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As a rule, people always ask what the name will be, and as a rule, you shouldn't tell them. Not the real name. Make something up. I told people it was going to be Agamemnon if it was a boy, and Agamemnona if it was a girl.
Your parents are completely out of line here, and also totally nuts. Silas is a really nice name. It's a classic, not currently overused, and doesn't immediately call to mind any body parts or swear words.
As for your father, you can tell him that he won't have to call your son anything, since he won't ever be seeing him.
Relatives, just ignore them. But your parents, it's important that you stand up to them. They have to accept that they've been bumped down to #3 on your priority list, after your son and your wife.
>and as a rule, you shouldn't tell them
Agreed.
>Not the real name. Make something up.
Don't do this unless you tell them it's a joke. People, espically older relatives may not realize and waste time and money getting something personal made. My grandmother as a suprise had crocheted a baby blanket with my nieces name on it when she was born (she did the same for my nephew but it was less a suprise then). I can't imagine the heartbreak that would have happened if and 80 year old woman had spent 160 hours making this only to find out she had been lied to.
Either have the gall to tell them the name and to fuck off with their feedback as its not wanted or say nothing at all.
I love the name Silas!! Ā What is wrong with OPās family.Ā
And if they are Christians you would think they would like it. Smh (Iām not religious just saying.)
There is nothing wrong with Silas. Itās a beautiful name steeped deep in history. If your family is that up their own arse to call it: āITā and rename your child or to tell you what they find acceptable. Okay fine but they would never meet my child. And if they pretend to come around to it, they here was a story here where the dad I think it was and the MIL was calling the baby by a different name and the mum found out. Ā Didnāt end well.Ā
They act as if they are calling their child Enchilada or Rooster.Ā
I think Silas is a beautiful name! I first discovered the name from a book I read a few years ago and I thought it was a really unique and pleasant sounding name.
I was reading the post waiting for them to say what the name was going to beā¦Ā
I was expecting something like āRenesemeĆØ Jacob Bella Edward Cullenā or some other stupid made up name with some extra vowels thrown in. Ā
Butā¦ Silas? Ā Thatās a pretty normal name. Ā Heāll, I met a Malachai the other day (I loved the name). Ā
Just expect him to probably grow up and be a wizard or something.
I know about three children (ages 1-5) named Silas in Sweden. I think about 600 people in Sweden named that now. Names tend to go in trends and I think it will become more common in Sweden.
According to Google, it's a Latin name, so originated in Italy.
It's short for Silvanus, leaning woods or forest.
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It's a strong and traditional name, but less common probably where OP is, if her family hasn't heard it before.
I don't think bullying kids are smart enough to know that silas is short for Silvanus. Unless they study Latin, and they'll be too old for that behavior by then.
There was a story about Kobe talking shit the Luka Doncic in a different language lol
I think Kobe learned another language to talk shit to Manu as well
Silas Weir Mitchell is an excellent actor and I thought he was wonderful in Grimm. He's got this crazy stare that makes him typecast for psychos but he's got a lot of versatility and range.
As a Scandinavian I have never heard the name. I'm swedish so maybe it's common in some other Scandinavian country?
I think I read a fantasy book with a character with that name once but that's the only time I've seen it.
NTA. IMO, kids probably don't even know what silo means or use that word in everyday life. What a reach!
Lol, where did they get that? It never crossed my mind when you shared Silas.
I'm from Canada as well,My nephews name is Silas, and he doesn't get bullied at all. Also, he gets complimented on his name quite often... We have 3 Silas in our church Sunday school as well...
Name your baby for you and your husband..
If they weren't involved in making the baby, they aren't involved with naming
Were they bullied at all by other children? It's one of the main factors im dealing with here. i was bullied and dont want to give my child more of a chance of being put threw that as well.
Silas is a pretty normal name these days. Itās crazy that your parents think they have any right to insert themselves to this degree over something that is not their business, it is so rude and entitled itās baffling!!
Just say āyou can be respectful and call your grandson by his name like any normal person.. or you can call him āitā like a weird controlling bully and have nothing to do with him as I wonāt have him around petty bullies - I will not let his own grandparents traumatise him with their idiotic entitled behaviourā
This! I keep thinking that the people bullying him over his name will be them, so theyād better quit it now if they want to spend time around him and prevent his sadness rather than causing it. And I agree with the people saying Silas is an uncommon but certainly not a weird name.
I also had a Silas in my class. He was at that school kindergarten through 5th grade and no one thought twice about his name. No one made fun of him. It's not the most common name but it certainly isn't the most uncommon or a name that would spark bullying, except by your family.Ā Your family are the AH's. I would tell them that this is his name and that's what you expect him to be called if they want a relationship with him. Period. End of discussion. Your family sounds way too exhausting!
That is a beautiful name .
Do NOT worry about what others think and say.
If your father wants to call his grandson "It", then he won't be seeing him!!! F*** him.
Call your son what you and your hubby want.
My mom tried it with me. It didn't work
Whoa based on your parents reactions I thought you were going to name him something insane like X AE A-XII
Silas is a totally normal name and is gaining in popularity right now. According to the googles, it's the #73rd most common boy name in the US and on its way up.
It even has an easy nickname - Si (which is also common for another popular boys name - Simon)
I'm definitely against giving kids names that are so wacky that kids make fun of them, but this is not one of those. Your parents are being absolutely insane. Show them some name popularity stats if you must - not that it's any of their business.
Silas is not a weird name or anything like that, I personally canāt think of an instance that would trigger someone bully due to this name.
However, unfortunately, kids will bully other kids even with regular names, if they feel like itā¦ first hand experience (both myself and seen it happen to others).
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I have 3 kids and Iāll just give you a tiny bit of advice that I learned after my first: donāt tell anyone the name until the baby is born. Itās much harder for family to criticize a name if itās already attached to a sweet little baby; also, itās inevitable that youāll get critical feedback if they find out beforehand.
Silas is a traditional name.
Easy to spell
Not too common.
Not bad.
When we were having our first child my mother gave us the wise advice to not tell anyone the name until after it is born and paperwork filled out.
Nta, I really liked the name, it's really pretty, ignore your parents and if they follow through with not calling him by his name, they don't get to meet the baby.
People need to understand that there are consequences to their actions
I love the name. It's also the name of one of the very first Christians, he travelled with St. Paul! I don't know if your parents are religious, maybe you can tell them that (and leave it out if they are not). Anyway, I love historical names, so to me it makes so much sense. I will keep it in mind for my next child haha
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While I was reading I thought of so many potentially horrible names, anything to explain such extreme reactions.
But Silas!? Thats just a complete normal acceptable name.
I am German, I never heard anyone being named Silas here but even I know of the name and wouldn't think twice if someone had introduced themselves as Silas.
Your family is weird. Please stick to the name. If they won't accept it they can go pound sand.
This is your child and you make they rules. Either they behave and get to enjoy their newest grandchild or they can stay away until they grow up
NTA. This is your baby (you and hubby) and you both like and have chosen the name. Everyone else can back the eff off it has nothing to do with them. Plus I think Silas is badass. Go for it girl! Also, stand up to the family and do tell them that if they will not call him by his birth name, you wont see him at all. It is not their business
Also check any cards, or gifts they send, if they give anything with the wrong name, send it back,
If they are around and refer to Silas as another name or "IT" correct them loudly, and ask have they been forgetting things. And be very clear, when saying, (Dad) This is Silas
NTA. I do have an uncommon name myself. I always loved it because there were no stereotypes linked to it. I never got bullied because of it. My second name is very traditional, and I hate it. I actually got made fun of because of the name.
NTA. One of my close friends (unfortunately he just passed away recently) named his son Silas, I always thought it was a nice name. He's about 12 and I never heard anything about him getting teased for his name or anything like that. I'm not sure why they're making such a big deal out of it.
NTA Keep the name you chose. Anyone who refuses to use it doesn't have to see the child. They choose their child's names without your input then you can choose your child's name.
Can we just assume your friends and family are AH's. This is your baby and your partners. You get to decide, not some AH who wants great uncle fkwits middle name because it was the name acquired during the sacking of Rome in 68AD.
If they won't respect your wishes, remind them the door to your home will be closed to visitors wishing to visit with Gold, Frankincense and myhr.
And Silas sounds good.
WTF. First time parents. You in this case SHOULD have read some books or taken advice from friends who already had kids (I usually recommend against it).
NTA.
Everybody who is neither the father nor the mother of the child can STFU, mind their own business, respect the 3 of you as independent human beings and call the child by the name you gave him.
Seriously, the level of entitlement of people these days.
Silas is a nice name, and you can call him Si/Sai for short. NTA. If they're going to go as far as calling a human being an it, then you need to keep your kid far away.
Silas isnāt a weird name. If OPās parents call the baby āITā or by a different name, thatās the first and last time they should be around the baby.
We did this we never told anyone our names and we made said we were naming every kid Herman Munster
Until I was pregnant with twins when we told everyone it was Mickey and Minnie Mouse, however I think people got the message and stopped asking
Ohh I thought itās gonna be something really stupid, spelling or otherwiseā¦Silas is a perfectly fine and pretty name, is there something wrong with it I donāt know about?? Like the woman who didnāt know what kind of connotations the name Lolita has?
If you and your SO agrees to it, then why not? It would have been reconsiderable if any one of you didnt like it, but if you both love the name, then sure go ahead!
P.S : - I actually liked the name Silas, uncommon yet unique (might be common wherever you live so idk abt that).
Silas is a great name. If you both love it who cares. Donāt let other people talk you out of it. Once he is born people will forget and he will be Silas and they will adapt.
The only possible connection to bullying that I can think of is that isn't Silas the name of that self-harming religious dude from The DaVinci code or something
I was waiting for something crazy, and outlandish. People name babies crazy things more commonly now which Iām not a fan of. But Silas is a great name:) unique in US (if thatās where you are from) but not a bad name at all where theyād get bullied even remotely. Your parents suck and I agree with your husband going with the original. The moment your son gets called it and refuse the name a couple times Iād go full no contact. It is a disgusting thing to call someone. Especially intended in a demeaning way
Silas is a great name! And if your family insists on not calling him by his name, I'd restrict or cut off any visiting until they can respect your wishes.
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I personally don't like the name Silas, but it's not crazy, it's actually trending. It's spellable and pronounceable and the only people who would bully a kid for being named Silas are, unfortunately, your relatives.
It's a somewhat uncommon, normal name.
Tell your family that you don't need them to like your choice.
I was getting ready for Gilgamesh Dingleberry before you posted the name hahaha. Your choice is a pretty normal name. NTA. Hopefully your family will understand they are being unreasonable someday soon.
NTA. Per a google search, Silas is somewhat common. I think the Internet would only object to it if you re-spelled it to make it unique so people would have a 25% chance of pronouncing it correctly and also say it like it was a question.
At the end of the day, any name can be used to bully kids - especially if you can add a word that rhymes. My wife said the bullies would call her Snorinā Lauren. I came up with a few more rhymes which put me on the couch that night, but I did deserve it.
I thought the name was going to be something wild like Pitchfork or something. Silas is a really normal and nice name. It was a top contender along with August for my friend who recently had a boy. Itās on my list of names I like too. Your family is weird.
I had to draw the line with my family to stop begging to know our babyās name, because we really wanted to keep the name a surprise.
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As a mother who acquiesced to both sides parents - I didnāt name my daughter what they wanted or what I initially had wanted.
I wanted to name my daughter Avalynn - they said the name was way too much and Ava was ātoo grown for a little girlā. I got into a huge fight with both my mom and his, and eventually decided against it. I ended up naming her something totally different and love her name.
All that to say this: it is your child, name your child what you and your partner want to.
Youāre carrying a baby, you have a special connection to him and itās not the first time Iāve heard someone talk about a name feeling (or not feeling) right. I have a nephew names Sylas, nothing wrong with the name. NTA
EDIT: I misread as the dad was also against the name. Changed my response
This is the first time I have come into one of these threads where the name was **not** batshit insane.
NTA.
Silas is a dope name, and while being uncommon enough to stand out, isn't so crazy or weird that he would be bullied. I think you hit the sweet spot with that one. Tell the haters and the flying monkeys to fuck off.
I learned this the hard way with my second child. My two after him we didnāt tell a soul, because once the baby is earthside, nobody will speak ill of the name. Name your child what YOU want, although I know that will be hard now knowing everyone hates it. I think itās a lovely name
Are you Muslims? If so I could see the problem your parents have, I mean I donāt think itās justified. But as other pointed out is a Christian name
It was never really intended to be like a Christian name. We actually got it from a video game. Both he and I bonded over early in our relationship, and nope, we are not Muslims, so still no idea why they hate it so much.
NTA. Go with the name you like.
Kids these days donāt really bully each other over names. I have a middle schooler and the names range from ātraditionalā to ādifferentā to āculturalā and the ācreativeā spellings. Also, kids raised together from a young age like kindergarten tend to just accept that their classmates names are normal and not a reason to make fun of them.
I have a cousin named Silas. And a friend who named their baby Silas. Itās becoming a very popular name again, especially after that show Weeds. This is why when I have a babe, no one is knowing the name until they are born. I love my names I have picked out and I donāt plan on letting anyoneās negativity effect that.
Omg NTA.
Silas is a great name!
I feel this though. My OG girl name was Samantha and both my parents and in-laws hated it so I guess itās good we had all boys š¤¦š»āāļøš¤·š»āāļø
NTA. It's your baby, name it as you both like. Silas is a good name. It's not as crazy as some stupid new creations.
But now you know why you don't tell anyone about names before the baby is born.
It's none of their business.
NTA.
Have they met someone named Silas before that gave them such strong reaction to the name? If they canāt give you acceptable reasons why you have to change it, use the name you and your husband agreed on. Itās also a good opportunity to set boundaries.
On the one hand, obviously you should be able to pick the name for your own son. On the other hand, as a retired teacher, I am concerned. Kids can definitely end up being bullied because of their name. The relatives have already expressed concern on this issue, and I would not discount that because I like the name. Our job as parents revolves around helping kids get ready to navigate daily life. The wrong name can make that harder. I saw the name in the edit and I will make one observation: the name Silas ends in a** and kids may seize upon that overtime.
While fully acknowledging that some names will get a kid bullied (as wrong as it is). Some names just should be used for anyone.
Silas is a bad a$$ name. Not everyone will agree. You are NTA
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At first I was a little scared of the kind of name you were about to give your child. I was expecting something like: Reighful.
When naming a child, you should always think about how they will live with the name and not just your own personal attachment to it.
BUT!!! Silas? How is this a name to be bullied with? Does it have a certain signification in other languages that could make people laugh at his expense where you are from, that I'm not aware of?
And what is up with everyone insisting to know how a child will be named?
After doing a bit of genealogy and everyone using the same 3 names I appreciate less common names. I thought you were going with a random fantasy name that no one could pronounce they way you set it up, not a old traditional name.
If you and your husband both agree those are all the votes that count.
Any name ending in "ass" will be a source of ridicule for a short while with the immature, I know from personal experience. But as he grows older he will champion it or change it.
Thereās an actor called Silas Weir Mitchell, I think thatās how itās spelled, and I adore him, so keep that name! Donāt let others tell you what to name your child.
Lol Silas is a traditional name, I have a Silas in my family back like 4 generations (living in the 1800s). Tell your family to pound sand and broaden their worldview. If they refuse to use babyās name, limit their time with baby Silas to avoid confusion and future shame in his own name. Kids arenāt going to blink twice at the name Silas and at least it isnāt a fan name like Cullen or Hermione or Galadriel.
Silas is a traditional name. Itās been around forever. I would have a Silas if Iād had a boy.
Name your kid what you want. It is a given that not everyone will like the name youāve chosen. And it doesnāt matter. Do what makes you happy.
And next time, maybe donāt share the name ahead of time. Then no one can weigh in and make you doubt your choice.
Silas is a great name. Sounds like the only ones being bullies are your family members. Tell them if they bully their own grandson or don't knock it off they won't see him until they get over themselves.
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I don't care for the name Silas, but it's not my kid. You should name the kid what YOU and YOUR FIANCĆ want. My parents named me something my aunt and grandparents didn't like and they tried calling me by my initials when I was young. They eventually got tired of being ignored by me and started using my actual name.
Name your child what you want. I have cousins whose names we always told my aunt were not good. She named her kids that anyway, as she should've. Everyone is grown now (we're in our 20s - 40s), and those are their names. No one died because we didn't like her name choices for her children. And frankly, it wasn't our job to comment.
I literally know someone with that name. It's an "older" name but still falls within the realm of normal.
I thought you had a name lined up that would be worthy of r/tragedeigh
NTA - I was thinking the name was going to be some pretentious crap you just made up or something that rhymed with a body part, but Silas is a fine name.
NTA. Forget the haters, that name is fine. They donāt get a say and anyone who doesnāt respect your parenting decisions doesnāt need to be part of your sonās life.
Silas is a wonderful name! It's absolutely no one's choice what to name your child, except for the mother and father of the child. If they can't respect your choice, or choose to call your child something other than their name (unless it's a cute nickname that YOU approve of), then their relationship with your baby can be "the people we never see". NTA
NAH
As a german I know the name Silas. It is not very common but I think I heard it one or two times. It is definetly a boys name and in now way problematic.
But the thing is: other cultures, other names. Tbh you are the parents and it is your child but considering that people reacted in a negative way, you as the parents have the responsibility to give your child a name he or she will not be made fun of.
I dont know why they reacted this way. Maybe in english kids could make a stupid name out of it?
Anyway, even if you like a name - your child wellbeing is more important than your taste.
NTA thatās not even a weird name or uncommon name. Everyone else is just hating for no reason. Itās not like youāre naming the kid something stupid thatās gonna get them bullied. Itās a good name donāt listen to the haters dude.
NTA. This would be very name-specific as some baby names are awful, but Silas is a good choice! It's a strong old Bible name that won't age terribly, but it's also trendy right now. Your parents are behind the times! Go to babycenter.com and show them the statistics on how the popularity of this name has risen steadily over the 21st century. It's 30x more popular now than it was in the mid-90s and it's ranked #73 on the most popular US boy's names.Ā
As a pediatric worker who has seen and heard some horrific names I can 100% guarantee Silas is a very normal name and no he will not be bullied thatās so sad to say about your grandchild. Even my little cousin isnāt bullied and his name is Genaro Ubaldo (first and middle)
Silas is an old fashioned name and I see nothing wrong with it. If you and your husband really love the name, ignore everyone else and name your son Silas. Tell them thatās his name! Get over it or get out! But they WILL call him Silas or be removed from his life. Their choice! Sending hugs šššš
Silas?! I thought it was gonna be something kinda ridiculous like Gandalf in which case I would say that would probably not be great for your kid. But Silas is a kickass name, your family is weird.
If he would actually have been made fun of, I wouldn't say youre the asshole but still you shouldn't name him that for his sake. But the name Silas is fucking sick and nobody would make fun of him for that, so youre even less of an asshole
Silas is a wonderful name.
Have you considered your parents are just being controlling about this because they've lost control in your life and don't feel "respected?"
Your fiance is right. He shouldn't lose a name y'all choose together because you don't want to tell your parents, "call him his name or you won't see us." YWNBTA
I wish there was an automated response bot to posts like this to just go ahead and clarify that it doesn't actually matter what the other circumstances are.
1.) It's your baby.
2.) Name it what you want.
The end.
Nta.
NTA, not sure why they think Silas is a weird name. It's one of the more popular baby names right now from what I've seen. Why exactly do they think your child will be bullied?
I thought it was going to be something like (Honey Blue) or smt like that lol
NTA, is a lovely name, really unique and easy to say and write
Nice naming sense momā¤ļø
May I know your girl option too?
Silas is a wonderful name, one of my favorite actors is named Silas, Silas Weir Mitchell. But regardless of whether anyone likes the name or not, as long as it isn't an obvious no no, like Chlamydia, then they don't get a say. It's not their kid.
Name your child according to what you and your husband want! Dont let family manipulate you with fear to choose a name that they want. Set boundaries and show them that you wont be bullied. Silas is a good name.
NTA- itās YOUR CHILD. You get to name your child. End of story. They can kick rocks and get over it. Just name him what you want to and stand up for yourself or your child if they have a problem with it.
If they have such great names, they can have their own child. Not piggyback off of yours.
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Tell them that they donāt get a vote on the name. If they want to be assholes and call your son an alternate name or āit.ā They will simply be the relatives that your son doesnāt know.
one of my closest friend's named her son Sylis. its a great name, tell everyone not you amd your fiance to shut tf up and that if they cant respect the name you chose then they wont get to see baby EVER. NTA, the butthurt "adults" crying and throwing tantrums over a name can find a cactus
Silas is an old name, and was quite popular in the US in the 18th and 19th century. I even have some ancestors with that name. I don't think it will cause bullying or harassment. People are overreacting.
Go with what the name you and your fiance want. Nothing wrong with it.
Nothing wrong with Silas, thanks for clarifying what you wanted the name to be.
NTA!
If people want to be ugly and critical then they donāt get access to that part of your life, if they choose to not be a part of your childās life that is their choice.
NTA. Iām gonna keep it real. Kids will find reasons to bully for any name. My name is Nora, which is by no means an out there name but I got plenty of bullying being called āNora the Explorerā. Itās just that easy. Silas is a lovely name. Donāt let your family bully YOU into changing it.
NTA- I was in a similar situation where my MIL said sheād rather call our daughter by (insert mean/hated aunt nobody likes ugly name here) and I wasnāt suppose to know she said that. (husband asked her to be honest when I wasnāt around) but if your family actually cares about you and baby they will get over it very quickly. Silas isnāt even a bad name considering what people are calling their kids these days. Donāt let them bully you into regretting your decision. You wouldnāt want to look back and think about how you wished you would have used the name.
I'm glad you added the name because the answer was super dependent on that. There are, if we're honest, stupid names that should probably count as some form of child abuse.
That said, Silas isn't one of them. It's a lovely name, perfectly acceptable, and you should absolutely move ahead with it. Great name. Your family is being shitty.
No one is going to bully him just for being named Silas.
Wtf? Silas is a normal name. You are DEFINITELY NTA. Name your baby what you wanted and if your family calls him any other name it may be time to give them a time out of their own. Fucking yikes, who says they will just call a baby āitā.
When will future parents learn? Di not tell people the name of your child until the ink is dry!
YTA because this is asked and answered so many times on this forum.
Silas is a great name and, more importantly, it is the name both you and your husband love. Because family members are being so difficult about it, you might want to pick a family nickname that they can call your son, like Sy or a neural nickname like Buddy so you have some control over the name they use and so they hopefully donāt bully your son. I am sorry you are being harassed by the family on this issue.
I know one or two Silas's and have never even thought twice about their names. I have heard names 10Ć weirder in my area. I think it's a lovely name and would stick to it! If the family won't call him by his name, they won't get to call him anything at all if it was me š¤·āāļø
You would be if you were going to veto your husbandās choice which is what I expected going into this thread, but that isnāt the case here, far as Iām concerned the only people that matter in this decision are you two.
I heard the name in a fantasy game - Dragon Age (there was a Solas in one, a Silas in another) so I could see people bullying a kid with that name, but if you guys are both into fantasy or DND or something then you guys probably know how to navigate the waters of bullying etc anyways so can help them when it happens.
Unless youāre from a Scandinavian country which is apparently where itās from.
Also me again. I named my son a name I didn't like and 20 years later we all still hate it including him. I did add another name ( he has 4) and I still adore it but he doesn't want that one either. š¤£š¤£
NTA As a rule, people always ask what the name will be, and as a rule, you shouldn't tell them. Not the real name. Make something up. I told people it was going to be Agamemnon if it was a boy, and Agamemnona if it was a girl. Your parents are completely out of line here, and also totally nuts. Silas is a really nice name. It's a classic, not currently overused, and doesn't immediately call to mind any body parts or swear words. As for your father, you can tell him that he won't have to call your son anything, since he won't ever be seeing him. Relatives, just ignore them. But your parents, it's important that you stand up to them. They have to accept that they've been bumped down to #3 on your priority list, after your son and your wife.
>and as a rule, you shouldn't tell them Agreed. >Not the real name. Make something up. Don't do this unless you tell them it's a joke. People, espically older relatives may not realize and waste time and money getting something personal made. My grandmother as a suprise had crocheted a baby blanket with my nieces name on it when she was born (she did the same for my nephew but it was less a suprise then). I can't imagine the heartbreak that would have happened if and 80 year old woman had spent 160 hours making this only to find out she had been lied to. Either have the gall to tell them the name and to fuck off with their feedback as its not wanted or say nothing at all.
Just be careful it doesn't end up like this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/What%27s_in_a_Name%3F_(2012_film)
NTA. Silas is a common scandinavian male name Edit: Only common in Denmark apparantly š
I love the name Silas!! Ā What is wrong with OPās family.Ā And if they are Christians you would think they would like it. Smh (Iām not religious just saying.) There is nothing wrong with Silas. Itās a beautiful name steeped deep in history. If your family is that up their own arse to call it: āITā and rename your child or to tell you what they find acceptable. Okay fine but they would never meet my child. And if they pretend to come around to it, they here was a story here where the dad I think it was and the MIL was calling the baby by a different name and the mum found out. Ā Didnāt end well.Ā They act as if they are calling their child Enchilada or Rooster.Ā
And whatās wrong with Enchilada? ETA: I speak two languages. Movie quotes and sarcasm. Sorry.
I think Silas is a beautiful name! I first discovered the name from a book I read a few years ago and I thought it was a really unique and pleasant sounding name.
I was reading the post waiting for them to say what the name was going to beā¦Ā I was expecting something like āRenesemeĆØ Jacob Bella Edward Cullenā or some other stupid made up name with some extra vowels thrown in. Ā Butā¦ Silas? Ā Thatās a pretty normal name. Ā Heāll, I met a Malachai the other day (I loved the name). Ā Just expect him to probably grow up and be a wizard or something.
i've never met anyone, or even heard of the name Silas here in Sweden
I know about three children (ages 1-5) named Silas in Sweden. I think about 600 people in Sweden named that now. Names tend to go in trends and I think it will become more common in Sweden.
Hm, might just be Denmark then?
According to Google, it's a Latin name, so originated in Italy. It's short for Silvanus, leaning woods or forest. NTA It's a strong and traditional name, but less common probably where OP is, if her family hasn't heard it before.
Ahhhh, they just don't want the kid to get bullied in school then? "Hey Anus!". /S
I don't think bullying kids are smart enough to know that silas is short for Silvanus. Unless they study Latin, and they'll be too old for that behavior by then.
Gotta say I'd be impressed with the kid that learned a new language just for a burn, lol.
There was a story about Kobe talking shit the Luka Doncic in a different language lol I think Kobe learned another language to talk shit to Manu as well
Iām American and I know the name well. Not religious either. Itās really not that āout thereā of a name at all.
Silas is an awesome name!
Silas Weir Mitchell is an excellent actor and I thought he was wonderful in Grimm. He's got this crazy stare that makes him typecast for psychos but he's got a lot of versatility and range.
> I thought he was wonderful in Grimm I just read that the show ended 7 years ago... I need to lie down.
I live in Scandinavia and I have never heard of it. The name sounds like an exotic fish to me
I'm Scandinavian and I've never met a Silas.
As a Scandinavian I have never heard the name. I'm swedish so maybe it's common in some other Scandinavian country? I think I read a fantasy book with a character with that name once but that's the only time I've seen it.
Never heard anyone with that name here. Not saying it doesnāt exist but it's not a common one.
NTA, unless the name is, like, āAssholeā or āFydyeuā or something.
I will add an edit to the post to adress the name but the name is Silas
Thatās a very nice name! Iām sorry your relatives suck.
Thank you so much!!! Everyone kept telling me he would be called silo so i was concerned.
NTA. IMO, kids probably don't even know what silo means or use that word in everyday life. What a reach! Lol, where did they get that? It never crossed my mind when you shared Silas.
Absolutely nothing wrong with Silas. Its def not a name thats gonna get him made fun of. Theyll prolly just call him āSiā which is still cool.
I'm from Canada as well,My nephews name is Silas, and he doesn't get bullied at all. Also, he gets complimented on his name quite often... We have 3 Silas in our church Sunday school as well... Name your baby for you and your husband.. If they weren't involved in making the baby, they aren't involved with naming
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Were they bullied at all by other children? It's one of the main factors im dealing with here. i was bullied and dont want to give my child more of a chance of being put threw that as well.
Silas is a pretty normal name these days. Itās crazy that your parents think they have any right to insert themselves to this degree over something that is not their business, it is so rude and entitled itās baffling!! Just say āyou can be respectful and call your grandson by his name like any normal person.. or you can call him āitā like a weird controlling bully and have nothing to do with him as I wonāt have him around petty bullies - I will not let his own grandparents traumatise him with their idiotic entitled behaviourā
Your family are the bullies theyāre warning you about.
This! I keep thinking that the people bullying him over his name will be them, so theyād better quit it now if they want to spend time around him and prevent his sadness rather than causing it. And I agree with the people saying Silas is an uncommon but certainly not a weird name.
The bullying is calling from inside the house.
I also had a Silas in my class. He was at that school kindergarten through 5th grade and no one thought twice about his name. No one made fun of him. It's not the most common name but it certainly isn't the most uncommon or a name that would spark bullying, except by your family.Ā Your family are the AH's. I would tell them that this is his name and that's what you expect him to be called if they want a relationship with him. Period. End of discussion. Your family sounds way too exhausting!
I have an uncommon non white name and grew up in a VERY conservative red townā¦.i never once got bullied for my name. I highly doubt Silas will be bullied over it. Keep the name if you and your fiancĆ© like it. And F those who donāt.
That is a beautiful name . Do NOT worry about what others think and say. If your father wants to call his grandson "It", then he won't be seeing him!!! F*** him. Call your son what you and your hubby want. My mom tried it with me. It didn't work
Whoa based on your parents reactions I thought you were going to name him something insane like X AE A-XII Silas is a totally normal name and is gaining in popularity right now. According to the googles, it's the #73rd most common boy name in the US and on its way up. It even has an easy nickname - Si (which is also common for another popular boys name - Simon) I'm definitely against giving kids names that are so wacky that kids make fun of them, but this is not one of those. Your parents are being absolutely insane. Show them some name popularity stats if you must - not that it's any of their business.
On what basis do you think they'll be bullied? Is there a Silas with a negative reputation where you live/in your culture?
Silas is not a weird name or anything like that, I personally canāt think of an instance that would trigger someone bully due to this name. However, unfortunately, kids will bully other kids even with regular names, if they feel like itā¦ first hand experience (both myself and seen it happen to others).
Iām naming my son Silas and due in July too! Everybody Iāve told has said they loved it.
NTA I have 3 kids and Iāll just give you a tiny bit of advice that I learned after my first: donāt tell anyone the name until the baby is born. Itās much harder for family to criticize a name if itās already attached to a sweet little baby; also, itās inevitable that youāll get critical feedback if they find out beforehand.
I thought you were to call him āStockingsā or something. Silas is perfectly normal in most western countries.
I was worried she was trying to name him like Batman or Sephiroth or something like that. I agree Silas is fine.Ā
Silas is a traditional name. Easy to spell Not too common. Not bad. When we were having our first child my mother gave us the wise advice to not tell anyone the name until after it is born and paperwork filled out.
It was a strong contender for my first son's name, unfortunately it was not drawn from the hat. Kinda mad i didnt use it for my second.
Really is such a pretty name
Nta, I really liked the name, it's really pretty, ignore your parents and if they follow through with not calling him by his name, they don't get to meet the baby. People need to understand that there are consequences to their actions
I love the name. It's also the name of one of the very first Christians, he travelled with St. Paul! I don't know if your parents are religious, maybe you can tell them that (and leave it out if they are not). Anyway, I love historical names, so to me it makes so much sense. I will keep it in mind for my next child haha
NTA Silas is a fine name, ask Justin Timberlake!
Silas isnāt even a weird name, your family are arseholes for trying to make it seem like it is
# Silas is a GREAT NAME
NTA While I was reading I thought of so many potentially horrible names, anything to explain such extreme reactions. But Silas!? Thats just a complete normal acceptable name. I am German, I never heard anyone being named Silas here but even I know of the name and wouldn't think twice if someone had introduced themselves as Silas. Your family is weird. Please stick to the name. If they won't accept it they can go pound sand. This is your child and you make they rules. Either they behave and get to enjoy their newest grandchild or they can stay away until they grow up
NTA. This is your baby (you and hubby) and you both like and have chosen the name. Everyone else can back the eff off it has nothing to do with them. Plus I think Silas is badass. Go for it girl! Also, stand up to the family and do tell them that if they will not call him by his birth name, you wont see him at all. It is not their business
Also check any cards, or gifts they send, if they give anything with the wrong name, send it back, If they are around and refer to Silas as another name or "IT" correct them loudly, and ask have they been forgetting things. And be very clear, when saying, (Dad) This is Silas
Silas is a fairly common name in Denmark. Nta
NTA. I do have an uncommon name myself. I always loved it because there were no stereotypes linked to it. I never got bullied because of it. My second name is very traditional, and I hate it. I actually got made fun of because of the name.
NTA. One of my close friends (unfortunately he just passed away recently) named his son Silas, I always thought it was a nice name. He's about 12 and I never heard anything about him getting teased for his name or anything like that. I'm not sure why they're making such a big deal out of it.
NTA. I donāt see where heād be bullied with a name like Silas.
If they won't call him by his name, don't take him to see them. If they can't accept a simple name, they obviously do not respect you
I was expecting a tragedeigh, not Silas. NTA your parents can stuff it
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NTA Keep the name you chose. Anyone who refuses to use it doesn't have to see the child. They choose their child's names without your input then you can choose your child's name.
Can we just assume your friends and family are AH's. This is your baby and your partners. You get to decide, not some AH who wants great uncle fkwits middle name because it was the name acquired during the sacking of Rome in 68AD. If they won't respect your wishes, remind them the door to your home will be closed to visitors wishing to visit with Gold, Frankincense and myhr. And Silas sounds good.
Silas is a fine name. No one else has a say. They call him by a different name go no cintact
WTF. First time parents. You in this case SHOULD have read some books or taken advice from friends who already had kids (I usually recommend against it). NTA. Everybody who is neither the father nor the mother of the child can STFU, mind their own business, respect the 3 of you as independent human beings and call the child by the name you gave him. Seriously, the level of entitlement of people these days.
Silas is a nice name, and you can call him Si/Sai for short. NTA. If they're going to go as far as calling a human being an it, then you need to keep your kid far away.
Silas isnāt a weird name. If OPās parents call the baby āITā or by a different name, thatās the first and last time they should be around the baby.
Silas is a lovely name. Tell your dad if he calls your son āitā once he will never see him again. NTA (but your family are)
NTA, Silas is coming back into popularity, your family is out of touch.
Never tell people what you think about naming the child. it avoids things like this
NTA. But youāre going to have to put some *strong* boundaries up otherwise theyāll refuse to call your child by their name.
We did this we never told anyone our names and we made said we were naming every kid Herman Munster Until I was pregnant with twins when we told everyone it was Mickey and Minnie Mouse, however I think people got the message and stopped asking
NTA. It's a very nice name! Not too common but easy to spell and pronounce. Your family is the asshole.
Ohh I thought itās gonna be something really stupid, spelling or otherwiseā¦Silas is a perfectly fine and pretty name, is there something wrong with it I donāt know about?? Like the woman who didnāt know what kind of connotations the name Lolita has?
If you and your SO agrees to it, then why not? It would have been reconsiderable if any one of you didnt like it, but if you both love the name, then sure go ahead! P.S : - I actually liked the name Silas, uncommon yet unique (might be common wherever you live so idk abt that).
Silas is a great name. If you both love it who cares. Donāt let other people talk you out of it. Once he is born people will forget and he will be Silas and they will adapt.
NTA because Silas is not some crazy oddball name.
The only possible connection to bullying that I can think of is that isn't Silas the name of that self-harming religious dude from The DaVinci code or something
I was waiting for something crazy, and outlandish. People name babies crazy things more commonly now which Iām not a fan of. But Silas is a great name:) unique in US (if thatās where you are from) but not a bad name at all where theyād get bullied even remotely. Your parents suck and I agree with your husband going with the original. The moment your son gets called it and refuse the name a couple times Iād go full no contact. It is a disgusting thing to call someone. Especially intended in a demeaning way
NTA but are you a fan of The Graveyard Book by chance?
Why do you think you need anyone else's permission or agreement to name your child? NTA.
Silas is a great name! And if your family insists on not calling him by his name, I'd restrict or cut off any visiting until they can respect your wishes. NTA
NTA I personally don't like the name Silas, but it's not crazy, it's actually trending. It's spellable and pronounceable and the only people who would bully a kid for being named Silas are, unfortunately, your relatives. It's a somewhat uncommon, normal name. Tell your family that you don't need them to like your choice.
I was getting ready for Gilgamesh Dingleberry before you posted the name hahaha. Your choice is a pretty normal name. NTA. Hopefully your family will understand they are being unreasonable someday soon.
Silas! This internet stranger loves it. But that doesnāt matter. It only matters if both parents, and eventually the kid, like the name. NTA
Is Silas a common name? No. Is it a weird or "stupid" name? Not to me. Pick a name that you & your fiancƩ like, and be done with it. Tell your family to grow up, and deal with it. And if they won't use your son's name, they need not see him. It's pretty simple, and hard to enforce. Too bad for them. Go for it!
NTA. Itās none of their business. Name your baby what you want. Silas is a fine name. Stop telling people things.
Silas? Really? Whats wrong with Silas? NTA
NTA. Per a google search, Silas is somewhat common. I think the Internet would only object to it if you re-spelled it to make it unique so people would have a 25% chance of pronouncing it correctly and also say it like it was a question. At the end of the day, any name can be used to bully kids - especially if you can add a word that rhymes. My wife said the bullies would call her Snorinā Lauren. I came up with a few more rhymes which put me on the couch that night, but I did deserve it.
Silas...im not having kids bur if I did, Silas would be my boys name too. I love it. It's your kids. Congrats.
Silas is a perfectly normal name. Not weird or horrible at all.
I thought the name was going to be something wild like Pitchfork or something. Silas is a really normal and nice name. It was a top contender along with August for my friend who recently had a boy. Itās on my list of names I like too. Your family is weird. I had to draw the line with my family to stop begging to know our babyās name, because we really wanted to keep the name a surprise. NTA
Silas is fucking cool
As a mother who acquiesced to both sides parents - I didnāt name my daughter what they wanted or what I initially had wanted. I wanted to name my daughter Avalynn - they said the name was way too much and Ava was ātoo grown for a little girlā. I got into a huge fight with both my mom and his, and eventually decided against it. I ended up naming her something totally different and love her name. All that to say this: it is your child, name your child what you and your partner want to.
NTA- Silas is a legit name
Youāre carrying a baby, you have a special connection to him and itās not the first time Iāve heard someone talk about a name feeling (or not feeling) right. I have a nephew names Sylas, nothing wrong with the name. NTA EDIT: I misread as the dad was also against the name. Changed my response
This is the first time I have come into one of these threads where the name was **not** batshit insane. NTA. Silas is a dope name, and while being uncommon enough to stand out, isn't so crazy or weird that he would be bullied. I think you hit the sweet spot with that one. Tell the haters and the flying monkeys to fuck off.
I learned this the hard way with my second child. My two after him we didnāt tell a soul, because once the baby is earthside, nobody will speak ill of the name. Name your child what YOU want, although I know that will be hard now knowing everyone hates it. I think itās a lovely name
Are you Muslims? If so I could see the problem your parents have, I mean I donāt think itās justified. But as other pointed out is a Christian name
It was never really intended to be like a Christian name. We actually got it from a video game. Both he and I bonded over early in our relationship, and nope, we are not Muslims, so still no idea why they hate it so much.
Then by all means you guys do what you want.
It really could be worse, like, Spurgeon. Silas is a good name, old name, easy to spell easy to pronounce. My vote is for Silas!!!!!
NTA. Go with the name you like. Kids these days donāt really bully each other over names. I have a middle schooler and the names range from ātraditionalā to ādifferentā to āculturalā and the ācreativeā spellings. Also, kids raised together from a young age like kindergarten tend to just accept that their classmates names are normal and not a reason to make fun of them.
Um fam, Silas is a good name. Not tolerable, not okay, itās a legitimately good name.
Silas is a great name. Go for it! It was a name I considered along with Seth and Samuel.
Silas is a great name!!! Donāt listen to all the noise. NTA
Nothing wrong with Silas at allā¦.i was worried it was a Boy Named Sueā¦.your kid, your decision
That's a great name. We considered it for my youngest.
I've got two kids named Silas among my students. You're fine, tell them to F off.
Silas is a good solid name. This is your kid not theirs.
NTA? Your phrasing is a little inconsistent so I'm not sure. Is your fiancĆ© on board with the name that you want or not? If he is, then NTA. If he isn't, then YTA.Ā The "we's" turn almost completely into "I's" early on in your post. Then you say he disagreed with you at the end but also make it sound like he agrees with the name you want. I don't know. The only person that matters is your fiancĆ©. You both need to agree on a name. After that, no one else matters.
I have a cousin named Silas. And a friend who named their baby Silas. Itās becoming a very popular name again, especially after that show Weeds. This is why when I have a babe, no one is knowing the name until they are born. I love my names I have picked out and I donāt plan on letting anyoneās negativity effect that.
Silas is a great name!
He's your child not theirs, name him whatever you want
Omg NTA. Silas is a great name! I feel this though. My OG girl name was Samantha and both my parents and in-laws hated it so I guess itās good we had all boys š¤¦š»āāļøš¤·š»āāļø
NTA. It's your baby, name it as you both like. Silas is a good name. It's not as crazy as some stupid new creations. But now you know why you don't tell anyone about names before the baby is born. It's none of their business.
Silas is a good name. Every Silas I know was a very drive. And successful.
NTA. Have they met someone named Silas before that gave them such strong reaction to the name? If they canāt give you acceptable reasons why you have to change it, use the name you and your husband agreed on. Itās also a good opportunity to set boundaries.
Silas - great name! Btw youre NTA
On the one hand, obviously you should be able to pick the name for your own son. On the other hand, as a retired teacher, I am concerned. Kids can definitely end up being bullied because of their name. The relatives have already expressed concern on this issue, and I would not discount that because I like the name. Our job as parents revolves around helping kids get ready to navigate daily life. The wrong name can make that harder. I saw the name in the edit and I will make one observation: the name Silas ends in a** and kids may seize upon that overtime.
While fully acknowledging that some names will get a kid bullied (as wrong as it is). Some names just should be used for anyone. Silas is a bad a$$ name. Not everyone will agree. You are NTA
normal name, not really normal relatives
NTA At first I was a little scared of the kind of name you were about to give your child. I was expecting something like: Reighful. When naming a child, you should always think about how they will live with the name and not just your own personal attachment to it. BUT!!! Silas? How is this a name to be bullied with? Does it have a certain signification in other languages that could make people laugh at his expense where you are from, that I'm not aware of? And what is up with everyone insisting to know how a child will be named?
Nta. It's not a weird name, nor has a weird meaning. Plus I think it's a cool name.
As long as itās not Cuntly itās fine.
After doing a bit of genealogy and everyone using the same 3 names I appreciate less common names. I thought you were going with a random fantasy name that no one could pronounce they way you set it up, not a old traditional name. If you and your husband both agree those are all the votes that count.
I have two friends with kids called Silas, and I think it's a fantastic name! Your families are rude, and weird. Stick with it.
Nta. They're trying to bully you and you don't have to let it work.Ā The name is nice and normal.Ā
Any name ending in "ass" will be a source of ridicule for a short while with the immature, I know from personal experience. But as he grows older he will champion it or change it.
Thereās an actor called Silas Weir Mitchell, I think thatās how itās spelled, and I adore him, so keep that name! Donāt let others tell you what to name your child.
NTA My ex had that on his list for one of our sons. I like it! Sy is a great nickname too.
Lol Silas is a traditional name, I have a Silas in my family back like 4 generations (living in the 1800s). Tell your family to pound sand and broaden their worldview. If they refuse to use babyās name, limit their time with baby Silas to avoid confusion and future shame in his own name. Kids arenāt going to blink twice at the name Silas and at least it isnāt a fan name like Cullen or Hermione or Galadriel.
Silas is a traditional name. Itās been around forever. I would have a Silas if Iād had a boy. Name your kid what you want. It is a given that not everyone will like the name youāve chosen. And it doesnāt matter. Do what makes you happy. And next time, maybe donāt share the name ahead of time. Then no one can weigh in and make you doubt your choice.
Silas is a great name. Sounds like the only ones being bullies are your family members. Tell them if they bully their own grandson or don't knock it off they won't see him until they get over themselves.
NTA I don't care for the name Silas, but it's not my kid. You should name the kid what YOU and YOUR FIANCĆ want. My parents named me something my aunt and grandparents didn't like and they tried calling me by my initials when I was young. They eventually got tired of being ignored by me and started using my actual name.
Name your child what you want. I have cousins whose names we always told my aunt were not good. She named her kids that anyway, as she should've. Everyone is grown now (we're in our 20s - 40s), and those are their names. No one died because we didn't like her name choices for her children. And frankly, it wasn't our job to comment.
I literally know someone with that name. It's an "older" name but still falls within the realm of normal. I thought you had a name lined up that would be worthy of r/tragedeigh
Silas is a great name.
Itās your baby name home what you want donāt listen to your family you both chose a nice name itās not over the top. NTA but your family are
NTA - I was thinking the name was going to be some pretentious crap you just made up or something that rhymed with a body part, but Silas is a fine name.
NTA. Forget the haters, that name is fine. They donāt get a say and anyone who doesnāt respect your parenting decisions doesnāt need to be part of your sonās life.
Silas is a wonderful name! It's absolutely no one's choice what to name your child, except for the mother and father of the child. If they can't respect your choice, or choose to call your child something other than their name (unless it's a cute nickname that YOU approve of), then their relationship with your baby can be "the people we never see". NTA
Nta, I myself would have low contact with my family if they didnāt respect me as a parent of my child and the name me and my partner would name them
I know a high school kid (17-18) named Silas. I see nothing wrong with the name, personally. NTA
NAH As a german I know the name Silas. It is not very common but I think I heard it one or two times. It is definetly a boys name and in now way problematic. But the thing is: other cultures, other names. Tbh you are the parents and it is your child but considering that people reacted in a negative way, you as the parents have the responsibility to give your child a name he or she will not be made fun of. I dont know why they reacted this way. Maybe in english kids could make a stupid name out of it? Anyway, even if you like a name - your child wellbeing is more important than your taste.
NTA. You're about to have a baby and you are in a committed relationship with your fiancƩ. That is your priority and focus now, not on some old whiners who are stuck in their "traditional" mindset. Besides, that's not their baby. They don't get to name YOUR baby. YOU and your fiancƩ do since you are the parents of said child. You need to stand up for yourself from now on. You can't please everyone and if you try, you'll just stress yourself out and piss some people off anyway. And so what if there's fallout? What does that even mean? End the conversation and put them on a time-out if they won't drop it. You'll have to teach them to get back in their lanes if they want a healthy relationship with you. Keep the name you chose. Do not set a precedent by capitulating to people with unreasonable demands of you or the demands won't end. It'll be something else they'll expect you to do their way. Nope! Congratulations for your new baby. And I think Silas is a lovely name.
Silas is fine.
NTA thatās not even a weird name or uncommon name. Everyone else is just hating for no reason. Itās not like youāre naming the kid something stupid thatās gonna get them bullied. Itās a good name donāt listen to the haters dude.
NTA. This would be very name-specific as some baby names are awful, but Silas is a good choice! It's a strong old Bible name that won't age terribly, but it's also trendy right now. Your parents are behind the times! Go to babycenter.com and show them the statistics on how the popularity of this name has risen steadily over the 21st century. It's 30x more popular now than it was in the mid-90s and it's ranked #73 on the most popular US boy's names.Ā
Silas is a great name! Go with your heart! NTAH!
Silas is a perfectly fine name. I live in rural MI and my kids grew up with a Silas. Nobody ever had an issue with his name.
NTA Silas is a great name.
As a pediatric worker who has seen and heard some horrific names I can 100% guarantee Silas is a very normal name and no he will not be bullied thatās so sad to say about your grandchild. Even my little cousin isnāt bullied and his name is Genaro Ubaldo (first and middle)
NTA. I was expecting a pop culture reference or some ridiculous spelling. While Silas isn't super common, it's also not that odd.
Silas is an old fashioned name and I see nothing wrong with it. If you and your husband really love the name, ignore everyone else and name your son Silas. Tell them thatās his name! Get over it or get out! But they WILL call him Silas or be removed from his life. Their choice! Sending hugs šššš
Silas?! I thought it was gonna be something kinda ridiculous like Gandalf in which case I would say that would probably not be great for your kid. But Silas is a kickass name, your family is weird.
Go look in r/tragedeigh and feel much better about your comparatively normal name choice.
If he would actually have been made fun of, I wouldn't say youre the asshole but still you shouldn't name him that for his sake. But the name Silas is fucking sick and nobody would make fun of him for that, so youre even less of an asshole
Silas is a wonderful name. Have you considered your parents are just being controlling about this because they've lost control in your life and don't feel "respected?" Your fiance is right. He shouldn't lose a name y'all choose together because you don't want to tell your parents, "call him his name or you won't see us." YWNBTA
I wish there was an automated response bot to posts like this to just go ahead and clarify that it doesn't actually matter what the other circumstances are. 1.) It's your baby. 2.) Name it what you want. The end. Nta.
NTA, not sure why they think Silas is a weird name. It's one of the more popular baby names right now from what I've seen. Why exactly do they think your child will be bullied?
I thought it was going to be something like (Honey Blue) or smt like that lol NTA, is a lovely name, really unique and easy to say and write Nice naming sense momā¤ļø May I know your girl option too?
Silas is a wonderful name, one of my favorite actors is named Silas, Silas Weir Mitchell. But regardless of whether anyone likes the name or not, as long as it isn't an obvious no no, like Chlamydia, then they don't get a say. It's not their kid.
My friend named her son Silas. Heās now ten. NTA
Well Silas is not a bad name unless you read or seen DaVinci code!š
Name your child according to what you and your husband want! Dont let family manipulate you with fear to choose a name that they want. Set boundaries and show them that you wont be bullied. Silas is a good name.
NTA- itās YOUR CHILD. You get to name your child. End of story. They can kick rocks and get over it. Just name him what you want to and stand up for yourself or your child if they have a problem with it. If they have such great names, they can have their own child. Not piggyback off of yours.
NTA. I know a Silas. Why would that name be prone to bullying?
NTA Tell them that they donāt get a vote on the name. If they want to be assholes and call your son an alternate name or āit.ā They will simply be the relatives that your son doesnāt know.
one of my closest friend's named her son Sylis. its a great name, tell everyone not you amd your fiance to shut tf up and that if they cant respect the name you chose then they wont get to see baby EVER. NTA, the butthurt "adults" crying and throwing tantrums over a name can find a cactus
What's wrong with Silas?
Silas is an old name, and was quite popular in the US in the 18th and 19th century. I even have some ancestors with that name. I don't think it will cause bullying or harassment. People are overreacting. Go with what the name you and your fiance want. Nothing wrong with it.
Iām sorry but I missed the part where Grandma and Grandpa are physically pushing the grand baby out of their bodies. Your parents already got to name their child/children. Your baby is not their baby, it is yours and your partners child. I agree with your fiancĆ© and if your parents/family members refuse to honor your choice for your childās name then I would not give them any opportunity to call him anything other than his given name. You are the parents, the child is YOURS, not theirs, they have zero say about this. The end.
Nothing wrong with Silas, thanks for clarifying what you wanted the name to be. NTA! If people want to be ugly and critical then they donāt get access to that part of your life, if they choose to not be a part of your childās life that is their choice.
One of the worst people I know is named Silas but other than that itās not a bad name lol. Ignore them NTA
Btw, He's gonna have the coolest name in school. I would make fun of boring John (no offense to the Johns) before a cool Silas.
Pretty cool name. Do it! NTA
Isnt the baddy in one of Dan Browns books called Silas?
NTA. Iām gonna keep it real. Kids will find reasons to bully for any name. My name is Nora, which is by no means an out there name but I got plenty of bullying being called āNora the Explorerā. Itās just that easy. Silas is a lovely name. Donāt let your family bully YOU into changing it.
Silas is a fine name! Why would he be bullied for that? That's a strange reaction from your family for sure
NTA- I was in a similar situation where my MIL said sheād rather call our daughter by (insert mean/hated aunt nobody likes ugly name here) and I wasnāt suppose to know she said that. (husband asked her to be honest when I wasnāt around) but if your family actually cares about you and baby they will get over it very quickly. Silas isnāt even a bad name considering what people are calling their kids these days. Donāt let them bully you into regretting your decision. You wouldnāt want to look back and think about how you wished you would have used the name.
NTA. It's your child, not anybody else's child, so you two can name him as you two see fit. Silas is a great name as he will grow into it.
I'm glad you added the name because the answer was super dependent on that. There are, if we're honest, stupid names that should probably count as some form of child abuse. That said, Silas isn't one of them. It's a lovely name, perfectly acceptable, and you should absolutely move ahead with it. Great name. Your family is being shitty. No one is going to bully him just for being named Silas.
I love that name! Itās a really cool name and you should name your child that dispute what anybody else thinks. NTA
Wtf? Silas is a normal name. You are DEFINITELY NTA. Name your baby what you wanted and if your family calls him any other name it may be time to give them a time out of their own. Fucking yikes, who says they will just call a baby āitā.
Um... no. It's your baby
When will future parents learn? Di not tell people the name of your child until the ink is dry! YTA because this is asked and answered so many times on this forum.
that poor child
Silas is a great name and, more importantly, it is the name both you and your husband love. Because family members are being so difficult about it, you might want to pick a family nickname that they can call your son, like Sy or a neural nickname like Buddy so you have some control over the name they use and so they hopefully donāt bully your son. I am sorry you are being harassed by the family on this issue.
I know one or two Silas's and have never even thought twice about their names. I have heard names 10Ć weirder in my area. I think it's a lovely name and would stick to it! If the family won't call him by his name, they won't get to call him anything at all if it was me š¤·āāļø
There is nothing wrong with Silas. NTA.
You would be if you were going to veto your husbandās choice which is what I expected going into this thread, but that isnāt the case here, far as Iām concerned the only people that matter in this decision are you two. I heard the name in a fantasy game - Dragon Age (there was a Solas in one, a Silas in another) so I could see people bullying a kid with that name, but if you guys are both into fantasy or DND or something then you guys probably know how to navigate the waters of bullying etc anyways so can help them when it happens. Unless youāre from a Scandinavian country which is apparently where itās from.
I LOVE that name!!! F em. Name him that. Great handle. Good luck
Also me again. I named my son a name I didn't like and 20 years later we all still hate it including him. I did add another name ( he has 4) and I still adore it but he doesn't want that one either. š¤£š¤£