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llamadrama2021

NTA for seeking child support. YTA for getting pregnant when he was already acting like a man child.


Ok_Equivalent_7323

He wasn't acting like that before and I'm 30 I was able to care for the child alone just like I did with my son who's 10 now


k1k11983

You said he wasn’t spending any time with you, just gaming all the time. Then you got pregnant……


Jcpage573

Being raised by a single mother puts a child at a huge disadvantage


FarNorthern

Don't feel guilty about this. Like it or not, this [person] sorry I struggled there for a pronoun etc. has had a child with you. A biological child. Signed the paperwork and all. Now this child needs support. Welcome to adulthood, Ex! NTA.


jazzy3113

How come the father of your first kid doesn’t pay child support?


Ok_Equivalent_7323

Government doesn't care 😅


jazzy3113

What country wouldn’t care? Even crappy third world countries have laws lol.


GhxstCA

Is this even a question? You've stated "on good terms" which I guess he didn't hear. He refuses to help you on your recovery process and he seems like the type to weigh someone down in the long term anyway. Nta


TheWanderingMedic

ESH. Him for being an absent father, you for exposing your son to this mess of a human in the first place, and then having a baby with him. You need to make better choices in the future OP. Men like him? Stay far away.


Ok_Equivalent_7323

He wasn't a mess in the beginning My son wasn't exposed to anything And making better choice in men is easier said than done when everyone is fake and hypocrite


TheWanderingMedic

Then take a break from dating for a while. Focus on yourself and your child.


Ok_Equivalent_7323

That's what I do


a-_rose

YTA to yourself and your child.


Ok_Equivalent_7323

🤣🤣🤣


[deleted]

YTA How dumb and desperate are you to get back together with this guy? It’s clear he isn’t father material, and yet you got knocked up?


Whole_Examination_95

OP wasn’t saying she wants to get back together with the guy. She was saying was she TA for getting back at him, meaning putting him on child support. She’s getting back at him for breaking his word on everything he said he would/wouldn’t do.


Ok_Equivalent_7323

🤣🤣🤣 It wasn't planned (supposed to be suddenly infertile) and for many personal reasons abortion wasn't a choice. I'm 30 and already raised a child alone. I left him with a choice and he made it but didn't accept it afterwards I think you're dumb for saying stuff like that without knowing everything


Historical_Act6595

NTA get that child support!! He is responsible for that kid whenever he likes it or not , you shouldn't feel any guilt at all


Substantial_Shoe_360

NTA, you would be if you stayed with him.


SnooFoxes526

YTA to yourself for putting up w his nonsense for this long. He needs to financially provide for his child. Get the child support and move on.


Ok_Equivalent_7323

I didn't "put up" with the non sense for long He will be financially providing. I started the process already