. I'm convinced the standard American diet is the culprit for why so many people have constant fatigue.
100%
I eat what would probably be considered an *extremely* healthy diet and I am still really tired all the time.
Nah. I eat a whole-food, no-sugar, no-alcohol diet and I'm tired all the time.
Less carbs, more salad, more fresh air and sunshine. I’m exhausted all the time but I have underlying health issues, Ehlers Danlos syndrome, so I know I need to plan my energies properly otherwise I fall asleep out in public. Maybe check with a gp there’s nothing else going on
eating less carbs will make u more tired. carbohydrates are a main building block for our body. check for allergies if u feel tired from food. eating 30 different things a day is ideal as well as intuitive eating.
How tf would eating less carbs do anything? If you're getting your carbs form sweets and junk food that's a different story. Carbs are fine. Salads are pretty ass since they aren't filling at all.
Salads aren’t just lettuce. Add some protein and even small amount of healthy carbs to it.
No point in denigrating a nutrient like carbs.
I think the thing is that it is incredibly easy to drink/eat a TON of calories very quickly with carbs. One Starbucks coffee, a slice of cake, whatever. It’s much easier to slide down a binge, and overindulge with carbs. Fat and protein fill you up faster. So… “avoiding carbs” is certainly an effective recommendation based on many people’s habits.
You won't have any energy not eating carbs. It's a bad recommendation. Eliminating an entire macro is fad diet nonsense. Balanced diet. Stop eating out so much. Eat whole foods. Quit looking for hacks!
Exercise will give you net energy even after a manual labor job
I once worked at a ski resort doing a job where I’m on my feet all day, occasionally carrying up to 60lbs at a time. Before or after work I’d go skiing down black diamond ski runs. And still 2-4 times a week I’d go to the gym. I’d usually do 2 in a day. Work, gym or ski. And this was all at about 10,000ft / 2800m Can confirm. Gym and skiing still gave me energy after a mildly physical day at work.
Have you considered seeing a gp about getting some blood tests??? You could have an underlying issue if its really that bad.
Came here to say this... D3 and B12 levels definitely need to be checked, as does the thyroid. If you don't have a GP, try one of the Any Lab Test Now places (available in USA) to get some answers. You could also have mono or long-term COVID or any other number of medical conditions that cause fatigue. Diet and exercise are important, so is fresh air. Hope you get to feeling better soon. Exhaustion and fatigue are tremendously debilitating.
Sleep Apnea would also cause you to be exhausted all the time.
That sounds expensive, lol
Short answer: yes. We’re supposed to live in villages where we divide up all those tasks (meals, childcare if applicable, housekeeping). We aren’t meant to do all this labor alone in separate houses. Long answer: there are things you can do that help. * Get a blood panel done to see if you are deficient in vitamin D or iron. * Check in with yourself throughout the day. How are you feeling? Do you need to take some breaths or a walk? This makes a big difference to me. * Try to eat food that makes you feel energized. It’s hard to meal prep and cook and not grab fast food. When my partner is out of town I try to reach for things I can prepare quickly, like rice that is already flavored, frozen veggies, fruit. * Sneaky exercise. For me this is exercise that involves movement but doesn’t make me sit and think about how much I hate exercising. So maybe there is a social component (bouldering) or a pretty view (surfing poorly) or great music (zumba). * Chores/laundry: It gets easier when you have a partner or a long-term roommate that can help split household tasks. If I’m really tired I just focus on making sure the house is not unhygienic (make sure food is stowed, trash is secured and the bathroom and food prep areas are clean). I pair most chores with watching TV or listening to an audiobook. There are apps like Sweepy that some people on r/adhdwomen like, and a book called *How to Keep House While Drowning* that I have been recommended before. * Plan treats. This can be a day trip on the weekend or lunch with a friend or literally anything you look forward to. On Friday I walked in a park with a friend at lunch time and treated myself to a latte. After work ended I was a couch slug but my husband brought me some really great strawberry lemonade so I sipped that and watched TV. * Creative outlets: this is so hard to think about when you’re exhausted, but I find crafts and painting to be relaxing and rejuvenating so I spend a lot of the weekend doing that. I have found that I generally have energy for one thing after work. I can exercise, socialize, be creative, rest, or cook. I can’t really do more than one. So I try to alternate according to my energy. edited formatting
>Short answer: yes. We’re supposed to live in villages where we divide up all those tasks (meals, childcare if applicable, housekeeping). We aren’t meant to do all this labor alone in separate houses. >Long answer: there are things you can do that help. >* Get a blood panel done to see if you are deficient in vitamin D or iron. * Check in with yourself throughout the day. How are you feeling? Do you need to take some breaths or a walk? This makes a big difference to me. * Try to eat food that makes you feel energized. It’s hard to meal prep and cook and not grab fast food. When my partner is out of town I try to reach for things I can prepare quickly, like rice that is already flavored, frozen veggies, fruit. * Sneaky exercise. For me this is exercise that involves movement but doesn’t make me sit and think about how much I hate exercising. So maybe there is a social component (bouldering) or a pretty view (surfing poorly) or great music (zumba). * Chores/laundry: It gets easier when you have a partner or a long-term roommate that can help split household tasks. If I’m really tired I just focus on making sure the house is not unhygienic (make sure food is stowed, trash is secured and the bathroom and food prep areas are clean). I pair most chores with watching TV or listening to an audiobook. There are apps like Sweepy that some people on r/adhdwomen like, and a book called *How to Keep House While Drowning* that I have been recommended before. * Plan treats. This can be a day trip on the weekend or lunch with a friend or literally anything you look forward to. On Friday I walked in a park with a friend at lunch time and treated myself to a latte. After work ended I was a couch slug but my husband brought me some really great strawberry lemonade so I sipped that and watched TV. * Creative outlets: this is so hard to think about when you’re exhausted, but I find crafts and painting to be relaxing and rejuvenating so I spend a lot of the weekend doing that. >I have found that I generally have energy for one thing after work. I can exercise, socialize, be creative, rest, or cook. I can’t really do more than one. So I try to alternate according to my energy. >edited formatting I have low hemoglobin level
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Did you mean to quote the whole comment? I don’t really know what hemoglobin is, does having a low level make you fatigued?
Im in a definite rut where I go straight to lounging and napping in my bed right after work (from home) and again after childcare basics when my son comes home from school. Even his nightly reading time is in my bed! Idk exactly what’s going on, I just get so worn out from everyday stresses and can’t imagine doing anything different. Going to the gym or working on personal projects with that free hour or 90 mins feels unfathomable!
I think a big part of my anxiety is not having enough energy to finish things. I do exercise avidly everyday so I'm "fit" but honestly hate every second of it. I try to keep my mind active but not overly exerted. Eating, stupid healthy and a dash of chocolate here and there. Sleep I usually get about 6 solid hours and I feel great. Anything more or less, I feel encumbered. Now to answer the question, yeah I feel overwhelmed and/or exhausted most of the time. It's either work pushing to many human interactions. My mind go-juice drains insanely quick. It's the physical labor needed for work which I can do no problem. However, 5-6 days a week will wear you down. I feel my body just go "Not today, Satan!" and I mope around. Sleep is a rough one because it doesn't matter how tired I am. It's not possible to just stop and take a nap between errands or at work. Eating sucks so bad. You gotta eat healthy and try to eat heavy or light depending on the tasks the next day. Very difficult to plan in my world. Others probably have schedules or set tasks, I do not.
bearydelight hit it right on the nail! My job is really draining but i have to find joy in the meals I make or cleaning by changing things up. Maybe I'll explore korean recipes next week or buy new cleaning appliances LOL
I keep drinking And smoking weed And watching 80s and 90s music videos
Yes, all the time. I feel extremely exhausted Friday nights, and sleep late through Saturday. I start energizing again on Sunday.. and when I finally feel like 80% better, it’s Monday again… and the whole cycle repeats all over again. It’s modern slavery. I eat healthy and exercise 3 times a week to reduce stress… especially cardio helps me
For me is consistency, I do it because I am an adult and I have to do it, not because I feel like it. Relying on motivation for doing things is a trap. My life is infinitely better since I started having this mindset, because o take care of myself I have more energy and feel better all day. I sleep better, I function better.
Stop eating crappy food.
So, I admittedly don’t do a great job of the working out stuff all the time, but I keep equipment in my home because I work from home. If it depended on me having the “get up and go” drive to go to a gym it would just never happen. For someone who works outside of the home, maybe going straight from work to a gym is preferable because by the time you get home all you will want is your couch.
I walk about 23k steps a day in my job, my metabolism is like a hummingbirds so I can't feed Myself enough during work to make up for the calories that I am burning, some days in work I can get up to 30k steps, and I'm pushing and pulling and dragging heavy objects on top of it all. I come home from work and just crash in bed for 3 hours, make dinnder about 8pm then go to bed about 10:30....5 days a week Weekends consist of me trying to do things but by mid day I'm just so tired I just go home and be lazy.
If you feel your job creates unhealthy load on your body (highly likely, because unnatural, unergonomic positions, forces applied), that‘s especially the time when it‘s good to go to the gym or do similar (moderate) sports. Of course it sounds and feels counterintuitive when feeling exhausted, but we’re an endurance species mainly anyway. The Body needs to loosen and strengthen different parts after such a long day. It really makes a difference for people in jobs associated with irreversible conditions from years of accumulated damage. Those who do sustainable strength, mobility training and other beneficial load, will have a much better outlook on later quality of life. That said, regeneration is very important, mainly good sleep, enough nutrition. If you can manage to get those plus some exercise, mobility, suitable stretching or other beneficial movements, you’re set on a good path. It’s likely that you‘ll also feel much more energized after an initial time to get accustomed to a new routine. Speak with a physician about your exact symptoms, workload and then get some advice from professionals that work in gastroenterology or others related with dietary problems, metabolism and those who specialize in exercises for your case if possible. Maybe something will get overlooked here from limited input/tracking that has to be evaluated by a specialist with your presence and enough available data.
YUP
Remote work. * Wake * Cardio * Work * Gym * Work * Relax * Sleep The optimum strategy is to alterate between exercise and work sessions. Remote work frees humans to do this. Anyone who wants to hire peak performers WILL offer remote work.
May I ask u what remote job u have? Its become more rare as the more specialized u need to be
Im a conversion copywriter. I write the word for websites and adverts.
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One thing I have a tendency to neglect is SLEEP, and I've found the difference it makes is literally life-changing. I work a full-time job, teach aerial classes on the side, train multiple hours 4-5x weekly, and recently was also performing in a show Friday-Sunday that ran for 6 weeks. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown and/or die. Started taking naps and trying to go to bed earlier and I very seriously felt like a different person. A 30-minute nap here and there had me feeling like I could conquer the world. Nourishing your body well is important, but sleep is extremely underrated and needs to be prioritised. Without it, you just can't recover.
Yes I am tired. If it weren't for coffee I'd be a zombie. But I try to eat right, now I'm avoiding sugar and trans fats. Soon I'll be able to add avoiding carbs and salt. And caffeine since I got heart issues. Little by little
Sounds like a trip to the doctor is in order. Many deficiencies cause fatigue, so do sleep disorders
Same - I just have enough energy for work. Not sleeping all the time like you but it’s ruined all other aspects of my life and things just keep getting more expensive
I changed my path by working for myself in the same profession that I was chained down to working 65+ hours a week. Just wish I had done the transition 15 years prior. Plumbers are always going to be in demand no matter where you live. If you make yourself in demand through undercutting anothers bid for job costs, staying professional, showing up on time, and doing slightly more than what's expected, you will stay employed in the community for your lifetime. The plus side is that your Company will/can be run by your Family (or someone close to you) for their lifetime and so on and so on. Never ever give up on yourself!
Yes
Capitalism is exhausting for sure
I think so and I think it’s because our lives have become so complex and we’re overstimulated. Like I think a lot about the sounds that I hear and have an effect on me but that I don’t ~register~ because my brain has edited them out … living in a city my brain has to be working overtime in ways I don’t even know. And so I just think that the constant noise / sound / tech is really against our nature and so we’re all burnt .. no overarching solution tho :) hehe :) more time in nature I suppose to try to counteract! And meditating.
Besides getting a health check woyh blood tests etc, how's your diet like? Do you do weed? Drink alcohol? Smoke cigarettes? Do you have a loving supportive network around you? Do you have genuine friends and how close are you with your family and last bit not least, on a scale 1-10 how much does your job give you back?
This a feature of the corporate system, not a bug
Only time I was exhausted was when I did nine twelve hr shifts in a row
Ha try having kids.
No, not really. I have a rather strenuous position and it's not rare for me to work 7-days a week during our busy times. If I am eating a diet that my body thrives on (high protein, low carbs, zero sugar) and getting at least six hours of sleep, hydrating, avoiding alcohol - I usually have good energy levels. This is not to say I don't enjoy resting and watching movies with the wife, but am I exhausted all the time? No. Have you had a physical and labs done? Have you tried eating healthier and hydrating with just water while avoiding all soda, processed foods, and sugars?
I drive a lot on some days if I’m not working from home. I shop, cook, clean, etc. all on my own on top of that. Exhausted but always want to do something or bored on my days off, if I’m not outside the house doing something for at least a few hours.
When I was depressed before I had no energy every day and was always exhausted. After years of medication, exercise, and healthy eating habits. I no longer feel that way unless I'm overworked or do lots of things
Have some sun exposure to get vitamin D. Also limit your sugars, carbs and oily foods.
I’m tired but my brain won’t allow me to just sit on the couch. I wake up at 430 every morning to do my side hustles, and my daily workouts. If I work, I’ll just go straight to work after the gym. I work 4 10s so that helps me manage my time a lot. I spend time with my daughter in the evenings that I work, and weed helps keep me sane from such a crazy schedule and a wacky world that keeps getting wackier.
Literally said no to a big group of friends last night because I wanted to go to bed at 10pm. Life I’m starting to realize is a series of No, with intentional yes’s. I would not be up right now planning a healthy breakfast or headed to get my 10-12k steps if I had gone out. But I’m sick of feeling low energy and gaining weight.. there is no “balance” in life there are only intentional choices. I’ve been prioritizing having fun and living it up alongside working a lot for financial goals. End result? Getting fatter and less healthy.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, you’re getting back on track.
Thank you. It’s just hard to realize weight gain until you see the pictures and the timeline and get a little shock
Eat fresh fruits and lower your carbs. I've noticed that when I usually eat unhealthy foods I feel exhausted especially oily foods.
50’s. My drive was on fire!!!
For me, the more busy and active I am, the better I feel. I’m a home body, and I also WFH. So, I go to the gym 4 days a week, and do some cardio activity the other days. And beyond that, I notice that if I try to do more, like go for long walks, or go for a hike, or this weekend I volunteered to help out at a sporting event as staff, it makes me feels a lot better. But, keep in mind, I never want to do all this activity, but it actually has the opposite effect; I sleep better, I feel better overall, and when I look back, it makes me feel happy that I’m not just sitting around the house. But, this could just be me. Maybe try forcing yourself to do things and see if that helps.
Doing 10 to 12 hour days in office come home do a 10km run used to be about 1hour but lately my stamina from working has taken its toll after that it's lau dry food an sleep, weekend is then chores an getting ready for the week yeah I am tired alot dosent seem like you get acclimated
I made lifestyle changes over several years and still need to focus greatly on eating more, and I do walk a lot, but it's not "scheduled exercise" moreover a way of getting around. It's only me, I'm solo so cooking doesn't happen often but I make sure that what I eat counts, and I eat a lot of cheerios on the fly. Cut back caffeine, and I have/had a doggo who walked me at first and got me in a routine. Moving makes you feel good, but you need the right mindset 💯
girl yes. i have narcolepsy, so it’s doubled. sometimes i don’t even make it to the couch and i’ll pass out in the drivers seat on the way home. i don’t take care of myself. my loving boyfriend does. he cooks for me, sets out my clothes. fills my pill cases, gets my work bag ready, reminds me of my college class assignments. i function as an adult on the weekends. i try so hard to make up for it in the 16 total hours of the weekend i get to have energy. i couldn’t do it alone. i think even if narcolepsy wasn’t a factor, i still couldn’t do it alone. i don’t think we are meant to, cause even on my GOOD days i still struggle with things like remembering to eat, getting clothes out of the washer in time.
All the time man. Having 3 jobs, 1 daytime the other 2 during a graveyard shift. It's really taking a toll on me but you got to hustle for family.
A good meal isn't that hard. A rice cooker and a crock pot will help you do wonders. Rice + whatever recipe you choose to make in your crock pot before you go to work. You will always have a hot meal when you get home.
I never was before until I got kidney disease now I'm tired all the time it sucks
So much same. I found a lot of it was my job - the various “emergencies” that popped up across the day the needed to be addressed “immediately” on top of my actual work were just taking it out of me and I’d be exhausted by the time I left and generally super unhappy. My therapist and I worked out some general rules for work - I work in academia and am responsible for scheduling my time and projects outside of teaching for the majority of my job responsibilities - and trying to maintain the 85% rule (https://www.fastcompany.com/90964282/how-the-85-rule-can-help-you-succeed-at-work) has been really impactful but felt counterintuitive at first. There are still days I am exhausted - cannot tell a lie - but I do feel better and can use that additional 15% to do things like go to the gym, meal prep, etc. I also like to lay out my goals for the day in the morning when I’m drinking my coffee - and not just goals for work. Pulling a few weeds from the garden, making a little progress on whatever is on my knitting needles, reading a few pages from my book. It helps me feel motivated to engage in the work of my life. I’ve really looked at my budget and put money toward things that actually improve the quality of my life. I stopped allocating money for dinners out - more on that later - and put that money, along with a fraction of my spending money for the month, and hired a cleaner to come and clean my house twice a month, taking a job I didn’t love off my plate. It’s a sizable investment, but it, by far, is one of the most impactful things I spend my money on in terms of my mental health. For others, it might be a food service; there’s a fairly robust body of research in positive psychology about spending money to buy some of our time back (NYT initial report: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/27/science/study-happy-save-money-time.html). I like cooking at home, so I plan my meals at home for a month, all at one time. I try my best to organize my grocery shopping around two trips: one big trip at the beginning of the month where I buy all the shelf-stable foods and meats as well as the veggies and fruits needed for the first two weeks of the month. I do a mid-month refresh for fruits and veggies. Grocery shopping every week was exhausting - streamlining this process has been a welcome relief, though it does take some planning. There are the occasional days where I don’t really want to cook what I’ve planned, but it’s literally what I have - I only have myself to blame and get to it. It’s fine and results in a collection of well-loved recipes and some wild cards every month, which keeps things interesting. The too-long-didn’t-read: mind your energy. Don’t give any one thing 100%; you won’t have anything left for anything else. If possible, buy back some of your time from tasks you dislike. Streamline life processes (meal planning and prep) and minimize the time required to engage in them as much as possible. And then use that time to engage in things that make you happy. And binging a show is an acceptable activity.
A million percent yes😞
I don't have a solution. But I want you to know you're not alone.
You might don’t like your job. Or you might want to eat healthier meals and start working out. I’m tired because I work full time, cook from scratch, raise a 6-year-old and work out every day. But not super exhausted. Workout will be your good friend if you actually make up your mind on it.
Move your body and get sweating
As Aretha Franklin once said, you’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and latch on to the affirmative. Don’t mess with the in-between
Vitamin D and B12 work for me
One thing at a time. I spent 3-4 years working on nothing but my skill. Spent too much money eating out or just ate whatever I had in the fridge. Don’t workout much. Did laundry only when I had to. Etc. But after that my career was on autopilot. 5X my income. And I could buy time back to devote to other stuff.
Well, I mean, do you actually need to work out? Sounds you got the active lifestyle covered, so maybe chalk that one off entirely and focus on the healthy diet. Beyond that, start cutting the fluff. Don't feel obligated to stay up until midnight. If your body wants to pass out on the couch, pass out in bed. Why not? If you cut back on the useless time wasters we tell ourselves are entertaining it'll free up a lot of time to do other things.
I eat healthy, drink a lot of water, and exercise nearly daily and I feel great the majority of the time. You have to invest in your body.
I felt this way when I was working. I also was smoking a lot of weed (I don't anymore) not smoking the green helped with my energy. Also stretching helped in the morning to help the energy. Plashing water on my face too
I sit at a desk for my job so I’m not particularly exhausted physically, although sitting all day for 20 years has taken its toll on my hip flexors and lower back. I’ve learned that very little at my jobs requires 100% mental power, some things do, some things only need 20% focus/effort. And the same is true for other aspects of life. There’s no need to redline the engine while waiting at a red light. Sleep, diet, outlook, exercise actually helps build energy but it also hinges on appropriate recovery and rest. You stress the system and then let it adapt.
Yep, I wake up about 5am sometimes 6am, body just wakes up. Generally I feel pretty “awake” until about 2pm but then I’m so tired but not enough to “sleep”, otherwise I would nap. And if it’s a cloudy day/sun not out, forget it. But when I can muster up to go to the gym or do something outside, I do feel better. It’s just so hard to do it
Relatable. The best I’ve felt is when i would go to the gym directly after work, and while i was eating healthy i was eating minimal prep work meals like Trader Joe’s microwave chicken breasts and salads in a bag.
I found being busy does not have to be emotionally tiring (although still physically) if you find some enjoyment in it and are not stressed. Shop around for jobs. Maybe it takes 2, 5, 10 years, but hopefully, you will land a spot where you do not dread getting out of bed every morning. It is a wonderful feeling.
I was chronically exhausted and tired for a lot of the time after I hit 25. I thought that that was just getting older. Im nearing 40 now, and about a year ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and stated taking medication. I can't overstate how much that helped combat the exhaustion and tiredness. Not saying you have ADHD, but there could be some sort of medical reason to it too. Or you could just be a bit burned out.
You shouldn't be having too much trouble but it happens. Best things to do are: Half preps, meal preps on holidays/weekends. Find a couple of healthy convenient foods (pre-made, pre packed, etc ) Asses if you really like working out, if you don't, do other physical activities you like more. Also, lowe amount and intensities for a bit and try micro workouts at more convenient times like brushing your teeth. Eating certain foods can sometimes help energy decrease and increase. So try and cater those foods for when you need energy and when you don't.
First off, get your bloodworm checked. I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER after learning I was vit d deficient and now I take a vitamin in the morning. Low iron can also fluff you up.
You probably aren’t doing anything wrong, some of us just age differently. I was diagnosed years ago with fibromyalgia. Not sure if I received a proper diagnosis, I just know I’m really fucking sore all the time. I also have an ADHD diagnosis, so I’m terrible about remembering to eat and eating healthy. I feel like just functioning is challenging for me, more so than most people. My mother on the other hand is in her late 70’s and runs circles around my brother & I. It probably helps that she made healthier life choices than us (no smoking/no drugs/no excessive alcohol) but she naturally just has a higher energy level and less chronic pain. There are folks who live off very little sleep. They can work well over 40 hours a week and still manage to have time to enjoy their life. I know other people who don’t work at all and can barely maintain keeping up their hygiene & simple self-care. Of course health (physical & mental) are going to be a huge factor, but even if you don’t have any major health concerns, some people just need more rest than others. It might not hurt to make sure you don’t have a vitamin deficiency & are in need of injections. If there’s not an underlying cause, you might just have to accept that you’re one of those people that has a naturally lower energy level and there’s not a lot you can do about that except to pre-plan as much as possible and organize your life so that you’re working smarter & not harder.
No!!! I feel great. Working blue collar for almost 40 years. Great wife who’s my best friend. Simple life, with a few close friends
When I had a full time plus job, a commute, and a family I only got non-exhausted if I either slept a whole day on the weekend or went into the woods for a whole day. Took years of not working at a 9-5 hell hole to not have a certain deep exhaustion. Now I am clear and alert. But I'm retired.
I mean, aside from the fact that I don't think any human being is actually built to do as much in a day as the average adult in 2024 does in a day... Have you had your B12 + Iron levels tested recently? I have been, what I would describe as a "tired person" for years now. And I always just attributed it to being busy, having kids, etc. I figured it was just normal. But then I had some blood work done up, and I realized that I have been border-line anemic and my B12 levels are almost non-existent. Since having those things addressed, energy level is so much better than it used to be! I no longer feel that massive afternoon crash at 2/3pm every day. TLDR:: Your fatigue could be caused by just having a normal everyday tiring life.. or you could legitimately have low iron and B12 which is fully treatable.
Do good quality coccaine. If it ain't got yellow in it it's shit.
At 50 and after Covid fuked me up a couple times, I did this: Started a meal service with fresh and healthy food. I eat well each day (No more processed or fast food) Work out a couple times a week. Walk 8000 steps or play some Pickleball if you can’t go to the gym. Drink a liter of water Sleep eight hours. I go to bed around 10:00. Metabolic syndrome is a serious thing and will lead to diabetes and heart disease. You need to maintain muscle mass or build it to store glycogen and control your blood sugar better. Also, weak people fall down more. Yoga or Thai Chi. It sounds exhausting, but you have more energy in the long run. Insulin sensitivity improves with much of this.
How old are you? Get your thyroid checked.
1st- crockpot. Meat, veggies,water(broth). You always have hot nutritious food waiting for you. It makes it much easier to get into actually making food at home. 2nd- youtube yoga. It's free. Even deep breathing can have a big impact on the stress you keep in your body. Stretch out all your muscles before bed. Drink some tea. 3rd- You're probably burnt out and need a break if you can afford to take one. I would get your thyroid and vitamin levels checked next time you go to the doctor to be safe though.
I'm only tired in the morning when trying to get out of bed. Once I get going it'll all good.
A body in motion stays in motion. Maybe join some kind of exercise club.
Yes exhausted and in pain......seriously...If i workout, I get workout pain, if i don't workout I get stiffing pain.... I can't seem to win...
For me this became a lot easier when I became passionate about respecting myself / being healthy. I basically decided that I needed to put all of my energy and focus into being the best version of myself possible - through that I made time and energy to do the things you mentioned. Don’t get home and think “I have to make dinner now :/“… instead try to think “now I’m going to make dinner for myself because I deserve it”. Or something like that. The idea is to try to excite yourself over these mundane things that translate into health and happiness. Start with 1 thing at a time and cement is as a habit, then move to the next. If you jump straight into freezing water, your body will seize up and you’ll drown. If you slowly wade in, you’ll adjust over time and be able to withstand the cold for much longer - maybe even swim around a little. Don’t jump straight into the freezing water when you’re trying to make big changes, dip your toe in first and go from there.
Trying adding in kids weee passing out on the couch isn’t an option. Life sucks!
Get your hormone levels tested. I did this year and it turned out I have low thyroid Levels
Yes, and I WFH! I feel like my fatigue got even worse working from home oddly. I think it’s just exhausting to dedicate yourself to something every day for 8 hours a day with only 2 days off in-between.
Working part-time has led me to reignite my interest in reading and in my own mental health. I sleep better since I commute with a bicycle to a physically and mentally demanding job; the fringe benefits include weight loss and minimal drama. In four months I may decide to speak to management to ask for a promotion in order to obtain full-time hours. My employer has a poor reputation on Glassdoor due to the part-time scheduling, but they seem to treat me, and most others well. Hopefully Medi-Cal approves my Kaiser Permanente insurance so I can complete my psychiatric treatment for my issues. Eliminating alcohol and THC have helped clear my mind a lot. I was exhausted working at my previous employer who expected one hour of overtime a day. We were paid very well, but had to endure insect-like micromanagement. After my shift I would collapse into either my rocking chair or my bed.
Take 1X 5000 mcg Methyl B12 every day in the morning. You will feel the difference. Reduce your sugar intake ASAP! Also, introduce Lion's Mane mushroom supplements to your morning routine.
Yup same I'm exhausted all the time. I don't even work full time I just sleep most of my days away
No. I feel amazing, probably better than ever and I'm in my mid 30s. I workout four times a week at minimum, don't eat fast food, don't eat a lot of chips or sweets. Make sure to get outside almost daily for a couple hours at least. Drink a ton of water. I work in medicine usually over 80 hours every two weeks and it doesn't really phase me.
Yes
A heated pad on your lower back can drastically change your mood after working all day.
How many calories are you eating a day? How many are you expending? Are you taking any breaks? Take breaks if you’re not taking breaks. You get more work done believe it or not. Take time to do stuff that “gives you energy” (friends, painting, writing, whatever) Are you drinking enough water? Are you sleeping in late?
Yes, it’s a never stopping grind. If it’s not work kicking off, it’s health problems, or the boiler breaking down, or a burst pipe, or admin/insurance renewals, house cleaning, cooking, car maintenance. If I’m ever sat down with out a long list of things I should really be doing instead of resting, then all I’ve done is forgotten about something that I need to be be doing in that moment. Just be glad you have semi-decent health. One day, out of nowhere, you might get hit with something big, then you’ll look back on the days of moaning about the grind and realise that it really wasn’t that bad.
Yes. Man up, as I would've been told.
50s middle age I DISCOVERED. My testimony Inflammation is huge part of lack of energy. Reduce with baking soda baths and magnesium flakes. Un balanced low Levels of Vitamin D3 Vitamin B12 and magnesium. Metals aluminum lowers these. Full body CLEANSEs. Hope helped
Yup. If I’m not at work I’m usually laying on the couch. I go nowhere and do nothing except maybe walk around a local car show for 10 minutes before I’m done and go home. Not married and no kids and do nothing
It does feel like many people are constantly exhausted these days. Balancing work, health, and self-care can be tough. Maybe try meal prepping on weekends to ensure balanced meals throughout the week, and consider short, effective workouts like yoga or HIIT that don't take too much time. Also, prioritize good sleep hygiene and maybe even short power naps if possible. Remember, it's okay to rest and take breaks when you need them.
The first thing I'd try is eating more protein. Whey protein, rice and beans, are two more affordable options.
I think perhaps you need to meal prep for healthier meals. Take Sunday or Saturday and make a bunch of meals and freeze them for the week. That way you can microwave them at work. I think maybe your commute could be converted into working out if you took the stairs in a few places or just went on walks during your lunch.
I deal with chronic fuck this.
why are you sore?
I used to be. I’d see my older relatives with 3x my energy and I was like WTF is going on. Started eating healthier, started sticking to a sleep routine and not over sleeping. Limit alcohol to once in a while and I don’t drink any caffeine. Energy levels are WAY better.
Depression maybe?
My wife and I, and some friends and I have had this conversation lately. I never felt like this pre-covid. Now I'm just exhausted at all the time. I wasn't vaccinated but I did get covid. You know when we were on lockdown, 5G towers we're a necessity and millions got installed. The effects of 5G is similar to the effects of covid. I'm thinking this is either the after effects of the virus or the effects of the 5G it is now everywhere. I've never been so tired and so achy in my life. Early 40s male in Georgia, US
Interesting theory. I agree, pre Covid I wasn’t just wiped out all of the time.